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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys been on here before and now again and don’t seen to be getting the feedback that you would expect, don’t know if it’s my settings or what or possibly I’m missing something? Any help would be appreciated look forward to your advice/help

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

What were your expectations when you joined?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My expectations where fairly high but not sex on a whim! Don’t know if I’m knocking the correct doors with my profile etc! Or if my settings are off? Think I may need some stearing in the right way lol

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

You have no interests ticked. Your profile is a bit bland and unimaginative. You can't accommodate, which alondlg with the word discretion will make many assume you are in a relationship.

It is really tough here for single men. You need to show you are worth the time and effort by putting the time and effort in.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Hi guys been on here before and now again and don’t seen to be getting the feedback that you would expect"

A quick search show that there has only been three FF cpl's online in the last month within 50 miles of your location.

Also only 62 female profiles have been online looking for men within 20 miles of your location in the past week.

There have been over 300 single male profiles within 20 miles of your location, looking for women, and that have been online in the last 5 hours!

So given the odds that are so clearly stacked against you maybe now you can see why your profile needs to stand out.

Try listing some interests, your profile syas you have none.

Add a face pic, or at least a couple more pics.

Expand your text to say a little more about you, inject some humour maybe?

Say what you offer, because at the moment you only say what you want.

You may want to elaborate why you can't accommodate. Many people will be put off for that one simple reason.

Why did you leave the site before? Did you learn anything then that might help you?

Bear in mind that most people will not be interested in meeting with unverified noobs, so have you got involved with the chatroom, been to clubs or socials? There is more to swinging than just this site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wasn’t to sure how the interest work, as in the respect of anal does that mean I’m into giving or receiving I’m looking Discreet as I’m lol about keeping the private life private!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"I wasn’t to sure how the interest work, as in the respect of anal does that mean I’m into giving or receiving "

It just gives people an idea what you are looking for, you can discuss the details with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the response! In my 9-5 im a business owner and in turn can’t have any Tom dick or harry venturing round! I’m trying to discreet so face pics aren’t really possible, don’t mind sending them to someone in chatting with! Yes it seems like an absolute sausage fest so you think it’s all about what can set me apart from the rest?

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Thanks for the response! In my 9-5 im a business owner and in turn can’t have any Tom dick or harry venturing round! I’m trying to discreet so face pics aren’t really possible, don’t mind sending them to someone in chatting with! Yes it seems like an absolute sausage fest so you think it’s all about what can set me apart from the rest? "

Yes, of course it's all about what sets you apart from the rest. Ask yourself seriously, why should someone choose you?

However, don't bend over backwards to fit other peoples expectations, just manage your own. Be yourself, show the best of you to others and be involved with things. With a bit of luck something will happen.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Many thanks for all your input very much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your both public pics are the same, or almost the same (spot the difference, anyone?). You don't have to have face pic on show here, but there are some imaginative, tasty shots that can be used. Have a look at other male profiles for suggestions.

Profile text- I didn't really read, to be honest.

If you can, get yourself to an organised social or a club in your area, get yourself known, get your personality to shine through.

General advice though- don't expect women to just fall at your feet. The male to female ratio on here is not in your favour. Also, you have only been on site for 3 weeks, that's like a second in Fab world.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the input! Tbh I’m new to all this inline carry on and a bit weary of who may be knocking about as you hear all sorts is it based more in the profile or the pics? As they are the first thing that shows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the input! Tbh I’m new to all this inline carry on and a bit weary of who may be knocking about as you hear all sorts is it based more in the profile or the pics? As they are the first thing that shows?"

Most people would look at pics first, before reading the profile. Don't expect to receive messages first, as a single male all the leg work is down to you, unfortunately. Try and think about what you have to offer to your potential meet, how you stand out from thousands of other men that are on here. Your profile is your shop window, you want it to be as appealing as possible. I can't tell you what to write there, as it has to be your own effort.

Also, another thing- try getting involved in forums? You seem like quite an intelligent person, so forums might work in your favour. That's how I met my 'weekend husband', I liked his profile and how he was presenting himself on the forum, messaged him and now we are spending most weekends together, after overcoming some quite serious difficulties from my side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes what you have said sounds quite accuarate, there is obviously more to this than just scrolling through profiles?

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

Your text and pictures are quite bland and don't make you stand out at all. I think my advice and feedback with regards to your profile is probably just going to be a repeat of what others have said, so I won't go into any detail.

One thing that might help you, would be to search for successful guys on here - particularly guys who look fairly average, but have a good few varies from women. Look at their profiles and try to identify the things that make them stand out, and see if you can apply any of those things to your own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tinkered with profile about there, tell me that you’d all think

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

The changes are obvious to those that saw it before, and it reads better.

Always ensure it is a true reflection of you, and what you are looking for. People will turn you down based solely on the first impression they get from your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In the respect of if you were viewing it for the first time does it seem dead on? Obviously you can’t cater for everyone but as long as it comes across genuine and fun I’m happy enough

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"In the respect of if you were viewing it for the first time does it seem dead on? Obviously you can’t cater for everyone but as long as it comes across genuine and fun I’m happy enough "

Get rid of the first line why repeat yourself we already know you age.

It is better, it's ok, it doesn't do it for me but like you say you cant cater for everyone nor should you want to.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Me to suggestions always welcome

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"Me to suggestions always welcome "

You've made an effort and it shows

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"Me to suggestions always welcome

You've made an effort and it shows

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Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

James you in the same boat? What tips you horse?

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"James you in the same boat? What tips you horse?"

What ? Lost me

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"James you in the same boat? What tips you horse?"

His not in the same boat lol have you read his?

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"James you in the same boat? What tips you horse?

His not in the same boat lol have you read his? "

Oh right now I’m up to speed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

think I’m on the right page now

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

You need to switch on the "Pussy Magnet" setting and apply the wanking filter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Big lad not worth a f**k! Had my fill

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

What with all these lovely ladies here looking for men and seem to have skimmed by myself. I’m thinking of getting a yellow hv jacket and see if it helps

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"Hi guys been on here before and now again and don’t seen to be getting the feedback that you would expect, don’t know if it’s my settings or what or possibly I’m missing something? Any help would be appreciated look forward to your advice/help "

how about colour photos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response! In my 9-5 im a business owner and in turn can’t have any Tom dick or harry venturing round! I’m trying to discreet so face pics aren’t really possible, don’t mind sending them to someone in chatting with! Yes it seems like an absolute sausage fest so you think it’s all about what can set me apart from the rest?

Good advice!

Yes, of course it's all about what sets you apart from the rest. Ask yourself seriously, why should someone choose you?

However, don't bend over backwards to fit other peoples expectations, just manage your own. Be yourself, show the best of you to others and be involved with things. With a bit of luck something will happen.

Good luck "

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