FabSwingers.com forum: First contact

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

FFS if the extent of the first mail that’s sent comprises of ‘hey babe fancy it then’

You really don’t have anything about you. In the olden days when people actually had to meet instead of being super brave and saying what they want on a faceless internet site, that just wouldn’t cut it, in fact the sort of person that says that type of shite on here wouldn’t have the bottle to say it to someone face to face. If you genuinely want to meet someone then start by reading the profile and tailor a message to fit that shows your personality, if you don’t meet what the other person(s) are looking for then maybe move on and keep looking...

By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Yeah I get it a lot from single males who clearly don’t read profiles I had one last night the message was “want some fun” that was from a fab straight guy as I don’t think he can put on his profile bi. It’s so bad that people can’t read profiles before sending the first message and that’s funny coming from me.

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Or an X and several attached pictures of a penis. Sigh.

By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I have filters now on my messages so that I avoid/delete lazy messages.

I have hidden words in my profile with instructions so that I know they’ve at least skinned my profile! Also asking for a face pic and making it clear I don’t answer to “hey” messages also listed in my profile.

Women definitely have the advantage here in that we get s lot more messages from guys but honestly I think we suffer more from the quality

It’s really not hard to start a conversation in a message, they’re just lazy

By *attooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Or an X and several attached pictures of a penis. Sigh. "

Expecting that we’re impressed or something, like we haven’t already seen 50 that week

By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Its an easy first filter to reject people so why worry about it.