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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have had my profile available for approx 3 months now but am struggling to attract responses, or when i do receive a response, to arrange a F2F meet.

My profile is open and honest and when i converse via the messaging function, my messages are original open and honest.

I am a friendly good looking bloke with a high sex drive, but to date i have not attracted much in the way of ladies and couples.

Is what i am looking for a real TURN OFF to women/couples??????

Could you advise constructively if you feel my profile could be improved or if i am missing anything glaringly obvious....

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remove that massive warning at the bottom of your profile for a start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have one photo of a blur.

You say you've been here before and know how it works so why are you asking?

You can't accommodate and you use the word discreet (spelled wrongly) a fair few times which to some would suggest you are married.

And the legal bit at the bottom means nothing other than you copy other people.

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By *emovesbakedongreaseMan
over a year ago

northwest


"Remove that massive warning at the bottom of your profile for a start "

That ought to do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all.....you are correct, a bit rubbish....

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By *ove3funWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I'd advise getting rid of the first 4 lines of your write up. After that it is pretty good, just double check for repetition. Maybe a photo of you in a suit or something for variety...

Someone who is looking for a man will be able to help more but that's what I'd do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd advise getting rid of the first 4 lines of your write up. After that it is pretty good, just double check for repetition. Maybe a photo of you in a suit or something for variety...

Someone who is looking for a man will be able to help more but that's what I'd do

"

Oh yeah I meant to say the rest of it was ok!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A blurred face pic does not serve any purpose. If you do not want to show your face publicly..keep them in your friends only or send one out if asked. Get rid of that silly disclaimer..it's all rubbish and unenforceable..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**If you don't want to meet, kindly pass me by**

How does that work then..people will come and look at your profile to see if you are of any interest to then...if you are not they will not contact you... it just sounds silly and off putting to those that do check you out..

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have had my profile available for approx 3 months now but am struggling to attract responses, or when i do receive a response, to arrange a F2F meet.

My profile is open and honest and when i converse via the messaging function, my messages are original open and honest.

I am a friendly good looking bloke with a high sex drive, but to date i have not attracted much in the way of ladies and couples.

Is what i am looking for a real TURN OFF to women/couples??????

Could you advise constructively if you feel my profile could be improved or if i am missing anything glaringly obvious....

Thanks"

You changed the default age range preference from 18-99, to 18-85, are you really looking to meet 85 year olds?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My thanks to everybody who took the time to post. Much appreciated and i have heeded you advice and revamped....

Fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking a lot better now..I would put a profile pic on, it could be a dressed body shot ..no need to show face..a pic of some kind, is better then none at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You are right and i have just added.

Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just read my profile back again and it is 100 times better than before.

Thanks for all the feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s always lovely when people take advice onboard

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"It’s always lovely when people take advice onboard "

It's also bloody rare.

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By *ove3funWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Hope it pays off for you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s always lovely when people take advice onboard "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just read my profile back again and it is 100 times better than before.

Thanks for all the feedback"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what your profile was like before but looking at it now it’s not bad at all.

The written part is great and would interest me.

However you only have one photo, I think a couple more photos would be great, they don’t need to include your face.

Other than that it’s a numbers game and regardless of how you tweak your profile some women still won’t be interested, just the way it is.

Good luck though!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I didn't see your profile beforeso can't comment on the changes you've made but I did pick up one thing.

You might want to re-think "outdoor fun in this warm weather is top of the list". Winter is fast approaching and it's bloody freezing here!

I frequently tweak my profile to add and remove bits to keep it relevant and up to date - I recommend everyone should do this too.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Gatwick

*shallow recommendation*

I’d lose the lumberjack shirt... any other profile photo that’s a bit more alluring?

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By *ustAnnieWoman
over a year ago

Tingley

Don’t know what was there before, and just my personal opinion so feel free to ignore but reading your profile suggests you’re only interested in outdoor fun. Not everyone’s cup of tea and fairly off putting for ladies if they think you just want car sex or a fuck in a bush when it’s cold and wet

And more pics

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By *hite bull 9Man
over a year ago

walsall

[Removed by poster at 11/09/18 02:39:58]

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By *hite bull 9Man
over a year ago

walsall


"*shallow recommendation*

I’d lose the lumberjack shirt... any other profile photo that’s a bit more alluring? "

In fairness when you view the picture, it's not a lumberjack shirt, but the post was hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remove that massive warning at the bottom of your profile for a start "

I never really understood those bizarre warnings

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Well done for taking advice and acting on it OP. Profile looks fine, perhaps a couple of bum and torso shits would help. Also as stated before it appears you are only interested in outdoor sex as this seems to be the main focus of text. Perhaps put a bit in about what you can offer and other interests as well. Good luck. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remove that massive warning at the bottom of your profile for a start "
I loved that warning......... Exterminate, exterminate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Muscular hands" sounds a bit freaky!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Omg I meant shots not shits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg I meant shots not shits "
that's the worst typo ever

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Omg I meant shots not shits that's the worst typo ever"

No shit, sherlock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg I meant shots not shits that's the worst typo ever

No shit, sherlock "
No shot Mrs hudson

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Omg I meant shots not shits that's the worst typo ever

No shit, sherlock No shot Mrs hudson "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile seems good and you come across as a decent, articulate and probably a respectful guy. Could maybe do with a couple more pictures (Not of your cock). We give couples profiles 3 months to get a veri, single men get longer as it's harder but try to get on a social or webcam and get other users to verify you. We are spoilt for choice with men and we scan read profiles. We basically run a tick box system and a veri is on that list. Good luck

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I have had my profile available for approx 3 months now but am struggling to attract responses, or when i do receive a response, to arrange a F2F meet.

My profile is open and honest and when i converse via the messaging function, my messages are original open and honest.

I am a friendly good looking bloke with a high sex drive, but to date i have not attracted much in the way of ladies and couples.

Is what i am looking for a real TURN OFF to women/couples??????

Could you advise constructively if you feel my profile could be improved or if i am missing anything glaringly obvious....

Thanks"

I just think "Mr Bean" when I looked at your profile maybe its the check shirt and stance its not very appealing if you want honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look you've just gotta do better it's not easy, think about how you look, how you dress, your pics, your information it's all got to be the best it can be

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Take a good long hard look at my profile and pics.

Then do exactly the opposite.

That's my best advice.

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By *edfleetMan
over a year ago

covent garden

From the bi/gay/Male side

The photos appear to be of your belly/waistline and certainly don’t demonstrate the athletic body you advise - maybe some better images

In your words you claim a desire for public exhibition but again the photos don’t say that

And edit the words. Who reads that much on a profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great, thanks for all of your feedback.

Apologies for my shirt in one photo....now removed.

Appreciate the photos now may not be everybodys cup of tea but;

a) they r not crude

b) do now show some flesh

c) there are more of them

Profile hopefully more informative, better laid out and more accurately articulates what i am looking for on this site.

Now all i need to do is sit back and wait for all those messages, winks, fabs and meet requests...

Yeah.....if only it were that easy

Thanks to all

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Central

Welcome. Your profile isn't terrible now - I didn't see it before. Some extra slight details may help, such as the areas you will meet in etc.

Your photos were a little repetitive - the first couple of your upper body, for example, aren't mega inspiring. I'd encourage you to take quite a few more, to swap them around - aim to add a different feel to the visual vibe, if possible. Outdoors, for varied lighting?

It's tough for you single guys, due to numbers here - determination and patience is all. As well as testing things out, to see if adjustments work better than others.

Look out for friendly people, se you are less isolated too.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I say the same to all genders and demographics, your profile is there to inform the reader of your wants and desires, hopefully it interests and entices with the words and pictures those that have similar interests.. use it to display something of your personality.

Have zero expectations, that way you'll not be disappointed.

Know your worth.. you may be one of thousands .. doesn't mean to say you have to jump through hoops ..

And my last bit.. everyone can say no thanks.

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