FabSwingers.com forum: Site is hardwork

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Many women and couples read a profile before answering a message, maybe therein lies your problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah but i dont understand whats wromg with it any advice

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Apart from the fact it tells me nothing about you or what you are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but i dont understand whats wromg with it any advice"

Best advice anyone can give you is do a forum Search for "profile advice"

There's thousands of replies that will give you all the tools to make your own profile better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It should av ticked all the boxs of what im looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brutal honest truth is ... If you can't be arsed creating a decent profile about yourself, why will any women be arsed to bother speaking to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers mate al have to try it

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!"

Persevere.

Nothing this good should be easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!"

Uhm how about you try messaging people?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!"

Offer free cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but i dont understand whats wromg with it any advice"
you don't tell anyone what you're about, what you like, you have two pics both of cock and you're young, we know you're a teacher so no face pics

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"It should av ticked all the boxs of what im looking for "

It's not all about ticking the boxes of what you are looking for...it's whether or not it ticks the boxes of prospective Couples and Ladies

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

You've had 3 meets in less than a year.

I'd say that's good going, what are you expecting, a meet a week?

Is it your expectations are off kilter?

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By *uit and bootsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Yeah but i dont understand whats wromg with it any adviceyou don't tell anyone what you're about, what you like, you have two pics both of cock and you're young, we know you're a teacher so no face pics "

Have a look at fixing the spelling and grammar in your profile wording too, some people find that off putting, especially if you work in a school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a look at fixing the spelling and grammar in your profile wording too, some people find that off putting, especially if you work in a school.

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ooooo English teacher, not good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You barely have anything on your profile, both in terms of text and photos and you’re outnumbered vastly by other men on here, lots of them with great profiles...!

Upping your game can never hurt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't tell people you keep coming back..it just makes you look like a sulky mard arse when you do not get your way..if you get fed up judt hide your profile and take a break

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

God it’s so tiresome all these postings by men complaining about not getting meets, no replies to messages etc.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

Decent pics and profile would help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!"

Same as you do to get a conversation going anywhere else,make it interesting,make it worth the other persons interest to respond.

Hiya

How's you?

What you doing?

What you up to?

What you in to ?

And many more inane questions are very very rarely worth responding to.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!

Same as you do to get a conversation going anywhere else,make it interesting,make it worth the other persons interest to respond.

Hiya

How's you?

What you doing?

What you up to?

What you in to ?

And many more inane questions are very very rarely worth responding to."

To be fair they are not inane they are just very standard boring messages some people just struggle to be inventive but then that are probably as interesting as their messages so its a good first filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!

Same as you do to get a conversation going anywhere else,make it interesting,make it worth the other persons interest to respond.

Hiya

How's you?

What you doing?

What you up to?

What you in to ?

And many more inane questions are very very rarely worth responding to.

Inane just about sums it up

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

A lot of the very good things in life that you want are usually hard work to achieve.

The trick imo is to have a good life outside of fab with good friends etc and then not getting a fab meet isn't a big thing.

I used to constantly check my phone for message replies but now I've decided to take a "it is what it is" outlook.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Effort in = rewards out. Very simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Effort in = rewards out. Very simple. "
effort in and out works for me

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Remember, nothing worthwhile is easy, and nothing easy is worthwhile.

Best thing to do is stop moaning and be positive (or at least pretend to be)

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!"

If people don't want to chat then you haven't got their attention. If its due to looks then there is nothing you can do about that. However if its profile, messages sent and the art of conversation then that's down to you and improving them so think about upping your game.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Look at the men who've verified the women here. Look at their profiles and how they've set them up. Emulate that.

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

We must admit. These Posts and Dull Profiles are tedious and instantly ends up in a delete if a message is sent.

You are in Competition with thousands of other guys.

Being on here is not an entitlement for a fuck.

Stand out. Put in the effort. That’s all you can do.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of cock pics, post your verifications, could be you met a guy, give more info

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just checked again and says straight guy but have a male verification. Also that you cant accom puts ppl off like you got something to hide

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I just checked again and says straight guy but have a male verification. "

What's your point?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"I just checked again and says straight guy but have a male verification.

What's your point?"

Straight people are allowed to talk to others of the same srx and get a verification.

OP.

You need varied photos.

You need to alter the bit that says you will meet people up to the age of 99

Add some interesting things about you...so people know why it would be a good idea to meet you, rather than the other 30 messages they had that day.

Check other successful guys profiles if you need inspiration.

Write decent messages to people not just that interest you, but are looking for guys in your age range and locality.

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to see the OP has taken all the advice and done absolutely nothing with it..

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Yeah but i dont understand whats wromg with it any advice"

It doesn’t tell us anything. What in your profile would make someone think I need to meet this guy? That’s what you’re aiming for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!"

This is a swinging site, not a 'I'm a single man come get me' site. You're a required addition to a scenario created by a couple. It's a matter of attending parties/clubs to network. It's a matter of being good and remembered so to get recommended. It's a mating game, so make yourself look appealing and not that useless excuse of a profile you have on display. The fact that people are responding to you shows that people are looking. There are lots of single ladies and men looking for hook-ups but your profile is easy to overlook due to this site being overrun with lots of same minded single men.

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"What do you have to do on this site to even just get a conversation going!!

Offer free cake"

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Someone mention cake

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Someone mention cake

Ooo now youre talking..

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Sometimes OP its not the site.. but the user of said site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes OP its not the site.. but the user of said site.

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are you saying you don't talk to anyone?

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Sometimes OP its not the site.. but the user of said site.

are you saying you don't talk to anyone? "

I have lots of imaginary freinds.. oh look a squirrel..

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Sometimes OP its not the site.. but the user of said site.

are you saying you don't talk to anyone?

I have lots of imaginary freinds.. oh look a squirrel..

Communication.. is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join a kik group and get removed for nothing that's even worse

Being nice and civil don't get you anywhere on here neither does being a single male

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"Join a kik group and get removed for nothing that's even worse

Being nice and civil don't get you anywhere on here neither does being a single male

Sorry but that’s rubbish. Plenty of guys do very well. I’m sorry it’s not working for you but we have to look at our own part in things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and being civil sending messages hell reading there profiles and putall there stupid heading and pics for what to have it deleted or to not get a reply obviously you being a woman is a lot easier yeah tits and fanny go along way when u lay back and open your legs lmfao

It is a lot harder for a male to get anywhere on this site something you'd personally wouldnt know bout lol

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Yes and being civil sending messages hell reading there profiles and putall there stupid heading and pics for what to have it deleted or to not get a reply obviously you being a woman is a lot easier yeah tits and fanny go along way when u lay back and open your legs lmfao

WOW..

It is a lot harder for a male to get anywhere on this site something you'd personally wouldnt know bout lol "

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It is a lot harder for a male to get anywhere on this site something you'd personally wouldnt know bout lol "

It'll be a lot harder with an attitude like that.

Every demographic on this site faces problems. Yours aren't the only ones. And if reading the information provided and respecting wishes is so difficult for you, that might be indicative of your overall level of effort. It's not a flattering picture.

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By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

"Join a kik group and get removed for nothing that's even worse

Being nice and civil don't get you anywhere on here neither does being a single male

Sorry but that’s rubbish. Plenty of guys do very well. I’m sorry it’s not working for you but we have to look at our own part in things. "

I can see where he’s coming from. It is bloody hard work on here.

The OP could do with revamping his profile but even when you have clear face pics and are verified it’s very difficult to get conversations going on here.

Many messages are not even read which gets a little frustrating when you’ve put the effort in to write a couple of decent paragraphs rather than a one liner.

Then when you do finally get meets they’re nothing like their pictures and want a boyfriend

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

It is a lot harder for a male to get anywhere on this site something you'd personally wouldnt know bout lol "

You’re sweet. I can’t see why you’re not rolling in tits and fanny.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

No one said it would be easy to get anywhere on here. You just have to sell yourself to make you stand out a bit from the crowd. And be very lucky but unless you put in the hard work and perseverance your chance of getting any positive outcomes on here is slim. ...very slim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes OP its not the site.. but the user of said site.

are you saying you don't talk to anyone?

I have lots of imaginary freinds.. oh look a squirrel..

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you're Dr Dolittle aren't you?

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By *r n Mrs F xCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Sometimes OP its not the site.. but the user of said site.

are you saying you don't talk to anyone?

I have lots of imaginary freinds.. oh look a squirrel..

you're Dr Dolittle aren't you? "

Who said that?...

Ive been called worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s really easy if you make it easy,if you do things the right way and treat people good you will go far. Not everyone is everyone’s cup of tea so it’s a case of just being yourself and just going with it

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