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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello All

Nice to be here, hope you're all having fun.

Been here a week, no success at all, nothing, not a sausage despite messagings a number ( 10+ ) of people. Thought my profile text was not over the top. No cock pics as well all know these are off putting.

I don't think im god's gift but didn't realise I was not even worth considering.

So please tell me where I'm going wrong, I can take it people!!

Thanks. Jake.

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By *esterLilacCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hello All

Nice to be here, hope you're all having fun.

Been here a week, no success at all, nothing, not a sausage despite messagings a number ( 10+ ) of people. Thought my profile text was not over the top. No cock pics as well all know these are off putting.

I don't think im god's gift but didn't realise I was not even worth considering.

So please tell me where I'm going wrong, I can take it people!!

Thanks. Jake. "

I’d drop the pointless warning on your profile about copyright, then get yourself to a local club or social night.

Failing that, go into the Fab chatrooms and talk to people.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

It depends on what you call “success”...

A reply?

A social meet?

A drop of a hat sexual meet (or a number of ones over a week?)

I only speak for myself when I say that I savour getting to know people I may potentially meet either socially or sexually over messages. And yes, this might take several days. Even weeks. Or months. Some people say they want to meet that day/hour/minute. I say I won’t. I get called “timewaster”. So be it.

I would lose the warning bit on your profile. It’s distracting and it does feck all to protect your identity/photos, etc.

Lastly, you have a nice torso...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A week is a very short time in fab terms.

I don't know what your expectations are but the reality is that men are in a huge majority here and to get a meet within a short while of joining is the exception rather than the rule.

Take the advice from the posters above and adjust your expectations, you'll be fine.

Good luck

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

1/A green grey pic just makes you look like one of the undead so change it.

2/Your profile is more bullshit warning than about you. All these warning rants are pointless infective and put people off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello All

Nice to be here, hope you're all having fun.

Been here a week, no success at all, nothing, not a sausage despite messagings a number ( 10+ ) of people. Thought my profile text was not over the top. No cock pics as well all know these are off putting.

Thanks for the advice. I'll remove the warning. I'm in Berkshire and certainly on here I can't see any clubs advertised in the club section but I'll search harder.

I don't think im god's gift but didn't realise I was not even worth considering.

So please tell me where I'm going wrong, I can take it people!!

Thanks. Jake.

I’d drop the pointless warning on your profile about copyright, then get yourself to a local club or social night.

Failing that, go into the Fab chatrooms and talk to people. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends on what you call “success”...

A reply?

A social meet?

A drop of a hat sexual meet (or a number of ones over a week?)

I only speak for myself when I say that I savour getting to know people I may potentially meet either socially or sexually over messages. And yes, this might take several days. Even weeks. Or months. Some people say they want to meet that day/hour/minute. I say I won’t. I get called “timewaster”. So be it.

I would lose the warning bit on your profile. It’s distracting and it does feck all to protect your identity/photos, etc.

Lastly, you have a nice torso... "

When I say no success I mean a simple reply. Messages are either read and not replied or deleted. Messages are friendly trying to get to know you and not direct or asking for sex straight off.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP what were your expectations when you joined fab?

Many, many single men join the site and expect it to be easy to chat to, meet and fuck numerous women but it is far from it as you are finding out.

People not replying to messages is covered in the site faq's so I suggest you have a look at them.

Single men need bucketfuls of patience and a thick skin on fab and if you don't have this you will not enjoy your time here.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact


"OP what were your expectations when you joined fab?

Many, many single men join the site and expect it to be easy to chat to, meet and fuck numerous women but it is far from it as you are finding out.

People not replying to messages is covered in the site faq's so I suggest you have a look at them.

Single men need bucketfuls of patience and a thick skin on fab and if you don't have this you will not enjoy your time here. "

This post is correct. I posted a similar post which gets replicated by other single guys 10 times a day. We are all in the same boat. I waited 2 weeks before I posted as I wanted to give it a chance. However, 200 deleted/unread messages later I found that there is nothing you can do really. Just be patient and lower your expectations entirely. You can try chatrooms, clubs and socials as suggested. Personally, none of those are for me but some people may find those are better avenues.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

Many thanks for all your feedback. Yes it does seem I have set my expectations way too high.

I'll make the changes to my profile and will not compare chatting / replies to things such as Tinder. Being a guy on here is always going to be difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on in there is my advice mate.... with no verifications and a week old profile, most women will be Cautious and have a lot more offers deemed 'more reliable'

The advice on a club or chat rooms is the way to go... Verifications = Good reputation

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

2 things really stand out.

1: You have lots of stamina!

So what...so does Chris Hoy and Mo Farrah, you don't see those guys on here.

Point is....no one cares. So lose that bit

2: Sexualy experienced!

Your on a sex site....so are 99.9% of everyone else here, nothing special. So lose that bit as well.

Concentrate on what you can offer people that ISN'T sexual, many couples and singles enjoy the social build up and getting to know people.

Take it slowly, you've been here 1 week, it will take longer than that for people to even bother considering taking a look at your profile but if your serious then be patient, stick with it and people will start to take notice.

Good luck.

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