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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having used my current profile for 12months, I don't seem to be getting any for of interest. I send people messages. But very rarely get a reply. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

?? yawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a look on my profile, links to advice there.

Good luck.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Well it might be your age

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Also maybe some more pictures to entice people if not try your local swingers club

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By *itania70Woman
over a year ago

Denton


"?? yawn"
give him a break. He’s not a regular forum user. No need to be rude. Advice was asked.

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By *itania70Woman
over a year ago

Denton

Try the fun threads in the forums to get noticed. Try char rooms. Jeep adding pics to get seen by those who like checking recent pics. And be patient. Men far outnumber women so don’t guve up. But read profiles. Comment on them when sending a message and message when online or it will get lost

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Agree with the post above. Engaging with members, chatting, flirting etc is much more effective (and enjoyable) than firing out emails. Remember these profiles are getting hundreds a day so if you want a more direct conversation the forum or chat room is the way to go.

Good luck

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP.

First thing you could do is move 500 miles south in our direction

But joking aside, some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by distance etc.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself.

Your profile reads fine, and your pics are ok. A face pic will no doubt help.

Join in on the forums and in the chatrooms, they are a great way of getting known by other site members, particular in your geographic area. Also take advantage of any organised socials in your area, if you get there you will meet plenty of people that will give you the time of day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U look cute but maybe more than 2 pics would help

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"Having used my current profile for 12months, I don't seem to be getting any for of interest. I send people messages. But very rarely get a reply. Any advice would be greatly appreciated "

You could try more photos you can have 20 plus you have 2 its a place to start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to see some really supportive replies here. Most of all I wouldn't take it personally man. So profiles are looking for really niche things,some may not be genuine. And above this it's a supply and demand issue. Women and cpls are flooded with messages making nigh on impossible to respond or want to respond. As others have said I'd try to get to a club, meet people. Interact on forums. All things that make people see the person and not just a face on a screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having used my current profile for 12months, I don't seem to be getting any for of interest. I send people messages. But very rarely get a reply. Any advice would be greatly appreciated "

Try revamping your profile making it more dynamic and interesting that might help as people do read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all the advice people. I've added a few new pics. And looking at updating my profile

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Looks far better now.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"?? yawn"

Why is that you been up late? Getting an early night might help you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might be doing this already but I'll tell you what I changed about myself that increased the "reply rate".

I took every message like a job application, and my messages as my cv. I really tailor my messages after reading the full profile of the person I want to contact. And I put some thought and effort into it. I usually send longer messages rather than one line or "hey, you ok?"

I hope this was useful, good luck man

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I tend to completely re-write my profile every 2 months because things and tastes change. So, apart from noshing on a woman's bits, what else do you have to offer?

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