FabSwingers.com forum: Age

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey, im new here and this isn't first post on forum. Haven't really had people messaging me back so I was wondering. Is it my age or profile ( besides Picture...iknowwwww) can you give me advice on my profile? Would be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey, im new here and this isn't first post on forum. Haven't really had people messaging me back so I was wondering. Is it my age or profile ( besides Picture...iknowwwww) can you give me advice on my profile? Would be appreciated.

IS* NOT ISN'T. Lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s quite elephanty.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Pics op,most will delete a message from a blank .

Also get rid of the bit about being selective etc,sounds a bit patronising to others.

There's not much you can do about yr age,some members will have kids your age.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Right...here goes..

1. No avatar pic. As has already been said, the vast majority would pass you by, without giving you a second glance.

2. 'Can U handle me'...most women here could have you for breakfast, and spit your bones out.

3. You do not have any photos in your profile. Take some selfies. Be creative, and for God's sake, no cock pics, no Sky remotes, no messy backgrounds. They make shite pictures.

4. Your spelling, punctuation and grammar are terrible. As is your syntax.

5. The content of your profile text is childish and immature.

6. You are not verified.

However...

1. Sort your profile out.

2. Go to a club on a cougars & cubs night. If you are lucky, you might get verified. If you are very lucky, you might be invited to play. And yes, I DO mean invited. Good club etiquette goes a long way.

3. Join in the forums. But not in a whingy 'why can't I get laid' way. It's boring and off-putting

4. Never forget..a lot of swinging is about the social side. Any play is a bonus. Not the other way around.

5. You are not guarenteed a shag. Even if you are a 5* gold supporter.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

Most will look at your profile to see if it's worth reading your message. Some won't even go that far if your avatar is a silhouette.

Your profile is your shop window to attract and excite, and right now would you bother stepping inside if you were the person messaged?

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By *ere SimplyMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Sorry but my profile might be rubbish but yours is not very concise.

It sounds a bit like a very old person thinking out loud.

I mean no offence but you did ask

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

The Profile Bio is appalling to be blunt.

Sorry. Have to be honest.

The bit about Wanting to be “Picked Up” sounds like you are doing an After School Club.

And also the bit about “Cuddling” is also a bit odd in the Swinging World and makes you sound like you would also like a Bedtime Story.

For most Couples, this is a No No as it is a departure from just Sex and into the realms of emotion if that makes sense?

Not being mean, but your Profile gives those vibes.

Photos are a must.

Remember. You are competing with approximately 92 Billion Guys on here.

You need to stand out and sell yourself but not in a disrespectful or big headed way.

Good luck

Ess and Enn xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies, it helps alot.

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By *woforone2025Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Dublin

rewrite your bio....its needs to be original if not at least spend some time and learn from the best on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You joined 7 days ago. You have a silhouette as a profile pic, no pics in profile, crap write up that comes across lazy.

And you're really wondering why you're getting no replies??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Right...here goes..

1. No avatar pic. As has already been said, the vast majority would pass you by, without giving you a second glance.

2. 'Can U handle me'...most women here could have you for breakfast, and spit your bones out.

3. You do not have any photos in your profile. Take some selfies. Be creative, and for God's sake, no cock pics, no Sky remotes, no messy backgrounds. They make shite pictures.

4. Your spelling, punctuation and grammar are terrible. As is your syntax.

5. The content of your profile text is childish and immature.

6. You are not verified.

However...

1. Sort your profile out.

3. Join in the forums. But not in a whingy 'why can't I get laid' way. It's boring and off-putting

4. Never forget..a lot of swinging is about the social side. Any play is a bonus. Not the other way around.

5. You are not guarenteed a shag. Even if you are a 5* gold supporter.

I don't do club meeting, it's too much for me. And #5 Is N/A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a profile picture and change your bio

You’d like to meet somewhere or be picked up - what’s this about? Fair enough you can’t accommodate but says you can travel yet you’re asking to be picked up! Really!

There are a lot of guys on here and you’re not exactly standing out from the rest. You need to make your bio sound like you’re interesting, got a gsoh and not be too serious with it! Don’t make it too long either as people will stop reading as they’ll get bored

Talk to people through forums, go to a club or even go on webcam chat rooms ( if you’ve got paid membership) also get photo verified. Some people have settings so they block free site members or none photo verified from messaging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get a profile picture and change your bio

You’d like to meet somewhere or be picked up - what’s this about? Fair enough you can’t accommodate but says you can travel yet you’re asking to be picked up! Really!

I'm photo verified. Lol, the bit where I asked to be picked up is for example if she lived in Birmingham, isn't traveling 2 hours in train to get there, with car it's 1 hour, I'll pay for the gas if necessary. Get it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You joined 7 days ago. You have a silhouette as a profile pic, no pics in profile, crap write up that comes across lazy.

And you're really wondering why you're getting no replies?? "

Uhuh, I'm not lazy just don't know what to write exactly, pic is visible for friends only? Uhuh. I've seen more crappier write up on here Hun.

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Asking for advice is only worth it if you listen, I'd just tell you to spend 2 minutes searching forum where there are countless threads from similar guys

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"You joined 7 days ago. You have a silhouette as a profile pic, no pics in profile, crap write up that comes across lazy.

And you're really wondering why you're getting no replies??

Uhuh, I'm not lazy just don't know what to write exactly, pic is visible for friends only? Uhuh. I've seen more crappier write up on here Hun."

Sin-derella didn't say it was the crappiest profile on Fab just that it was crap - which it is. It honestly shows no thought or effort has gone into it and actually comes across as quite immature - if you're not sure what to put, or what is needed in a profile either take some of the very good advice already offered in this thread or do a forum search for "Profile Advice" and follow some of the generic advice offered.

Ultimately, as it stands with no avatar or public pic and a shoddy profile text yiur chances of getting a meet are slim at best.

As for your being "picked up" example - would you really expect someone to drive from Birmingham to London to pick you up without making any effort yourself? And if you think you can get from London to Birmingham faster by car than you can train then you might need a rethink!!

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

I think someone’s not listening.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I think someone’s not listening.

He is. He got rid of the elephant reference. Although to be fair, it could have been a warthog or something.

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By *exyFusionCouple
over a year ago

Near to you

It's not your age.

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By *ACoupleCouple
over a year ago

Littlehampton

I dont think hes really ready to Swing at ALL.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I think someone’s not listening.

Hmmm, I'm thinking the same. Would rather make excuses than an effort.

Think of it this way OP -

A woman has a choice where she can spend her time playing with herself, her toys, pretty much guarantee an orgasm, or two, or three, relax, and then get on with her day,

She can spend time chatting online with a guy, spend time working out what he is like, invite him round, get dressed up, makeup, shave, clear up, stress about meeting someone new, will he be worth it, will he be as good in real life, will he think she's worth it, oh he's here, does he like me, does he like what I'm doing, no I don't like that, no not like that, *sigh* seriously... etc.

Right now she would take one look at your profile and think "Nah, fuck it, if he can't be bothered then why should I?"

There should be no "boring bit" in a profile. Excite,interest, show yourself off!

There are so many men on this site which means a lot of competition. Right now you have lots of competition but aren't bothering to make the effort to compete, so you will get left behind while those who do make a effort to show what they have to offer will be more likely to at least get a response.

Show you would be the better option than just having a lady wank!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd 'handle' you OP

You'd probably need professional help afterwards though

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I'd 'handle' you OP

You'd probably need professional help afterwards though"

I don't think he was looking to talk on CB though Sapster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right...here goes..

1. No avatar pic. As has already been said, the vast majority would pass you by, without giving you a second glance.

2. 'Can U handle me'...most women here could have you for breakfast, and spit your bones out.

3. You do not have any photos in your profile. Take some selfies. Be creative, and for God's sake, no cock pics, no Sky remotes, no messy backgrounds. They make shite pictures.

4. Your spelling, punctuation and grammar are terrible. As is your syntax.

5. The content of your profile text is childish and immature.

6. You are not verified.

However...

1. Sort your profile out.

3. Join in the forums. But not in a whingy 'why can't I get laid' way. It's boring and off-putting

4. Never forget..a lot of swinging is about the social side. Any play is a bonus. Not the other way around.

5. You are not guarenteed a shag. Even if you are a 5* gold supporter.

Wow

1) you could charge for this spot on advice

2) ERm what's a Syntax

3) please don't give too much feedback on my profile

Great post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You joined 7 days ago. You have a silhouette as a profile pic, no pics in profile, crap write up that comes across lazy.

And you're really wondering why you're getting no replies??

Uhuh, I'm not lazy just don't know what to write exactly, pic is visible for friends only? Uhuh. I've seen more crappier write up on here Hun."

Arrogance is not an attractive virtue.

It is never about physical age, but always about mental age.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You joined 7 days ago. You have a silhouette as a profile pic, no pics in profile, crap write up that comes across lazy.

And you're really wondering why you're getting no replies??

Uhuh, I'm not lazy just don't know what to write exactly, pic is visible for friends only? Uhuh. I've seen more crappier write up on here Hun.

Arrogance is not an attractive virtue.

It is never about physical age, but always about mental age....."

Not being arrogant. Lol. Just pointing out (see. More crappier writing) it might not be physical age but definitely physical appearance for most.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd 'handle' you OP

You'd probably need professional help afterwards though"

I doubt that very much Hun.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"I'd 'handle' you OP

You'd probably need professional help afterwards though

I doubt that very much Hun.

Please OP swallow your ego I’m younger than you and I have a few veris it has both to do with your age but how you present yourself. Listen to the advice you are given and tak heed of it.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"I'd 'handle' you OP

You'd probably need professional help afterwards though

I doubt that very much Hun.

Please OP swallow your ego I’m younger than you and I have a few veris it has both to do with your age but how you present yourself. Listen to the advice you are given and tak heed of it. "

Also I agree with the other your bio does come across as immature and so does your status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a profile picture and change your bio

You’d like to meet somewhere or be picked up - what’s this about? Fair enough you can’t accommodate but says you can travel yet you’re asking to be picked up! Really!

You’re 1 single bloke out of how many - what makes you special and why would anyone want to pick you up even if you did pay for fuel when there are a lot of guys who’d travel mileage just for a meet (even social meet) DID YOU GET THAT! .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two days after your original post OP, still no pics on your account to view....

Dunno why people really bother to help!

Think I'll report theses whinging posts in future and see if admin could minimise them to one a week... Lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Two days after your original post OP, still no pics on your account to view....

Dunno why people really bother to help!

Think I'll report theses whinging posts in future and see if admin could minimise them to one a week... Lol

Anyone'd think the OP had asked for advice from people who might be well placed to help him

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Two days after your original post OP, still no pics on your account to view....

Dunno why people really bother to help!

Think I'll report theses whinging posts in future and see if admin could minimise them to one a week... Lol

Anyone'd think the OP had asked for advice from people who might be well placed to help him

We have given advice but the op isn’t listening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two days after your original post OP, still no pics on your account to view....

Dunno why people really bother to help!

Think I'll report theses whinging posts in future and see if admin could minimise them to one a week... Lol

Anyone'd think the OP had asked for advice from people who might be well placed to help him

We have given advice but the op isn’t listening "

Would seem the lights are on but nobody’s home lol

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By *urveLurverMan
over a year ago

Skyview

"Right...here goes..

1. No avatar pic. As has already been said, the vast majority would pass you by, without giving you a second glance.

2. 'Can U handle me'...most women here could have you for breakfast, and spit your bones out.

3. You do not have any photos in your profile. Take some selfies. Be creative, and for God's sake, no cock pics, no Sky remotes, no messy backgrounds. They make shite pictures.

4. Your spelling, punctuation and grammar are terrible. As is your syntax.

5. The content of your profile text is childish and immature.

6. You are not verified.

However...

1. Sort your profile out.

3. Join in the forums. But not in a whingy 'why can't I get laid' way. It's boring and off-putting

4. Never forget..a lot of swinging is about the social side. Any play is a bonus. Not the other way around.

5. You are not guarenteed a shag. Even if you are a 5* gold supporter.

"
Pure gold advice. Lisa, you are a star.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Two days after your original post OP, still no pics on your account to view....

Dunno why people really bother to help!

Think I'll report theses whinging posts in future and see if admin could minimise them to one a week... Lol

Anyone'd think the OP had asked for advice from people who might be well placed to help him

We have given advice but the op isn’t listening

Would seem the lights are on but nobody’s home lol

Oh they're home, they're just too busy wanking to come to the door

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Two days after your original post OP, still no pics on your account to view....

Dunno why people really bother to help!

Think I'll report theses whinging posts in future and see if admin could minimise them to one a week... Lol

Anyone'd think the OP had asked for advice from people who might be well placed to help him

We have given advice but the op isn’t listening "

I know, that was my point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You joined 7 days ago. You have a silhouette as a profile pic, no pics in profile, crap write up that comes across lazy.

And you're really wondering why you're getting no replies??

Uhuh, I'm not lazy just don't know what to write exactly, pic is visible for friends only? Uhuh. I've seen more crappier write up on here Hun."

(shudder) I'm not your Hun.

Your profile is bland, boring, immature sounding and without any redeeming qualities.

You asked for advice, it's been given, and you've chosen to ignore it.

Don't be surprised when it gets to 6 months down the line you still haven't had a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right...here goes..

1. No avatar pic. As has already been said, the vast majority would pass you by, without giving you a second glance.

2. 'Can U handle me'...most women here could have you for breakfast, and spit your bones out.

3. You do not have any photos in your profile. Take some selfies. Be creative, and for God's sake, no cock pics, no Sky remotes, no messy backgrounds. They make shite pictures.

4. Your spelling, punctuation and grammar are terrible. As is your syntax.

5. The content of your profile text is childish and immature.

6. You are not verified.

However...

1. Sort your profile out.

3. Join in the forums. But not in a whingy 'why can't I get laid' way. It's boring and off-putting

4. Never forget..a lot of swinging is about the social side. Any play is a bonus. Not the other way around.

5. You are not guarenteed a shag. Even if you are a 5* gold supporter.

Great advice x

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Right...here goes..

1. No avatar pic. As has already been said, the vast majority would pass you by, without giving you a second glance.

2. 'Can U handle me'...most women here could have you for breakfast, and spit your bones out.

3. You do not have any photos in your profile. Take some selfies. Be creative, and for God's sake, no cock pics, no Sky remotes, no messy backgrounds. They make shite pictures.

4. Your spelling, punctuation and grammar are terrible. As is your syntax.

5. The content of your profile text is childish and immature.

6. You are not verified.

However...

1. Sort your profile out.

3. Join in the forums. But not in a whingy 'why can't I get laid' way. It's boring and off-putting

4. Never forget..a lot of swinging is about the social side. Any play is a bonus. Not the other way around.

5. You are not guarenteed a shag. Even if you are a 5* gold supporter.

"
'Can U handle me'...most women here could have you for breakfast, and spit your bones out.That is so true on here.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

“not looking for quickies or relationships at this stage“

What is the third option?

You need to look at the numbers.

The number of single men.

The number of couples (looking for single men)

The number of single women.

Your profile seems to be "I'm here, come and get me“

So while your revised profile is not actually offensive, it's still contains no actual information about you, and why somebody should read and respond to your messages.

Good luck

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