FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive been on here before with a couples profile and now here with my own profile but in both accounts im finding it near impossible to get a reply from my messages never mind getting to a meet, anyone else or is just me?

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Just you mate. I am drowning in hot, naked women here. Someone come save me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol . You have only been here 3 weeks , it takes time , it's not Insta shag

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Hi

I have no idea what you are putting in your messages, but I always check a profile before even reading a message, as I'd say from posts on previous 'help me' thread so do alot of others.

Ask yourself if your profile stands out enough to interest someone to read & reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at your pictures, profile, the messages your sending and ask yourself, if someone had the exact same things, would you meet them?

There’s threads about profile advice if feel you want it. You’ll never please everyone.

When messaging ensure that you are reading someone’s profile thoroughly beforehand.

You’ve only had this profile three weeks - it takes time and patience and hard work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

How can you be on here as half a couple?

Its a single profile and not a very good one at that..

If you are part of a couple get a couples profile going and advertise from that...with your gfs consent of course..

Not many women want to meet men who are cheating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Naaa not cheating as she has a profile too

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

"Hi

If you sent me an introductory message I would have looked at your profile before reading it.

You have half a dozen lines of non-descript text. Nothing that tells me what you want or what can offer me.

You have two pictures of your cock. Unappealing.

You are 21. I've had knickers in my laundry basket longer than that. (I haven't but you get my point)

There's nothing in your profile that would make me read your message.

I would delete and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Naaa not cheating as she has a profile too"

Well i suggest getting rid of the cock pics...

You won't attract anything worth having with that bait

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP, there are lots of threads on the same subject, so maybe try reading them for ideas and advice.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Naaa not cheating as she has a profile too

Well i suggest getting rid of the cock pics...

You won't attract anything worth having with that bait

This caused my to cough out my coffee...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Naaa not cheating as she has a profile too

Well i suggest getting rid of the cock pics...

You won't attract anything worth having with that bait

This caused my to cough out my coffee...

I think you're drinking coffee wrong based on your picture

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Hi

You had a couple's profile now you and your gf have two single profiles..

what made you on your couple's profile meet single guys.. whatever it was. take a leaf out of their books

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Crikey you lot are harsh on young uns on here! Luckily I got off lightly with my appraisal.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Even though I'm not really young anymore. I keep forgetting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have tried hard to get a meet with no success. I did get a lot of messages when I first joined, then I realised my profile said I wanted to meet men and tvs as well as females and mf couples. So I was getting all sorts of messages from blokes, one even asking if I’d consider paying a “straight” man for sex. Once I sorted that part of my profile out, the messages completely dried up.

I’m not overly concerned, I’m 52 next week so I guess that there is not so much demand for single older men who cannot accommodate and don’t want to butt fuck other men. Never mind uhh?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi

Patience is the key.

Good luck OP.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Its the hope that kills ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its the hope that kills ya."

Abandon hope all that enter here

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Crikey you lot are harsh on young uns on here! Luckily I got off lightly with my appraisal. "

Slap him someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Naaa not cheating as she has a profile too

Well i suggest getting rid of the cock pics...

You won't attract anything worth having with that bait

This caused my to cough out my coffee...

I think you're drinking coffee wrong based on your picture

It was the straw that done it... at least it's not a plastic one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have tried hard to get a meet with no success. I did get a lot of messages when I first joined, then I realised my profile said I wanted to meet men and tvs as well as females and mf couples. So I was getting all sorts of messages from blokes, one even asking if I’d consider paying a “straight” man for sex. Once I sorted that part of my profile out, the messages completely dried up.

I’m not overly concerned, I’m 52 next week so I guess that there is not so much demand for single older men who cannot accommodate and don’t want to butt fuck other men. Never mind uhh?"

The advice given to the young guys works for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crikey you lot are harsh on young uns on here! Luckily I got off lightly with my appraisal. "

Did it work though?

Are you knee deep in fanny yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you mate. I am drowning in hot, naked women here. Someone come save me!"

You called?

. Lexi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Write up is very short. Few spelling mistakes,no public pics and your profile picture doesn't screen.. come get me. Lexi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, I’m 33years older than you, I’m not meeting, my profile is deliberately designed to try to put people off, but still I get interest.

Ask yourself do your pics and profile advertise what you want people to notice about you and convey who you are to them, if not do something different. There are many good profiles just within the forum community. Look at some of them and see if you cam get some fresh ideas. Get yourself known by portraying how you want to be seen in the forum, chat rooms, get to an organised social or two, and even visit a club. That way people will get to know you and you won’t just be another bloke who can’t get people to reply to his messages.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"Crikey you lot are harsh on young uns on here! Luckily I got off lightly with my appraisal.

Did it work though?

Are you knee deep in fanny yet?"

The advice given to me is that it was well-written as it was and the pictures are decent enough. Nothing more I can do which was nice to hear but also frustrating if you understand. 'Try clubs and socials' is the mantra people try to drum into me constantly. Have tried both and neither were for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol . You have only been here 3 weeks , it takes time , it's not Insta shag "

Yes it is ya big fibber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doing well on here is all about selling yourself.

You have 3 opportunities to do this...

Through your profile, your pics and your messages.

If you have a good detailed profile, with a good selection of pics and your messsges are thought out then the likelihood of getting a reply increases.

2 out of 3 of these, your chances lessen.

1 or none, then you are just a number, fighting to be seen with the other thousands of guys.

Do you think you cover all 3 bases?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

37 cock pics will cover it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Your single profile is incredibly new op, so it's insufficient time to expect solid results Imo.

Your profile has zero public pics, so no one can evaluate you, especially if they view without mail from you or in private mode.

Your profile doesn't fully compute as a single male profile - it's really nowhere near as good as a good single guy's one but also has the hybridization between elements of your couples one, with none of the positives of that.

Better to fine tune it as single guy. If there are people who you may want to meet as a couple, use a couples profile instead. Though it's fine to state you are swinging solo with permission.

Research what makes a good profile - tons of tips in the forum. You don't offer anything attractive atm, so it's unlikely to improve much until you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ya craics shite then that might be why. If not then chuck some dick piccys about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oasis - Don't look back in anger

https://youtu.be/r8OipmKFDeM

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Lol . You have only been here 3 weeks , it takes time , it's not Insta shag "

or Srewfix Direct.

No, you need to get in the forums and hopefully post lots of chick bait. you know funny, interesting and nice comments. If you can't seduce'em, entertain them. It's an indirect approach, but sometimes it's the right way to go.

I've only been here a month, so keep posting away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been here 10 days, no profile pic, no open gallery pics (I do have private ones to send). I have had one meet, arranging a second with him, and chatting to others too. I must be doing something right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been here 10 days, no profile pic, no open gallery pics (I do have private ones to send). I have had one meet, arranging a second with him, and chatting to others too. I must be doing something right

You're a woman. Its easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The difference being?

You have a vagina, sweetie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Never mind all that

I've had Mr Tumble on

Said to tell you he wants his trousers back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By *hickinthewarmMan
over a year ago

Fife

"Just you mate. I am drowning in hot, naked women here. Someone come save me!"

On my fucking way!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you mate. I am drowning in hot, naked women here. Someone come save me!

On my fucking way!!!"

Ermmmmm you owe me a McDonald’s?

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Just you mate. I am drowning in hot, naked women here. Someone come save me!

On my fucking way!!!

Ermmmmm you owe me a McDonald’s?"

I'm lovin it!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

You have a lot to learn about this place...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on here for a long time done all sorts to my profile nothing seems to work for me. Ever you got it or u dont.

You may use u insted of you and a woman is put off.

Your dick is to small or too big you u miss a full stop

Your to fat. to thin.

You wrote to much. You never wrote enough?

Im to hairy. Im to bold the list goes on and on.

Im just me and me is fine with not tapping bare pussy all the time little gutted but not the end of the world...

Its taken me 2 years almost to have a back and forth conversation she is hot mid 40s going great guns i think she liked the chat then i slipped a face pic and then i asked for a face pic she ignored the message and continued to be a filthy bitch (my fav woman) then i droped a few pics face etc...

She deleated all my messages and never wrote to me again.... maybe she cum but the truth is not her cup of T...

We can only be are self and some have that sex apeal and find it all easy and love it...

I think i am Beginning to grow a complex that im ugly....

2 cock pics and the rest on private because its becoming to hurt my feelings with the regecrion im getting....

But there are nice girls and mingers just like men too i get about 4 to 7 looks a day but no real offers people close just block and people miles away deleate its hard to find a middle ground

Happy fabs

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

The truth is that Fab probably doesn't work for most of us men. Not how we initially expect it to anyway. It can be a blow to self esteem and self confidence. If you aren't enjoying the experience of Fab it might be good to take a step back. It can become too easy to become obsessed with finding a meet on here. I say all of this as advice not only to you but to myself as well by the way. Many of us are in the same boat mate.

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By *eliciousKisserMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"The truth is that Fab probably doesn't work for most of us men. Not how we initially expect it to anyway. It can be a blow to self esteem and self confidence. If you aren't enjoying the experience of Fab it might be good to take a step back. It can become too easy to become obsessed with finding a meet on here. I say all of this as advice not only to you but to myself as well by the way. Many of us are in the same boat mate. "

If there is no hope for someone who has an impressive body like yours (i’m sure your profile is equally attractive to the female visitor)....then us mere mortals just as well shut up shop and go and buy a years supply of kleenex loool!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your girlfriend is on here as a singles profile go back to a couples profile! Its so much easier to get meets being a couple as you have more to offer

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I’m not overly concerned, I’m 52 next week so I guess that there is not so much demand for single older men who cannot accommodate and don’t want to butt fuck other men. Never mind uhh?"

Full of joy

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By *orthcoupleXXXCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Call me suspicious but reading your profile saying that your other half approves I could just call bullshit cos any lad could say that! However, if you had a couples profile and you were pic verified that would be different

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

You just need to have a pic of you sitting on the loo while wearing just your socks with a Sky remote in your hand as a comparison tool... then be prepared to fight them off with a shitty stick.. it's like catnip for kittens

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile is confusing as it says "discretion is key. Face pics sent on request" yet your two public pics are both face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Join the club matey

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By *ife_guy85Man
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Very good advice from everyone here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me to I’m fat and ugly and all the hot ladies have a choice meeting a sexy lady on here seems mission impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if the single blokes know - but ive heard that the ratio is for every woman there are 100 blokes, so standing out from the crowd will take something.

The other thing I overheard a little while ago in a club about this site - they said its a swingers site, not a sex/shag site

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Not sure if the single blokes know - but ive heard that the ratio is for every woman there are 100 blokes, so standing out from the crowd will take something.

The other thing I overheard a little while ago in a club about this site - they said its a swingers site, not a sex/shag site"

There are a lot more guys on here than girls but I would think more 10/15 1 not 100 to 1.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Not sure if the single blokes know - but ive heard that the ratio is for every woman there are 100 blokes, so standing out from the crowd will take something.

The other thing I overheard a little while ago in a club about this site - they said its a swingers site, not a sex/shag site

There are a lot more guys on here than girls but I would think more 10/15 1 not 100 to 1."

Not far off just done a search for same age and criteria and there were 186 men and 13 equivalent women so about 14 to 1

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

"Not sure if the single blokes know - but ive heard that the ratio is for every woman there are 100 blokes, so standing out from the crowd will take something.

The other thing I overheard a little while ago in a club about this site - they said its a swingers site, not a sex/shag site

There are a lot more guys on here than girls but I would think more 10/15 1 not 100 to 1.

Not far off just done a search for same age and criteria and there were 186 men and 13 equivalent women so about 14 to 1

I did the same a while back and got about 30:1.

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By *hostheman1972Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"Not sure if the single blokes know - but ive heard that the ratio is for every woman there are 100 blokes, so standing out from the crowd will take something.

The other thing I overheard a little while ago in a club about this site - they said its a swingers site, not a sex/shag site

There are a lot more guys on here than girls but I would think more 10/15 1 not 100 to 1.

Not far off just done a search for same age and criteria and there were 186 men and 13 equivalent women so about 14 to 1

I did the same a while back and got about 30:1."

My god thats just great (not ) its not easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol . You have only been here 3 weeks , it takes time , it's not Insta shag "

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By *hathungindianMan
over a year ago

london

Only been on here a week too, but having a hard time even getting a reply at times. Any suggestions for my profile that might make it more appealing?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Only been on here a week too, but having a hard time even getting a reply at times. Any suggestions for my profile that might make it more appealing?"
your own words say your fairly inexperienced, and your age will hinder your chances greatly op.

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By *hathungindianMan
over a year ago

london

What would you say could boost my chances?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would you say could boost my chances?"

Transforming into Tom hardy

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"What would you say could boost my chances?"
Going out into the real world op

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

"Not sure if the single blokes know - but ive heard that the ratio is for every woman there are 100 blokes, so standing out from the crowd will take something.

The other thing I overheard a little while ago in a club about this site - they said its a swingers site, not a sex/shag site

There are a lot more guys on here than girls but I would think more 10/15 1 not 100 to 1.

Not far off just done a search for same age and criteria and there were 186 men and 13 equivalent women so about 14 to 1

I did the same a while back and got about 30:1.

My god thats just great (not ) its not easy

From my experience though a lot of those are new profiles who join at the weekend and are gone by Monday, a bunch more are daydreamers who never actually meet and more again self filter in one way or another. The key is standing out for the right reasons.

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By *eliciousKisserMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Hi

If you sent me an introductory message I would have looked at your profile before reading it.

You have half a dozen lines of non-descript text. Nothing that tells me what you want or what can offer me.

You have two pictures of your cock. Unappealing.

You are 21. I've had knickers in my laundry basket longer than that. (I haven't but you get my point)

There's nothing in your profile that would make me read your message.

I would delete and block."

What a woman!! Instant hard on for me (and i am being serious here...love it when a woman drills it home!!!)

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By *eliciousKisserMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Not sure if the single blokes know - but ive heard that the ratio is for every woman there are 100 blokes, so standing out from the crowd will take something.

The other thing I overheard a little while ago in a club about this site - they said its a swingers site, not a sex/shag site

There are a lot more guys on here than girls but I would think more 10/15 1 not 100 to 1.

Not far off just done a search for same age and criteria and there were 186 men and 13 equivalent women so about 14 to 1

I did the same a while back and got about 30:1.

My god thats just great (not ) its not easy

Pay attention to the wise words of this lady - she knows her stuff!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He has left the building

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

He has left the building"

He struggled to get out though it took him 22 weeks.

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By *hickinthewarmMan
over a year ago

Fife

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By *hickinthewarmMan
over a year ago

Fife

"Just you mate. I am drowning in hot, naked women here. Someone come save me!

On my fucking way!!!

Ermmmmm you owe me a McDonald’s?"

Oh dear, completely forgot about that! Haha

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