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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We have read multiple posts about how this site doesn’t work. Well, for us it has. We joined this February and, after reading the posts here, got our photo verification uploaded. We followed up with a visit to a local club where we didn’t play with anyone but, picked up verifications from the owners and some folks with whom we chatted. Further, we noticed that we didn’t enjoy genitalia close ups and extreme action shots, so we posted a good amount of pictures designed to try and show off our personalities (understand that is our personal preference).

All that done, we have fairly full weekends now which we can say is all due to the fab website. It is possible (for couples at least)! Don’t give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for both of you!

Its good to read a success story amidst all the doom and gloom on here

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks! A little positivity doesn’t hurt

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's worked well for me. Very well when you consider I met My Girl on here. But even if I'd not met her Id still be on here. Fab has been great. Had some filthy times, pushed myself (especially social comfort zones in clubs as a single), discovered stuff about my self and made some friends. It has opened my eyes to the lifestyle and given me access to all the activities and fun I'd never know about without it. It has been a very positive thing for me.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've had fantastic times and made some great friends. It has its problems for sure, but it's definitely a net positive in my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only been on 6 weeks...2 meets

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By *handraWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Fantastic to see such positivity.

Fab has widened my life and I've made some brilliant friends.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I enjoy my time on fab. I rarely meet new people off fab now as I have a lovely circle of friends after 3 years. I meet new friends through them. X

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

We love this site as well. Joined at the age of 28... and that's rapidly approaching 10 years ago!!

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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

I agree. Fabswingers and Fabguys are two terrific contact websites and I am grateful for all of the wonderful and horny people I have met and have experienced pleasures with.

Ivan and Izaac.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Fab has worked for us two as well, we’ve been rather busy you could say.. great site with some great people on here.. may the happiness and enjoyment continue x

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

I never understand why people are so negative.

We have a great time, we love the social side, and have made lifelong friends from here. The site provides all the tools and opportunities you need to out the dreamers and fantasists, if you put the work in you will reap the rewards.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I'm very happy with the site, and can be as busy as I want to be. At the moment I limit my meets to two every month, and that suits me best. Patience and perseverance pays off.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Fab has treated me well..it's a tool that if used with other skills folk might posses will help them meet others

Those that blame factors such as the site for their perceived lack of success, would likely be better looking closer to home for the reasons why.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

To be honest there is some effort required to build a good profile and thoughtfully communicate with people you have carefully researched (full read of profile and verifications) to check basic compatibility. But, like most things in life, you get off due to what you put in

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

I sway between liking it, tolerating it and being down on it. It has its good points but there's some easy steps der management could do that would improve the site for its users.

I think different people have different experiences here but there is a lot of truth in putting in to get what you want out.

Just my 2 pence worth of course

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I agree. Fabswingers and Fabguys are two terrific contact websites and I am grateful for all of the wonderful and horny people I have met and have experienced pleasures with.

Ivan and Izaac.

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I was on something called FabFlirts, does anyone else remember this? And is it still available?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks! A little positivity doesn’t hurt "

Brilliant

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Fab works well if you put time into it and don't expect the earth. Alas some people do expect the earth and it handed to them on the plate.

So good for you OP nice to see its working for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The moaning is a guy thing! when I joined I didn't read anything saying this is how it works. I haven't been verified by anyone or had a meet but it works for me to. I love the forums even of its to have a read, I've had some great convos as well and if one day I get a meet then great if not then oh well.

Any way have a Fab day

(my two pence worth)

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Great attitude! Good to see a single bloke happy with the site.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Another Single Male here for whom the site works very well indeed

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Works ok for me...not found a soulmate yet though ... although not really looking for that but if it happens then great.... I like the forums and having a laugh with the people here... I find one only gets out what one puts in really....I just take it for what it is... I've also found people can be very supportive on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have read multiple posts about how this site doesn’t work. Well, for us it has. We joined this February and, after reading the posts here, got our photo verification uploaded. We followed up with a visit to a local club where we didn’t play with anyone but, picked up verifications from the owners and some folks with whom we chatted. Further, we noticed that we didn’t enjoy genitalia close ups and extreme action shots, so we posted a good amount of pictures designed to try and show off our personalities (understand that is our personal preference).

All that done, we have fairly full weekends now which we can say is all due to the fab website. It is possible (for couples at least)! Don’t give up. "
Good for you guys it's nice to see positive threads here and I for one hope you enjoy always and as soon as you don't get out with no regrets just sexy memories

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

It is refreshing to see a positive post.

We also have nothing but positive experiances here and works for us as well.

Have met many weird and wonderful people that would not bump into on the street and hoping it will continue.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

As with most things it is what you make off it. Ive been on here for years dont seem to have any issues and have met a lot of good friends through it.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Just had a stunning evening with a super hot couple we met on Fab. We get on in every way and are already plotting our next adventure! Thanks Jay Dee’s for providing the play space!

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By *raigsexy91Man
over a year ago

Durham

Its just going to be generally harder for guys to find someone on here so it is likely they will be complaining. Though the women have to put up with the guys on here two lol

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

True ‘dat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wowzer!!

This is a feel good thread.

Nice one OP. The following from your profile made me smile:

"Check our verifications - we rock!"

#yourock

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Thanks gent! We have really enjoyed the fab site so far and have had very very few negatives. Happy hunting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree. Fabswingers and Fabguys are two terrific contact websites and I am grateful for all of the wonderful and horny people I have met and have experienced pleasures with.

Ivan and Izaac.

I was on something called FabFlirts, does anyone else remember this? And is it still available? "

I was on a good site called flirtomatic or flirto. That site was a success for me. Apparently it flirtomatic doesn't exist anymore. I wondered whether FAB took it over?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have read multiple posts about how this site doesn’t work. Well, for us it has. We joined this February and, after reading the posts here, got our photo verification uploaded. We followed up with a visit to a local club where we didn’t play with anyone but, picked up verifications from the owners and some folks with whom we chatted. Further, we noticed that we didn’t enjoy genitalia close ups and extreme action shots, so we posted a good amount of pictures designed to try and show off our personalities (understand that is our personal preference).

All that done, we have fairly full weekends now which we can say is all due to the fab website. It is possible (for couples at least)! Don’t give up. "

Lovely to hear some positivity

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

So, to keep a little life in this thread, what has worked for you guys on this site? I’ve found “chumming” a few new pictures on a Thursday tends to draw a lot of interest.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"To be honest there is some effort required to build a good profile and thoughtfully communicate with people you have carefully researched (full read of profile and verifications) to check basic compatibility. But, like most things in life, you get off due to what you put in "

Exactly how we started and still do it this way. We have met some awesome people along our journey in this lifestyle

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By *xbridge_funMan
over a year ago

Uxbridge

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Do you have any tips on streamlining the research process?

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Do you have any tips on streamlining the research process? "

Don't know about streamlining but what we do is, if we read a profile that catches our eye and we match we drop them onto our hot list. If we see a status that we or them are going to be in the same place, ie club, we'll drop them a message. This approach has worked several times but I must say our hot list is vast and some never put up a status. That's why we always have a status of what our next adventure will be. We also then see status's from people on fab we are interested in. Very rarely look at the local updates, just friends and hotlist. It can be a bit of a drag though when you have had someone hot listed for a while and you see the opportunity to message and they either ignore you or turn out to be time wasting. All the fun of the circus though

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By *uffintwoCouple
over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

Good post, good positive and informative profile. Enough said.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"So, to keep a little life in this thread, what has worked for you guys on this site? I’ve found “chumming” a few new pictures on a Thursday tends to draw a lot of interest. "

Definitely reading profiles and sending (a lot) of messages which aren’t one liners. Not having dick pics also helps.

So does getting into silly arguments on the forums.

Good to hear a success story and that you guys are enjoying the site .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have read multiple posts about how this site doesn’t work. Well, for us it has. We joined this February and, after reading the posts here, got our photo verification uploaded. We followed up with a visit to a local club where we didn’t play with anyone but, picked up verifications from the owners and some folks with whom we chatted. Further, we noticed that we didn’t enjoy genitalia close ups and extreme action shots, so we posted a good amount of pictures designed to try and show off our personalities (understand that is our personal preference).

All that done, we have fairly full weekends now which we can say is all due to the fab website. It is possible (for couples at least)! Don’t give up. "

I congratulate you for enjoying fab how you choose to.

However, it is meagre pickings for gents on here.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Very interesting approach. We have a large friends list and a tiny hot list

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Completely agree on needing to read the profiles completely. Unless they are ridiculously verbose like us

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Yeah, demographics and psychology are against you single guys. I admire the effort you guys throw into swimming up the waterfall of fab!

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By *oss25Man
over a year ago

Flitwick and Fakenham

I love being on Fab: met some amazing people, pushed boundaries and love the feedback I get (and meets!) from my erotica.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, demographics and psychology are against you single guys. I admire the effort you guys throw into swimming up the waterfall of fab! "

The few that do meet make it all worthwhile!

Although it is a bit like entering a round the world boat race... Some are armed with an aircraft carrier, some are attempting it on a lilo

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By *hyevernotMan
over a year ago

Here and there

This site has really worked for me too. I've met some absolutely glorious people and had a great time. Just don't take it too seriously!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys.

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By *hyevernotMan
over a year ago

Here and there

Search and message. It's very rare that anyone messages me. I'm very used to rejection on here but there's no point getting arsey about it. Whining won't make anyone want to meet you. I'm just happy for the jewels that have got through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works well for me as a single male.

And for when playing as a couple with my wife even better. We like to go to clubs and when we do arrange to meet people at the club.

Glad your finding it works. I think it’s down to what you make it and how you approach the scene. Have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys."

Search, wait, hope, message, maybe a coffee. Got to send a lot of messgaes though.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys."

When you are answering a certain poster click the +quote then we'll know which poster you are asking the question to

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"To be honest there is some effort required to build a good profile and thoughtfully communicate with people you have carefully researched (full read of profile and verifications) to check basic compatibility. But, like most things in life, you get off due to what you put in "

Absolutely agree.

I joined last year and its worked for me since day one.

A positive, open-minded attitude pays dividends.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We find this site extremely useful.

We were told about it at the first party we attended, joined up and now we're busy whenever we want to be - it's great, don't know what we'd do without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy with the site, I think I joined around 4 years ago, it's helped me experience a lot of things on an extensive list and meet some incredibly good people, I'm not on here all day every day, I dip in and out, I find it ok and have no intention of going anywhere else right now

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys.

When you are answering a certain poster click the +quote then we'll know which poster you are asking the question to"

Ha! Learn something every day!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We find this site extremely useful.

We were told about it at the first party we attended, joined up and now we're busy whenever we want to be - it's great, don't know what we'd do without it."

It sure does work! We still need to see you joust

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"It's worked well for me. Very well when you consider I met My Girl on here. But even if I'd not met her Id still be on here. Fab has been great. Had some filthy times, pushed myself (especially social comfort zones in clubs as a single), discovered stuff about my self and made some friends. It has opened my eyes to the lifestyle and given me access to all the activities and fun I'd never know about without it. It has been a very positive thing for me. "

Well done for getting lucky.

My experience is very similar to yours.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys."

They contact me!

No that's not arrogance, it's just a case of my posts and threads being interesting enough to spark an interest.

The ones I have contacted myself, have not resulted in any meet ups; but plenty of messages, laughs and lessons in how FAB works.

Check my veris. Woohoo! someone likes me! A lot!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys.

They contact me!

No that's not arrogance, it's just a case of my posts and threads being interesting enough to spark an interest.

The ones I have contacted myself, have not resulted in any meet ups; but plenty of messages, laughs and lessons in how FAB works.

Check my veris. Woohoo! someone likes me! A lot!

"

Excellent! We’ve been about 50/50 on who contacts first.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

So far this site works for me. Think it depends on how you use it, what you put into it and your approach. Different strokes for different folks but it gets a thumbs up from me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far this site works for me. Think it depends on how you use it, what you put into it and your approach. Different strokes for different folks but it gets a thumbs up from me x"
Can I stroke and thumb

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"So far this site works for me. Think it depends on how you use it, what you put into it and your approach. Different strokes for different folks but it gets a thumbs up from me x"

If we may what exactly is your method on here that is so successful? How do you get the playmates you want?

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green


"How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys.

They contact me!

No that's not arrogance, it's just a case of my posts and threads being interesting enough to spark an interest.

The ones I have contacted myself, have not resulted in any meet ups; but plenty of messages, laughs and lessons in how FAB works.

Check my veris. Woohoo! someone likes me! A lot!

"

Fair play to you mate.

You have a great profile and you’re clearly getting a lot of fun out of the site. Not easy to do as a single guy!

Inspiration to stick around for the long game .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works for us too. Been on this site for 12/13 years now.

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London

It pretty much worked for me as well, albeit in combination with some selected club visits to help add fuel to the fire as it were. That said I started before this site got really busy a few years ago. Things have changed, and people seem more demanding of superficial things than they once did - but hey - when things change you've got to roll with it, and generally speaking Fabs continues to deliver in proportion to what you choose to put into it.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Worked a treat for me too. Love it, it's bloody fantastic.

Being a recluse and painfully shy, I never wanted to meet women anyway. I'd die of fright.

I simply love sending messages and imagining I might hear back. Of course being socially inept any kind of social interaction is the last thing I want. So win win.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Works for us too. Been on this site for 12/13 years now."

Impressive!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"It pretty much worked for me as well, albeit in combination with some selected club visits to help add fuel to the fire as it were. That said I started before this site got really busy a few years ago. Things have changed, and people seem more demanding of superficial things than they once did - but hey - when things change you've got to roll with it, and generally speaking Fabs continues to deliver in proportion to what you choose to put into it."

That’s really interesting. As relative newbies to the site we haven’t seen any changes in flavor. However, have seen several folks mention that the site has changed over the last few years.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Worked a treat for me too. Love it, it's bloody fantastic.

Being a recluse and painfully shy, I never wanted to meet women anyway. I'd die of fright.

I simply love sending messages and imagining I might hear back. Of course being socially inept any kind of social interaction is the last thing I want. So win win.

"

Oops we replied to your post! I hope that doesn’t ruin your streak

Happy hunting alpha wolf!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We noted a couple of folks have posted that club visits help their overall experience. We like Jay Dee’s as a good local for meets and to just get away from the kids

What clubs have been most helpful for you and why?

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


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Oops we replied to your post! I hope that doesn’t ruin your streak

Happy hunting alpha wolf!"

Aw,bless you. I may need councelling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done alright too ... But happy to embrace much more

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"How did you find your playmates? Search and message, they message you, random club meet? Just wondering what works best for you single guys.

When you are answering a certain poster click the +quote then we'll know which poster you are asking the question to

Ha! Learn something every day!"

Also click the little green arrow next to posters user name and it reveals everything that poster has posted to. We do this when we come across someone being negative towards us. It's amazing what it reveals some times. Always good to help fellow fabsters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the best site going. End of.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"We noted a couple of folks have posted that club visits help their overall experience. We like Jay Dee’s as a good local for meets and to just get away from the kids

What clubs have been most helpful for you and why?"

We have met lots of great people in clubs and for us this is the forward. We are very much social butterflies with a very naughty streak. Clubs serve up both for us. A great night out with like minded people and if we click with anyone makes a night even more interesting. We do tend to keep in touch with most we meet in clubs. We tend to arrange more meets in clubs too. As for which clubs have been more helpful, as with all clubs, never 2 nights the same. We like to mix it up a bit and visit different clubs so wouldn't say we have a regular club we go to, saying that Attic in Derby is our favourite for lots of different reasons

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So far this site works for me. Think it depends on how you use it, what you put into it and your approach. Different strokes for different folks but it gets a thumbs up from me x

If we may what exactly is your method on here that is so successful? How do you get the playmates you want?"

I like to chat first, build up a connection. It's not always successful and I've had a few no shows but think that's par for the course anyway. But, I also go to clubs too x

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We noted a couple of folks have posted that club visits help their overall experience. We like Jay Dee’s as a good local for meets and to just get away from the kids

What clubs have been most helpful for you and why?

We have met lots of great people in clubs and for us this is the forward. We are very much social butterflies with a very naughty streak. Clubs serve up both for us. A great night out with like minded people and if we click with anyone makes a night even more interesting. We do tend to keep in touch with most we meet in clubs. We tend to arrange more meets in clubs too. As for which clubs have been more helpful, as with all clubs, never 2 nights the same. We like to mix it up a bit and visit different clubs so wouldn't say we have a regular club we go to, saying that Attic in Derby is our favourite for lots of different reasons "

Great advise! We got all our initial verifications by attending Jay Dee’s where the owners verified us. That opened all the doors on this site. That and picture verification!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"So far this site works for me. Think it depends on how you use it, what you put into it and your approach. Different strokes for different folks but it gets a thumbs up from me x

If we may what exactly is your method on here that is so successful? How do you get the playmates you want?

I like to chat first, build up a connection. It's not always successful and I've had a few no shows but think that's par for the course anyway. But, I also go to clubs too x"

We like a no pressure social prior to a meet to check if things click. If we may ask, what clubs do you recommend?

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So far this site works for me. Think it depends on how you use it, what you put into it and your approach. Different strokes for different folks but it gets a thumbs up from me x

If we may what exactly is your method on here that is so successful? How do you get the playmates you want?

I like to chat first, build up a connection. It's not always successful and I've had a few no shows but think that's par for the course anyway. But, I also go to clubs too x

We like a no pressure social prior to a meet to check if things click. If we may ask, what clubs do you recommend?"

I haven't been to many. I go to townhouse regular, that's my club of choice. Well run, clean, plus with going there a bit now I know a few people that go also, so even if I go and don't play there's always lots of nice people to chat too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met some great people on here!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I have met some great people on here!"

How did you meet them? Did the get in touch first and suggest a meet? What do you think made your profile work so well? (Besides the hot picture)

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"We noted a couple of folks have posted that club visits help their overall experience. We like Jay Dee’s as a good local for meets and to just get away from the kids

What clubs have been most helpful for you and why?

We have met lots of great people in clubs and for us this is the forward. We are very much social butterflies with a very naughty streak. Clubs serve up both for us. A great night out with like minded people and if we click with anyone makes a night even more interesting. We do tend to keep in touch with most we meet in clubs. We tend to arrange more meets in clubs too. As for which clubs have been more helpful, as with all clubs, never 2 nights the same. We like to mix it up a bit and visit different clubs so wouldn't say we have a regular club we go to, saying that Attic in Derby is our favourite for lots of different reasons

Great advise! We got all our initial verifications by attending Jay Dee’s where the owners verified us. That opened all the doors on this site. That and picture verification!"

Jaydees is on our to do list in the new year

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Great site we are having a ball (or two)

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We noted a couple of folks have posted that club visits help their overall experience. We like Jay Dee’s as a good local for meets and to just get away from the kids

What clubs have been most helpful for you and why?

We have met lots of great people in clubs and for us this is the forward. We are very much social butterflies with a very naughty streak. Clubs serve up both for us. A great night out with like minded people and if we click with anyone makes a night even more interesting. We do tend to keep in touch with most we meet in clubs. We tend to arrange more meets in clubs too. As for which clubs have been more helpful, as with all clubs, never 2 nights the same. We like to mix it up a bit and visit different clubs so wouldn't say we have a regular club we go to, saying that Attic in Derby is our favourite for lots of different reasons

Great advise! We got all our initial verifications by attending Jay Dee’s where the owners verified us. That opened all the doors on this site. That and picture verification!

Jaydees is on our to do list in the new year "

Excellent! Let us know when you are going and we will say hello.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"We noted a couple of folks have posted that club visits help their overall experience. We like Jay Dee’s as a good local for meets and to just get away from the kids

What clubs have been most helpful for you and why?

We have met lots of great people in clubs and for us this is the forward. We are very much social butterflies with a very naughty streak. Clubs serve up both for us. A great night out with like minded people and if we click with anyone makes a night even more interesting. We do tend to keep in touch with most we meet in clubs. We tend to arrange more meets in clubs too. As for which clubs have been more helpful, as with all clubs, never 2 nights the same. We like to mix it up a bit and visit different clubs so wouldn't say we have a regular club we go to, saying that Attic in Derby is our favourite for lots of different reasons

Great advise! We got all our initial verifications by attending Jay Dee’s where the owners verified us. That opened all the doors on this site. That and picture verification!

Jaydees is on our to do list in the new year

Excellent! Let us know when you are going and we will say hello."

We certainly will

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"I've done alright too ... But happy to embrace much more "

Um....but you're a woman with arms legs and a head. You dont even need your arm and legs to pull. Then if your head was in a bag theyd still be clamouring to meet you.

Besides, 173 public pics and some very edible indeed, popularity will never leave you

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Yeah, demographics and psychology are against you single guys. I admire the effort you guys throw into swimming up the waterfall of fab! "

Ive always said its just mother nature doing her thing. No different to counless other species.

Im sure other creatures would be swiping left/ right if they had opposable thumbs,.. .... .smartphones. ...access to the internet etc

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Yeah, demographics and psychology are against you single guys. I admire the effort you guys throw into swimming up the waterfall of fab!

Ive always said its just mother nature doing her thing. No different to counless other species.

Im sure other creatures would be swiping left/ right if they had opposable thumbs,.. .... .smartphones. ...access to the internet etc"

Brilliant

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said to the OP - Fab's is what you make it and it either works or not, we all have choices and if your not liking the site - log off - and …...off

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont."

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also never had a problem with this site and it does exactly what we want it to, when we need it.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Also never had a problem with this site and it does exactly what we want it to, when we need it. "

What a lovely young couple you are! Glad your experience has been good on here.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Hey everyone on this awesome positive thread we will be at Jay Dee’s tomorrow and VA on Saturday! Come say hello!

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over a year ago


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with? "

In my opinion , just keep it simple -

"thanks for the interest, but we think your dick is to small and your man boobs to big, plus the one eye you have keeps winking and is off putting"

That might do the trick lol heheee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or

"Hi sexy, lets meet right away , we can have masses of sex, you can fuck till you drop and enjoy yourself on us ok"

with an immediate follow up message saying

"ops sorry sent last message to wrong person - sorry not interested "

You gotta laugh don't you

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with? "

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"or

"Hi sexy, lets meet right away , we can have masses of sex, you can fuck till you drop and enjoy yourself on us ok"

with an immediate follow up message saying

"ops sorry sent last message to wrong person - sorry not interested "

You gotta laugh don't you "

Ha!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion"

Great advice! Will try some of it out today at Jay Dee’s

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion"

Totally agree with this. We have been rejected and done the rejecting, in a polite manner of course. It can be hard to find 4 way attraction and we will just usually say something like 'thanks for the offer but you're not really what we are looking for' or words to that affect.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion

Totally agree with this. We have been rejected and done the rejecting, in a polite manner of course. It can be hard to find 4 way attraction and we will just usually say something like 'thanks for the offer but you're not really what we are looking for' or words to that affect."

I’ve heard it’s best not to give a reason for rejection.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion

Totally agree with this. We have been rejected and done the rejecting, in a polite manner of course. It can be hard to find 4 way attraction and we will just usually say something like 'thanks for the offer but you're not really what we are looking for' or words to that affect."

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By *ackDanielsWhiteRabbitMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion

Totally agree with this. We have been rejected and done the rejecting, in a polite manner of course. It can be hard to find 4 way attraction and we will just usually say something like 'thanks for the offer but you're not really what we are looking for' or words to that affect.

I’ve heard it’s best not to give a reason for rejection. "

Well sometimes you need to when they ask.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion

Totally agree with this. We have been rejected and done the rejecting, in a polite manner of course. It can be hard to find 4 way attraction and we will just usually say something like 'thanks for the offer but you're not really what we are looking for' or words to that affect.

I’ve heard it’s best not to give a reason for rejection. "

We don't usually give a reason. We have had the situation when someone has asked why. Its then time to be very diplomatic. Not the norm though when in clubs. If we have to give a reason we will say we are just wanting to play on our own and be watched at that moment, just in case they see us playing with others later in the night. We always try to stay polite

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Well it works well for me and us as a couple. I/we dont meet that often but enjoy going to socials and have made some great friends, some we play with some we dont.

Completely concur. How do you handle letting down those you don’t choose to play with?

We always meet with no expectations. We have made some great friends threw fab. Some we play with some we don't. Think everyone in this lifestyle knows that not everyone is for everyone. We love meeting lovely genuine people and if we all click happy days, if we don't we are not worried about rejection or rejecting others. Communication amongst all is paramount and all can soon tell where or where not things are heading. Having a drink and flirtatious behaviour may start or keeping distance all good body language. We do find it a bit more difficult if we find it hard to read the body language and learnt just to ask and if rejected its not a problem. Asking in clubs is something we struggled with at first but now we find its better to ask early on in any conversation as that's why we are all there so better to know rather than find out later in a message folk we have met had wished we played.

Rejection in this lifestyle is all part and parcel so should never take it personal in our opinion

Totally agree with this. We have been rejected and done the rejecting, in a polite manner of course. It can be hard to find 4 way attraction and we will just usually say something like 'thanks for the offer but you're not really what we are looking for' or words to that affect.

I’ve heard it’s best not to give a reason for rejection.

We don't usually give a reason. We have had the situation when someone has asked why. Its then time to be very diplomatic. Not the norm though when in clubs. If we have to give a reason we will say we are just wanting to play on our own and be watched at that moment, just in case they see us playing with others later in the night. We always try to stay polite "

Absolutely agree! Being polite costs nothing.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Had an interesting tip tonight from some seasoned friends of ours. They use the club review function on fab to link up with people they noticed at a club with whom they were unable to chat.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Well met our old friends (first swing) last night at Jay Dee’s and also met some of you from this thread. Awesome night!

Now tonight we are meeting some newbies at VA. Fab works... very well

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Well met our old friends (first swing) last night at Jay Dee’s and also met some of you from this thread. Awesome night!

Now tonight we are meeting some newbies at VA. Fab works... very well "

You two sound like you are both having a blast. No play for us this weekend. Next weekend is a different story. Blackpool with Fab friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations pleased it has been successful for you

As others have said certainly not easy for solo males

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Well met our old friends (first swing) last night at Jay Dee’s and also met some of you from this thread. Awesome night!

Now tonight we are meeting some newbies at VA. Fab works... very well

You two sound like you are both having a blast. No play for us this weekend. Next weekend is a different story. Blackpool with Fab friends "

Fun fun fun hope you guys have a great trip!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Once I have made my mind up if I like it here, I could decide to stay!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Once I have made my mind up if I like it here, I could decide to stay! "

Happy hunting!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We noted a couple of folks have posted that club visits help their overall experience. We like Jay Dee’s as a good local for meets and to just get away from the kids

What clubs have been most helpful for you and why?"

Jaydees works for me too!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Are there any socials in Peterborough, that are single guy friendly?

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Are there any socials in Peterborough, that are single guy friendly?"

There is one called the Crowland social that we’ve seen advertised.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on.

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over a year ago


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on."

Love it guys! We would love to get to know you more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one (except it seems more like for hundreds on this thread!) am having a marvellous time on Fab and haven't many complaints at all?

Yeah, there's the odd niggle with the site here and there, but I've met plenty of great people through it, so I'm by and large a happy chap!

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on."

We have met a few this way. Us messaging them after they left a review and a couple of time folk messaging us when they had seen ours. Folk even messaging who have never been to a club after seeing our review asking questions and getting to meet them at a later date, so all works well for us. Secret is in our opinion is to have no expectations

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on.

Love it guys! We would love to get to know you more x"

Dropped you a note

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I for one (except it seems more like for hundreds on this thread!) am having a marvellous time on Fab and haven't many complaints at all?

Yeah, there's the odd niggle with the site here and there, but I've met plenty of great people through it, so I'm by and large a happy chap! "

Good to hear you are enjoying the site. Help everyone out by describing what works best for you.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on.

We have met a few this way. Us messaging them after they left a review and a couple of time folk messaging us when they had seen ours. Folk even messaging who have never been to a club after seeing our review asking questions and getting to meet them at a later date, so all works well for us. Secret is in our opinion is to have no expectations"

I’ve seen the, “don’t have expectations,” statement several times and, since it seems to be common advice from couples and singles who are happy with the site, we would like to examine the concept further. What does it mean to have no explanations?

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over a year ago


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on.

We have met a few this way. Us messaging them after they left a review and a couple of time folk messaging us when they had seen ours. Folk even messaging who have never been to a club after seeing our review asking questions and getting to meet them at a later date, so all works well for us. Secret is in our opinion is to have no expectations

I’ve seen the, “don’t have expectations,” statement several times and, since it seems to be common advice from couples and singles who are happy with the site, we would like to examine the concept further. What does it mean to have no explanations?"

If you believe you will be knee deep in pussy (as a single male) just by being on here, you will be disappointed.

If you approach the site with the hope of chatting to likeminded people and forget about the sex aspect, if you get lucky it is an added bonus.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on.

We have met a few this way. Us messaging them after they left a review and a couple of time folk messaging us when they had seen ours. Folk even messaging who have never been to a club after seeing our review asking questions and getting to meet them at a later date, so all works well for us. Secret is in our opinion is to have no expectations

I’ve seen the, “don’t have expectations,” statement several times and, since it seems to be common advice from couples and singles who are happy with the site, we would like to examine the concept further. What does it mean to have no explanations?

If you believe you will be knee deep in pussy (as a single male) just by being on here, you will be disappointed.

If you approach the site with the hope of chatting to likeminded people and forget about the sex aspect, if you get lucky it is an added bonus.

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Sounds reasonable.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on.

We have met a few this way. Us messaging them after they left a review and a couple of time folk messaging us when they had seen ours. Folk even messaging who have never been to a club after seeing our review asking questions and getting to meet them at a later date, so all works well for us. Secret is in our opinion is to have no expectations

I’ve seen the, “don’t have expectations,” statement several times and, since it seems to be common advice from couples and singles who are happy with the site, we would like to examine the concept further. What does it mean to have no explanations?"

Explanations?? Take it that was predictive text working its best. No Expectations could be a little to much as we know what to expect most of all, and that is to have a good night out together or with friends. The no expectations part is how you may think the night may end and end up disappointed. What we would say is we have no expectations of anyone.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We left a review of our visit to VA last Saturday and ended up with a new couple as friends on Fab. Evidently, leaving a club review allows folks you didn’t get a chance to chat with a way to find you and message. Will remember to do that from now on.

We have met a few this way. Us messaging them after they left a review and a couple of time folk messaging us when they had seen ours. Folk even messaging who have never been to a club after seeing our review asking questions and getting to meet them at a later date, so all works well for us. Secret is in our opinion is to have no expectations

I’ve seen the, “don’t have expectations,” statement several times and, since it seems to be common advice from couples and singles who are happy with the site, we would like to examine the concept further. What does it mean to have no explanations?

Explanations?? Take it that was predictive text working its best. No Expectations could be a little to much as we know what to expect most of all, and that is to have a good night out together or with friends. The no expectations part is how you may think the night may end and end up disappointed. What we would say is we have no expectations of anyone. "

Freaking predictive text! I think we all have expectations even if they are simply to have a nice night out with the wife. If, as you stated, we all set our expectations clearly to achievable goals, we would be happier with the outcomes.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

How are you using the Fab website to help with your weekend plans?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Fab has been great for us as well. I have met lots of sexy men to satisfy me in front of my cuck and also for meeting alone. There are a fair few time wasters and no shows which is irritating but the studs that do show up make it very worth while. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have read multiple posts about how this site doesn’t work. Well, for us it has. We joined this February and, after reading the posts here, got our photo verification uploaded. We followed up with a visit to a local club where we didn’t play with anyone but, picked up verifications from the owners and some folks with whom we chatted. Further, we noticed that we didn’t enjoy genitalia close ups and extreme action shots, so we posted a good amount of pictures designed to try and show off our personalities (understand that is our personal preference).

All that done, we have fairly full weekends now which we can say is all due to the fab website. It is possible (for couples at least)! Don’t give up. "

You two sound great!

We are very new, and was getting a bit bothered about negative posts.

Our experiences so far been good.

But we travelled to Blackpool, intend on club but chickened out!!

Thanks for cheering me up!

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"We have read multiple posts about how this site doesn’t work. Well, for us it has. We joined this February and, after reading the posts here, got our photo verification uploaded. We followed up with a visit to a local club where we didn’t play with anyone but, picked up verifications from the owners and some folks with whom we chatted. Further, we noticed that we didn’t enjoy genitalia close ups and extreme action shots, so we posted a good amount of pictures designed to try and show off our personalities (understand that is our personal preference).

All that done, we have fairly full weekends now which we can say is all due to the fab website. It is possible (for couples at least)! Don’t give up.

You two sound great!

We are very new, and was getting a bit bothered about negative posts.

Our experiences so far been good.

But we travelled to Blackpool, intend on club but chickened out!!

Thanks for cheering me up!"

When you eventually get to a club you will wonder why you both didn't go earlier, great social aspect, fun if you want without any pressure from anyone. We are going to Club sx in Blackpool this Saturday

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xx"
bingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues "

If that's your thing you enjoy it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lol"
nope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lolnope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once "

Don't knock it till you try it

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lolnope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once

Don't knock it till you try it "

Blackpool has an amazing Scene. We have made some great swinging friends due to Fab, Blackpool and the clubs in Blackpool

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lolnope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once

Don't knock it till you try it

Blackpool has an amazing Scene. We have made some great swinging friends due to Fab, Blackpool and the clubs in Blackpool"

Same, stay at friends b&b. Just love our weekends in Blackpool

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lolnope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once

Don't knock it till you try it

Blackpool has an amazing Scene. We have made some great swinging friends due to Fab, Blackpool and the clubs in Blackpool

Same, stay at friends b&b. Just love our weekends in Blackpool"

Staying at the New Swingers Hotel This weekend, also booked in for weekend between Xmas and New Years Day

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lolnope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once

Don't knock it till you try it

Blackpool has an amazing Scene. We have made some great swinging friends due to Fab, Blackpool and the clubs in Blackpool

Same, stay at friends b&b. Just love our weekends in Blackpool

Staying at the New Swingers Hotel This weekend, also booked in for weekend between Xmas and New Years Day "

More details on blackpool plz!

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lolnope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once

Don't knock it till you try it

Blackpool has an amazing Scene. We have made some great swinging friends due to Fab, Blackpool and the clubs in Blackpool

Same, stay at friends b&b. Just love our weekends in Blackpool

Staying at the New Swingers Hotel This weekend, also booked in for weekend between Xmas and New Years Day

More details on blackpool plz!"

So much to tell

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Another vote for club, especially Blackpool as lots of social possibilities in bars, b&b's xxbingo halls, fish and chip shops, bulbs and ballroom dancing venues

If that's your thing you enjoy it lolnope it's not, only actually been to Blackpool once

Don't knock it till you try it

Blackpool has an amazing Scene. We have made some great swinging friends due to Fab, Blackpool and the clubs in Blackpool

Same, stay at friends b&b. Just love our weekends in Blackpool

Staying at the New Swingers Hotel This weekend, also booked in for weekend between Xmas and New Years Day

More details on blackpool plz!

So much to tell "

Thanks for the message with all the heads up on blackpool! Let us all know how it goes! Good hunting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site works for me, despite the obvious fakes I have had some great meets x

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"This site works for me, despite the obvious fakes I have had some great meets x"

Excellent! Any advice for new folks on here?

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By *illybigballs 555Man
over a year ago

london

This is a load of shit me thinks they are either out of the age range or just don’t reply back to tinder me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a new user I have been finding it very frustrating. I take the time to read profiles and make sure my likes are the same. Following instructions and adding key words that have been placed. I don't send inappropriate pictures and don't start with "wanna fuck" I understand I will not be attractive to everyone but if you put this stuff up and expect people to read before they message, then at least have the courtesy to respond.....even if it's a no thanks. It's just common courtesy, manners cost nothing and the feeling I'm getting is that some think they are above the rest. I'm no better than anyone else and they are no better than me. Only been on a week but really being put off by the whole experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgot to add that I've had one great meet and hope it continues but it's hard going.

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

Works for me.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"This is a load of shit me thinks they are either out of the age range or just don’t reply back to tinder me thinks "

Sorry you aren’t having tons of fun on here. There is a bunch of good advice throughout this thread.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Forgot to add that I've had one great meet and hope it continues but it's hard going."

You’ve been on just a week as a single guy and already had a meet! Well done!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"This is a load of shit me thinks they are either out of the age range or just don’t reply back to tinder me thinks "

If you are talking about us then you are correct that you are out of our age range and not in our preferences. However, we wish you very very happy hunting!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Quick question to those on this thread. Do you have easy discriminators to assist you in triage of all the messages? We attempt to reply to every message but have run out of time. We’ve decided that no profile picture = no response. We also really like people to know how to use to, too and two.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire


"Quick question to those on this thread. Do you have easy discriminators to assist you in triage of all the messages? We attempt to reply to every message but have run out of time. We’ve decided that no profile picture = no response. We also really like people to know how to use to, too and two. "

Like you, we ignore the one word messages from profiles with no pictures - or only dick pics - others who send proper messages but are not our type do get a response though.

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

well i [k] female half was not on fab from friday night till today.between work and eating have messaged back all that sent us proper messages [not the i will giveyou the best time ever type shit]and this site is a great ice breaker we have met many many from here

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Quick question to those on this thread. Do you have easy discriminators to assist you in triage of all the messages? We attempt to reply to every message but have run out of time. We’ve decided that no profile picture = no response. We also really like people to know how to use to, too and two.

Like you, we ignore the one word messages from profiles with no pictures - or only dick pics - others who send proper messages but are not our type do get a response though."

Makes sense. Polite yet efficient

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

So... what is everyone on this thread doing this weekend? And, in line with the purpose of the thread, how did the fab website help you out?

We are meeting some very special friends we met on here. We are using the message system for all the details and we may go to a club we found out about on this site. Lots of help from Fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So... what is everyone on this thread doing this weekend? And, in line with the purpose of the thread, how did the fab website help you out?

We are meeting some very special friends we met on here. We are using the message system for all the details and we may go to a club we found out about on this site. Lots of help from Fab!"

Thread is going strong with many tips to help people and share ideas.

My plans are to attend a social event on Saturday night. Hopefully I will be able to attend and see a new venue for the first time while speaking to fellow fabbers.

I won't know till Friday for sure because of a family event over the weekend! My nieces are visiting from London

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

well if we may add .fab does work .over the past 6 or 7 years we have been to many house parties have had many meals bought in top hotels been to shows concerts .weekends away and an amazing time on a luxury yatch for the madest party ever all exs paid .none a this would have happened with out fab .as all the above where with people we only knew from site .[we now know them and keep in touch ]we do not think there is a better swingers site .so a big course it works

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"So... what is everyone on this thread doing this weekend? And, in line with the purpose of the thread, how did the fab website help you out?

We are meeting some very special friends we met on here. We are using the message system for all the details and we may go to a club we found out about on this site. Lots of help from Fab!

Thread is going strong with many tips to help people and share ideas.

My plans are to attend a social event on Saturday night. Hopefully I will be able to attend and see a new venue for the first time while speaking to fellow fabbers.

I won't know till Friday for sure because of a family event over the weekend! My nieces are visiting from London "

Adam we are glad you came down and met all the nice folks at Jay Dee’s. We hope you had a great time!

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"well if we may add .fab does work .over the past 6 or 7 years we have been to many house parties have had many meals bought in top hotels been to shows concerts .weekends away and an amazing time on a luxury yatch for the madest party ever all exs paid .none a this would have happened with out fab .as all the above where with people we only knew from site .[we now know them and keep in touch ]we do not think there is a better swingers site .so a big course it works "

Wow! You guys sound like you’ve cracked the code! We are still in our first year on this site and still learning our left/right limits. This site has been indispensable in furthering our exploration.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Hope to see a few of you at Jay Dee’s tomorrow night (Saturday). We are there with an amazing couple but are looking to chat with as many of you as possible

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By *arekindMan
over a year ago

REDBRIDGE…

Second attempt at site no meets as of yet but many guys want to which I cannot understand

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By *arekindMan
over a year ago

REDBRIDGE…

Advice anybody ?

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Advice anybody ?"

There is plenty of good advice on this thread. Specifically for you I would say:

1. Get some public pictures (good tasteful ones.)

2. At least have three paragraphs of well written and well thought out profile text.

3. Go to a club or social and get to know people. Pick up a verification or two while you are there.

4. Stay positive and keep dating (if you haven’t noticed, couples do fairly well on here.)

Hope that helps! Happy hunting

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By *arekindMan
over a year ago

REDBRIDGE…

[Removed by poster at 01/12/18 01:00:10]

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By *arekindMan
over a year ago

REDBRIDGE…

Thanks i shall keep trying just there are a couple reasons why don't have some of those which clearly isn't helping, need people that are willing to maintain my discreetness. A lot of effort at moment for no outcome lol

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Thanks i shall keep trying just there are a couple reasons why don't have some of those which clearly isn't helping, need people that are willing to maintain my discreetness. A lot of effort at moment for no outcome lol"

Completely understand the need for discretion but still think you have room to build yourself a stronger profile without exposing yourself (so to speak).

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over a year ago


"Thanks i shall keep trying just there are a couple reasons why don't have some of those which clearly isn't helping, need people that are willing to maintain my discreetness. A lot of effort at moment for no outcome lol

Completely understand the need for discretion but still think you have room to build yourself a stronger profile without exposing yourself (so to speak)."

Yeah come on Luke! You can do better then that basic profile. Take a look at mine for ideas.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Thanks i shall keep trying just there are a couple reasons why don't have some of those which clearly isn't helping, need people that are willing to maintain my discreetness. A lot of effort at moment for no outcome lol

Completely understand the need for discretion but still think you have room to build yourself a stronger profile without exposing yourself (so to speak).

Yeah come on Luke! You can do better then that basic profile. Take a look at mine for ideas.

"

We met Adam at a club based on his strong profile.

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We were just invited to our first house party. Sadly we were unable to make the date work, but are interested in attending at a later date. Question for the group, as we’ve been getting great advice so far, what differences should we expect between a house party and a club?

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By *dquest OP   Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We were just invited to our first house party. Sadly we were unable to make the date work, but are interested in attending at a later date. Question for the group, as we’ve been getting great advice so far, what differences should we expect between a house party and a club?

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"We were just invited to our first house party. Sadly we were unable to make the date work, but are interested in attending at a later date. Question for the group, as we’ve been getting great advice so far, what differences should we expect between a house party and a club?"
well the thing is some differencess may not be able to post on fab .[all depends on the ather folks that are going]could be some recreational activity .defo no place to hide so more chatting going on .could be some more deeper role play than in normal club .list goes on .pm us.[op]dont think there will be any bingo

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

That's a tough question as house parties all take on different dynamics.

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over a year ago


"We were just invited to our first house party. Sadly we were unable to make the date work, but are interested in attending at a later date. Question for the group, as we’ve been getting great advice so far, what differences should we expect between a house party and a club?"

No where to hide at a house party

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"We were just invited to our first house party. Sadly we were unable to make the date work, but are interested in attending at a later date. Question for the group, as we’ve been getting great advice so far, what differences should we expect between a house party and a club?well the thing is some differencess may not be able to post on fab .[all depends on the ather folks that are going]could be some recreational activity .defo no place to hide so more chatting going on .could be some more deeper role play than in normal club .list goes on .pm us.[op]dont think there will be any bingo "

Could be strip poker or spin the bottle tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were just invited to our first house party. Sadly we were unable to make the date work, but are interested in attending at a later date. Question for the group, as we’ve been getting great advice so far, what differences should we expect between a house party and a club?well the thing is some differencess may not be able to post on fab .[all depends on the ather folks that are going]could be some recreational activity .defo no place to hide so more chatting going on .could be some more deeper role play than in normal club .list goes on .pm us.[op]dont think there will be any bingo

Could be strip poker or spin the bottle tho "
or naked twister

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