FabSwingers.com forum: What is wrong with my profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am a 33 year old black British guy from London. After joining this site..I noticed I do not get alot of replies or interests as other guys I know do. I am quite shy and nervous about it all as it involves meeting a different kettle of fish .

Has any one got any pro tips to help me stand out and get replies more often

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Help me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you think you could improve?

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

No pics & a 2 line profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No profile and no pics!

There is your answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go back to forum list and then forum search and look for profile advice.

Look at other male profiles on the forums and notice the successful ones.

Don't copy others but learn from them.

Be you, importantly.

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show a cock pic

Noooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t help OP mine is deliberately meant to put people off. However you opening post has more in it than your profile and I have no idea what you look like.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Put some pics in public ,as most will delete messages from shilouettes.

Also sell yourself OP,what can you offer ,why should someone choose you?

You have to put a little effort I to stand out.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women don't like being referred to as "dang vagina"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most women don't like being referred to as "dang vagina""
yeah I was thinking that to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many schoolboy errors lack of pics minimal dull looking text i couldnt be bothered to read at least you have a preferred age range tho so not all bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you be offended if I said "everything is wrong with your profile"

That's from my viewpoint though and everyone is different. You may be perfect for someone wanting an Alfred Hitchcock shadow face who comes across as impatient and disrespectful.

Good luck

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By *uv2laffMan
over a year ago

biirmingham

Very long profile but great pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do not know. This ai t a dating site so I am lost for what to write. Mainly it would have to state what i am after but I got that already. I get the wrong folks messaging me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your success is, at least partly, proportional to the perceived effort you’ve put into your profile. Three lines, a profile doth not make. Lose “dang vagina”, get some pics in public. Also your age range is rather narrow.

Search for guys in your area. Look at their profile, see what you are competing against

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Show a cock pic

Noooooo

Init...nooooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do not know. This ai t a dating site so I am lost for what to write. Mainly it would have to state what i am after but I got that already. I get the wrong folks messaging me too"

Hows about what you have to offer other than a penis to penetrate the dang vagina?

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Am surprised nobody has suggested it be better to post for profile advice in the appropriate thread and you have all been rather helpful!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Put some pics in public ,as most will delete messages from shilouettes.

Also sell yourself OP,what can you offer ,why should someone choose you?

You have to put a little effort I to stand out.

Miss"

What op stand for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do not know. This ai t a dating site so I am lost for what to write. Mainly it would have to state what i am after but I got that already. I get the wrong folks messaging me too"

It's not a dating site but it's not dial-a-gash either.

Most people want to know a bit about the person they're meeting and also for them to take an interest beyond their vagina. Good sex comes from good chemistry and attraction.

You show no personality in your text and no pictures at all so I'm not surprised you're struggling.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Maybe have a word with the new sheriff in town and see if he has any advice?

Seriously though OP - if this were Fab 101 you'd have got an F - nothing in your profile that is enticing at all.

As Peachfuzz said go do a forum search for profile advice and follow that given there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very long profile but great pics"

You cannot see pictures

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

This may not be a dating site, but most of us want a sense of the kind of person behind the profile. And we're still people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your success is, at least partly, proportional to the perceived effort you’ve put into your profile. Three lines, a profile doth not make. Lose “dang vagina”, get some pics in public. Also your age range is rather narrow.

Search for guys in your area. Look at their profile, see what you are competing against "

Searching for women not guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe have a word with the new sheriff in town and see if he has any advice?

Seriously though OP - if this were Fab 101 you'd have got an F - nothing in your profile that is enticing at all.

As Peachfuzz said go do a forum search for profile advice and follow that given there

Sheriff???

Fab101??

Forum???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most women don't like being referred to as "dang vagina""

Okay will remove dang but can I get some tips

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Search for guys in your area. Look at their profile, see what you are competing against

Searching for women not guys"

Yes, but look at male profiles. How do they present themselves if they're successful?

You want to know how to attract women. Look at the people who attract women.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

There's nothing wrong with your profile mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do not know. This ai t a dating site so I am lost for what to write. Mainly it would have to state what i am after but I got that already. I get the wrong folks messaging me too

It's not a dating site but it's not dial-a-gash either.

Most people want to know a bit about the person they're meeting and also for them to take an interest beyond their vagina. Good sex comes from good chemistry and attraction.

You show no personality in your text and no pictures at all so I'm not surprised you're struggling. "

Will take that into consideration..thank you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I almost asked if this was a wind up. Your profile is a model for how not to do it. (there are other models too)

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Maybe have a word with the new sheriff in town and see if he has any advice?

Seriously though OP - if this were Fab 101 you'd have got an F - nothing in your profile that is enticing at all.

As Peachfuzz said go do a forum search for profile advice and follow that given there

Sheriff???

Fab101??

Forum???"

The Sheriff you mention in your profile text

Fab 101 if Fab was a course

Forum the thing you are reading/writing on right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show a cock pic

Noooooo

Init...nooooooo"

Never say "init"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Search for guys in your area. Look at their profile, see what you are competing against

Searching for women not guys

Yes, but look at male profiles. How do they present themselves if they're successful?

You want to know how to attract women. Look at the people who attract women. "
how do I fi d them.the ones who attract women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nige, just be yourself buddy and the less you mention fish when referencing women the better....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe have a word with the new sheriff in town and see if he has any advice?

Seriously though OP - if this were Fab 101 you'd have got an F - nothing in your profile that is enticing at all.

As Peachfuzz said go do a forum search for profile advice and follow that given there

Sheriff???

Fab101??

Forum???

The Sheriff you mention in your profile text

Fab 101 if Fab was a course

Forum the thing you are reading/writing on right now

What's up stand for

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Search for guys in your area. Look at their profile, see what you are competing against

Searching for women not guys

Yes, but look at male profiles. How do they present themselves if they're successful?

You want to know how to attract women. Look at the people who attract women. how do I fi d them.the ones who attract women "

Who's verified the women? Go to female profiles, click through to the profiles on their verifications. There they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Show a cock pic

Noooooo

Init...nooooooo

Never say "init""

I need to fix my language

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most women don't like being referred to as "dang vagina"

Okay will remove dang but can I get some tips"

Who are you looking for, what do you want?

Make these things obvious.

Tell us about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you need is a couple of pics. Sorted!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All you need is a couple of pics. Sorted!"

What does OP stand for

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Show a cock pic

Noooooo

Init...nooooooo

Never say "init"

I need to fix my language "

Don't change a thing! It's your profile, and your personality. Nobody can change that. And why would you want to appear something that you are not? Be true to yourself, and everyone else. And leave it alone.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"All you need is a couple of pics. Sorted!

What does OP stand for "

Original or opening poster.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"All you need is a couple of pics. Sorted!

What does OP stand for "

Original poster. In this case, you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All you need is a couple of pics. Sorted!

What does OP stand for "

Original poster, you in other words

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"All you need is a couple of pics. Sorted!

What does OP stand for "

OP = Original Poster or Original Post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have no public pics and almost non-existing profile text, in which you refer to women as 'dang vagina'. It shows you have no respect for women on here. Also, your age range is very narrow.

I'd suggest you read through this, very carefully:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

Good luck.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"You have no public pics and almost non-existing profile text, in which you refer to women as 'dang vagina'. It shows you have no respect for women on here. Also, your age range is very narrow.

I'd suggest you read through this, very carefully:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538

Good luck. "

I thought it illustrated his personality and attitude towards women perfectly. Leave it.

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By *igDickDeliveryDriverMan
over a year ago

London

I kinda feel your pain bro. Im in a similar situation.

I think my profile is ok but i'm not sure what to change on it. I get lots of views all the time but not many messages from those that have viewed me. And alot of the time, i get no replies back. Just a straight read and delete of my message. I think its a little bit courteous to at least say 'thanks but no thanks'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I kinda feel your pain bro. Im in a similar situation.

Women get way too many messages to reply to all alot of the time and some get abuse for a polite no thanks so easier to just delete. FAQ's say a delete is a no thanks bud

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Go out and mingle. This is how people become popular.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Oh... Your profile text... Really? And you are 33?!

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

What's a dang vagina ?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Your profile doesn't complement your qualities, I assume, as it doesn't say anything about you. It has to sell you to other people - which doesn't mean hype you up or brag - but would leave people feeling good about you, if you are the type of guy they are looking for.

If they got your mail they immediately view your profile and currently it will deter everyone.

You are new, so expect it to take months until people feel more assured you are reliable. You are as the back of the queue behind men who make effort to tell people about themselves and who have a track record.

Public photos are generally needed as many people search privately for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Duuude you aint helping ya self your profile needs a drastic change and by Change i mean a complete re do and also check out previous forum posts on this because and im just guessing here but women and couples must be getting sick of repeating the same advice there's a really helpful post someone put up called mr o or something check it out explains fab and the single men situation perfectly

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Is it possible to write 'black'? You sound very immature, disrespectful of women, with nothing to offer women.

I wouldn't meet as you fit the stereo type of a young guy that really has no idea of how to turn a woman on.

I would avoid you at all costs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most women don't like being referred to as "dang vagina"

Okay will remove dang but can I get some tips

Who are you looking for, what do you want?

Make these things obvious.

Tell us about yourself. "
looking for fun women

Able to have great conversation

Lasts good in the room

Does not engage in complications

Or misuse of narcotics

Like to.have safe sex ...

Etc etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it possible to write 'black'? You sound very immature, disrespectful of women, with nothing to offer women.

I wouldn't meet as you fit the stereo type of a young guy that really has no idea of how to turn a woman on.

I would avoid you at all costs."
that was not nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it possible to write 'black'? You sound very immature, disrespectful of women, with nothing to offer women.

I wouldn't meet as you fit the stereo type of a young guy that really has no idea of how to turn a woman on.

I would avoid you at all costs."
where did I write that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No profile and no pics!

There is your answer "

Shy about pictures

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No pics & a 2 line profile"

All those your puctures

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

"No profile and no pics!

There is your answer

Shy about pictures"

Single guys way out number women and as you’re not prepared to meet couples you need to make yourself stand out.

Without pictures you’ve basically got next to no chance. You need a profile picture and a couple of tasteful (not dick pics) public photos as a minimum.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Your text is better now.

You need to add public pictures of some sort. They don't have to be explicit or identifying. But a lot of women (particularly in the age range you seek) simply won't reply without public pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a tad better but not by much seriously need to work on it more do some research check out the profiles that are working and adapt to it pics too would be good personally i wouldn't mention anything about veries on the bio a profile takes time to work and perfect don't assume that everyone you take a shine too will hop into bed with u they wont treat people and yourself with respect and people will notice that fab isnt a quick bunk up then on to the next explore the site make connections either in the forums or the cam rooms and fyi get site supporters gold it helps alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a tad better but not by much seriously need to work on it more do some research check out the profiles that are working and adapt to it pics too would be good personally i wouldn't mention anything about veries on the bio a profile takes time to work and perfect don't assume that everyone you take a shine too will hop into bed with u they wont treat people and yourself with respect and people will notice that fab isnt a quick bunk up then on to the next explore the site make connections either in the forums or the cam rooms and fyi get site supporters gold it helps alot "

I know my profile isnt great but its the effort that people see and ive been working on it since i joined most guys simply throw something up then just ignore it dont do that check on it every couple days/weeks see what could go and what could be added

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

No pictures and what us the bit about 3rd person wagon wheel about? You do realise this is a swinging site?

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Have someone proofread your profile text. I can volunteer if needed.

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By *ood giving gameCouple
over a year ago

York

"I am a 33 year old black British guy from London. After joining this site..I noticed I do not get alot of replies or interests as other guys I know do. I am quite shy and nervous about it all as it involves meeting a different kettle of fish .

Has any one got any pro tips to help me stand out and get replies more often "

You've got no photos, there's spelling errors, all I read is negativity there's hardly anything about your personality, what you're into, what you are seeking or what turns you on. You don't even have a profile photo picture..

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Otherwise much better. Suggestion: instead of going on about third wheels just say clearly if you are strictly one-to-one.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Has any one got any pro tips to help me stand out and get replies more often "

Not really much content about you no photos either its very bland compared to many guys on here I would just pass you bye on here if you want the truth.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

These posts always make me wonder what thier standards are looking for meets

Surely we all know we reap what we sow right ?

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