FabSwingers.com forum: Think I’m doing something wrong....

By *oodsy84 OP Man
over a year ago

Bath

Hey. I’ve been on here for a few months now and finally got the ball rolling with 2 really nice veri’s (one disappeared tho) and thought it would get easier to chat to woman but hasn’t made a difference. Don’t know if it’s my profile or not. I try to make an effort in all my messages but it’s 50/50 if they even get read lol.

The thing that I don’t get is when I look at who some of the woman have met, it’s quite often a shit profile with ugly dick pics......... what gives

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hey. I’ve been on here for a few months now and finally got the ball rolling with 2 really nice veri’s (one disappeared tho) and thought it would get easier to chat to woman but hasn’t made a difference. Don’t know if it’s my profile or not. I try to make an effort in all my messages but it’s 50/50 if they even get read lol.

The thing that I don’t get is when I look at who some of the woman have met, it’s quite often a shit profile with ugly dick pics......... what gives

The guys they meet might be nice guys who don't go round slagging other guys off

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oodsy84 OP Man
over a year ago

Bath

I’m sure they are nice guys. Haven’t slagged anyone off

Just don’t know how they get anywhere when they’ve clearly made no effort on their profile and a bad pic(s). Don’t know if there’s something on my profile that’s a major turn off?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

90% of it is just a load of bull. Ignore it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sure they are nice guys. Haven’t slagged anyone off

Just don’t know how they get anywhere when they’ve clearly made no effort on their profile and a bad pic(s). Don’t know if there’s something on my profile that’s a major turn off?"

They may have made an effort when they met the women you’re talking about and changed their profile since for various reasons. Or maybe their messages were really interesting and intrigued the women.

Why do you care though? If these women aren’t interested in you they just aren’t, regardless of if your profile is good or not. Just move on.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"I’m sure they are nice guys. Haven’t slagged anyone off

Just don’t know how they get anywhere when they’ve clearly made no effort on their profile and a bad pic(s). Don’t know if there’s something on my profile that’s a major turn off?"

You have slagged other guys off. You have made a judgement on the people that others have met over why are they not meeting you. That is not attractive or sexy. In fact a major turn off.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *astings SocialWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

They have met these other guys at clubs or socials

Maybe try going to these as well

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Stop over thinking what others do and don't do.

I've had a quick read. Your profile repeats itself a lot and all the stuff in brackets is not needed plus I don't think people want to know about your ex !

My advise is go and read some other men's profiles then re-write yours

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oodsy84 OP Man
over a year ago

Bath

"Stop over thinking what others do and don't do.

I've had a quick read. Your profile repeats itself a lot and all the stuff in brackets is not needed plus I don't think people want to know about your ex !

My advise is go and read some other men's profiles then re-write yours

Thanks for the reply. I’ll have a rewrite later.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oodsy84 OP Man
over a year ago

Bath

Yeah I made a judgment of their profile. Some are awful and I don’t care how nice their message might of been. At least make some effort.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I made a judgment of their profile. Some are awful and I don’t care how nice their message might of been. At least make some effort. "

Make some effort? They managed to get meets with women you’re interested in so clearly they were doing something right.

Ask yourself why you’re bothered about other males profiles and how much effort they make. Maybe it’s the fact they got a meet with nothing on their profile, and you didn’t get one with a few sentences.

These women are either not attracted to you, don’t like your profile or your messages aren’t interesting enough. No need to worry about others and what they do, I’m sure they’re not worrying about you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% of it is just a load of bull. Ignore it. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I’m sure they are nice guys. Haven’t slagged anyone off

Just don’t know how they get anywhere when they’ve clearly made no effort on their profile and a bad pic(s). Don’t know if there’s something on my profile that’s a major turn off?"

Yes you have "shit profile with ugly dick pics." so even worse you thin kits acceptable its becoming pretty clear why you struggle.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Yeah I made a judgment of their profile. Some are awful and I don’t care how nice their message might of been. At least make some effort. "

....and this is why you struggle.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oodsy84 OP Man
over a year ago

Bath

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all. "

Surprised you never capitalised the “at all” bit

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

Surprised you never capitalised the “at all” bit

Why would I capitalise the "at all" bit? Your comment makes no sense.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Too much repetition.

Would you really meet people who are in their 90s, or are you too lazy to alter that?

The fact that you cannot accommodate will mean some people will presume if you are married.

All the stuff about being a sub or giver is unnecessary waffle.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 meets in 3 months is good OP!

Get to a few clubs and get out there. Not all the fun is actually found on fab!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

Surprised you never capitalised the “at all” bit

Why would I capitalise the "at all" bit? Your comment makes no sense.

It made me laugh!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something tells me this isn't going quite the way the OP planned

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get down to your nearest club and meet people.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

For what it’s worth I think your profile is good. Friendly narrative and good selection of pictures.

Perhaps (only surmising as I’ve not seen them) your initial messages aren’t catching people’s attention? Try to make them as interesting as possible

Mrs

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People can learn from their experiences, so past meets are not necessarily an indication of what they would repeat etc. In essence you need to be a better match than those who have gone before or are in competition with you now.

It's competitive and someone who makes it elsewhere may do differently here. You need to experiment and learn what may work for you. Others want to know how you could satisfy them more than the next guy who messages - making your profile narrow could mean you may only match a few people - broadening the scope - if done expertly - may allow you to possibly appeal to many more people.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Wow you guys are harsh on OP. He's clearly looking at other guy's profiles to see how they managed to get meets and is confused! He's after pointers!

We all make judgements especially on here. Anyone that says any different is lying

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

The thing that I don’t get is when I look at who some of the woman have met, it’s quite often a shit profile with ugly dick pics......... what gives

I feel your pain mate.

As discussed on other threads there are far more men than women on here so unfortunately it’s an uphill battle even to get messages read.

I reckon your profile is pretty decent for what it’s worth, light hearted with some decent face pics. Narrow the age range down perhaps.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all. "

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

Don’t hold your breath

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hite1100Man
over a year ago

Hither Green

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

Don’t hold your breath "

Haha indeed. The loopy man-hating bitterness shines through from some postings on here. It’s a bit weird.

Why reply only to attack the OP who sounds like a decent bloke doing his best on here!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

Don’t hold your breath

Haha indeed. The loopy man-hating bitterness shines through from some postings on here. It’s a bit weird.

Why reply only to attack the OP who sounds like a decent bloke doing his best on here! "

Because attacking new people on the forums is all some people like to do....

They act like the forums belongs to them.....

You will notice all new people get attacked then banned after 2 weeks....

This way the same people comment on every thread posted....

So to stay on the forums never call anyone fat or ugly.... agree that men who have sex with men are straight and call all cheating men the scum of the earth ....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ife_guy85Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

My advise is go and read some other men's profiles then re-write yours

I’ll take your good advice too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing that I don’t get is when I look at who some of the woman have met, it’s quite often a shit profile with ugly dick pics......... what gives

"
for some it's all about saying the right thing at the right moment but if you say the wrong thing at any moment well you're out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *umumCouple
over a year ago

LEEDS

I didn't mind your profile at all. Nice pics.

The bio was ok, didn't think it waffled but agree with the other comment about taking out reference to the ex.

The only bit that made me think was the fact that you said you didn't finish.

Being a pleaser myself , I enjoy the ending as much and the beginning & middle xx

Go to a club or an organised social and meet people. A living breathing version of yourself makes more impact than the online version.

Good Luck xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of it is luck too..sending a message at the right time to the right person...it's very hard on here for guys..because there are so many doing the same thing..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *Flutter-Woman
over a year ago

Not in f’kin London!

Count yourself lucky you’ve had two good meets/veris. It’s a numbers game mate. DogEatDog

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"A lot of it is luck too..sending a message at the right time to the right person...it's very hard on here for guys..because there are so many doing the same thing.."

True. If someone sends a message when I have meets posted, I'm more likely to have a chat with them.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of it is luck too..sending a message at the right time to the right person...it's very hard on here for guys..because there are so many doing the same thing..

True. If someone sends a message when I have meets posted, I'm more likely to have a chat with them. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

[Removed by poster at 13/10/18 09:17:12]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

If the OP would like to read my profile, there's plenty of advice on there for newer members. I'm more than happy to help people on here via pm as well. I'm also willing to help cam verify new people to help them if they meet other unverified people.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just read your profile. What the hell is an empth? Lol.

Getting yourself about a bit and noticed as people have said is key i think. Although not for everyone, clubs are a good place for this.

We always enjoy meeting people there that would not come across in real life.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

I only meet local, verified by meeting, between the ages of 30-50, as it clearly states on my profile if you care to look. So there would be no chance of meeting the OP.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

This lady spends hours of her free time helping newbies on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

I'm sure they're not "the pits", as you put it. It's personal choice whether I want to meet them, already stated I'm happy to help them in other ways.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oodsy84 OP Man
over a year ago

Bath

Thanks for all the replies

I admit I was bracing myself when saw 44 replies but they were helpful thanks.

Will have a tinker now.....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oodsy84 OP Man
over a year ago

Bath

The first thing I did on Fab was go to decs but forgot everyone’s profile name. Drank too much rum but will go again at some point

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sure they are nice guys. Haven’t slagged anyone off

Just don’t know how they get anywhere when they’ve clearly made no effort on their profile and a bad pic(s). Don’t know if there’s something on my profile that’s a major turn off?"

Yes you did. You said these other guys getting meets have shit profiles and ugly dick pictures. That is slagging somebody off.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Nothing gives. Those women clearly aren't interested in you at all.

I doubt the OP would be interested in you!

Why don’t you say something positive and constructive for once rather than just criticising for the sake of it!

Seriously? Ms woody goes out of her way to welcome newbies and gives some great advice to single men. People who have been on the scene for longer than 5 mins recognise and appreciate that.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there. Just browsed through this chat. May I ask a lady have a look at my profile and possibly give me some sound advice. Welcome any good or bad. Thank in advance. Shaun

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there. Just browsed through this chat. May I ask a lady have a look at my profile and possibly give me some sound advice. Welcome any good or bad. Thank in advance. Shaun "

Why just a lady..Men will give you good advice too ..because men have profiles..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Hi there. Just browsed through this chat. May I ask a lady have a look at my profile and possibly give me some sound advice. Welcome any good or bad. Thank in advance. Shaun "

Text looks fine, some more pics would be good. Good luck x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually really liked your profile and your pics are good.

I'm sure it's just a case of persevering.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread