FabSwingers.com forum: Hey, profile once over? :p

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey, anyone mind giving my profile a quick once over especially for spelling, as phones spell check refuses to work on fab for some reason

I've been on in the past but it was quite a long time ago, meant to do this when I joined up but I've been in Germany last month or so.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think you mean compatible people, and necessarily.

Other than that, capital letters for names. It's pretty good, and you've got some great pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you mean compatible people, and necessarily.

Other than that, capital letters for names. It's pretty good, and you've got some great pictures. "

Haha yes the compatible typo really altered the meaning of thst sentence cheera lol

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

Great profile and for once I loved looking at the pics xx lovely body sure you will get plenty of interest xx

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

“...in your first message,” should be spelled, “after a few messages, if you’re comfortable.”

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great profile and for once I loved looking at the pics xx lovely body sure you will get plenty of interest xx"

Awww thank you :p

My problem with pics is usualy the ones where I look good the background is terrible, and where the background looks good I look terrible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"“...in your first message,” should be spelled, “after a few messages, if you’re comfortable.”"

But why would I spend a few messages getting them "comfortable" to then have to super awkwardly go "so yeah it's been fun talking but I don't find your face attractive really hope this doesn't make you feel like shit...."

Or block them or ghost them etc.

That just seems a bad plan.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"“...in your first message,” should be spelled, “after a few messages, if you’re comfortable.”

Or block them or ghost them etc.

That just seems a bad plan."

Some people won't send face pictures immediately, myself included. You'll lose some of your audience. But it's up to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"“...in your first message,” should be spelled, “after a few messages, if you’re comfortable.”

Or block them or ghost them etc.

That just seems a bad plan.

Some people won't send face pictures immediately, myself included. You'll lose some of your audience. But it's up to you. "

Yeah I understand that but I'm not really going for the scatter gun approach of trying it on with everybody.

I'm looking for people who find me attractive, and who I find attractive.

Then from that already quite limited group we'll both be looking for the people we have compatible personalities.

Face makes up a large part of attraction for me, so it's more likley that somones face is going to be the deciding factor than thier body.

I've done it that way in the past.

I've been chatting to somone who has then decided I'm the type off person they are physically (as my face and body is public view) and mentally attracted to and so they're now comfortable sharing thier face pic and I have to say "oh sorry not my type"?

It's wasting both parties time and making somone feel bad as there's no way out there where they don't know it's because of thier face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes sense to us

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I get that. But you're talking quite a narrow pool already, and you're narrowing it further by not allowing the other person some space to feel comfortable with you first.

I regularly take guys out of the running because they demand a face picture before I've established that I'm a little comfortable with them. It's a deal breaker for me.

I'm not saying you can't or that your reasons are anything other than sensible (I agree except for the fact that I value my initial anonymity over it). But it'll limit you.

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

I cant see anything wrong with your profile at all...

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"But why would I spend a few messages getting them "comfortable" to then have to super awkwardly go "so yeah it's been fun talking but I don't find your face attractive really hope this doesn't make you feel like shit...."

Or block them or ghost them etc.

That just seems a bad plan."

Rejection is par for the course on this site. There’s a way to do it nicely. What you’re not realising is that sending a face picture to someone you’ve had no interaction with is not that dissimilar to just having it on your profile. Most people aren’t comfortable with that.

Of course, you’re a good looking chap, in good shape, so it may well be that you’ll be inundated with so many messages that you have to dictate such rules, to make it manageable.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I suggest removing your final sentence about spell check not working on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“...in your first message,” should be spelled, “after a few messages, if you’re comfortable.”

Or block them or ghost them etc.

That just seems a bad plan."

So unless they have a face pic showing you will not send a first message to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a set of demands then your next sentence is I’m a laid back guy...

Block single guys if you don’t want them to message you

Just because you have face pics on here doesn’t mean that you dictate when people should send theirs....let them feel comfortable. If you are laid back and easy going, it’ll be soon enough anyway.

Crop should be your best friend...toilet roll in your first pic

and look what’s in the background...a messy scene behind, shows laziness.

You’re a good looking guy so if you are laid back and easy going then you’ll do fine.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, anyone mind giving my profile a quick once over especially for spelling, as phones spell check refuses to work on fab for some reason

I've been on in the past but it was quite a long time ago, meant to do this when I joined up but I've been in Germany last month or so.

I'd prefer to give you the once over!

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

First up face pics are a huge gamble. Not a great idea. After a mail or 2 yep.

Other than that the male queue just got longer!

I am sure you will get the action you need.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"“...in your first message,” should be spelled, “after a few messages, if you’re comfortable.”

Or block them or ghost them etc.

That just seems a bad plan.

So unless they have a face pic showing you will not send a first message to them?"

Generally yeah.

I might wink but I probbaly won't message without seeing a face

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"First up face pics are a huge gamble. Not a great idea. After a mail or 2 yep.

Other than that the male queue just got longer!

I am sure you will get the action you need."

I dont see the "huge gamble aspect unless your public pics are wuite graphic.

As otherwise every human interaction you have that may need to sex is usually done where you immediately see each other's face

Unless you manage to get a date out of a cold call from a call center :p

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