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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do reply to most messages. Have a look at how you write your message, if it's a copy and paste one or whether you refer to something on their profile.

Also, most people look at profiles before deciding whether or not to reply. And yours is very unappealing.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I’d change your profile photo to one more flattering...? (but still a real photo of you!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d change your profile photo to one more flattering...? (but still a real photo of you!) "

Why should he have to do that ?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, women respond to messages. At a guess I probably send 20-50 a day (most of them more casual chat so less active construction required).

For help getting more responses, make sure your profile sends the most positive version of yourself, and messages are polite and personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work on your bio more a short paragraph doesn't really say alot about what you're looking for or what your bringing to the table you aint gotta go all charles dickins with it just beef it up and add some more artistic pics nothing you do is guaranteed a meet but it shows others that you make the effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it"

Dude you obviously havnt seen my pics lol i look like i got rejected from the Beatles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha hana ur not bad mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have a look now what do you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better dude just keep working on it i treat my profile like a cv constantly update it make sure it stands out apart from that not much else u can do it took me ages to get mine to were i want it i still don't get any replies but ya gotta pick yourself up dust yourself off and carry on

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help"

Some do if they are interested many don't if they are not as its a bit pointless and leads to why not then but why not and just abuse. Take it if someone doesn't respond they are not interested right now so leave them bee for a month or so.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Better dude just keep working on it i treat my profile like a cv constantly update it make sure it stands out apart from that not much else u can do it took me ages to get mine to were i want it i still don't get any replies but ya gotta pick yourself up dust yourself off and carry on "

Yes, think about it like your CV. Presumably you'd tailor it to the kind of job you're looking for.

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

You had a good few meets OP so whatever you doing you seem to be doing it right.

Ones that do not respond are not interested for some reason so just forget about it and move on.

Not only single men that do not get a response. Happens to us all. If they not interrsted in us. we do not take it personally.

Next

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help"
with respect op you’ve had meets so you must be doing something right. There are hundreds of men who really struggle, you appear not to be one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help"

Of course they have,do you think all those guys with verifications from women are made up , including your own

Best tip I can give you,only message those whose profile you match.

Someone for everyone,not everyone for someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Most the meets i have had were from a swingers clubs where i chatted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most the meets i have had were from a swingers clubs where i chatted"

And did they message you after the club meet or just verify you n left you to it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I went to a club and got talking and said bout fab. They said we verifiy you because i was a nice pwrson to chat to we exchanges messages but nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least they remembered your profile name and verified you.

How much worse would you feel if they didn't remember you and didn't verify you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well i am a nice guy just lack the chat lol

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By *rinthiaMan
over a year ago

dundee

women reply ... do they? im not so sure thats how it works on here is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least they remembered your profile name and verified you.

How much worse would you feel if they didn't remember you and didn't verify you?"

Like alot of my meets lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hardly ever get a response, sadly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Most woman want the whole man with muscles n that jazz

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Most woman want the whole man with muscles n that jazz"

I don't think that's true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont think they want a geeky lad ha ha

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"I’d change your profile photo to one more flattering...? (but still a real photo of you!)

Why should he have to do that ?

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To possibly get a bettercresponse- though that is not guaranteed...

With the previous photo, I wouldn’t have responded... but that is shallow me, lol.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I dont think they want a geeky lad ha ha"

We're not the Borg.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You will be simulated lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’d change your profile photo to one more flattering...? (but still a real photo of you!)

Why should he have to do that ?

To possibly get a bettercresponse- though that is not guaranteed...

With the previous photo, I wouldn’t have responded... but that is shallow me, lol. "

What about now?

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"I’d change your profile photo to one more flattering...? (but still a real photo of you!)

Why should he have to do that ?

To possibly get a bettercresponse- though that is not guaranteed...

With the previous photo, I wouldn’t have responded... but that is shallow me, lol.

What about now?"

Its not the best pic you could put up the yellow dosn't do a lot for you try putting up 6 or 7 and people will tell you which ones to keep and which are not flattering you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"women reply ... do they? im not so sure thats how it works on here is it?"

Well said

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"women reply ... do they? im not so sure thats how it works on here is it?

Well said"

Women reply when they can and when you interest them.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help"

Woman on here have VERY HIGH STANDARDS, I would go to a club if I was you, the ladies can see you up close and face to face.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help"

Its simple if they respond they are usually interested if they don't they are pretty much not interested. There are exceptions but not many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help

Woman on here have VERY HIGH STANDARDS, I would go to a club if I was you, the ladies can see you up close and face to face."

Because the women at clubs don't have high standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"women reply ... do they? im not so sure thats how it works on here is it?

Well said

Women reply when they can and when you interest them. "

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By *hezGeekCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

As a fellow geek and gamer, ry not to come across like it’s a bad thing they’re your hobbies and interests - own them!

You’re doing the right thing by going to clubs and meeting in person but the advice above is fair - work on your profile. Look at other people’s and find a style that you think suits you, then write one in a similar manner but with info about you.

Personally I’m not a fan of the mirror selfie - on guys like us who don’t rock the gym bod it rarely comes out well as it is difficult to hold a phone, a decent pose, eye contact and still look flattering. Pick a sharp, smart outfit, and ideally get someone else to take the photo from an angle you think makes you look good. Look happy and project confidence - it helps a lot and as mentioned above, take a few and pop them up before asking people which ones they like or dislike.

Stick with it - you’ve got the right attitude to do well here!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People may respond, ie. people do in fact respond. It just doesn't mean that everyone responds to every message: largely they do not. Lack of response means no current interest.

The challenge is to target those people who are most likely a match for you, so that it's 2 way attraction and to have the determination to continue, in the face of what may seem like not getting enough response.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help"

Yes they do. They may not be replying to you but they reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help

Yes they do. They may not be replying to you but they reply. "

Ouch brutal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all has any one had any luck from women they have messaged i have tried to be my self but it seems it is a turn off and tips or help

Woman on here have VERY HIGH STANDARDS, I would go to a club if I was you, the ladies can see you up close and face to face."

You do realise that those so called women with high standards on fab are the ones who attend those clubs you may have just shot yourself in the foot here if they are reading this then expect a lack of interest in the clubs

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The standards are different in clubs, and most people know how to present themselves well in person. On here, I have a lot more choice and a lot more time to think. And on here, a lot of guys don't have the first clue how to make themselves look appealing (or can't be bothered).

I have played with guys in clubs where I've deleted their messages here. Because they interested me in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, in my humble opinion, i have had a few messages replied too, not all and from them them messages a couple of meets. All my veri's have come from meeting people in clubs (yes all 3 of them).

So you have verifications which is a step above many on here. I remember joining here and it felt like it took forever to get verified. So come on buddy, look at the positives...

Iridescent... we still got to arrange our meet !! Message me !!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I respond to people I want to interact with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a fellow geek and gamer, ry not to come across like it’s a bad thing they’re your hobbies and interests - own them!

You’re doing the right thing by going to clubs and meeting in person but the advice above is fair - work on your profile. Look at other people’s and find a style that you think suits you, then write one in a similar manner but with info about you.

Personally I’m not a fan of the mirror selfie - on guys like us who don’t rock the gym bod it rarely comes out well as it is difficult to hold a phone, a decent pose, eye contact and still look flattering. Pick a sharp, smart outfit, and ideally get someone else to take the photo from an angle you think makes you look good. Look happy and project confidence - it helps a lot and as mentioned above, take a few and pop them up before asking people which ones they like or dislike.

Stick with it - you’ve got the right attitude to do well here!"

Just don't ask your mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of women on here reply, make sure you read the entire profile and try to be original with your opening gambit...????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of messages like junk mail through your door you don't respond to all just if you are interested its the same on here.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Think of messages like junk mail through your door you don't respond to all just if you are interested its the same on here. "
be4st way to view things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hit and miss for me, i've been chatting with one woman for a couple months after I started talking to her about BDSM, had one woman reply to my message with a smiley face, another who I had a chat with for a short while but she wasn't interested (I do not have the 'bad boy' vibe she was after ) but other than that they've all been read/deleted.

Can't win em all I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it

Dude you obviously havnt seen my pics lol i look like i got rejected from the Beatles "

This made me giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it

Dude you obviously havnt seen my pics lol i look like i got rejected from the Beatles

This made me giggle "

Its true though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it

Dude you obviously havnt seen my pics lol i look like i got rejected from the Beatles

This made me giggle

Its true though "

At least you can grow a beard, many women into those.

My glasses make me look like a young harry potter and I sound like I stopped going through puberty at 16, don't seem to be many women that want to fuck a teenage boy that i've found so far, so i'm not sitting too pretty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it

Dude you obviously havnt seen my pics lol i look like i got rejected from the Beatles

This made me giggle

Its true though

At least you can grow a beard, many women into those.

My glasses make me look like a young harry potter and I sound like I stopped going through puberty at 16, don't seem to be many women that want to fuck a teenage boy that i've found so far, so i'm not sitting too pretty "
trust me just because i have a luscious beard it aint helping me in anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it

Dude you obviously havnt seen my pics lol i look like i got rejected from the Beatles

This made me giggle

Its true though

At least you can grow a beard, many women into those.

My glasses make me look like a young harry potter and I sound like I stopped going through puberty at 16, don't seem to be many women that want to fuck a teenage boy that i've found so far, so i'm not sitting too pretty trust me just because i have a luscious beard it aint helping me in anyway "

If you grow it long enough, you could hide a condom inside. I'm sure it would be a great party trick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all i am the least photogenic person lol but i appricate it

Dude you obviously havnt seen my pics lol i look like i got rejected from the Beatles

This made me giggle

Its true though

At least you can grow a beard, many women into those.

My glasses make me look like a young harry potter and I sound like I stopped going through puberty at 16, don't seem to be many women that want to fuck a teenage boy that i've found so far, so i'm not sitting too pretty trust me just because i have a luscious beard it aint helping me in anyway

If you grow it long enough, you could hide a condom inside. I'm sure it would be a great party trick "

Never thought about doing that hmmm

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