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By *amworth_guy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tamworth

Generally sometimes you just want to have a chat before deciding on meeting , not these days it just gets blocked or deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are happy to chat, and get to know people...we sometimes find other people are less willing to chat. Especially, single guys....

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By *amworth_guy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tamworth

It makes it more easier when the meet happens if it happens, less disappointing if don't work out how you want it

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"Generally sometimes you just want to have a chat before deciding on meeting , not these days it just gets blocked or deleted"

Trouble is, people don't have the time to chat to everybody before deciding whether they’re right for them. Women receive a lot of messages and it would be a full time job to chat with all of them. Which is why most will make an instant decision and will delete and block on the basis of your ‘shopwindow’ and the message they receive.

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By *amworth_guy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tamworth

That is true but it is also nice to chat like you and myself if I chatted to you for a few days you would get the picture to weather or not the meet would be worth it

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By *waggerladMan
over a year ago

Liverpool o

as a single straight male , im zero on female and im fucking charming in msgs . i just get jibbed , if it wasnt for gay lads msg me id be a hermit ,and friendly to a BJ is offered by all .

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By *amworth_guy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tamworth

I've noticed that too, can be charming in messages to lady's, get nothing, I get guys message most the time

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

Tbh anyone with a cock as their pfp I delete ... don’t often read the message even.

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By *amworth_guy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tamworth

Yes I get what your saying but that's how you feel, plus even with a cock PFP doesn't mean that all guys are after that straight away

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Yes I get what your saying but that's how you feel, plus even with a cock PFP doesn't mean that all guys are after that straight away "

No, but it means that they haven’t bothered to set their profile to appeal to most women on here.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Yes I get what your saying but that's how you feel, plus even with a cock PFP doesn't mean that all guys are after that straight away

No, but it means that they haven’t bothered to set their profile to appeal to most women on here."

exactly this .... bearing in mind women get 100-200 messages a day and you serously cannot open them all let alone reply. Cock shots don’t appeal to me on pfp it tells me that’s the part of you you think is your biggest selling point.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


" exactly this .... bearing in mind women get 100-200 messages a day and you serously cannot open them all let alone reply. Cock shots don’t appeal to me on pfp it tells me that’s the part of you you think is your biggest selling point. "

You said it even better

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"That is true but it is also nice to chat like you and myself if I chatted to you for a few days you would get the picture to weather or not the meet would be worth it "

I don’t disagree with you in regards to chatting further to see if there’s a connection. Women and couples (and men) have lives outside of FAB; as I mentioned in my previous post, it’s a time factor and the impression they receive from your profile and message(s).

You won’t appeal to everyone - however you present yourself, but that is the nature of it.

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By *amworth_guy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tamworth

Bit like women not yourself having their cleavage showing as the PFP, asking for men to ask for that one thing, PFP to me don't mean anything it's the contents of the message that would interest me

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Bit like women not yourself having their cleavage showing as the PFP, asking for men to ask for that one thing, PFP to me don't mean anything it's the contents of the message that would interest me "

Yes I agree but you can’t read 100 plus messages a day so you have to work out a way of filtering

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


" exactly this .... bearing in mind women get 100-200 messages a day and you serously cannot open them all let alone reply. Cock shots don’t appeal to me on pfp it tells me that’s the part of you you think is your biggest selling point.

You said it even better "

Haha

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By *amworth_guy69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Tamworth

So in theory if I messaged you the same message twice, 1st with the dick PFP and the 2nd with a nice PFP

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"So in theory if I messaged you the same message twice, 1st with the dick PFP and the 2nd with a nice PFP "

See now you’ve changed it and the whole impression I get of you has changed ... of course I’m just me and not the whole site but hey ho. Much better imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wish woman would delete the message if they are not interested! Appreciate it must take forever if you have lots of erotic pics posted, as every Tom dick and Harry must message, but I have always taken a delete as a polite way if saying no thanks.

It can be frustrating, but I can see it from a woman’s point of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm the expectation if you chat tho is that you are defo going to meet.. Its hard to just make a connection ... Its like 5 sentences and then you should get your knickers down :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like they just decided without the chit chat OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wish woman would delete the message if they are not interested! Appreciate it must take forever if you have lots of erotic pics posted, as every Tom dick and Harry must message, but I have always taken a delete as a polite way if saying no thanks.

It can be frustrating, but I can see it from a woman’s point of view."

Sometimes you lose the message before you get the chance to reply or delete it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm the expectation if you chat tho is that you are defo going to meet.. Its hard to just make a connection ... Its like 5 sentences and then you should get your knickers down :/"

I agree, you need to have a bit of banter to see what makes each other tick.....but I guess the issue is for woman/couples is they must get so many messages.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Hmmm the expectation if you chat tho is that you are defo going to meet.. Its hard to just make a connection ... Its like 5 sentences and then you should get your knickers down :/

I agree, you need to have a bit of banter to see what makes each other tick.....but I guess the issue is for woman/couples is they must get so many messages."

That's all true which for me is why a well crafted profile that excites my interest is so important, at least I can gauge if engaging in the banter might have potential.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Oh I enjoy chatting, but it does seem a waste of time for the guy when he is clearly not what I'm looking for, so I make it clear that it will always remain just chat, then they know exactly where they stand. Think some think they will still change my mind though, but that's their issue, not mine.

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