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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know this is a sex site but I am intrigued to know what type of words women want to read in a man's first text?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Display that you've taken the time to read my profile, and understood it. Tell me why you think you're a match for me. Give me reasons to choose to meet you instead of any of the 75 other people messaging me.

Avoid "nice pic's, fancy me stretching that pussy later" approaches.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's no one answer. Every woman is different.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Sincerity, not a load of cheesy compliments, we've heard them all. We know guys will literally say anything to get a meet.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No need for PMs here please.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have taken note so what should guys say should they just get to the point without a compliment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Noted no PM said

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No two women will like the same thing. Like men, we're all individual people with our own ways of responding.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So how do you know what she wants to hear

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Don't come across like you will shag anything. Be polite and respectful, read my profile, if I delete the message don't message again 5 mins later (never goes down well)

Just be one of the good guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, there is no 'one answer fits all' solutions here. And it's swingers site, not sex site! Women want to be treated as women, not as holes to be filled in or stretched.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So how do you know what she wants to hear "

Read her profile, guess from there. It will often give you a clue or more. And be a version of yourself, don't just say what you think she wants to hear. We've heard it all before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What about those women who have nothing written on there profile but just pictures?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What about those women who have nothing written on there profile but just pictures?"

Your guess is as good as mine, there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That makes us twin guessers

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Nothing. No interest in any of the men on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Read the profile. Write a short message introducing yourself and saying why you think you're compatible. This isn't an exercise in finding key words and using them in a correct sequence to be successful. Therefore it's a good idea to be yourself

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"What about those women who have nothing written on there profile but just pictures?"

Don’t message them. If you can’t tell what they’re hoping for from fab then what’s the point of making contact? Be choosy. Only message women that match YOUR specifications, and be totally honest with yourself about what those are. Don’t treat every female in a 30 km radius a potential FB, just those who’s profiles genuinely speak to you. Make your requirements every bit as important as their’s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Music to my ears if he's genuinely single, living alone, accomodates and lives within 30 mins drive to me.

I travel, so those words would immediately pique my interest. Then I would look at his pics with fingers crossed for mutual attraction.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Look inwards rather than looking at others. What can I do to make myself more attractive to the women I'm trying to attract ? Is it my profile or the message I send, do I have to go to clubs or socials, so those people I'm trying to attract get to know me better?

As it's already been mentioned, there no second guessing on here, part luck part design

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"What about those women who have nothing written on there profile but just pictures?

Don’t message them. If you can’t tell what they’re hoping for from fab then what’s the point of making contact? Be choosy. Only message women that match YOUR specifications, and be totally honest with yourself about what those are. Don’t treat every female in a 30 km radius a potential FB, just those who’s profiles genuinely speak to you. Make your requirements every bit as important as their’s. "

He's got it.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton


"Display that you've taken the time to read my profile, and understood it. Tell me why you think you're a match for me. Give me reasons to choose to meet you instead of any of the 75 other people messaging me.

Avoid "nice pic's, fancy me stretching that pussy later" approaches. "

This 100% is so how I would love to be approached

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By *jb773Man
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

I have the same issue, never known what to write as i have tried most and never got a responce, same with the subject, what do i write in there??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mjb

May be some forget the purpose of the site

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Mjb

May be some forget the purpose of the site"

And what is the purpose of the site?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

It a woman's market. For most guys, they are not interested in brains, just a pulse and a hole!!!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Is it your purpose to shag anyone and anything, or a lifestyle choice?

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By *ischiefmanagedWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk border


"What about those women who have nothing written on there profile but just pictures?

Don’t message them. If you can’t tell what they’re hoping for from fab then what’s the point of making contact? Be choosy. Only message women that match YOUR specifications, and be totally honest with yourself about what those are. Don’t treat every female in a 30 km radius a potential FB, just those who’s profiles genuinely speak to you. Make your requirements every bit as important as their’s. "

This...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good question? And what do you think is the purpose of the site?

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By *ischiefmanagedWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk border


"Good question? And what do you think is the purpose of the site?"

For folk who enjoy (or would like to try) the swinging lifestyle to connect with / meet with others who enjoy the same lifestyle. Within that there are people who have different tastes, kinks and preferences, obviously.

It's a broad church here

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By *ona MonaTV/TS
over a year ago

Meath

Give her a compliment and ask how she is well.Lovely figure,beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mona Mona

Some women when you give them a compliment they say that's a one liner they have heard all the charming lines

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"I know this is a sex site but I am intrigued to know what type of words women want to read in a man's first text? "

This is not a sex site. It does not provide sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Best answer

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Mona Mona

Some women when you give them a compliment they say that's a one liner they have heard all the charming lines"

Yeh cos we all want insincere comments off randoms.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Good question? And what do you think is the purpose of the site?"

Use the repky and quote function so people know who you are talking to.

All you have done is ask me the question I asked you. Care to answer MY question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Display that you've taken the time to read my profile, and understood it. Tell me why you think you're a match for me. Give me reasons to choose to meet you instead of any of the 75 other people messaging me.

Avoid "nice pic's, fancy me stretching that pussy later" approaches. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Display that you've taken the time to read my profile, and understood it. Tell me why you think you're a match for me. Give me reasons to choose to meet you instead of any of the 75 other people messaging me.

Avoid "nice pic's, fancy me stretching that pussy later" approaches. "

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Best answer"

You have my number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about those women who have nothing written on there profile but just pictures?

Don’t message them. If you can’t tell what they’re hoping for from fab then what’s the point of making contact? Be choosy. Only message women that match YOUR specifications, and be totally honest with yourself about what those are. Don’t treat every female in a 30 km radius a potential FB, just those who’s profiles genuinely speak to you. Make your requirements every bit as important as their’s. "

Perfectly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cock shots right away

Convo is always a winner

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By *exy100Woman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Display that you've taken the time to read my profile, and understood it. Tell me why you think you're a match for me. Give me reasons to choose to meet you instead of any of the 75 other people messaging me.

Avoid "nice pic's, fancy me stretching that pussy later" approaches. "

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