FabSwingers.com forum: Where am I going wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time, you've only been here a week. What were you expecting when you joined?

Men massively outnumber women and couples here.

Most single guys don't get a meet until they've been here around six months or so.

Some fair better, others not so.

Patience.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi there

On a six-sentence-long profile, five sentences are a slightly defensive and baffling explanation of the fact you’re slim.

Search for profile advice and you’ll get great tips on what to put.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know "

Hi, just read your profile and it comes across as quite aggressive, ('stay in your boundaries':what does that even mean??) which some women may find a turn off. Maybe try softening it a little; read some other profiles with lots of veri to get an idea. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know how to fuck and fuck good?

Charming.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You’ve been here a week and you already have a veri. You’re doing alright!

Your profile is so defensive though...lots of women like skinny guys so I’m not sure why.

Talk about yourself instead, a bit of humour, some weird and wonderful facts. Give us a taste of your personality and what it would be like to hang out with you. I wouldn’t respond to your message as your profile stands.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there.

Apart from only being here for a week, you sound arrogant in your profile.

Like other people had said, aggressive and defensive.Not a good approach when you're trying to attract people.

It's not because you're skinny that you're not getting any luck, so drop that hang up and chill..be nice. Good luck.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/868684

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/877648

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

I think I'll step out my bubble and keep well into my own boundaries here

. Are you meant to be enticing people or scaring them away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youve mentioned your slim twice but you can fuck, does being slim stop others from fucking? Im confused

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Your profile is a real turn off. You sound like you’ve got a real chip on your shoulder. Be more friendly and less defensive. Change the wording.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

All single men have to work incredibly hard to become established on average, no matter how great they are. Refer to lots of similar posts all the time from guys here. It takes months for guys to get known.

If your profile sells you well, without seeming arrogant, giving others a good accurate feeling for you, including your physical looks, then it will back up your hard work messaging others.

There are thousands of men here and often a change to expectations is needed.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know "

Have you been on Fab before, a couple of your pics look familiar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile write up sounds arrogant and whiney.

Pics aren't great. Out of focus and extreme close ups don't make great pics.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why are you so paranoid about being slim ? I like slim men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave things just as they are, at least that way women can see exactly who they are dealing with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leave things just as they are, at least that way women can see exactly who they are dealing with! "

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know "

Dear God, I was skeletal till I was about 27, only getting actual muscle development possible after that age when a lot of my contemporaries were starting beer guts.

Did I piss and moan beforehand about being so slim built and the possibility it may affect my dalliances with the fairer sex?

No, I was far too busy filling my boots for that and in the process concentrating on what I could do for them that would appeal.

Stop whining and start being proactive with your profile and approach. There's plenty of advice kicking about on here if you look for it.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Sorry, does nothing to attract me. hung up in physique, know how to fuck good, i'd be surprised if you did, don't like the semi street talk.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know "

You seem to have a massive issue with being slim, you don't need to keep mentioning it.

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By *oppyrose97Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Leave things just as they are, at least that way women can see exactly who they are dealing with! "

This.

Don't give him advice. Leave him be who he is and let other people see that. Some will like it, some will not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know "

Think you need to look at your pics my friend. Not being rude but you look a bit scarey in some of them

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By *oppyrose97Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know

Think you need to look at your pics my friend. Not being rude but you look a bit scarey in some of them"

Lol. Say it like it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know

Think you need to look at your pics my friend. Not being rude but you look a bit scarey in some of them

Lol. Say it like it is"

No good lying. It might help him. Blunt as fuck im afraid. In a nice way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I say it like it is I usually get a timeout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if anyone's ever mentioned it to you, but I think you're just too darn slim.

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By *oppyrose97Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

"When I say it like it is I usually get a timeout

Could be fun that! Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I say it like it is I usually get a timeout

Could be fun that! Ha"

Well not when you cannot post on forums for 4 days like last time I got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting out to all you people for advice on my profile. I'm slim but what's wrong please let me know "

The stained underpants, creepy selfies and you telling us that we shouldn't like you because your slim are areas that require immediate attention. Your dick looks lovely and suckable though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't know what your missing.."

That really is a seller

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks so much what was I thinking. I'm not even like that so I scrapped and am now just me what do you think

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By *ackieSteveCouple
over a year ago

Newbridge

I like the naked picture of you wearing a beenie hat.

It's a strong look.

I'm joking. It's not for me. But maybe for some, I dunno.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here 3 years matey not met a sausage, not that I want to meet a sausage that'd be odd some kind of sentient meat product up for sex, but then I'm a big guy your skinny already you have a bonus above me.

Just mellow out a bit more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok thanks so much what was I thinking. I'm not even like that so I scrapped and am now just me what do you think "

Are you for real is what I'm thinking!

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

"I've been on here 3 years matey not met a sausage, not that I want to meet a sausage that'd be odd some kind of sentient meat product up for sex "

Hahaha!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

You need to complete your profile. It currently tells me nothing apart from you like safe sex. Women like to know about your personality, what you enjoy, what you want to give in terms of a one-off or regular fun. What type of woman you're looking for - physically, age, shape etc. Whether you want a dumb blonde or someone witty and intelligent.

PS - maybe a new profile pic. Not sure if its the lighting, but you look ill in your current one

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By *oupleforfun31Couple
over a year ago

Bradford

You could refer to the other 1000s of times this exact same topic has come up.

Fab need to pin this subject somewhere so we don't have to keep seeing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask the same

It’s impossible

I’m afraid to post pics in public and can’t verify

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at a guy twice if they don't write much about themselves,it tells me they don't put much effort... It's your selling point guys, very important!!!!

Also, undersell and over delivery is our motto. Hope this helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you please stand up?

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Can I ask the same

It’s impossible

I’m afraid to post pics in public and can’t verify

You’ve been here ten months - you could have gone to several socials in that time and got verified.

There is profile help on the website - search for it.

Why are you afraid to post pics? You don’t need to show your face clearly, but without a pic you will not get any interest.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Can I ask the same

It’s impossible

I’m afraid to post pics in public and can’t verify

3 things;

1 start your own thread, don't hijack others

2 simply search the forums for advice threads

3 you have a public pic and your face is reasonably clear, so I'm not sure what you're afraid of

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Ok thanks so much what was I thinking. I'm not even like that so I scrapped and am now just me what do you think "

It's worse than it was before. That's quite an achievement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Status is crap. Get rid of it, OP.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Boring profile.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok I have updated again so can you let me know your thoughts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I have updated again so can you let me know your thoughts x"

Much better but need check your spelling and grammer. Sorry grammer police here hahaha

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Ok I have updated again so can you let me know your thoughts x

Much better but need check your spelling and grammer. Sorry grammer police here hahaha "

You missed the you and a , (probably shouldn't have started this, but....)

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

8.5 inches. Wow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status is yuk your profile is boring and you really don’t need to be slim to fuck honestly you don’t.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"You could refer to the other 1000s of times this exact same topic has come up.

Fab need to pin this subject somewhere so we don't have to keep seeing it. "

I suggested a specific board for it once - I know there's a help board already but that's all kinds of topics but maybe a profile help board, firmly at the top so they're all kept together to read/ignore as you see fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The help page is basic really

Not much assistance tbh

Thanks for the tips folks

And apologies I will start my own thread in future

Apologies for hi jacking

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ok I have updated again so can you let me know your thoughts x

Much better but need check your spelling and grammer. Sorry grammer police here hahaha "

Grammar.

You are demoted.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

If You're Expecting people to fall on your cock you may need to think again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aarg, I hate it when people sat "push boundaries" or "fulfil fantasies"

Sex is for fun, play it by ear and take what comes to you in any situation. Most importantly have fun! X

PS. Be careful with your face showing on a nude pic, might be recognised by your mum's friend or your boss lol

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Having said that, fair play OP for not going UNLOS with that ripping you got - good luck to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to know you'll treat women with respect no matter how filthy they are?? Tf?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's nice to know you'll treat women with respect no matter how filthy they are?? Tf?"

So what is a filthy woman then, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's nice to know you'll treat women with respect no matter how filthy they are?? Tf?

So what is a filthy woman then, OP?"

According to the OP profile somebody who wouldn't normally get respect?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's nice to know you'll treat women with respect no matter how filthy they are?? Tf?

So what is a filthy woman then, OP?

According to the OP profile somebody who wouldn't normally get respect?

If respect is given, it is received.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh man I really am crap at this. It was an off the cuff joke but I understand how that scan be taken. Back to the drawing board

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP,

To be quite frank your profile appears to be some sort of rough script for a second rate porn film. It may be a swinging site, but very few women are attracted directly by the thought of sex, they prefer to have some idea about the person.

Good luck

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton

Hey OP unfortunately if you're a single guy on this site don't expect to get anything. The women on here want you to give everything but aren't willing to give even a 5 word message back no matter how articulate and presentable you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey OP unfortunately if you're a single guy on this site don't expect to get anything. The women on here want you to give everything but aren't willing to give even a 5 word message back no matter how articulate and presentable you are."

I beg to differ, there are plenty of guys here get there messages replied to, and lots more.

Ask yourself, what are they doing that you're not?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I wouldn't take this response as gospel. Make the effort and reap the rewards - just like anyone on the site. Having just used far more than 5 words to reply to a message, I can categorically assure you that it's a sweeping, incorrect, generalisation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't possibly comment ...... I'm well over 50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is wrong with slim? I'm the skeleton, and hot as hell! It isn't easy having the body of a lady and face of a king. It takes a strict diet of Greek olives and earl grey tea.

Now, If you wish to attract women, tell them the exact opposite of what you think they want to hear.

Thus, it should sound like this:-

My penis is small, though my stomach is huge, I suck at sex and I love to watch men getting naked. My hobbies include - watching television, dreaming of being on television, attempting to be on television, television shopping, reading television magazines.

This is sure to get you a meet bro. Use the force of reverse psychology bro. It works, 0.5/1000, trust me!

Good luck young padiwan!

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

The women are not the issue. Your sense of entitlement might be though. You’re simply not what some women are looking for. If you cannot deal with that then this site is not going to be good for you.

It won’t help that your only verification is from your own couples profile. We do notice stuff like that, and it won’t make you more appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It won’t help that your only verification is from your own couples profile. We do notice stuff like that, and it won’t make you more appealing. "

mic drop

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