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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey, we are quite new to the swinging scene and are struggling with what to put in our profile.

We have also sent lots of messages but had almost nothing back. We always read people’s profile and try to customize messages but never really know what to say.

Or is it that I am not that attractive to people I know K is.

Any help or advice would be great.

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

Saying finding time to meet is a pain would put lots off...flexibility time wise is more appealing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Saying finding time to meet is a pain would put lots off...flexibility time wise is more appealing "

Thanks we’ll change that.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Saying finding time to meet is a pain would put lots off...flexibility time wise is more appealing

Thanks we’ll change that. "
Two weeks in Fab is no time at all. Saying in your profile single men need not apply is irrelevant if you filter them out. Also with a couple the person(s) your contacting have to find you both attractive enough to want to play with as it were . Good luck in your searches

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple
over a year ago

Reading

You actually don't really say anything about what you want sexually on your profile which may not help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Saying finding time to meet is a pain would put lots off...flexibility time wise is more appealing "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You actually don't really say anything about what you want sexually on your profile which may not help."

Okay, we’ll see what we can do there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you need to not entirely rule out single guys but put when and if you want one you will seek one out lol xbit on a serious note finding g so.eone who finds you both attractive and vice versa is going to be your main challenge x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Photos are great, more about what you're looking for. But I'd suggest getting to a club, you'd attract some attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing I can see wrong in my eyes is you say you are not looking for a one night stand, with having experience on here a lot of times a couple with meet but may not want another meet again if it goes well then they may meet again, but your photos look good, you want to be a guy on here if you think it’s hard for couples, but I wish you both all the best and hope you get a meet soon . John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs. Don't rely on this site. We have been here for years and never had a meet. But we have a couple of people we see that are not here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone has already said OP, two weeks is no time at all. Give yourselves time to get used to the site. I’m sure you’ll have both discussed what you want to get out of meeting others and what your boundaries are so maybe add a bit about what you both enjoy and what you’d like to experience with others.

Adjust your profile over time.

The forums are a great way to get to know people.

Your pictures are great btw!

Good luck x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Go to clubs. Don't rely on this site. We have been here for years and never had a meet. But we have a couple of people we see that are not here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cannot accommodate is often a Red Flag to some people.

It can come across like your a fuck buddy couple etc.

Also suggest that you would meet in a hotel etc if that is something you would both be interested in.

The profile is how you sell yourselves to others, if you don't market yourselves properly most people will stroll on by.

M & J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It says on your preferences that you're looking for single women and female-female couples only.

Your demographic outnumbers them about 4 or 5 to 1, so they'll pick and choose whom they see as the cream of the crop of course as they're able to. More single ladies are also looking for single guys than couples tbf which limits you further. And you're also unverified for now too, so your options are cut right down sadly.

Patience is the aim here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The cannot accommodate is often a Red Flag to some people.

It can come across like your a fuck buddy couple etc.

Also suggest that you would meet in a hotel etc if that is something you would both be interested in.

The profile is how you sell yourselves to others, if you don't market yourselves properly most people will stroll on by.

M & J"

Good idea on the hotel thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of folk do not want to start friendships when it comes to swinging and one night stand is what they are looking for..if a friendship carries on naturally then great...you need to have a broader outlook when it comes to swinging. The hardest meets to arrange are couples looking for ladies to join them.

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By *zzy69Woman
over a year ago

The Lake District

Agree with the above

Basically you are looking for a unicorn- or even a pair of unicorns .

Club is one option

An organised group social another

Would you consider even a social with a couple with a bi female ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have also sent lots of messages but had almost nothing back. We always read people’s profile and try to customize messages but never really know what to say.

Having the same problem, wondering if I should give up. I know I'm not the best looking fella but I thought at least someone would chat to me lol x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Move the "not looking for single men" to the end of the profile. Not good to start with a negative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all for the tips. We have made a few changes but will keep working on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all for the tips. We have made a few changes but will keep working on it. "

Short and sweet, it's great!

I love the look of both you

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You say you want to try new things and want to try more things. Maybe give some examples ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have also sent lots of messages but had almost nothing back. We always read people’s profile and try to customize messages but never really know what to say.

Having the same problem, wondering if I should give up. I know I'm not the best looking fella but I thought at least someone would chat to me lol x"

We have sent, wonder if I should give it up says a lot. male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brack, well spotted either that or a Freudian slip.

M & J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brack, well spotted either that or a Freudian slip.

M & J"

I've slipped on a few Freudians in my time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put more about your sexual likes or if you’re too shy maybe display this in a photo, I find a lot of our messages are opened up about one of our photos... get to a club, even if it’s just for a social and to talk to people, sure way to get verified

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

Head up to Eureka for a Saturday night! That will allow you to meet new couples and find your feet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to face the reality that a couple looking to play with a female only, is near on impossible to implement on fab, you’ve got to get out to clubs, socials etc, you’ve got no chance on here.

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

Sussex social in Brighton this weekend.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Sussex social in Brighton this weekend."

The hosts are wonderful, and there's always a great crowd.

You're only 20miles away

Drop them a message & go meet people face to face xx

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