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"Maybe women are put off by the bareback pic ?" I would agree wholeheartedly X | |||
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"Most women view in stealth mode, most men don't. You'll never know who is looking. " I view in stealth | |||
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"Before I quit altogether, can anyone point out why I am only getting profile views from gay men when my profile is of a straight guy. I’ve tried approaching ladies via their profiles and keep having my messages deleted. I’m don’t think I’m that off putting! All my messages are polite, spelt correctly (using the queens english!) And respectful. I’m starting to wonder who is having any luck on here and how I might go about starting chats with people?" Finding exactly the same , no 1 visiting my profile so it doesn't matter what I put in it . Have rewritten 3 times following advice , for people to advise I change it to something like I had before! Apart from a few genuine chats that I wasn't what they were looking for , most of mine have been time wasters..lining up back up meets incase theirs doesn't show I think, as I've arranged 3 with couples and every one they have vanished 2 hours before. I think it's a lottery for us single guys as there are too many of us. I'm now branded a time waster as I don't have any veri's , it's not for want of trying lol . | |||
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"Maybe women are put off by the bareback pic ? I would agree wholeheartedly X" They could only see that if they looked at his profile , he said no 1 was looking . | |||
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"Maybe women are put off by the bareback pic ? I would agree wholeheartedly X" Was going to say the same myself. | |||
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"Before I quit altogether, can anyone point out why I am only getting profile views from gay men when my profile is of a straight guy. I’ve tried approaching ladies via their profiles and keep having my messages deleted. I’m don’t think I’m that off putting! All my messages are polite, spelt correctly (using the queens english!) And respectful. I’m starting to wonder who is having any luck on here and how I might go about starting chats with people? Finding exactly the same , no 1 visiting my profile so it doesn't matter what I put in it . Have rewritten 3 times following advice , for people to advise I change it to something like I had before! Apart from a few genuine chats that I wasn't what they were looking for , most of mine have been time wasters..lining up back up meets incase theirs doesn't show I think, as I've arranged 3 with couples and every one they have vanished 2 hours before. I think it's a lottery for us single guys as there are too many of us. I'm now branded a time waster as I don't have any veri's , it's not for want of trying lol . " Like its been said above, most of us women view in stealth mode so you will be clueless as to how many views you have had. I would also move all your cock pics into a private album . | |||
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"Maybe women are put off by the bareback pic ?" 100000% I'd delete straight away with the bareback picture and the interest of 'safe sex' I also view profiles in stealth as you get a barrage of messages from looking at profiles. | |||
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"Awesome. Thanks for all the tips, you lot all seem friendly so maybe I’ll stick with it for a bit! X" Did you know folding your arms like you are on your profile pic will be seen by some as a subliminal barrier... | |||
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"If its any consulation ive not had any meets from FAB just use it to keep updated and in touch with friends ive made at events amd clubs, where ive had more success, get yourself out there try some socials, You want regret it " Totally agree with this I also view in stealth mode | |||
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"Most women view in stealth mode, most men don't. You'll never know who is looking. " Yes I was going to say this and the reason we do is because as soon as it shows we have looked that person will message (along with the other 200) I do feel for men on here , it’s not easy but take it as a compliment men check you out. Sometimes it’s not even sexual it’s just to see what the competition is or whether you take better pics When it comes to messages honestly for most girls it’s keep it friendly , polite and make sure you have a few face pics Good luck | |||
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"Maybe women are put off by the bareback pic ? I would agree wholeheartedly X They could only see that if they looked at his profile , he said no 1 was looking . " most women look in stealth mode, he could have a hundred women look and he would never know | |||
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"Hey op.i am in same boat Any advise on my profile would be appreciated good of bad X" Here's something a lady posted... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/879358 And another useful one from a single male... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538. You'd do well to read these, there's also advice on my profile for newbies and people who aren't getting meets should you wish to use it. | |||
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"Before I quit altogether, can anyone point out why I am only getting profile views from gay men when my profile is of a straight guy." That's easy. Your a hunky bearded beefcake bear in the making! What gay man wouldn't want to convert you.... You should be flattered that guys find you attractive. Infact you should really feed of that because you must be doing something right. All you need is to tweak the profile in the direction of ladies... but take the compliments.. Mistress Amelia | |||
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"My pet hate is people threatening to leave whether it be fab or Facebook in the hope people try to persuade them go stay. If you're staying just say you made a mistake and stay or if you're leaving go quietly without a fuss." I was thinking the same myself. Jog on or off lol. Read 3 different feeds with men saying they are gonna leave. Looking for drama. Dont expect that from men | |||
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"My pet hate is people threatening to leave whether it be fab or Facebook in the hope people try to persuade them go stay. If you're staying just say you made a mistake and stay or if you're leaving go quietly without a fuss. I was thinking the same myself. Jog on or off lol. Read 3 different feeds with men saying they are gonna leave. Looking for drama. Dont expect that from men" Totally agree. If you are gone leave,leave ,don’t f****g announce it | |||
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"My pet hate is people threatening to leave whether it be fab or Facebook in the hope people try to persuade them go stay. If you're staying just say you made a mistake and stay or if you're leaving go quietly without a fuss. I was thinking the same myself. Jog on or off lol. Read 3 different feeds with men saying they are gonna leave. Looking for drama. Dont expect that from men Totally agree. If you are gone leave,leave ,don’t f****g announce it" Yeah no one gives a shite | |||
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"Honestly what is going on with his site. OP has generally just put his point across m, if you dont like it then why reply? Like being back in primary school. Someone cant make a comment before a whole losd of people want to jump down his throat. I seriously question what has happened in 10 years " Leave or not leave. no need to dramatize it all over fab. Its not attractive. Ask for advise by all means but no need for the extra drama | |||
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"My pet hate is people threatening to leave whether it be fab or Facebook in the hope people try to persuade them go stay. If you're staying just say you made a mistake and stay or if you're leaving go quietly without a fuss. I was thinking the same myself. Jog on or off lol. Read 3 different feeds with men saying they are gonna leave. Looking for drama. Dont expect that from men" Why do people feel they have to tell someone how to post by or not post on fab, yet all become defensive and call other judgemental when some makes a remark about them. So many on here are two faced, not a nice trait. | |||
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"My pet hate is people threatening to leave whether it be fab or Facebook in the hope people try to persuade them go stay. If you're staying just say you made a mistake and stay or if you're leaving go quietly without a fuss." l | |||
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"I fabbed the pic that should be your profile pic.. your have eyes that could melt hearts or wet up some bedsheets. It's the best pic on your profile. The current one is closed body language which sends subconscious signals that your unapproachable where ass the one of you laying in bed is much more easy on the eyes. Profile text does state your trying to be everyone's cub of tea.. what makes you unique, I have s funny feeling your a nice guy who a lot of women would like if they only knew your quirky side.. you like to surf I'm guessing, use it. You say you have a sense of humour... Show it by making your profile hilarious. Make us smile or laugh and your half way there. Good luck " Yup, I fabbed that one too, its a lovely pic. | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments guys and gals. That’s what forums are for, intelligent people sharing opinions. Thanks for those backing me up and being positive. For those referencing the “drama” thanks for your opinions too, it’s always nice to remind myself of how close minded people can be! For any confusion, I was just venting my frustration and have made changes to my profile in accordance with those opinions that I consider valid. X " | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments guys and gals. That’s what forums are for, intelligent people sharing opinions. Thanks for those backing me up and being positive. For those referencing the “drama” thanks for your opinions too, it’s always nice to remind myself of how close minded people can be! For any confusion, I was just venting my frustration and have made changes to my profile in accordance with those opinions that I consider valid. X " Hang in there. It's a learning process and you have got ahead of the curve by getting help on the forums. Fab can be an amazing place to meet some fantastic people. I wish you the best of luck | |||
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"What's a view without a wink? It's just a view. You're no closer to a message than you were without a view. Number of views say nothing about your profile because the former precedes the latter. Many people use ninja mode because some people think just because you look at them it's as good as a wink. Fair enough. " Not really if you look at someone and don't wink surely that means you are not interested in them end off really | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments guys and gals. That’s what forums are for, intelligent people sharing opinions. Thanks for those backing me up and being positive. For those referencing the “drama” thanks for your opinions too, it’s always nice to remind myself of how close minded people can be! For any confusion, I was just venting my frustration and have made changes to my profile in accordance with those opinions that I consider valid. X " Bet your dirty laundry is all over Facebook too | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments guys and gals. That’s what forums are for, intelligent people sharing opinions. Thanks for those backing me up and being positive. For those referencing the “drama” thanks for your opinions too, it’s always nice to remind myself of how close minded people can be! For any confusion, I was just venting my frustration and have made changes to my profile in accordance with those opinions that I consider valid. X Bet your dirty laundry is all over Facebook too " And yet you make public your opinions whilst telling others to keep theirs quiet!! The guy asked for some help, if you're not going to offer any shut the f**k up and keep your opinions to yourself . | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments guys and gals. That’s what forums are for, intelligent people sharing opinions. Thanks for those backing me up and being positive. For those referencing the “drama” thanks for your opinions too, it’s always nice to remind myself of how close minded people can be! For any confusion, I was just venting my frustration and have made changes to my profile in accordance with those opinions that I consider valid. X " That's better and keep positive vibes xoxo | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments guys and gals. That’s what forums are for, intelligent people sharing opinions. Thanks for those backing me up and being positive. For those referencing the “drama” thanks for your opinions too, it’s always nice to remind myself of how close minded people can be! For any confusion, I was just venting my frustration and have made changes to my profile in accordance with those opinions that I consider valid. X Bet your dirty laundry is all over Facebook too And yet you make public your opinions whilst telling others to keep theirs quiet!! The guy asked for some help, if you're not going to offer any shut the f**k up and keep your opinions to yourself . " No its not asking for advice the forum is entitled " thinking of packing in fab" which i read by others hundreds of time. Yes it can be hard work but there no need for the attention. Maybe the thread should of been called something else. Like i said im happy to discuss this privately. You have judge me and even resulted in telling me to f off. Lovely | |||
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"Bet your dirty laundry is all over Facebook too And yet you make public your opinions whilst telling others to keep theirs quiet!! The guy asked for some help, if you're not going to offer any shut the f**k up and keep your opinions to yourself . No its not asking for advice the forum is entitled " thinking of packing in fab" which i read by others hundreds of time. Yes it can be hard work but there no need for the attention. Maybe the thread should of been called something else. Like i said im happy to discuss this privately. You have judge me and even resulted in telling me to f off. Lovely" I didn't tell you to f off , I said shut the f up! And yet you're still going?! Proving you didn't read mine properly as you didn't with the op, instead going on and on about the tittle not the content. | |||
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"But you still haven't blocked single men from messaging you..." Fab straight I guess. | |||
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"But you still haven't blocked single men from messaging you... Fab straight I guess. " He doesn't have to block men if he doesn't want to....implying he is a closet gay because of it is OTT...we don't block anyone, gay/ bi or straight, there is nothing sinister about it | |||
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"Get going to clubs and socials and get chatting to people. Women like to know they're going to be safe when meeting people online, and there is a massive pool of men to choose on fab. If you get some verifications saying you're a good guy etc then people are more inclined to want to start chatting. Good luck " Well said ^ OP there is always a way. It's about finding your path/journey on here and the good times will keep coming Try not to quit for good. Take a break if needed and come back if possible. Fab is an amazing platform to get what people join for... All the best! #FabFan | |||
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"Before I quit altogether, can anyone point out why I am only getting profile views from gay men when my profile is of a straight guy. I’ve tried approaching ladies via their profiles and keep having my messages deleted. I’m don’t think I’m that off putting! " No one knows your sexuality untill they physically open your profile. If they are not in stealth mode,they show as having viewed your profile. There are s much greater number of males than females,this more views from males | |||
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