FabSwingers.com forum: Confused - got blocked after few minutes of meeting arranged

By *lphaBravo1 OP Man
over a year ago

London

Hi,

I would really appreciate if anyone advice...

I got blocked within minutes of arranging a meet with a woman.

Don’t know why ? After confirming date, time & venue of the meet, I just asked her mobile number so we can communicate easily and reassured it will be confidential. Next thing, I am blocked. I am totally baffled....

Don’t know who did it ( definitely not me). Could it be site admin or the woman herself ?

Why should she block me ? We just agreed to meet ?

Is there anyway I can ask the woman/ admin why ? Could it be a mistake?

HELP....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

She could be a he who likes the idea of meeting but doesn't want to go through with it. Probably looking for wank fodder.

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By *lphaBravo1 OP Man
over a year ago

London

Thanks ... but profile was year old, had pictures of her ( she also sent some by messages), 3 verifications seemed very genuine....

Did I pressed wrong button by asking phone number ? Is it what ladies normally do ?

Is there anyway my query can be sent to site admin or the woman in question ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow , unfortunately there is nothing that can be done by admin.....

You are going to have to take this as a hard lesson...

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"Thanks ... but profile was year old, had pictures of her ( she also sent some by messages), 3 verifications seemed very genuine....

Did I pressed wrong button by asking phone number ? Is it what ladies normally do ?

Is there anyway my query can be sent to site admin or the woman in question ?

Wouldn't bother mate. Has happened to me too. The lady in question was quite direct and persistent.

Everything set up and I get blocked.

Some people get their kicks out of stuff like that. Chalk it down to experience and move on.

Lots of decent women here.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

That’s horrible for you. Very disappointing. Hopefully someone much nicer will come along. X

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Welcome to the joys of fab happens all too often...

Wouldn't beat yourself up over it nor blame yourself for asking her mobile number just one of those things that happens quite often on fab.

You start chatting to someone build a rapport between each other, decide to arrange a meet and poof they block you or the profile disappears

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By *orny andy yorkMan
over a year ago

york

Happens all the time . Some people like the idea of a meet until it gets real

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sometimes it happens. She got spooked, she wasn't a she, she didn't intend to meet, who knows. Nothing can be done I'm afraid.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The problem with giving someone your phone number is you come up as a suggested friend on their Facebook and they can see you real name. She probably didn't want her privacy invaded.

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Even if they have verifies pics they can still be false xx We found that out with one guy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to worry about it, strange things happen on Fab. If you attempt to make sense of everything you’d go mad!

Don’t let it put you off either, there are some lovely people around, but you have to dig about a bit to find the gems x

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Better than showing up and being stood up/being left with the hotel bill...

Hope someone new comes along soon

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps she had last minute change of mind

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By *ardvarkMan
over a year ago

argyll

Set up a second profile... and message her directly

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

He probably came right at the moment of finalising the meeting and lost interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There could have been a lot of reasons for it, including the person you were talking to was not who they were saying they were.

Do NOT set up another profile and message her, that would be very stalker- like. People have the right to change their minds.

Regarding phone number- I almost never give away my phone number, but do use Kik. Just to communicate, not to swap hundreds of pics or videos.

I have to admit, I blocked someone very shortly after arranging a social with them. As we moved on to chatting on Kik, and the communication went weird, in my opinion. So I followed my instinct and cancelled the meet, as well as blocked the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Set up a second profile... and message her directly

The beginnings of the stalkers manifesto (joke btw)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Set up a second profile... and message her directly

I wouldn't advise that. Using another profile to get round a block can result in being suspended from the site.

Op, sometimes it spooks a woman if you ask for their number. Its disappointing for you though.

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By *lphaBravo1 OP Man
over a year ago

London

Thank you everyone..I am relatively new here and I have to learn to deal with such incidents.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

The Internet is full of unpleasant people who get thier thrills from upsetting others.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Try not to dwell on it.

If she doesn't have many verifications maybe she got a little spooked as the reality of the meet set in.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

It happens on here there are some people like that .they spoil it for genuine people that do meet and give site a bad name for new members. People that been on for ages know the score just move on there is a lot of genuine nice people on here too

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Hi,

I would really appreciate if anyone advice...

I got blocked within minutes of arranging a meet with a woman.

Don’t know who did it ( definitely not me). Could it be site admin or the woman herself ?

Why should she block me ? We just agreed to meet ?

Is there anyway I can ask the woman/ admin why ? Could it be a mistake?

HELP....

"
. On my phone I have frequently visited websites and Fabs is one of them it’s quite handy to use the messaging service on Fabs to arrange a meeting and keep in contact if you are running late or can’t make it so I don’t think you need to give out a phone number until after you have first met and a mutual decision is made in exchanging phone numbers.That could be a reason as to why she blocked although just a politely let’s wait until we meet before deciding to exchange phone numbers would be better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens to us all. Single men get a bad name but realistically everyone is capable of being an inconsiderate arse. Move on; use the time to watch a film or give a mate you haven’t spoken to a call instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had guys give us the big I am saying how good they are with women spoke on here for ages about what we could get up to on our first meet. Arrange date and time then they don’t show or even bother to say why they couldn’t. It’s life there are time wasters and always will be

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

My money is on it being a bloke or someone playing mind games.

I had very similar when I first came on the site. A "woman" who was very persistent in wanting to meet and then when I agreed to a social I found I was blocked as I travelled to the meet.

Some eejits out there.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

By starting a thread you've probably given the bloke the attention he wants.

Water under the bridge now so just move on or it will eat away at you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People may and do change their minds at any point in the whole process and it's not worth spending any energy thinking about it. There are reasonable justifications and there may be scams etc but they have done you a favour by making it clear that it's not going any further. You can then pursue all the other people that it's wise to be simultaneously communicating with. Never limit yourself to just one contact

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By *arren the doggerMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Welcome to the time wasting world of fab!!

Meets arranged easy enough but only a few actually follow through .

Waste of time .

Better off in a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her husband found her account.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I never give my number out. Nothing to hide, just don't like the idea of potential stalking or needy messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also don't give out my number, however I have to say if the person you were talking was genuine then they would have said "no I don't give my number out"

Move on, plenty of delicious women on this site

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

The person will have been a single male..... they get blamed for everything that goes wrong on the site!!!!

Forget it, move on, ignore, do not take it personally, nowt queerer than folk. It will make your next meet all the sweeter!!

Chin up.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I never give my number out, certainly not until I've met the person and decided if I want to meet them again. This is my 'private' private life I don't want it including into my other life work or personal.

I wouldn't know if the Woman who blocked you felt the same but it's a possibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op she got cold feet or felt pressured

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I also don't give out my number, however I have to say if the person you were talking was genuine then they would have said "no I don't give my number out"... "

You'd have thought so, even if you don't want to give it out it is not an offensive question. But people can be oddly prickly on here.

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By *eliciousKisserMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Text messaging itself can sometimes be interpreted incorrectly. Where the recipient reads it the wrong way, takes offence and hits the block button. Leaving you no opportunity to explain what you meant. That’s the downside of relying on just the written word. You have to be very careful with what you write and read it back a couple of times before hitting the send button. We’ve all made stupid (innocent) errors and that is sometimes all it takes to put someone off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can be baffling and hurtful on here but the gems make it worthwhile.

It makes no sense and it is cowardly, low behaviour but you just have to forget it.

The worst is when people drive long distances/book hotels.

It would be open to abuse, but there must be some way that these people can be held to account . A review by admin of messages sent and a ban issued to the worst little shits?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry this has happened to you. If it is any consolation, women get messed around as well. It's happened to me, you just have to move on and hope that the next one is genuine.

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By *eliciousKisserMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

On the other hand, she might have taken another look at the large bulge in your underwear and thought it might have been too big to accommodate. Was she a petite lady perchance?!

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