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"Hi Op You have one picture of a blue shirt. Then when a woman, if she can be bothered, goes to your profile there's around 10 paragraphs of a profile that's she's got to read. That day she may have 30-100 messages off guys do you think she'll read yours ? Plenty of guys on here don't show their faces, genuine reasons for it. However it will scupper their chances, women on here can have their pick of gym enhanced bodies to Dad bods so if you're more to the latter, you need to try to entice those that are interested. I often malign those that don't put enough into their profiles e.g 'ask if you're interested' in your case reduce it significantly. Three to four paragraphs should do it. A profile is a chance to sell yourself and your personality, what really attracts is intelligence and humour. Not an essay in how you see yourself and others. Think about what you can offer and your positive points, a single dad with grown up kids, says a guy with responsibilities and a caring attitude, a positive as long as you make a point of it. A profile truly is an organic thing, you start with some basic information then amend it over time, especially when you realise what really sells you as a person. Also asking for advice around 10-11pm won't get many replies on a week night
Good luck Op "Thanks for your feedback, my profile was written with advice from others so tried to incorporate what was asked from that. I will have a rethink and change some of the content. Pics, I agree more would be better so will add soon. Appreciated. | |||
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"Nice bio, a few more pictures would be great, not cock pics though." Thank you for responding, agreed, I will source some more tastefully pics and upload. | |||
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Feel free to pm me for my experience of having large men friends and fwb on here x | |||
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"When I was active on the scene I was only attracted to overweight men. I always have been even when I was a slim young thing
Feel free to pm me for my experience of having large men friends and fwb on here x"Thank you for your feedback. | |||
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"You sound like you want to find a date rather than fab, I think you should carefully and honestly think about it op. Fab is an amazing place but it's cards on the table that keeps it amazing. You seem to put a lot of your personal life in your profile which lead me to think date rather than fab. Good luck " Thank you for your feedback too. It's amazing how opinions differ. When I first wrote my profile it was criticised and viewed as a typical single bloke looking for a quickie, which was far from what my intention. I changed it to what at the time others advised me to be saying and now seems to far the other way! I think I need to get the balance right and will re-write later. I really am not looking at the dating game. Once bitten twice shy and life at the moment dictates it's not what I need. I genuinely want to explore this lifestyle. Again. Ty. G | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. " Can I be honest I would not meet you based on those photos. I have met all shapes and sizes. A photo needs to be mesmorising and enticing and those for me do not do either! Try some photos with clothes on and take a peek at some of the profiles on fab to get an idea. | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. " Im not here for notches in my bedpost, but seek a like minded persons to share this lifestyle with. What does this mean OP, one minute you say you are not here for sleeping around but the next minute you want that someone to share that lifestyle? | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. Im not here for notches in my bedpost, but seek a like minded persons to share this lifestyle with. What does this mean OP, one minute you say you are not here for sleeping around but the next minute you want that someone to share that lifestyle?" This Lifestyle = a shared swinging lifestyle and what goes with it. What this site is all about. Not Notches in the bed post = in other words I'm not in it for one night stands for the hell of it. Does that help you understand? | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. Can I be honest I would not meet you based on those photos. I have met all shapes and sizes. A photo needs to be mesmorising and enticing and those for me do not do either! Try some photos with clothes on and take a peek at some of the profiles on fab to get an idea." Of course you can be honest!! The problem is this now. First it was a dick pic only to learn that it's not what the ladies want to see(despite the entirety of profiles showing dick of both sexes). Ok. That's not a problem, I will change it as advised try clothed. So clothed pic goes up, next advice try other body pics, now they have been uploaded, some folk happy with that. Now you are telling me to put away and try clothed again. Ok thanks for that I can reason with it but then I go back to square one. There is no happy medium, I look at other profiles and it's mostly body parts, boobs or underwear, not that many clothed!!! I cant WIN Lol! Ty | |||
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"Thanks for your feedback, my profile was written with advice from others so tried to incorporate what was asked from that. I will have a rethink and change some of the content. Pics, I agree more would be better so will add soon. Appreciated." i think thats half the problem asking for advice is like letting someone write your profile fore you sometimes .. you need to be you? write that little bit about you sell yourself as you not someone else all advice does is put you in the same box as many others.... just be confident and you ...and then sit back and be aware there's 1000s of you on here seeking the same thing with a limited audience | |||
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"Thanks for your feedback, my profile was written with advice from others so tried to incorporate what was asked from that. I will have a rethink and change some of the content. Pics, I agree more would be better so will add soon. Appreciated. i think thats half the problem asking for advice is like letting someone write your profile fore you sometimes .. you need to be you? write that little bit about you sell yourself as you not someone else all advice does is put you in the same box as many others.... just be confident and you ...and then sit back and be aware there's 1000s of you on here seeking the same thing with a limited audience" Thank you, sensible approach. Cant please em all! Appreciated. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. " A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. Im not here for notches in my bedpost, but seek a like minded persons to share this lifestyle with. What does this mean OP, one minute you say you are not here for sleeping around but the next minute you want that someone to share that lifestyle? This Lifestyle = a shared swinging lifestyle and what goes with it. What this site is all about. Not Notches in the bed post = in other words I'm not in it for one night stands for the hell of it. Does that help you understand? " Saying you want someone to share the lifestyle with implies you are looking for a relationship with someone who is in the lifestyle already. Whether that’s what you mean or not, that’s how most people will take it. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help!" Single guys out number single women and couples dramatically on this site. Reading your replies to this thread and your other it sounds like you have no inclination to make an effort with your images. This will be your downfall if you are genuinely trying to meet people via Fab. The forums are constantly littered with posts bemoaning how impossible it is to get meets as a single Male, but it’s very simply a case of the effort you put in. If you really feel you can only shine in person, you need to get yourself to some local socials or a club where you will have the opportunity to meet people in person. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help!" Beauty is skin deep but there still has to be some physical attraction to get to that beauty within ... and people on here are not judgemental I really hate it when ppl say that as it always seems to be the ones who complaining they getting no where ... we are not judgemental because we know what we want ... | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. Im not here for notches in my bedpost, but seek a like minded persons to share this lifestyle with. What does this mean OP, one minute you say you are not here for sleeping around but the next minute you want that someone to share that lifestyle? This Lifestyle = a shared swinging lifestyle and what goes with it. What this site is all about. Not Notches in the bed post = in other words I'm not in it for one night stands for the hell of it. Does that help you understand? Saying you want someone to share the lifestyle with implies you are looking for a relationship with someone who is in the lifestyle already. Whether that’s what you mean or not, that’s how most people will take it. " So your not on here to share the swinging lifestyle? Why are you here? You have to share it, having regular people sharing is not having a relationship. Is that not what's being done by swinging? Sharing with like minded people or a person wanting to share. Those looking for a quickie with a different person each time are not really swinging are they? | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. Im not here for notches in my bedpost, but seek a like minded persons to share this lifestyle with. What does this mean OP, one minute you say you are not here for sleeping around but the next minute you want that someone to share that lifestyle? This Lifestyle = a shared swinging lifestyle and what goes with it. What this site is all about. Not Notches in the bed post = in other words I'm not in it for one night stands for the hell of it. Does that help you understand? Saying you want someone to share the lifestyle with implies you are looking for a relationship with someone who is in the lifestyle already. Whether that’s what you mean or not, that’s how most people will take it. So your not on here to share the swinging lifestyle? Why are you here? You have to share it, having regular people sharing is not having a relationship. Is that not what's being done by swinging? Sharing with like minded people or a person wanting to share. Those looking for a quickie with a different person each time are not really swinging are they? " No I’m here to make friends. I share the lifestyle (and my life) with my husband | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Beauty is skin deep but there still has to be some physical attraction to get to that beauty within ... and people on here are not judgemental I really hate it when ppl say that as it always seems to be the ones who complaining they getting no where ... we are not judgemental because we know what we want ..." So your not judgemental? May I ask why you would not invite me into this life? Interested in your answer. Not asking. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Beauty is skin deep but there still has to be some physical attraction to get to that beauty within ... and people on here are not judgemental I really hate it when ppl say that as it always seems to be the ones who complaining they getting no where ... we are not judgemental because we know what we want ..." agree with this OP | |||
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"Hello Fabbers I am a large and single man, which I believe make it very hard to get anywhere on this site. Like BBW's for the male/bi lady, are there any ladies out there who like the larger guy or would consider inviting one into their lifestyle. I have tried after advice on here to tailor my profile to what I have been told. Is it too vanilla or does it need more to attract? Thoughts on all above please. Thanks in advance. Im not here for notches in my bedpost, but seek a like minded persons to share this lifestyle with. What does this mean OP, one minute you say you are not here for sleeping around but the next minute you want that someone to share that lifestyle? This Lifestyle = a shared swinging lifestyle and what goes with it. What this site is all about. Not Notches in the bed post = in other words I'm not in it for one night stands for the hell of it. Does that help you understand? Saying you want someone to share the lifestyle with implies you are looking for a relationship with someone who is in the lifestyle already. Whether that’s what you mean or not, that’s how most people will take it. So your not on here to share the swinging lifestyle? Why are you here? You have to share it, having regular people sharing is not having a relationship. Is that not what's being done by swinging? Sharing with like minded people or a person wanting to share. Those looking for a quickie with a different person each time are not really swinging are they? No I’m here to make friends. I share the lifestyle (and my life) with my husband " Sorry Twinkel fairy, I thought I was responding to another poster had not realised that you had quoted off the same post!! My answer was not aimed at you! To ask how I can step into this lifestyle if I have no partner? Profiles male and female across this site say the same as what I have put, "looking for like minded person/people" if that's a regular NSA person it's not a relationship in the romantic term but someone who is willing to be a partner in crime so to speak. Does that make sense or are others not getting that? Again sorry if I came across differently. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Beauty is skin deep but there still has to be some physical attraction to get to that beauty within ... and people on here are not judgemental I really hate it when ppl say that as it always seems to be the ones who complaining they getting no where ... we are not judgemental because we know what we want ... So your not judgemental? May I ask why you would not invite me into this life? Interested in your answer. Not asking." Because you are not what I'm looking for simple... | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Single guys out number single women and couples dramatically on this site. Reading your replies to this thread and your other it sounds like you have no inclination to make an effort with your images. This will be your downfall if you are genuinely trying to meet people via Fab. The forums are constantly littered with posts bemoaning how impossible it is to get meets as a single Male, but it’s very simply a case of the effort you put in. If you really feel you can only shine in person, you need to get yourself to some local socials or a club where you will have the opportunity to meet people in person." Hi again Twinkel! It's not about me not wanting to put effort into it, it's the fact I'm trying to do it right with you guys already in the swing. Im trying to get away from those blokes just out for a quickie, not serious swinging. There are so many profiles on here saying no dick pics, no this, no that no other, but interested in single men yet when you contact them you either get no answer, blocked or sorry not meeting only to see a verification pop up sometime later. Thats with being polite, considerate and professional in your message to them. To me its laziness on the receiver. After all ive no experience at this. Whereas established swingers know the score. To me it just makes me see myself as fat and ugly not wanted and in this day and age of equality and diversity that everyone screams about. Not that I wish to cry that card. I'd rather be told straight. I'm not a judgemental person of another, maybe I should be given some of the answers by others. Some one else has posted on here about judgement and called it hard cheese on my part basically. Folk are judgemental, fat and ugly single dont fit with this life. How many profiles have overweight people on but judge others by their appearance, quite a few! Pot, kettle and black comes to mind, but through my eyes I would probably give them a chance if contacting me. What chance do I actually have? I think I'm too nice about folk. You may be right, get off my ass and go to a club, test the water that way. Thank you Twinkel, for having a say. I do appreciate what you have said. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Beauty is skin deep but there still has to be some physical attraction to get to that beauty within ... and people on here are not judgemental I really hate it when ppl say that as it always seems to be the ones who complaining they getting no where ... we are not judgemental because we know what we want ... So your not judgemental? May I ask why you would not invite me into this life? Interested in your answer. Not asking. Because you are not what I'm looking for simple... " The answer I expected to be fair, nothing in detail as to why I would not be considered. I've just read your profile and with all your rules, I would respect what you ask quite simple. I get from your profile that you are very experienced in the swinging scene. I respect that, but I as a single inexperienced fat bloke, who has a genuine interest in the lifestyle how do I get into it if there is no one willing to take that forward? I have no partner out of choice, complications at home have prevented me looking again after my last partner became a problem with siblings. I dont want that and would not subject anyone to that environment again. Swinging was discussed and supported, but we never took the plunge. Obviously, if my profile has been read you would also understand that I was also widowed in the past. Life for me has been a bit shit to say the least, not that I expect sympathy, I dont want that. Now when I have decided to explore new avenues in life I'm met with a brick wall. Maybe I'm doing this at the wrong time. Thanks for your input anyway. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Single guys out number single women and couples dramatically on this site. Reading your replies to this thread and your other it sounds like you have no inclination to make an effort with your images. This will be your downfall if you are genuinely trying to meet people via Fab. The forums are constantly littered with posts bemoaning how impossible it is to get meets as a single Male, but it’s very simply a case of the effort you put in. If you really feel you can only shine in person, you need to get yourself to some local socials or a club where you will have the opportunity to meet people in person. Hi again Twinkel! It's not about me not wanting to put effort into it, it's the fact I'm trying to do it right with you guys already in the swing. Im trying to get away from those blokes just out for a quickie, not serious swinging. There are so many profiles on here saying no dick pics, no this, no that no other, but interested in single men yet when you contact them you either get no answer, blocked or sorry not meeting only to see a verification pop up sometime later. Thats with being polite, considerate and professional in your message to them. To me its laziness on the receiver. After all ive no experience at this. Whereas established swingers know the score. To me it just makes me see myself as fat and ugly not wanted and in this day and age of equality and diversity that everyone screams about. Not that I wish to cry that card. I'd rather be told straight. I'm not a judgemental person of another, maybe I should be given some of the answers by others. Some one else has posted on here about judgement and called it hard cheese on my part basically. Folk are judgemental, fat and ugly single dont fit with this life. How many profiles have overweight people on but judge others by their appearance, quite a few! Pot, kettle and black comes to mind, but through my eyes I would probably give them a chance if contacting me. What chance do I actually have? I think I'm too nice about folk. You may be right, get off my ass and go to a club, test the water that way. Thank you Twinkel, for having a say. I do appreciate what you have said." I’m going to presume that you don’t intend to come across as entitled as that post sounds. Equality and diversity have nothing to do with sexual preferences. I’m not judgemental because I have a type. I just have a particular type of single male that I’m attracted to and I don’t lower my standards. I don’t judge someone I don’t want to meet, I’m sure there are countless lovely guys who are fantastic people but I wouldn’t want to have sex with them. I’m overweight. I also expect men to be in good shape. I couldn’t care less whether someone thinks this makes me a hypocrite. I’m married to a guy who fits the bill of who I look to meet on Fab and I most certainly do not trade down! | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Single guys out number single women and couples dramatically on this site. Reading your replies to this thread and your other it sounds like you have no inclination to make an effort with your images. This will be your downfall if you are genuinely trying to meet people via Fab. The forums are constantly littered with posts bemoaning how impossible it is to get meets as a single Male, but it’s very simply a case of the effort you put in. If you really feel you can only shine in person, you need to get yourself to some local socials or a club where you will have the opportunity to meet people in person. Hi again Twinkel! It's not about me not wanting to put effort into it, it's the fact I'm trying to do it right with you guys already in the swing. Im trying to get away from those blokes just out for a quickie, not serious swinging. There are so many profiles on here saying no dick pics, no this, no that no other, but interested in single men yet when you contact them you either get no answer, blocked or sorry not meeting only to see a verification pop up sometime later. Thats with being polite, considerate and professional in your message to them. To me its laziness on the receiver. After all ive no experience at this. Whereas established swingers know the score. To me it just makes me see myself as fat and ugly not wanted and in this day and age of equality and diversity that everyone screams about. Not that I wish to cry that card. I'd rather be told straight. I'm not a judgemental person of another, maybe I should be given some of the answers by others. Some one else has posted on here about judgement and called it hard cheese on my part basically. Folk are judgemental, fat and ugly single dont fit with this life. How many profiles have overweight people on but judge others by their appearance, quite a few! Pot, kettle and black comes to mind, but through my eyes I would probably give them a chance if contacting me. What chance do I actually have? I think I'm too nice about folk. You may be right, get off my ass and go to a club, test the water that way. Thank you Twinkel, for having a say. I do appreciate what you have said. I’m going to presume that you don’t intend to come across as entitled as that post sounds. Equality and diversity have nothing to do with sexual preferences. I’m not judgemental because I have a type. I just have a particular type of single male that I’m attracted to and I don’t lower my standards. I don’t judge someone I don’t want to meet, I’m sure there are countless lovely guys who are fantastic people but I wouldn’t want to have sex with them. I’m overweight. I also expect men to be in good shape. I couldn’t care less whether someone thinks this makes me a hypocrite. I’m married to a guy who fits the bill of who I look to meet on Fab and I most certainly do not trade down!" What is it about this entitled label that keeps being banded about. No one is entitled I absolutely agree. Like I already said, I'm trying to get away from that stereotypical male come across. I think how things are read are easily misunderstood. From my take of your message I'm now lower standards? So by not being in good shape, I'm low standard. Thank you, I may be so but that sure kicks me in the nether regions. You have no idea why life has put me this way yet you judge because I'm overweight. There is nothing more I would like to be than in the body I had twenty years ago. Fit as a fiddle and a damn sight slimmer than I am. Unfortunately two smashed discs from service in a very hot climate has left me unable to maintain that level.I've shown nothing but respect in responses to my questions on this forum, even those that knock it, yet I'm now low standard and entitled. I wont be posting anymore. | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Beauty is skin deep but there still has to be some physical attraction to get to that beauty within ... and people on here are not judgemental I really hate it when ppl say that as it always seems to be the ones who complaining they getting no where ... we are not judgemental because we know what we want ... So your not judgemental? May I ask why you would not invite me into this life? Interested in your answer. Not asking. Because you are not what I'm looking for simple... The answer I expected to be fair, nothing in detail as to why I would not be considered. I've just read your profile and with all your rules, I would respect what you ask quite simple. I get from your profile that you are very experienced in the swinging scene. I respect that, but I as a single inexperienced fat bloke, who has a genuine interest in the lifestyle how do I get into it if there is no one willing to take that forward? I have no partner out of choice, complications at home have prevented me looking again after my last partner became a problem with siblings. I dont want that and would not subject anyone to that environment again. Swinging was discussed and supported, but we never took the plunge. Obviously, if my profile has been read you would also understand that I was also widowed in the past. Life for me has been a bit shit to say the least, not that I expect sympathy, I dont want that. Now when I have decided to explore new avenues in life I'm met with a brick wall. Maybe I'm doing this at the wrong time. Thanks for your input anyway. " I have to agree with twinkles above post you do seem to be pulling towards fine lines entitlement and of course if I dont find you physically attractive I'm going to say the polite thing your not what I'm looking for and I am sorry you feel down on your luck and yourself but you will not get a sympathy shag out of it same as all the men who put it's my birthday ... we still ain't going to play with you and to be honest if your feeling this crap fab is not the place for you | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Single guys out number single women and couples dramatically on this site. Reading your replies to this thread and your other it sounds like you have no inclination to make an effort with your images. This will be your downfall if you are genuinely trying to meet people via Fab. The forums are constantly littered with posts bemoaning how impossible it is to get meets as a single Male, but it’s very simply a case of the effort you put in. If you really feel you can only shine in person, you need to get yourself to some local socials or a club where you will have the opportunity to meet people in person. Hi again Twinkel! It's not about me not wanting to put effort into it, it's the fact I'm trying to do it right with you guys already in the swing. Im trying to get away from those blokes just out for a quickie, not serious swinging. There are so many profiles on here saying no dick pics, no this, no that no other, but interested in single men yet when you contact them you either get no answer, blocked or sorry not meeting only to see a verification pop up sometime later. Thats with being polite, considerate and professional in your message to them. To me its laziness on the receiver. After all ive no experience at this. Whereas established swingers know the score. To me it just makes me see myself as fat and ugly not wanted and in this day and age of equality and diversity that everyone screams about. Not that I wish to cry that card. I'd rather be told straight. I'm not a judgemental person of another, maybe I should be given some of the answers by others. Some one else has posted on here about judgement and called it hard cheese on my part basically. Folk are judgemental, fat and ugly single dont fit with this life. How many profiles have overweight people on but judge others by their appearance, quite a few! Pot, kettle and black comes to mind, but through my eyes I would probably give them a chance if contacting me. What chance do I actually have? I think I'm too nice about folk. You may be right, get off my ass and go to a club, test the water that way. Thank you Twinkel, for having a say. I do appreciate what you have said. I’m going to presume that you don’t intend to come across as entitled as that post sounds. Equality and diversity have nothing to do with sexual preferences. I’m not judgemental because I have a type. I just have a particular type of single male that I’m attracted to and I don’t lower my standards. I don’t judge someone I don’t want to meet, I’m sure there are countless lovely guys who are fantastic people but I wouldn’t want to have sex with them. I’m overweight. I also expect men to be in good shape. I couldn’t care less whether someone thinks this makes me a hypocrite. I’m married to a guy who fits the bill of who I look to meet on Fab and I most certainly do not trade down! What is it about this entitled label that keeps being banded about. No one is entitled I absolutely agree. Like I already said, I'm trying to get away from that stereotypical male come across. I think how things are read are easily misunderstood. From my take of your message I'm now lower standards? So by not being in good shape, I'm low standard. Thank you, I may be so but that sure kicks me in the nether regions. You have no idea why life has put me this way yet you judge because I'm overweight. There is nothing more I would like to be than in the body I had twenty years ago. Fit as a fiddle and a damn sight slimmer than I am. Unfortunately two smashed discs from service in a very hot climate has left me unable to maintain that level.I've shown nothing but respect in responses to my questions on this forum, even those that knock it, yet I'm now low standard and entitled. I wont be posting anymore. " Who said I was talking about you specifically? If we are talking about each other specifically then I’m highly offended that in your previous post you called me judgmental, hypocritical and lazy. If this is your attitude I’m sorry I ever tried to help! | |||
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"Op, it's good that you're reading the advice and working on your profile. In the end it's just an opinion and no guarantee that you'll be any more successful in your search. Look at what others see when you add a picture, I said a blue shirt, because that's what stood out, now it's hair and nipples. I've just done a Google search for 'pictures for a larger guy' get some ideas from online searches on the best way to present yourself. Unfortunately pictures are important on here as they're the first thing that someone will look at. A picture speaks a thousand words but does not always tell the truth, it does not show what's underneath. Just like beauty is only skin deep. Unfortunately folk are very judgemental. Thanks again for trying to help! Single guys out number single women and couples dramatically on this site. Reading your replies to this thread and your other it sounds like you have no inclination to make an effort with your images. This will be your downfall if you are genuinely trying to meet people via Fab. The forums are constantly littered with posts bemoaning how impossible it is to get meets as a single Male, but it’s very simply a case of the effort you put in. If you really feel you can only shine in person, you need to get yourself to some local socials or a club where you will have the opportunity to meet people in person. Hi again Twinkel! It's not about me not wanting to put effort into it, it's the fact I'm trying to do it right with you guys already in the swing. Im trying to get away from those blokes just out for a quickie, not serious swinging. There are so many profiles on here saying no dick pics, no this, no that no other, but interested in single men yet when you contact them you either get no answer, blocked or sorry not meeting only to see a verification pop up sometime later. Thats with being polite, considerate and professional in your message to them. To me its laziness on the receiver. After all ive no experience at this. Whereas established swingers know the score. To me it just makes me see myself as fat and ugly not wanted and in this day and age of equality and diversity that everyone screams about. Not that I wish to cry that card. I'd rather be told straight. I'm not a judgemental person of another, maybe I should be given some of the answers by others. Some one else has posted on here about judgement and called it hard cheese on my part basically. Folk are judgemental, fat and ugly single dont fit with this life. How many profiles have overweight people on but judge others by their appearance, quite a few! Pot, kettle and black comes to mind, but through my eyes I would probably give them a chance if contacting me. What chance do I actually have? I think I'm too nice about folk. You may be right, get off my ass and go to a club, test the water that way. Thank you Twinkel, for having a say. I do appreciate what you have said. I’m going to presume that you don’t intend to come across as entitled as that post sounds. Equality and diversity have nothing to do with sexual preferences. I’m not judgemental because I have a type. I just have a particular type of single male that I’m attracted to and I don’t lower my standards. I don’t judge someone I don’t want to meet, I’m sure there are countless lovely guys who are fantastic people but I wouldn’t want to have sex with them. I’m overweight. I also expect men to be in good shape. I couldn’t care less whether someone thinks this makes me a hypocrite. I’m married to a guy who fits the bill of who I look to meet on Fab and I most certainly do not trade down! What is it about this entitled label that keeps being banded about. No one is entitled I absolutely agree. Like I already said, I'm trying to get away from that stereotypical male come across. I think how things are read are easily misunderstood. From my take of your message I'm now lower standards? So by not being in good shape, I'm low standard. Thank you, I may be so but that sure kicks me in the nether regions. You have no idea why life has put me this way yet you judge because I'm overweight. There is nothing more I would like to be than in the body I had twenty years ago. Fit as a fiddle and a damn sight slimmer than I am. Unfortunately two smashed discs from service in a very hot climate has left me unable to maintain that level.I've shown nothing but respect in responses to my questions on this forum, even those that knock it, yet I'm now low standard and entitled. I wont be posting anymore. Who said I was talking about you specifically? If we are talking about each other specifically then I’m highly offended that in your previous post you called me judgmental, hypocritical and lazy. If this is your attitude I’m sorry I ever tried to help!" Twinkel. Maybe now you can see how writing things on here can be taken in the wrong direction. By the sound of it even I have fallen victim to it now. If that's how I've come across to you then offence was not intended, and again i apologise. Totally not intended. Help was all I asked. Not entitlement. I thought I was being quite clear in that and guilty of trying to explain my issues. Others have not helped in this thread which probably contributed to responses. Line drawn if that's ok. Re-write of my profile will be undertaken at some point soon. | |||
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