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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields

Like a lot on here I'm not having much luck. I have been on here ages and have had 2 meets but won't just meet anybody as have some morals. I'm very polite in messaging people after they ask to be messaged but 9 times out of ten I don't even get a reply and the message is just deleted. Why do people ask for messages and don't bother replying when you clearly fit what they are asking? In my area on fab it seems very clicky and also the same handful of people putting a new veri on nearly every day! Any help/tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Just because you think you fit what they are looking doesn't necessarily mean they think the same.

I don't understand why an inbox full of 'no thanks' is any better than no reply.

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields

Appreciate that just seems a few have no intention of meeting and are after some sort of thrill as they never have a veri etc

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

First I am a hypocrite, so do as I say not as I do. ?? and I am cruel to be kind if you want support, and a hug fest and a lot of "keep trying" it will happen for you" then skip this 'cos it's not pretty.

You admit you are choosy but think other people will take you as a good fit based on your meagre profile.

You get out what you put in, no investment = no return.

I do not engage in conversation with cocks, when in the whole of your life has any woman said I think you are handsome, funny, dateable but I need to see your cock before we proceed, make it fuzzy so it isn't visible willy-nilly. pun intended, I don't want to see it believe me when I say it is not your most attractive feature.

Do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your door ? No you pick and choose, Did you write, email, fax, phone, Anglican Windows to say you weren't interested ???? No. And I for one can tell you they are very disappointed because they really were a good fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Appreciate that just seems a few have no intention of meeting and are after some sort of thrill as they never have a veri etc"

How can you judge their intentions? Maybe they're looking for something or someone specific?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Like a lot on here I'm not having much luck. I have been on here ages and have had 2 meets but won't just meet anybody as have some morals. I'm very polite in messaging people after they ask to be messaged but 9 times out of ten I don't even get a reply and the message is just deleted. Why do people ask for messages and don't bother replying when you clearly fit what they are asking? In my area on fab it seems very clicky and also the same handful of people putting a new veri on nearly every day! Any help/tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks"

Your expectations are unrealistic. People don't reply to messages, its a fact of life on fab and even the FAQs point out that its acceptable.

You claim to have morals that prevent you from meeting "just anybody" but don't expect others to exercise the same discretion.

My advice would be to revise your expectations. Concentrate on the positive experiences i.e. the one in ten who does reply and see fab for what it is rather than what you would like it to be.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Females and couples have the majority of the site to choose from so you need to stand out,

A lot of the guys on here are desperate for a meet, verification tick or a lick

I wouldn’t approach anyone who I wouldn’t approach in a pub or social gathering so my approaches are few and far between, my female friend on here does get inundated with messages every day so I’d suggest making the opening message title interesting and send a face picture.

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields


"Females and couples have the majority of the site to choose from so you need to stand out,

A lot of the guys on here are desperate for a meet, verification tick or a lick

I wouldn’t approach anyone who I wouldn’t approach in a pub or social gathering so my approaches are few and far between, my female friend on here does get inundated with messages every day so I’d suggest making the opening message title interesting and send a face picture. "

Thanks for the reply mate, as i say I always make an effort when interested in a female or couple. Im not meaning to sound desperate etc just I guess you get disheartened.

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields


"Appreciate that just seems a few have no intention of meeting and are after some sort of thrill as they never have a veri etc

How can you judge their intentions? Maybe they're looking for something or someone specific?"

I appreciate that but when they say we want someone who looks after themselves and is heavily inked, I'm like that's me...and then they don't even reply. Then a few days later you see the veri from their meet and he is nothing like what they asked. It's just frustrating and I understand and totally respect it's their choice

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields

Thanks for the reply

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields

Thanks for the lecture and the advice ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get 100s messages an hour, plus your last meet was over a year ago and you havent punlished them.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You say you will "not just shag anyone/anything" but you will meet a 99 year old ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get 100s messages an hour, plus your last meet was over a year ago and you havent punlished them."
women get 100's of messages an hour ...lol that is what they would like men to believe....

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"You say you will "not just shag anyone/anything" but you will meet a 99 year old ?"

Well spotted !

Maybe tell people what you have to offer and why they should choose to meet you . Your profile says a little about you , but also a lot about what you want. You need to concentrate a bit more on why a meet with you would be the best option.

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields


"Women get 100s messages an hour, plus your last meet was over a year ago and you havent punlished them."

My last meet was not a year ago but my last veri was. Im verified so it shows I'm genuine. I didn't realise it is law on here to have to show your veri's like some sort of an award? Thanks for the comments mate but your own profile shows nothing so please don't lecture me. I was only after some friendly advice not to be griefed!

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields


"You say you will "not just shag anyone/anything" but you will meet a 99 year old ?

Well spotted !

Maybe tell people what you have to offer and why they should choose to meet you . Your profile says a little about you , but also a lot about what you want. You need to concentrate a bit more on why a meet with you would be the best option. "
cheers will do

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By *awetoppa OP   Man
over a year ago

South Shields


"You say you will "not just shag anyone/anything" but you will meet a 99 year old ?"

Thanks point noted and adjusted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Publish your verification that will help

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