FabSwingers.com forum: How hard is it for a new male to get a meet or even a reply!?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Losing faith in this very soon

Will appriciate any tips or pointers!

Thankyou ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks on the site. You’ve not even dipped your toes in yet.

Give it time, keep the faith.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks? What was you expecting a deluge of responses? You are 1 of many so need to find your USP. I have had responses off a few and enjoy chatting and its not always about sex, im actually starting to make friends

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By *ornytravellerMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I hear ya brother,

I’ve been on and off here for years and still don’t get anywhere, starts to piss you off after a while lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From your status you've obviously had some luck but it's a numbers game. Like someone said you need to find a USP. Your pictures aren't attention grabbing and neither is your profile. Personally I don't like to see dick pictures in public. I prefer something left to the imagination HOWEVER that's just me.

I also don't know what messages you send but I'd suggest personalizing them and telling the reciever what you particularly like about their profile.

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By *hil12Man
over a year ago

devon

"Losing faith in this very soon

Will appriciate any tips or pointers!

Thankyou ??"

I don’t know y u r fit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From your status you've obviously had some luck but it's a numbers game. Like someone said you need to find a USP. Your pictures aren't attention grabbing and neither is your profile. Personally I don't like to see dick pictures in public. I prefer something left to the imagination HOWEVER that's just me.

Thanks for your help

I also don't know what messages you send but I'd suggest personalizing them and telling the reciever what you particularly like about their profile."

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By *tew2009Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Very competitive on here and there are a huge percentage of timewasters and fakes. It's extremely easy for single girls and couples to get meets/sex so have a look on their profiles and if they've been on here a long time with no verifications then you're generally wasting your time with them...if they've not met anyone in say 12 months they're hardly likely to meet you!

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By *RIDAY NIGHT LADYWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

1) Your age could be going against you

2) look at your profile from the perspective of the people you are looking for and think would they want to reply to my messages.

3) read the forums and find out why some males have better success than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not having any meet verifications will certainly make it more difficult to meet a couple (catch 22 we know!), we very rarely meet single guys and we wouldn’t even consider an unverified one.

Your best bet is attending a club event, even if you dont get any play you can chat to people and get verified. Most of our friends tick the ‘verified by meet’ button when searching (as do we) so if you’re unverified alot of people will never even see your profile unless you message first.

Cupids run a daytime event called Motd which is great for single guys and very friendly

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Simple answer is it's as hard or easy as you want to make it OP - have too high expectations, a sense of entitlement along with a profile and pics that don't make you stand out and the perception may well make it seem like it's very hard indeed.

Put time and effort in, have low expectations, be prepared to wait and get along to things like clubs and socials etc and it can be a great experience.

Ultimately the choice is yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your only young your not verified and your new

But give it time and stay polite and be patient you'll be fine

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Judging by his status, it's all falling into place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Losing faith in this very soon

Will appriciate any tips or pointers!

Thankyou ??"

You're looking for an experimenting partner? So you can't offer anything yourself, no imagination, no fantasies, no experience? Sounds like they have to do everything for you and little in return... You want Mothering?? Lol... Anyway, change your status, put when you are available, days/nights etc... The spelling mistake doesn't help you btw x.... Oh and patience, in the mean time, try and get laid in the real world. If you can't wait...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Losing faith in this very soon

Will appriciate any tips or pointers!

Thankyou ??"

According to your status you had a meet on Saturday!

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP. You have only been on here 4 weeks!

What did you expect here? Instantshag?

Look at all the other threads on here all asking the same!

It's a case of being noticed. Heed the options already suggested as you have to SELL YOURSELF in order to stand out against the 100's of other guys all seeking the same thing!

It takes time, patience and perseverance. Ditch any negativity in your profile as it will go against you.

Good luck.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Many problems on hear with fakes and time wasters expect the real swingers probably make up 10% then out of that 9% probably trying to punch above there weight and then the 1% realistic people and then making a connection is 1% so you have a 99.9% chance of failure.

Best thing to do is sign on for membership and then try a get a fake meet to verify and then your chances increase massively.

Good luck

And THIS post is a perfect example of the mis-perception of some on here - a negative view that seeks to blame everyone but themselves for their lack of meets rather than looking closer to home for the reasons and making the necessary adjustments to improve (although not guarantee) their chances.

Sure there are *some* fake profiles and time wasters on here but with a little common sense and not looking to rush into meeting they're mostly easily spotted and avoided.

And then to cap it all by suggesting a fake veri is sought (which in itself goes against site rules) speaks for itself and calls into question the hidden veri of the poster.

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