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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds

Hey guys.

So I realise this might not go down well but in the hope that one person sees it and gets in touch I'm going to post anyway.

So basically I'm very nervous about my sexual skills so to speak and it's becoming an issue in stopping me meeting people and really making me anxious.

With previous girlfriends I've basically avoided having sex primarily because I prefer oral but mostly because I think I'm shit at shagging. So I'm hoping to find a teacher who would be happy to help me get some experience and boost my confidence.

(As an aside I also make films and am thinking this could potentially make a cool little doc).

Anyway as I said I'm sure people will have some interesting stuff to say but I hope someone finds this interesting.

I'm a decent sane intelligent educated person if that makes any difference. I'm also very chilled with a good sense of humour.

So please get in touch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey guys.

So I realise this might not go down well but in the hope that one person sees it and gets in touch I'm going to post anyway.

So basically I'm very nervous about my sexual skills so to speak and it's becoming an issue in stopping me meeting people and really making me anxious.

With previous girlfriends I've basically avoided having sex primarily because I prefer oral but mostly because I think I'm shit at shagging. So I'm hoping to find a teacher who would be happy to help me get some experience and boost my confidence.

(As an aside I also make films and am thinking this could potentially make a cool little doc).

Anyway as I said I'm sure people will have some interesting stuff to say but I hope someone finds this interesting.

I'm a decent sane intelligent educated person if that makes any difference. I'm also very chilled with a good sense of humour.

So please get in touch! "

This has been posted so many times.

You will see the comment that no one is here to be a teacher said again and again.

Are you looking for a sympathy fuck??

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds

Hey. Yeah I know there are a few similar posts. Just thought I'd try. And no it's not for sympathy. It's genuine. I want to get some help so I feel confident whet being someone. I know it's a long shot but fingers crossed.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

So you want a sympathy fuck and yo film it for release?

Good luck with that.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you considered mentioning this on your profile ?

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds

Haha. Not really but fair comment. It's not sympathy I'm after but someone who actually wants to help out. Having an issue with confidence when I'm with girls and just had a crazy thought that this could help.

I mentioned the film stuff cos it's my job (nothing dirty) and thought it could be a cool idea but probably not.

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds

Hey Sally. Not mentioned in profile as just thought of it yesterday. I have met a few people so I'm not totally inexperienced it's more the confidence part. When meeting people not from here I've really started to get anxious and just trying to find a solution. Apparently this was an incredibly long shot!! I might add something to my profile but apparently need to work on my wording!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Hope it all goes well for you.

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds

Thanks very much. Don't think anything will come of this it seems but who knows. You don't get if you don't try! Would be nice if someone even half as good looking as you felt like sharing some tips! Anyway cheers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha. Not really but fair comment. It's not sympathy I'm after but someone who actually wants to help out. Having an issue with confidence when I'm with girls and just had a crazy thought that this could help.

I mentioned the film stuff cos it's my job (nothing dirty) and thought it could be a cool idea but probably not. "

You are hoping someone will give you a sympathy fuck to help you boost your confidence? ?

Maybe you have the wrong idea of this site.

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds

Again it's not a sympathy thing. Its something I would like some help with. I have met people from this site and had plenty of fun. But I'm thinking about how to improve stuff outside this site as well.

Anyway as I said I know it's not for everyone. Sorry if I've caused offence by asking.

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

Mate, you’ve asked the wrong question on this site, all you’ll get is piss takers. People generally think they are all that, basically above your needs because they’ve gained experience and can afford to insult and belittle people such as yourself. I was gonna write along the lines of “ I’ll get the popcorn, this should be interesting” but thought better of myself. Plus I’m not saying we’ll help , but you’ve left yourself wide open. Help can be given in lots of ways, so come on guys give the guy a break. Conversation is a great medium, and bullying come in many forms. Good luck. now watch us get some flak? Lol XxxkarenandmartinxxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate, you’ve asked the wrong question on this site, all you’ll get is piss takers. People generally think they are all that, basically above your needs because they’ve gained experience and can afford to insult and belittle people such as yourself. I was gonna write along the lines of “ I’ll get the popcorn, this should be interesting” but thought better of myself. Plus I’m not saying we’ll help , but you’ve left yourself wide open. Help can be given in lots of ways, so come on guys give the guy a break. Conversation is a great medium, and bullying come in many forms. Good luck. now watch us get some flak? Lol XxxkarenandmartinxxX "

Totally agree with all you said there... 100%.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think confidence comes from connecting with someone and being able to be in touch with your vulnerability, communicate about it. From within but with guidance.

I think this might be a difficult place to find that sort of thing. (I have read the thread and this is my genuine, well intended, not bullying advice)

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds

Well thanks for being decent!

I don't get why people get so upset about this stuff. If they don't want to get involved then why feel the need to be negative? But I understand that some people are weird on here - my post is actually genuine although maybe shouldn't have put it up!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Well thanks for being decent!

I don't get why people get so upset about this stuff. If they don't want to get involved then why feel the need to be negative? But I understand that some people are weird on here - my post is actually genuine although maybe shouldn't have put it up!!"

I mean it is also an honest answer, if not kindly put. This place can be a bit soulless and brutal, tough for anyone let alone the inexperienced. And there are a lot of people who think they can just demand all sorts from others (sexual mentor, being taken to a club, etc): trust me it wears thin.

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds


"I think confidence comes from connecting with someone and being able to be in touch with your vulnerability, communicate about it. From within but with guidance.

I think this might be a difficult place to find that sort of thing. (I have read the thread and this is my genuine, well intended, not bullying advice) "

I think you might be right there. I've just been struggling with confidence when I've been with girls not from this site and trying to find a way to change that. But I think what you say is true and this might not be the right place for this.

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds


"Well thanks for being decent!

I don't get why people get so upset about this stuff. If they don't want to get involved then why feel the need to be negative? But I understand that some people are weird on here - my post is actually genuine although maybe shouldn't have put it up!!

I mean it is also an honest answer, if not kindly put. This place can be a bit soulless and brutal, tough for anyone let alone the inexperienced. And there are a lot of people who think they can just demand all sorts from others (sexual mentor, being taken to a club, etc): trust me it wears thin. "

Yep I get that. I'm not demanding anything at all though. Was just hopeful this might be something that appeals to someone. But obviously not!

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds


"Mate, you’ve asked the wrong question on this site, all you’ll get is piss takers. People generally think they are all that, basically above your needs because they’ve gained experience and can afford to insult and belittle people such as yourself. I was gonna write along the lines of “ I’ll get the popcorn, this should be interesting” but thought better of myself. Plus I’m not saying we’ll help , but you’ve left yourself wide open. Help can be given in lots of ways, so come on guys give the guy a break. Conversation is a great medium, and bullying come in many forms. Good luck. now watch us get some flak? Lol XxxkarenandmartinxxX "

Haha. Should have got the popcorn!

Yeah I'd not posted anything before and maybe regretting putting this one up!!

But thanks for being decent and not just going in!! Appreciate the good luck - looks like I'll need it!

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Mate, you’ve asked the wrong question on this site, all you’ll get is piss takers. People generally think they are all that, basically above your needs because they’ve gained experience and can afford to insult and belittle people such as yourself. I was gonna write along the lines of “ I’ll get the popcorn, this should be interesting” but thought better of myself. Plus I’m not saying we’ll help , but you’ve left yourself wide open. Help can be given in lots of ways, so come on guys give the guy a break. Conversation is a great medium, and bullying come in many forms. Good luck. now watch us get some flak? Lol XxxkarenandmartinxxX "
fully agree with Kaz what's wrong with passing a few skills on to the younger generation for the ladies with amazing experience, To take that young man under your wing and send him out into the world full of confidence and respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well thanks for being decent!

I don't get why people get so upset about this stuff. If they don't want to get involved then why feel the need to be negative? But I understand that some people are weird on here - my post is actually genuine although maybe shouldn't have put it up!!

I mean it is also an honest answer, if not kindly put. This place can be a bit soulless and brutal, tough for anyone let alone the inexperienced. And there are a lot of people who think they can just demand all sorts from others (sexual mentor, being taken to a club, etc): trust me it wears thin. "

It constantly surprises us that people label bluntness as bullying.

It is so true that these type of posts wear thin.

Imagine an inexperienced guy forming an emotional attachment because he has had his first fuck.

If you are looking for support from others in the way of chatting and encouragement that is totally different to wanting a sympathy fuck.

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

Wow? This a change, you’re actually getting descent comments, rather than the usual arseholes that troll people. Thanks guys. My faith is restored. XxxkarenandmartinxxX

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds


"Well thanks for being decent!

I don't get why people get so upset about this stuff. If they don't want to get involved then why feel the need to be negative? But I understand that some people are weird on here - my post is actually genuine although maybe shouldn't have put it up!!

I mean it is also an honest answer, if not kindly put. This place can be a bit soulless and brutal, tough for anyone let alone the inexperienced. And there are a lot of people who think they can just demand all sorts from others (sexual mentor, being taken to a club, etc): trust me it wears thin.

It constantly surprises us that people label bluntness as bullying.

It is so true that these type of posts wear thin.

Imagine an inexperienced guy forming an emotional attachment because he has had his first fuck.

If you are looking for support from others in the way of chatting and encouragement that is totally different to wanting a sympathy fuck.

"

Yeah wasn't accusing you of bullying. I also understand where you're coming from.

But I'm not looking for my first fuck. Or a sympathy fuck. I'm genuinely looking for someone who enjoys sharing their experience and teaching. I've seen stuff about people who like doing that and was just wishful thinking.

But maybe I shouldn't have asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well thanks for being decent!

I don't get why people get so upset about this stuff. If they don't want to get involved then why feel the need to be negative? But I understand that some people are weird on here - my post is actually genuine although maybe shouldn't have put it up!!

I mean it is also an honest answer, if not kindly put. This place can be a bit soulless and brutal, tough for anyone let alone the inexperienced. And there are a lot of people who think they can just demand all sorts from others (sexual mentor, being taken to a club, etc): trust me it wears thin.

It constantly surprises us that people label bluntness as bullying.

It is so true that these type of posts wear thin.

Imagine an inexperienced guy forming an emotional attachment because he has had his first fuck.

If you are looking for support from others in the way of chatting and encouragement that is totally different to wanting a sympathy fuck.

Yeah wasn't accusing you of bullying. I also understand where you're coming from.

But I'm not looking for my first fuck. Or a sympathy fuck. I'm genuinely looking for someone who enjoys sharing their experience and teaching. I've seen stuff about people who like doing that and was just wishful thinking.

But maybe I shouldn't have asked. "

There is nothing wrong in what you have asked for OP, same as there is nothing wrong with blunt answers you get.

However now you have clarified what you are looking for you might just get some positive answers.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There's no issue with asking, OP. Unfortunately the question comes with baggage that others attached to similar questions, which informs replies.

I genuinely wish you the best.

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds


"Wow? This a change, you’re actually getting descent comments, rather than the usual arseholes that troll people. Thanks guys. My faith is restored. XxxkarenandmartinxxX "

Haha I know. Its quite liberating having people actually engage and offer constructive feedback. Was worried for a bit there!

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By *igchilledguy OP   Man
over a year ago

North Leeds


"There's no issue with asking, OP. Unfortunately the question comes with baggage that others attached to similar questions, which informs replies.

I genuinely wish you the best. "

Thanks very much. Don't want to get carried away but people actually seem to be offering constructive suggestions and being decent so that's a relief. Doubt anyone is going to want to meet but then I didn't really sell myself as the best catch!!

Anyway thanks again.

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