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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey fellow fabbers..

We are looking for advice, probably from other couples on how to make contact and meet with women. We've been on here a good while now but haven't managed a meet yet!! We thought we were making progress in the last few months, receiving messages from people and making arrangements for meets, then getting silence??

We are getting a bit fed up now!!

Thanks in advance x

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Everyone is after the same thing. We have lots of choice.

Why not try going to a club if you're finding fab frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have no public pics on your profile, have very limited age range and the lady is just bi-curious, which tells me she may have never been with another woman. If I got a message from you, I would not be enticed to meet, even for a social.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Same as above ... no pics and the curious bit

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By *andL2014Couple
over a year ago

Kettering

Yep no pictures is a definite pass from us too I'm afraid!

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"Everyone is after the same thing. We have lots of choice.

Why not try going to a club if you're finding fab frustrating. "
what she said ... we find club environs a very good starter (couples get lots of attention) ... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t have difficulty meeting single ladies, it’s down to effort, profile and referral, relying on just messaging on fab will get you nowhere.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

So if I've read right, the single woman has to send a face picture, BEFORE you are prepared to send her one?

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Yea, you need to sort the picture thing out, try and make your profile as welcoming and positive as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile also says nothing about who you are as people. To many profiles are just a list of criteria or demands. But the only question you should be asking your self is, why?

Why (in a sea of possibilities) should someone pick you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey fellow fabbers..

We are looking for advice, probably from other couples on how to make contact and meet with women. We've been on here a good while now but haven't managed a meet yet!! We thought we were making progress in the last few months, receiving messages from people and making arrangements for meets, then getting silence??

We are getting a bit fed up now!!

Thanks in advance x"

Yes we find that too. Lots of chatting but then when start to try to arrange a meet all goes quiet. I also find it rude when i send pics and then they just delete the messages and don't hear from them again. Much nicer to just simply say sorry your not what we are looking for than making you feel like you are some awful beast. We all have our preferences but think some people appear quite shallow. We have pictures that friends can view and happy to send them privately but i wont have a picture on showing my face publicly because of my job. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey fellow fabbers..

We are looking for advice, probably from other couples on how to make contact and meet with women. We've been on here a good while now but haven't managed a meet yet!! We thought we were making progress in the last few months, receiving messages from people and making arrangements for meets, then getting silence??

We are getting a bit fed up now!!

Thanks in advance x"
you have a blank avatar and no public pics women need to survey everything that you as a couple have to offer if you hide then they won't come out to play either

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

dont forget single ladies meeting a couple is a big ask and they have to feel safe meeting them .

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

In a pub/café for a drink....?? Low risk I would say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stand out things for me that would put me off right away are:

Lack of pics.

Stating that you don't want endless messages that lead nowhere. Well, unfortunately getting to know people and understand whether you'll be compatible (especially for regular meets) is communication which I thought was quite obvious. That alone would put me off talking to you via messages as it already feels like being pressured.

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be aware more women are actively looking for guys than couples.

Also you are both around the 40 mark (nothing wrong with this as we are!) and only looking for women under 40. This limits your search massively as a lot of the younger women will have a lot more nerves about meeting couples. Those nerves will be increased by the pressure put on them and the fact that your profile doesn't give much of a clue as to what you're actually like. They'd probably just move in to the next profile.

B

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"In a pub/café for a drink....?? Low risk I would say."

Low risk isn't no risk, and the bar for making me comfortable is pretty high.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

As a woman, I get *lots* of messages. Not gloating, just how it is.

The questions I'm always asking myself are, why would I want to meet this person/ couple, or even give them a bit of my mental space given the conversations I'm always juggling (on top of my real life)? What's in it for me? Do they respect my busy schedule, my potential misgivings about meeting strangers, etc? If I'm meeting a woman (or a couple specifically looking for a bi woman), is this woman going to reciprocate?

Thought exercise: read your profile from that perspective. If you can't satisfy those questions *just using the information in your profile*, then change it. (keeping in mind that some things, it's more about how you act than just what you say)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need covered up pictures of you two together plus some non graphic ones. Usually when we see this type we tend to stay away from them as not 100% sure if it is a couple or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey fellow fabbers..

We are looking for advice, probably from other couples on how to make contact and meet with women. We've been on here a good while now but haven't managed a meet yet!! We thought we were making progress in the last few months, receiving messages from people and making arrangements for meets, then getting silence??

We are getting a bit fed up now!!

Thanks in advance x

Yes we find that too. Lots of chatting but then when start to try to arrange a meet all goes quiet. I also find it rude when i send pics and then they just delete the messages and don't hear from them again. Much nicer to just simply say sorry your not what we are looking for than making you feel like you are some awful beast. We all have our preferences but think some people appear quite shallow. We have pictures that friends can view and happy to send them privately but i wont have a picture on showing my face publicly because of my job. Good luck x"

Sadly a lot of "single woman" are just men posing as a woman to get off on the messages and collect pictures hence once they have pictures or you try to arrange a real life meet they disappear. With time and experience you learn to sniff them out pretty quickly. They soon disappear if early on you ask to speak to the female on the phone (female to female).

KJ x

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By *lex D.Man
over a year ago

London


"We don’t have difficulty meeting single ladies, it’s down to effort, profile and referral, relying on just messaging on fab will get you nowhere."

Agreed. I'm a single guy but I see parallels with the OP's problem. I've only been a supporter for a couple of months and can see clubs, socials and forums are fundamental for a specific to a wide ranging experience. Perhaps anything else is just the sugar and icing on top. Or the cherry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add there's some great advice for you in this thread but even if you implement all of it finding a single woman to play with you is incredibly tough it's supply and demand they are spoilt for choice as are couples with single men.

Our only experience as a couple playing with another single woman has been in a club. That realistically is your best bet and you will be able to get verified aswell. At least you know in a club your actually talking to a woman

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'd look at your profile and assume it was (yet again) just a bloke, maybe with a possible fb on board, it doesn't come across as a genuine couple , particularly with no visible pix.

It would be a delete from me.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'd look at your profile and assume it was (yet again) just a bloke, maybe with a possible fb on board, it doesn't come across as a genuine couple , particularly with no visible pix.

It would be a delete from me."

Funny, I didn't see it that way. I just saw no indication of why I might be interested.

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London


"I'd look at your profile and assume it was (yet again) just a bloke, maybe with a possible fb on board, it doesn't come across as a genuine couple , particularly with no visible pix.

It would be a delete from me."

I agree with this, does not come across as genuine to me. I may be wrong, if so then it’s definitely lazy.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I honestly think clubs are the best way forward. Me and my partner genrally find it's easier to find people and hook up face to face in an enviroment where no party has pressure and the option to move about. If you meet someone and get along then there is no reason you can't arrange something for the future outside of the club.

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By *oldarkxxxMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Check me out and if you like what you see contact me ASAP please

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Check me out and if you like what you see contact me ASAP please "

Don't hijack other people's posts.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

And there they were, gone...

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By *arkLondon2022Man
over a year ago

LONDON


"Your profile also says nothing about who you are as people. To many profiles are just a list of criteria or demands. But the only question you should be asking your self is, why?

Why (in a sea of possibilities) should someone pick you?"

BEST ANSWERS ! u cant make people feel like You some Gift from God. If u that in Secrecy that u Cant add photo Go Away .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile also says nothing about who you are as people. To many profiles are just a list of criteria or demands. But the only question you should be asking your self is, why?

Why (in a sea of possibilities) should someone pick you?

BEST ANSWERS ! u cant make people feel like You some Gift from God. If u that in Secrecy that u Cant add photo Go Away . "

They have!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Your profile also says nothing about who you are as people. To many profiles are just a list of criteria or demands. But the only question you should be asking your self is, why?

Why (in a sea of possibilities) should someone pick you?

BEST ANSWERS ! u cant make people feel like You some Gift from God. If u that in Secrecy that u Cant add photo Go Away .

They have!"

Another prob fake bites the dust

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