FabSwingers.com forum: Oh it's hard work.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please be honest what do I need to do to make my profile more attractive to people?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Having some visible public pictures wouldn't hurt - people will want to know what you look like before considering meeting you. After all it's not blind date!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Please keep any comments to this forum thread rather than private messages.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry my error.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile text is a little clichéd, “I don’t bite” for example.

Expand on the “fun things” you’d like to try.

Ditch the line about being told to jog on - no one will do that they just press delete.

A bit of spacing / paragraphs would help too.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please be honest what do I need to do to make my profile more attractive to people?"

Your circumstances will deter most from talking to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I totally understand my circumstances are not at all ideal. But I do prefer to be honest about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I totally understand my circumstances are not at all ideal. But I do prefer to be honest about them. "

Honesty is best

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Changes made. Thank you for your help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think so. Well I hope so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Changes made. Thank you for your help. "

A few more public photos as well.

And if you use the Reply & Quote it’s easier to follow the chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately more photos. Fair play for posting your face up

Not the worst profile by a long shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a bad profile all in all but as they others have said add more photos.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Changes made. Thank you for your help.

A few more public photos as well.

And if you use the Reply & Quote it’s easier to follow the chat.

I will do that from now on. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definately more photos. Fair play for posting your face up

Not the worst profile by a long shot."

Thank you.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP. At present the only picture you have available is your profile pic. Fair play, it's a smiling face pic, but as it's not viewable then that would put us off meeting you if you had approached us. Make that pic, and a few more, viewable and that will surely help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello OP. At present the only picture you have available is your profile pic. Fair play, it's a smiling face pic, but as it's not viewable then that would put us off meeting you if you had approached us. Make that pic, and a few more, viewable and that will surely help."

Thank you. I will work on some more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please keep any comments to this forum thread rather than private messages.

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Did he go for it babe

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Socials and clubs. If your profile truly reflects you then leave it. There's advice on mine, should you wish to use it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for everyone's help. Changes made and fingers crossed.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Your header says "to honest" and profile text "wife doesn't know I'm on here"........doesn't back up any form of honesty does it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please be honest what do I need to do to make my profile more attractive to people?"

You do OP

Treat a profile like a shop window, the more exciting on offer the more they will want to come in.,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your header says "to honest" and profile text "wife doesn't know I'm on here"........doesn't back up any form of honesty does it."

Honest as in one area not in all possibly. Like a lot of others on here if you think about it - like real age versus fab age, upto date photos versus 5 years ago when I was a size 10.... If you read on though she does know he meets for casual sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your header says "to honest" and profile text "wife doesn't know I'm on here"........doesn't back up any form of honesty does it.

It's her choice not to know how or where I meet ladies.

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over a year ago

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A good range of public photos, so people have a chance to know whether there is any possible attraction.

Your first paragraph has lots of words but no details - it's similar to having no photos, as there's nothing to get purchase from.

I suggest some minor changes. Get more specific, perhaps saying more in less words. Eg, just state you're having sex with partners permission. And you're reliable.

Perhaps including some info on the areas you're interested in and would travel to, plus the times you could meet. Some specific sexual interest details may help.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Can I suggest that your partner seeks help. There’s no need for a woman to suffer. I’ve had operations that could have potentially limited my sex life. There are thousands of woman in similar circumstances.

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

Firstly, you have one publicly visible photo and it's not particularly flattering. Post a few pics, with variation and some creativity, and make sure they present you in the best possible way.

As for the text:

"I am a guy who believes a lady deserves to be treated with respect and passion . I am genuine and will always tell the truth and will not mess you around."

This is literally the least you can do. I'm sure you have more than this to offer. Sell yourself.

"She dosn't know I come on here but does know I meet for sex and fun."

This whole part might confuse some people. I think I understand what you mean - your partner is ok with you meeting other women for sex, but doesn't want to know the details etc. I would suggest it's best to simplify this by saying something like "I'm married, but have permission to meet others". You can always explain in further detail if asked.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Get off the sofa!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"She dosn't know I come on here but does know I meet for sex and fun."

This is a bit confusing. Perhaps just say you have permission?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""She dosn't know I come on here but does know I meet for sex and fun."

This is a bit confusing. Perhaps just say you have permission? "

In honesty how many married guy's on here actually have permission to play alone? I do and just wanted to give some details as I why.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

""She dosn't know I come on here but does know I meet for sex and fun."

This is a bit confusing. Perhaps just say you have permission?

In honesty how many married guy's on here actually have permission to play alone? I do and just wanted to give some details as I why. "

Be prepared some will wish to have a chat with your wife. Anyone can say they have permission to play......

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By *couseandproud81Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm finding the Same problems myself . I have some conversations with some of the lady's local n some afar but no joy on an actual meet . Is it my profile my pics love some advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please be honest what do I need to do to make my profile more attractive to people?

You do OP

Treat a profile like a shop window, the more exciting on offer the more they will want to come in.,"

Exactly what I was told so worked on it for abit and well im getting alot more attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice i can give which was also said to me along with the shop window reference above is to treat your profile like your cv constantly update it work on it more detail on what your looking for and what you offer id get rid of the wife not knowing about fab bit and just try to sound upbeat dont just write it one time and not bother updating it till you've had enough add more to get more hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HARD WORK !!! The site is totally hard work and brimming over with messers and armchair wankers .. fab need to start charging for the use of this site then it will keep the weirdos from joining up every few days .... they wont and it's only going to get worse . 8 yrs ago we could come on here and chat to decent folk ... Haha not no more .

RIP FAB

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"HARD WORK !!! The site is totally hard work and brimming over with messers and armchair wankers .. fab need to start charging for the use of this site then it will keep the weirdos from joining up every few days .... they wont and it's only going to get worse . 8 yrs ago we could come on here and chat to decent folk ... Haha not no more .

RIP FAB "
No one is forced to stay here if they aren't happy. The OP asked for advice.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Try putting a couple of pics on, they don't have to be face pics. There's advice on my profile should you wish to use it. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bern on n off here for roughly 10 yrs . We Been stood up 18 times , booked n paid for 6 hotels n no show .. one 25 yr old female turned out to be a 50 yr old guy with a big chin oms dont tell me to look for advice on your account!!! What you going to tell me that I dont already know that it's full of armchair wankers , dole dosing cunt n old weird cunts .. ??? Waiting

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Bern on n off here for roughly 10 yrs . We Been stood up 18 times , booked n paid for 6 hotels n no show .. one 25 yr old female turned out to be a 50 yr old guy with a big chin oms dont tell me to look for advice on your account!!! What you going to tell me that I dont already know that it's full of armchair wankers , dole dosing cunt n old weird cunts .. ??? Waiting "

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