FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all!

I've been keeping an eye on the scene and chatting to people for a while now but haven't used the site to meet anyone. I'm now looking to start meeting but can't seem to get a reply from any ladies on here.

Would anyone like to advise on what I might be doing wrong? Does my profile need changing?

Just some advice from the more experienced Fabbers would be great

Thanks guys x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your two pics are both very similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your two pics are both very similar."

and its virtually impossible to glean anything from them...profile text is a bit boring to be honest, doesnt really say much about you, what you enjoy etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your two pics are both very similar.

and its virtually impossible to glean anything from them...profile text is a bit boring to be honest, doesnt really say much about you, what you enjoy etc"

Ok thanks for the feedback and taking the time to look. I'll try and make it a bit more exciting x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your two pics are both very similar."

Thanks for the feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your phone looks quite modern so maybe it takes timer pics?

If so, I’d suggest taking some different pics without having the camera right in the middle of the pic...would open up a variety of pics you can take.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

You get out what you put in.

Look at planning your pictures

Look at making your text something that your targets would find intriguing, something that invites them to want to know more.

Get yourself noticed, go to a club, speak to people with no expectation of sex. Don't follow people around with your dick in your hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics aren't great.

I assure you if there's nothing about your pics or profile that instantly grabs attention, no one is going to message you to ask to see more, or know anymore.

All I know from reading your profile is you like women whoook after themselves.

There are many, many threads giving profile advice. I suggest doing a forum search, read them, and apply them. Also look at the profiles of guys on here who are meeting successfully and compare your profile to their's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*who. This bloody phone is driving me mad.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Think honestly what you're looking for and what you're offering. I say that because your scant profile is inconsistent: you can't like all body types then state women who look after themselves. Be honest, if you prefer gym toned say: you'll get more response being honest rather than trying to be all inclusive.

Add a better selection of pictures and make sure the background is clear...you want to be the focus not an untidy room.

Your age will be a disadvantage so don't make it more difficult for yourself.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are part of the largest demographic (single men) looking to meet the smallest demographic (single women).

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You get out what you put in.

Look at planning your pictures

Look at making your text something that your targets would find intriguing, something that invites them to want to know more.

Get yourself noticed, go to a club, speak to people with no expectation of sex. Don't follow people around with your dick in your hand."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your two pics are both very similar."

Only one pic now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pic isn’t great, and your blurb is a bit boring too.

There are a lot of men on here. You wouldn’t stand out for me.

Better lighting on body pic... different angles, cock pick, maybe bum, if you’ve a nice one, face if you’re comfortable with that. But more than one!!!

Perhaps show some personality in the blurb?! Talk about your interests maybe...

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the feed back guys, sorry about the pics. I'll take some better ones. I'm obviously not very good at this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all!

Would anyone like to advise on what I might be doing wrong? Does my profile need changing?

Just some advice from the more experienced Fabbers would be great

Thanks guys x"
Be perfect in every way or quit now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi not having any luck

any advice on my profile and how I could improve it ??

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Hi not having any luck

any advice on my profile and how I could improve it ?? "

Next time start your own thread and don't gatecrash someone else's!. I looked at your profile, saw 4 dick pics and didn't bother looking any further. If the only good bit about you is your cock, then ladies are not impressed.

We want to see a person and not just the cock.

Search for profile advise threads, take a variety of photos and read your profile and see if you were a female, does this person sound interesting and would I like to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get what I’m doing wrong really either other than maybe not being attractive enough in pics.

I have pics of my face and no dick pics or anything but still no replies from anyone.

Tbh I think just about every single women on this site is hot and to me it’s jus about sexy in itself to meet through something like this an I thought women would maybe think the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also as an added point having scrolled up..

I can see why the guys above posting pictures of there dicks don’t get anywhere.

I get that - totally.

But what exactly should you give other than real pictures, get verified, be honest and say what you mean?

It’s not like this is for dating or whatever, I thought everyone was after some fun.

What am I missing?

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Also as an added point having scrolled up..

I can see why the guys above posting pictures of there dicks don’t get anywhere.

I get that - totally.

But what exactly should you give other than real pictures, get verified, be honest and say what you mean?

It’s not like this is for dating or whatever, I thought everyone was after some fun.

What am I missing?

You need an interesting profile that makes you stand out.

What text you have and your post here make it sound like you expect it to be easy. There are hundreds and hundreds of guys with similar profiles. Women can take their pick and, guess what, they generally want a lot more than to know a guy owns a penis and is horny.

Also, as Lizzie said only a few minutes before you posted - hijacking threads is seen as impolite (not just on this site, but online generally).

You have to be very patient on here and enjoy becoming part of the community. Building a reputation as a decent guy by contributing to the site is far more likely to stand you in good stead. Expecting it to be easy because everyone is here for sex is way, way off the mark.

HTH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for your reply.

I didn’t mean to imply it would be ‘easy’ all I mean is that if someone likes the person and they are genuine then surely that’s it?

To me 90% of the profiles seem fake.

I didn’t mean to hijack the thread and I did read the post above but I thought it was referencing an earlier reply and not everyone responding to the topic. Just wasn’t sure where else to post my response - so sorry for that ??

I will try and make a good profile text but it’s just hard knowing what the other side look for here, just being direct maybe isn’t the right thing to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also as an added point having scrolled up..

I can see why the guys above posting pictures of there dicks don’t get anywhere.

I get that - totally.

But what exactly should you give other than real pictures, get verified, be honest and say what you mean?

It’s not like this is for dating or whatever, I thought everyone was after some fun.

What am I missing?

You need an interesting profile that makes you stand out.

Also, as Lizzie said only a few minutes before you posted - hijacking threads is seen as impolite (not just on this site, but online generally).

HTH

And also i forgot to say I don’t mean to assume everyone is here for sex but I did assume that was an obvious goal from conversations here, what with the way the site is set up and the profiles both women’s and men’s.

Not meaning to imply that it is ‘easy’ or whatever though.

If someone messages me and nothing comes of it then that’s fine I just meant to ask what to do so people will start to message me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s a numbers game - there are lots of men and fewer women, so women can be picky. Very picky, fussy and choosy. So they choose, inter alia, the best looking men, the profiles that are interesting and intriguing and funny and show off some character and personality, good photos, etc etc. Then there is sexuality, gender, age, location, body size, hair colour, facial hair.....a million reasons.

My advice is don’t try to be attractive to all. If you try, you won’t be attractive to anyone. Be yourself. That way you’ll be unique and you’ll stand out. If you stand out, you get chosen. Simples.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hi not having any luck

any advice on my profile and how I could improve it ?? "

It’s very boring, as are your photos. Couldn’t you be a bit more imaginative that 4 photos of your cock? Look at the top fabbed photos of men and their cocks. If you can compete with them, fine and dandy, if you can’t then don’t.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks for your reply.

I didn’t mean to imply it would be ‘easy’ all I mean is that if someone likes the person and they are genuine then surely that’s it?

To me 90% of the profiles seem fake.

I will try and make a good profile text but it’s just hard knowing what the other side look for here, just being direct maybe isn’t the right thing to do?

Xx"

Interesting statistics.

So which ones look fake to you on this thread?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Thanks for all the feed back guys, sorry about the pics. I'll take some better ones. I'm obviously not very good at this

You can improve if you’re willing to listen and act on advice given.

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