FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for a first timer...

By *iscoball15 OP Woman
over a year ago

london

So I’m very new to Fab and have never done this before (though fantasised for a long time!) and am about to have my first meet with a couple ( I’m female)

I’m incredibly nervous and just wondered if any one had any good advice to clam my nerves... what to expect etc...?

Thanks in advance!

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By *obdoesitMan
over a year ago

Heswall

Keep an open mind. But make sure you set the rules. Good luck. X

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By *obdoesitMan
over a year ago

Heswall

Keep an open mind. But make sure you set the rules. Good luck. X

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would suggest meeting for a social in a public place such as a bar or coffee shop before you have a play meet. It gives everyone the opportunity to see if there is any attraction before deciding to go any further. It's also sensible from a safety perspective.

When you do arrange to meet make sure you have discussed your boundaries and don't do anything that you're not entirely comfortable with (the same will go for those you are meeting too).

It's ok to change your mind and stop play. Those you are meeting may be a bit disappointed but most people would be understanding.

Make sure you've told the people you're meeting if you're nervous, they should try to put you at ease. We were all newbies once so we know how it feels.

Don't rush into anything and go at your own pace. Enjoy!!!!

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By *iscoball15 OP Woman
over a year ago

london

Thank you both!

Any ideas on how not to be so nervous?

And will

It be fun?!

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Yorkie just about covers it.

And don't worry about being nervous. I still get butterflies in my tummy when having meets, even with my regular Fab friends.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Meet in a public place and ensure you discuss things with both parties. Communicate and maintain boundaries.

Stop anything at any time and feel right that it's ok to walk away.

Record where you are going and protect your safety.

Relax and have a lot of fun.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Thank you both!

Any ideas on how not to be so nervous?

And will

It be fun?!"

Everyone's nervous. Very normal.

Also, keep your wits about you. Dutch courage maybe, but keep it minimal. Both for yourself, and because stuff is more likely to go wrong if people aren't all there with drink or drugs.

No guarantees as to if it'll be fun, but I've loved almost every meet I've had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all

I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.

I have been single nearly a year and would like to live out my fantasies before I decide to find someone. I've noticed not many girls chat on here, I'm polite and don't get nasty, so was wondering am I doing it All wrong ??

Would be really grateful for tips and advice.

Thank you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hi all

I have signed up on this site a couple of months now.

Would be really grateful for tips and advice.

Thank you"

Best thing to do is a) start your own thread, and b) look through the forum for the hundreds of threads asking the same question.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Good breathing helps to relax your body and mind. Slow deeper breaths.

Don't be rushed as quicker pace is more stressful and increases adrenaline.

The cut off point between nervousness and excitement is only a matter of personal description. It's natural and healthy to feel this way.

Do something silly alone, to make yourself laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I do, is never promise anything other than a social, drink chat. Always takes some of the pressure of you and if you decide you don’t like them you aren’t letting anyone down. I like to meet in clubs then I’m not worried about my safety so that’s more nerves gone, I have a couple of drinks but stay sober and take your own protection then there’s no awkward moment of them saying they haven’t got any. If you meet at a new club and arrange to meet at five, get there at four so you can familiarise yourself and chat to the staff. You’ll never get away from all the nerves but they are part of the excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos always help try putting some up in public and see if it makes a difference.

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