FabSwingers.com forum: Introducing swinging to the wife

By *heshireguy45 OP Man
over a year ago

Nantwich

Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?"

Show her your profile and explain it all from the beginning

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By *heshireguy45 OP Man
over a year ago

Nantwich

Thanks for the advice ??

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Talk to her. You know her best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?

Show her your profile and explain it all from the beginning

Indeed. I'm sure she'll love the part about being honest with no mention of you being married

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By *heshireguy45 OP Man
over a year ago

Nantwich

Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit, thanks anyway

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By *m6469Couple
over a year ago

Northwich

She may like it take it slowly

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By *litstimulousMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Over a few weeks subtly ask her if she fancys him on tele, is she's ever thought about sleeping with other people etc if you get a good reaction try suggesting racier things.

I wouldn't come straight out with "let's go swinging".

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

You recently got married?? Do wtf are you doing on here?

If you can’t be honest with her before you get married then that’s shameful!!

The fact you can’t be honest on here.... shows you’re a knob!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're both adults.

Have an adult conversation about it.

If she says no, drop it and forget it.

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By *ig daddy 1969Man
over a year ago

manchester

"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?"

Show her your single profile would be a start

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You're both adults.

Have an adult conversation about it.

If she says no, drop it and forget it.

Exactly this.

Swinging well succesful swinging requires absolute openess between partners. Start as you mean to go on by talking to your new wife. Sit down, tell her you love and respect her and you'd like to discuss your fantasies. Then say what you want to say...here's the difficult bit...really listen to her response and continue the discussion from there.

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By *heshireguy45 OP Man
over a year ago

Nantwich

I was on the swinging scene a few years ago then took a break,then got married, as you can see from my profile I've not met anyone since my comeback, I'm just wondering if how introduce my wife that's all, I've never cheated on her and don't ever intend too! I want us both to have fun together

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and I know its a figure of speech but try to think of and refer to her as "my wife" rather than "the wife"

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit, thanks anyway "

That's worse

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Oh and I know its a figure of speech but try to think of and refer to her as "my wife" rather than "the wife"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have definitely mentioned it before getting married, what are you going to do if it's not her thing? Get divorced? Or carry on doing it behind her back? What scale of swinging would you want her to go into? It's not just a yes or no choice, there's lots of things to consider

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By *heshireguy45 OP Man
over a year ago

Nantwich

Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so"

I hear you.

Some of us have suggested an honest chat. How does that approach seem to you? I personally would think twice about telling her you're already here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so"

You're a grown man.

If you can't figure out how to talk to the supposed love of your life (you married her after all), then a bunch of strangers certainly won't be able to. You know her, we don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.

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By *heshireguy45 OP Man
over a year ago

Nantwich

Thanks everyone for all your help, I've now got a few good ideas on how to approach the subject, I'll keep you updated with the outcome

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so

You're a grown man.

If you can't figure out how to talk to the supposed love of your life (you married her after all), then a bunch of strangers certainly won't be able to. You know her, we don't. "

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit"

I think you do need to "tweak the profile" a bit. It still says you are looking for fun with any age, size and shape woman and also that you are looking to meet couples for "genuine bi-fun" (although you are straight)

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?"
maybe you should have asked over a year ago but someone else wants to be a mistress in forums if that helps

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"Thanks everyone for all your help, I've now got a few good ideas on how to approach the subject, I'll keep you updated with the outcome "

I'll guess

UNLOS in about a week

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"You recently got married?? Do wtf are you doing on here?

If you can’t be honest with her before you get married then that’s shameful!!

The fact you can’t be honest on here.... shows you’re a knob!"
there's always one who gets all judgemental lol give the guy a break , he's asking a reasonable question and wants advice not being slagged off !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv questioned my wife about if she was interested in planning a 3some or even meeting another couple , but she said definitely not, that was before I even started on here. , so I’m having a go on my own , not doing too well to be fair though ??

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Good luck lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not read all the replies, tell her you just found out someone you work with and their wife are swingers and you’d never have guessed if he hadnt told you.. guage her reaction n maybe use it as a conversation starter x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need to tell her you've done it in the past, and does it appeal to you. If she says no. Drop it. You never know she may broach the subject at a later if her curiosity is pricked. If not collect stamps

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

No idea of the best answer however a mutual conversation about being curious about the club scene is less scary than a full on card carrying declaration of your swinging desires.

Clubs can be fetish clubs etc it’s going to work far better for you if you establish her kinks and fantasies.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit, thanks anyway "

Congratulations OP. Have a good honest chat with her. I'm assuming she knows you are on here,so perhaps log in with her and let her browse the site with you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv questioned my wife about if she was interested in planning a 3some or even meeting another couple , but she said definitely not, that was before I even started on here. , so I’m having a go on my own , not doing too well to be fair though ?? "

How does your wife feel about you doing this?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Has she given any indication that she wants to swing or is this just what you want?

Talk ,talk and more talk

If she says no ,you have to then make a choice ,forgetting swinging and being faithful. Or carrying on being her back.....

Miss

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Also op

I would get rid of the introducing the wife bit on your profile ,till you have found out what she thinks about it all...

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By *Carver-Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"You recently got married?? Do wtf are you doing on here?

If you can’t be honest with her before you get married then that’s shameful!!

The fact you can’t be honest on here.... shows you’re a knob!"

YUP

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By *Carver-Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so"

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plentyinthetank (38)

Man in Nantwich, North West, UK

Joined: over a year ago

Last on: online now!

1 hour ago... In the Marchamley Shropshire area today if anyone fancies meeting up

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so

Username: Plentyinthetanks

plentyinthetank (38)

Man in Nantwich, North West, UK

Joined: over a year ago

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1 hour ago... In the Marchamley Shropshire area today if anyone fancies meeting up

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”Darling it’s not what it looks”

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

they don't, they go behind her back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can guarantee she will not appreciate the fact that you are looking for sex on here already prior to speaking to her!

She will think you are or have cheated and put you straight in the bin haha

Honestly dude, you need to have the chat asap!!

Has she given you any indication that she would be into it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I’d delete your single account immediately and talk to her. Hopefully she won’t go down the route of “how do you know about this website”. If she’s in, great. If she isn’t then concentrate on a marriage and not getting your rocks off secretly. As a massive side of swinging is honesty and openness, I’d say your ship has already sailed

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By *ensualpleasures69Man
over a year ago

leeds

"You recently got married?? Do wtf are you doing on here?

If you can’t be honest with her before you get married then that’s shameful!!

The fact you can’t be honest on here.... shows you’re a knob!"

As meatloaf said “you took the words right out of my mouth”!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were your wife I would be very peed off that you even started s profile without her knowledge . That's just my opinion.

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By *ensualpleasures69Man
over a year ago

leeds

"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so

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Man in Nantwich, North West, UK

Joined: over a year ago

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1 hour ago... In the Marchamley Shropshire area today if anyone fancies meeting up

”Darling it’s not what it looks”

Honest!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do it for you if you like?

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?"

Ask her to take new photos for your profile that will let her know the direction you want to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?

Ask her to take new photos for your profile that will let her know the direction you want to go. "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?

Ask her to take new photos for your profile that will let her know the direction you want to go. lol"

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is life all black and white though, shades of grey is much more fun

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

How does your wife feel about you doing this?"

She's had her own profile here for years!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Not read all the replies, tell her you just found out someone you work with and their wife are swingers and you’d never have guessed if he hadnt told you.. guage her reaction n maybe use it as a conversation starter x "

I like this.

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