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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What’s the one thing that captures the eye of women ?

The subject ?

Or the message ?

Thoughts?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

We're individuals, unfortunately. So it'll be different for all of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal opinion is a mix of 3 things for me.

That the title is eye-catching. That the message contains something good to read in. Maybe something funny or mention something in the females bio that you like

And 3rd the profile of the sender is interesting as alot of us check a bio before opening a message

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Personally the subject means little unless it's horribly off-putting. Profile picture matters (less drawn to disembodied genitals). What shows up in message preview. Then profile, then message (including attachments if applicable).

But that's just the order in which I eliminate the not suitable, not an order of importance.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username. "

Aha okay that’s cool ! Will take on board ! X

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username.

Aha okay that’s cool ! Will take on board ! X"

Your username is fine BTW.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... But every woman is different. Her profile will probably give you an idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username.

Aha okay that’s cool ! Will take on board ! X

Your username is fine BTW."

Wicked great thanks !! Been on here like 6 weeks now still getting the hang of it I’m more like better in person haha I hate txting on a phone !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username. "

Me too lol.

If I get "great tits" delete

Meet now.. delete

Try to put a bit of effort into a message and personalise it to the person your messaging.

Copy and paste messages get deleted by me too.

They are easy to spot.lol

Good luck OP

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You're the most beautiful woman on Fab/ in the world" is popping up a lot at the moment. I wasn't born yesterday, and the insincerity reeks like milk left in the sun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username. "

I’ve finally got a username I’m quite happy with. It’s taken about 10 attempts, but I think it’s pretty inoffensive.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username.

I’ve finally got a username I’m quite happy with. It’s taken about 10 attempts, but I think it’s pretty inoffensive. "

To me most usernames are fine. I'm not super bothered. But some are juvenile, self congratulatory, violent, hateful, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s the one thing that captures the eye of women ?

The subject ?

Or the message ?

Thoughts? "

Sometimes I’ve found my carefully crafted messages have been the ones straight to get deleted yet times when I’ve just made a bit of a compliment and picked something out of their profile (if there is nythingbto go off) have had the best effect. No more than a few lines to be fair.

Oh, and no cock shots with the message. Just face pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I find .. most of the time is I can get a reply .. then I reply then I hear nothing back too lol! Like not even a read of the message ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username.

I’ve finally got a username I’m quite happy with. It’s taken about 10 attempts, but I think it’s pretty inoffensive.

To me most usernames are fine. I'm not super bothered. But some are juvenile, self congratulatory, violent, hateful, etc. "

Yeah, I wonder how some guys manage with some of the vulgar names they give themselves.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What I find .. most of the time is I can get a reply .. then I reply then I hear nothing back too lol! Like not even a read of the message .. "

If you get a reply more often than not, you're doing better than most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I find .. most of the time is I can get a reply .. then I reply then I hear nothing back too lol! Like not even a read of the message .. "

This can happen due to the sheer volume of messages some single females get. It can be 100’s a day, so yours might just get lost in the dross and is chaps have got some real competition. I’d love to know what the ratio of men to women and couples looking to meet men is. Must easily be 40:1

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Ooh and username. Sometimes I'll delete just based on an awful username.

I’ve finally got a username I’m quite happy with. It’s taken about 10 attempts, but I think it’s pretty inoffensive.

To me most usernames are fine. I'm not super bothered. But some are juvenile, self congratulatory, violent, hateful, etc.

Yeah, I wonder how some guys manage with some of the vulgar names they give themselves. "

God only knows. My guess is that they don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I find .. most of the time is I can get a reply .. then I reply then I hear nothing back too lol! Like not even a read of the message ..

This can happen due to the sheer volume of messages some single females get. It can be 100’s a day, so yours might just get lost in the dross and is chaps have got some real competition. I’d love to know what the ratio of men to women and couples looking to meet men is. Must easily be 40:1"

That’s a brilliant question lol!! Very true though b

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What I find .. most of the time is I can get a reply .. then I reply then I hear nothing back too lol! Like not even a read of the message ..

This can happen due to the sheer volume of messages some single females get. It can be 100’s a day, so yours might just get lost in the dross and is chaps have got some real competition. I’d love to know what the ratio of men to women and couples looking to meet men is. Must easily be 40:1

That’s a brilliant question lol!! Very true though b "

I get between 30 and 150 messages on an average day. (rarely lower than 30, has been over 300). And I'm not one of the popular ones, and my filters are high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same as inaswigdress.

The volume.of messages is unreal and many are just not even worth opening

Now 1 message quoted something on my profile that was quite comical and a fabulous friendship has been made from that 1st message.

So far as names go I agree. Anything vulgar or heavy is an instant put off.

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