FabSwingers.com forum: How to say thanks but no thanks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had quite a few guys get annoyed if I don't reply to their message to say I'm not interested but feel bad turning people down and don't really know what to say.

It can be that I don't fancy their pictures or just don't click with their message.

Any advice on what you want to hear guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.

That's what I write.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait for someone posting the Fab rule on this thread..

But it is always nice if you can reply, saying no thanks and so on ..and if they are not for you, ever..block them, once your no thanks message as been sent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.

That's what I write."

Even if there are no face pics? Or friend only pics

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By *candalariaMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

If you’re feeling bad saying ‘no’ just delete the message and most guys will get it. But honesty is the best policy. A ‘no thanks’ is always appreciated. By me anyway.

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I say "thank you for your message but not for me, happy fabbing"

mostly people accept it and either delete or say ok thanks for the reply.

some ask why so I just delete that rather than get into conversation about there not being an attraction

Some do come back with insults or nasty replies, just delete and block those x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.

That's what I write.

Even if there are no face pics? Or friend only pics"

If profile does not appeal to me, then yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, but it's a no thanks from me"

Don't sugarcoat it, or dance around it with an essay. Short n to the point works best.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Actually it can get nasty, so be careful with any reply. A guy asked me if he was repulsive and if I was just a tease etc..ended up blocking him. What was he expecting after insults I would change my mind ?

There is never a perfect way to say no, unfortunately

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

tell them no thanks n say fook of now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We say sorry we're not a match. We feel that covers wide enough range of reasons.

Mrs

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"Sorry you arent what im looking for. Good luck though." Usually works for me. However i have had the odd guy demanding to know why they arent the sex gods they assumed they are. Delete and block.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You can make it less specific about them and keep it wholly about you, just tell them you are not pursuing things etc.

But don't feel you have to offer any update on your evaluation of them. You can just wish them luck or block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.

That's what I write.

Even if there are no face pics? Or friend only pics"

“Hello,

I appreciate the message thank you, just not what I'm seeking!

Best of luck on your search,

Name”

There.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I've had quite a few guys get annoyed if I don't reply to their message to say I'm not interested but feel bad turning people down and don't really know what to say.

It can be that I don't fancy their pictures or just don't click with their message.

Any advice on what you want to hear guys? "

Well they want to hear that you fancy them. Just say ‘you’re not what I’m seeking’ and block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, thanks for your message, sorry but you're not my type. Happy fabbing though x

My go to reply

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Nice to be nice but say sorry not for me Happy fabbin and enjoy your fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete it.... thats what happens to most of my messages

Most people understand the meaning of a deleted message

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By *r Normally KinkyMan
over a year ago

Somerset

its actually nice to have s9me9ne say no thanks your not for me. rather than not answer.... but then keep looking at your profile everyday for weeks on end.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"If you’re feeling bad saying ‘no’ just delete the message and most guys will get it. But honesty is the best policy. A ‘no thanks’ is always appreciated. By me anyway. "

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Nice to be nice but say sorry not for me Happy fabbin and enjoy your fun "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.

That's what I write.

Even if there are no face pics? Or friend only pics"

Just say "no thanks just not attracted" because from the information and what you have seen you are not.

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"If you’re feeling bad saying ‘no’ just delete the message and most guys will get it. But honesty is the best policy. A ‘no thanks’ is always appreciated. By me anyway. "

Unfortunatly for every guy like urself there are 5 that will take an answer of any kind as an invitation to harass u into changing ur mind or reply with some abusive remark. X

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By *Flutter-Woman
over a year ago

Not in f’kin London!

"Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.

That's what I write."

This is what I say....

If they question this, i just delete anyway.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Thing is if you do reply and dont block then at a point in the future you apply any filters, they can get round them and keep messaging you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s someone who fits the criteria I ask for in my profile, a polite no thanks then a block if they message again.

If it’s someone who hasn’t read or has ignored my profile text, it’s a delete and usually block.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just delete it.... thats what happens to most of my messages

Most people understand the meaning of a deleted message"

It's generally when I've deleted the messages that they have got arsy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all for your feedback

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm used to messages sent just being read and deleted. But occasionally it would be nice to get a "thanks for your interest, but you aren't what I'm looking for" or similar.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

'Thanks for your message but I'm not interested', seems harsh but gets the message across.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Any advice on what you want to hear guys? "

Sorry but your far to amazing for me, I wouldn't be able control myself in your presence so for this reason Im out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm used to messages sent just being read and deleted. But occasionally it would be nice to get a "thanks for your interest, but you aren't what I'm looking for" or similar."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the only reply was a phone number, every day is a school day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A no thanks is always appreciated, but a deleted message also lets me know not interested.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Thank you for your message, but no thank you.

Is what I write but only if they've sent me a reasonable message if it's just say "hello naughty" I just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Thanks for your message, but unfortunately you're not who I'm looking for.'

Polite, but to the point. If they get arsy with that or don't accept it, just block them.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I just say "Nice but not for me"...and leave it at that.

Think I've only had a couple of arsey replies in over a year

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Politeness is a good start and none of your bog standard of brush offs Eg thanks but no thanks. Not my type sorry leave the guy with a bit of pride.

Ask yourself how you would like to hear a no thanks and try that.

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