FabSwingers.com forum: Cant get a meet!! Why??

By *heTangerineDream OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've been on this site for about 4 or 5 months now and not one woman has been interested in meeting up with me... I'm brand new to this type of stuff so I'm struggling to find a reason why... I will prove everything anyone wants that it's me. I need someone to introduce me to this shit and get me some activity coz I'm getting bored and I'm gunna give up on it soon coz I dont struggle anywhere apart from on this site

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Your grammar is poor, spelling is terrible, you explain little as to what you are offering or looking for, you swear in your text.

Now that’s fine if your looking for a woman called fuckmeinthearsesidewaysbarebackaftertherugbyteamhasbeenhere or someone similar!

Use spell check, re write your profile and join the queue!!!

Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go weak at the knees for a ginger as of late. However, as mentioned above, your profile could do with being changed.

The text entered stinks of negativity. It doesn't particularly incite interest. This is a shame, as you have a good selection of pics!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Your profile and this thread tells me all I need to know about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't struggle anywhere apart from this site ?

Then leave.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't struggle anywhere apart from here, why are you actually here?

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By *ida8780Couple
over a year ago

any town

Change the grammar (spell check) get rid of the bad language and delete the picture with the crappy snap chat filter.. it’s childish looking on an adult site.

Good luck though op

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Get rid of the bit about men ,sounds whiny.You can use filters to block them.

Also the snap chat filter should go

Update what you are offering a meet op,there are so many men to pick from.

Also try an organised social event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the above, plus Snapchat filters? Are you a teenage girl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get the same issue everything turns on like Phillips hand jobs and mechical animals in the dark , no one shows or put out quite boring really

I end up giving up by 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on this site for about 4 or 5 months now and not one woman has been interested in meeting up with me... I'm brand new to this type of stuff so I'm struggling to find a reason why... I will prove everything anyone wants that it's me. I need someone to introduce me to this shit and get me some activity coz I'm getting bored and I'm gunna give up on it soon coz I dont struggle anywhere apart from on this site "

The grammer and your frustration is really bad for a site like this. Try and be upbeat, positive and a little humour wouldn't go a miss. It is all about the waiting game, but clubs, events and socials should also be considered.

I wish you luck x Pebbs

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By *astings SocialWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Good photos apart from filtered one.

Take off about men and change your filters

Have a look for a social to attend as you'll get verifications as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i need someone to introduce me to this shit "

if its shit just leave

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By *osta del sol KinkytimesMan
over a year ago

Campanillas, Spain

I agree with most of the comments your grammar and Snapchat pic makes you look immature. Try going to a swinging club and get to know people it's great to break the ice and a good way to get veris which also help your profile.

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over a year ago

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By *heTangerineDream OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Done x

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By *anandLeia72Couple
over a year ago

St. Helens

You've got choir instead of chore. I guess that's what you mean though. Pics are good, don't like the bit about the ex. Doesn't need to be there and a comes across a bit bitchy.

Good luck.

Leia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well bugger me sideways, a poster who’s actually listened to feedback - we’ll done OP

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By *ida8780Couple
over a year ago

any town

Not quite. Use filters to block incoming messages from men and take out everything about other men and how you are not gay. It comes across as homophobia. Take out about the ex being a prude (not anyone’s business) it’s irrelevant. Pictures all good. Stand out from the rest op.

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By *heTangerineDream OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've changed it all x

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By *heTangerineDream OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

To try new things with open minded people with not emotions or feelings involved... not dating, I dont want a relationship. Why is everyone giving me grief here like?

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By *heTangerineDream OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I am not homophobic. I don't wanna block people they could be wanting to speak to me about something that could be of use. So I'm leaving it open or I wouldn't get any messages what so ever Haha only gay men who message me so i always respond respectfully and always be nice. Sorry about me x

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP I don’t think this opening on your thread will help you find what you’re looking for. It’s negative, littered with spelling and grammatical errors and very negative which will turn off the Fab ladies.

Take a look at successful Fab Male profiles for some tips and then think about how to find what you want.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Do not rely on any site (or on any site) to have a sex life, then you won't care how long you have been on it. Just enjoy life and consider this a nice extra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a lot of vick and soarrow barrow in my photos slit it’s hard cause you state your straight and it gets to me even thou I should take it as a compliment.

It’s weird one I got a Eddie murmur you date planned for tonight but don’t know if it’s worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had a lot of vick and soarrow barrow in my photos slit it’s hard cause you state your straight and it gets to me even thou I should take it as a compliment.

It’s weird one I got a Eddie murmur you date planned for tonight but don’t know if it’s worth it"

Have you been on the piss all day?

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"To try new things with open minded people with not emotions or feelings involved... not dating, I dont want a relationship. Why is everyone giving me grief here like? "
U asked for the forum's opinion u arent getting grief ur getting the truth, if u dont like what the forum says dont ask for advice!

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By *am DavisMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Hey Jessica jamieson

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had a lot of vick and soarrow barrow in my photos slit it’s hard cause you state your straight and it gets to me even thou I should take it as a compliment.

It’s weird one I got a Eddie murmur you date planned for tonight but don’t know if it’s worth it"

Wtf

haha!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's an Eddie murmur

is it slang for something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry was pretty much on the back of a whale bone cross crocodile Dundee away at faith rovers, I had my first swing last night all good long fight .... 4 pigs and a transit van

Seem like people sell the fake there got it in them like it’s Facebook or swingers clubs continually over and over again .... don’t get me wrong I got no issue eating out takeaways most nights but come on sausages like pork farmers

No drink here t total , should get one. Down me and cigarettes

Had one like I said moved through

You smoke

You breath smells weird !?

eat some Doritos on the way here ....

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over a year ago

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sorry was pretty much on the back of a whale bone cross crocodile Dundee away at faith rovers, I had my first swing last night all good long fight .... 4 pigs and a transit van

No drink here t total , should get one. Down me and cigarettes

Had one like I said moved through

You smoke

You breath smells weird !?

eat some Doritos on the way here ....

Is English your second language?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry was pretty much on the back of a whale bone cross crocodile Dundee away at faith rovers, I had my first swing last night all good long fight .... 4 pigs and a transit van

No drink here t total , should get one. Down me and cigarettes

Had one like I said moved through

You smoke

You breath smells weird !?

eat some Doritos on the way here ....

Eh?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Op, you're clearly a good looking guy who is normally lucky with the ladies. I would use this site purely to advertise which club nights and socials you will be attending (using the meets function and status updates)and leave it at that.

In our experience, people are far more likely to interact with you in person than online. Participate meaningfully in forum discussions, put yourself down as going to some events on the various club event threads and just generally be visible. If you tick someone's boxes then they'll contact you. Otherwise you're just a small voice in a crowd on here, no matter how good your profile is.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry was pretty much on the back of a whale bone cross crocodile Dundee away at faith rovers, I had my first swing last night all good long fight .... 4 pigs and a transit van

No drink here t total , should get one. Down me and cigarettes

Had one like I said moved through

You smoke

You breath smells weird !?

eat some Doritos on the way here ....

Is English your second language?"

I’m not even sure that it’s his second language, 4th or 5th perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do t need seconds when I’m double backing

Thank you

7ths and 6 the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've changed it all x"

Didn't see your profile from before the change but I think it looks nice enough now.

Good Luck

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham

"I've changed it all x

Didn't see your profile from before the change but I think it looks nice enough now.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do t need seconds when I’m double backing

Thank you

7ths and 6 the "

Maybe you should take some water with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fine as needle but as short as an hair .

Face of sepantine and life full of hair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fine as needle but as short as an hair .

Face of sepantine and life full of hair

Can anyone here translate pissed up jibberish into English for me, please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont expect to get a meet here. This is normal.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I have had a lot of vick and soarrow barrow in my photos slit it’s hard cause you state your straight and it gets to me even thou I should take it as a compliment.

It’s weird one I got a Eddie murmur you date planned for tonight but don’t know if it’s worth it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think grammar has anything to do with it..people can still get what your saying. i dont think your profile description is that bad..your on here for sex the same as everybody else not to look at spelling and just be patient...maybe you might be a bit picky..i know me and my partner are..good luck

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By *ida8780Couple
over a year ago

any town

"I dont think grammar has anything to do with it..people can still get what your saying. i dont think your profile description is that bad..your on here for sex the same as everybody else not to look at spelling and just be patient...maybe you might be a bit picky..i know me and my partner are..good luck"

He changed his grammar. It wasn’t great before that to be honest. Besides it seems he blocked profiles after not liking the advice he was given on here.

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By *acksaw92Man
over a year ago

London

I have a similar problem,cannot get any meets is it me or is my profile just not good enough.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I have a similar problem,cannot get any meets is it me or is my profile just not good enough."
it’s your profile

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By *heTangerineDream OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Still nothing... wanna break me in? See me into this world of sex which no one wants to be involved in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be fooled. this is an elite society not just anyone gets initiated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just kidding. you gotta worship the pussy here tho

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By *heTangerineDream OP Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I didn't block anyone love! Why would I do that? What exactly is it your getting at? If I have blocked anyone it's nothing to do with that forum or any response I got, i took it on board and changed 90% of my profile 2 or 3 times.

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over a year ago

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By *umKinkwithUsCouple
over a year ago

Camberley

"I didn't block anyone love! Why would I do that? What exactly is it your getting at? If I have blocked anyone it's nothing to do with that forum or any response I got, i took it on board and changed 90% of my profile 2 or 3 times."

Profile and pics look fine.

Next step is to go to a few social events or club nights and get some verifications. Good luck.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Still nothing... wanna break me in? See me into this world of sex which no one wants to be involved in x"

Actually, plenty of us are having sex here. Your profile is still very negative. Smacks of being homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still nothing... wanna break me in? See me into this world of sex which no one wants to be involved in x

Actually, plenty of us are having sex here. Your profile is still very negative. Smacks of being homophobic. "
tell him to read your help for newbies thread it helped me

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Under 30 and you'll struggle. Homophobia turns me off. If you get messages you don't like, delete them, block the senders if necessary, or change your message filters. (honestly, people who send messages for things you don't want have rarely read your profile anyway. Saying you're not gay/ the mmf stuff is lose-lose. Women like me will be put off, and you'll get the messages anyway)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Change the few lines about men and gay to something more positive about you - it's off-putting.

Likewise, you'd be helped by creating more specifics about what you offer, about you and what you would like. I verify people I meet, it doesn't have to be about a sexual meet.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Still nothing... wanna break me in? See me into this world of sex which no one wants to be involved in x

Actually, plenty of us are having sex here. Your profile is still very negative. Smacks of being homophobic. tell him to read your help for newbies thread it helped me

I'm glad it did x

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By *ayo1000Man
over a year ago

liversedge

Your kidding yourself if you think it was going to be easy on here. Personally and persistence is what's needs and skin like a rihno.

Your outnumbered a 1000 to 1 messages need to stand out mate it is so hard but so worth it when things come together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still nothing... wanna break me in? See me into this world of sex which no one wants to be involved in x

Actually, plenty of us are having sex here. Your profile is still very negative. Smacks of being homophobic. tell him to read your help for newbies thread it helped me

I'm glad it did x"
it did I have to beat them off now with the Ops cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what makes me laugh about people I've been on here on and off for two years I have been blocked by so many people and this is now going to make me sound like a tit but when I first started out on here my first 4 5 months I was getting nowhere but then when you mature a little bit when you get to know why people are on here and what they actually are looking for then it helps this guy who says that he has no trouble anywhere else then it's quite simple leave the website you need to respect women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you don't struggle anywhere apart from here, why are you actually here?"

Exactly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So FAB is for people who struggle in real life? I don't think so

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Any hint of negativity is off-putting. “I am not gay” are you really so sexually insecure? Confident men can cope with messages fabs etc from men. Use the filters. Man up.

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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago

London & New Brighton

Your profiles cool man, just need to chill.

Remember there's alot of fakes here, take your time, dont have over expectations, good things happen least when you expect them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is so true! Time wasters. Men pretending to be female. Arrangements made to meet. Then disappear??

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

I shouldn't worry too much about it. No different to all the other single men here. You tire of it after a while and get fab fatigue.

On a plus side,people talk on fab more than anywhere else. Shows how sociable we all are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go weak at the knees for a ginger as of late. However, as mentioned above, your profile could do with being changed.

The text entered stinks of negativity. It doesn't particularly incite interest. This is a shame, as you have a good selection of pics! "
i would agree nice photos Tex need change a little other than that its okay as you seem to make friends so far

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

"This is so true! Time wasters. Men pretending to be female. Arrangements made to meet. Then disappear??"

There's one I've just spotted HORNYCUMMDUMMP um...nooo thx

I think we've all had that.

Better still, the couples profile that's actually a man. Sneaky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think getting out to local swingers socials and swingers clubs is a good start.

Couples and single ladies get loads of messages every day from single men so it's hard to stand out.

By going to clubs you can chat and people can get to know you. You can also get verifies even if you don't play. These help to show your genuine.

The I'm not gay and men getting hard comment does come across a little homophobic so you may want to remove that. Your profile says straight anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't get a meet here oh my well what can I say........ It's not good....... These women need men..... Not for long but anything is better than nothing for the. ' entitled '

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

You need good photos and a lot of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then your fine tinder has another successful connection. Follow your success trail and have fun. This is a swinging site, which in my opinion only, means respecting people, treating them like human beings who have choices and wanting something more than what tinder has to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the comments about not being gay...there’s 2 of your short profile gone! Simply stating women/couples in your people you are interested in, shows you don’t want men, so mentioning it again and again shows traces of homophobia.

There’s thousands of guys on here, so you need to stand out, so your profile, pics and messsges need to be on point. It’s a house of cards....fail at one and you lose your chance.

You’ve clearly got a body that you’ve worked hard for but your pics suggest that that is all you thought you would need to be fighting them off.

You’ve jumped on people trying to help you, after you asked for help....says more about you than any profile text. Respect everyone and they’ll respect you back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Stop begging like a wino at a Train station.

Put some work into it, you have had more than enough help, it’s now down to you, yes you to take on the advice and go forth and fornicate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Want my advice nuke the profile start again and this time be more positive describe what you're looking for advertise yourself in a better light get rid of the filter pic and most of all join in on the forums you'll get more interest if you chat to members and most of all be friendly take the criticism in a positive way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find it hard here. Get used to it. If you want fun then go to Amsterdam.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

It’s just the way the cookie crumbles on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must realise there are probably 50 single males for every couple and 500 males for every single woman !

Having said that , it's sometimes hard to get interaction with even what looks like a perfect match and the tricky bit is guessing why ?

Still, can't complain , I met one of the nicest girls ever on here as well as a few amazing couples .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jus give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I may or may not get a meet but it to 3 reason which are I am a man who cannot accommodate and do not have any British experiences yet It’s just the way the cookie crumbles on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I may or may not get a meet but it to 3 reason which are I am a man who cannot accommodate and do not have any British experiences yet It’s just the way the cookie crumbles on this site

That’s only two reasons....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I may or may not get a meet but it to 3 reason which are I am a man who cannot accommodate and do not have any British experiences yet It’s just the way the cookie crumbles on this site

That’s only two reasons.... "
one is i male two is cannot accommodate three no British experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I may or may not get a meet but it to 3 reason which are I am a man who cannot accommodate and do not have any British experiences yet It’s just the way the cookie crumbles on this site

That’s only two reasons.... one is i male two is cannot accommodate three no British experience

Our apologies, not sure we agree with your reasons, but each to their own.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I know I may or may not get a meet but it to 3 reason which are I am a man who cannot accommodate and do not have any British experiences yet It’s just the way the cookie crumbles on this site

That’s only two reasons.... one is i male two is cannot accommodate three no British experience

Do you really think you can’t get a meet because you’ve not had sex in this country?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your grammar is poor, spelling is terrible, you explain little as to what you are offering or looking for, you swear in your text.

Now that’s fine if your looking for a woman called fuckmeinthearsesidewaysbarebackaftertherugbyteamhasbeenhere or someone similar!

Use spell check, re write your profile and join the queue!!!

Hope that helps.

It's a well known fact nothing moistens panties like good grammar and spelling.

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By *ounds like funCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Yeah it's your profile.

Coming from the male half of a married couple who have used the services of a single male before.

Your photos are really good but why on earth would you say your not gay. It already says that on your description. You come over as a homophobic cave man. I'm surprised you have actually met anyone.

Do your self a favour and rewrite your profile and never swear on fab again. You have not sold your self very well up to now. Start again!

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