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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know this is an ongoing circle in the forums of late.

I have taken advice from the community but nobody seems interested in my profile.

What impression do you get from my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry dude cant be arsed il lrave it to the lasses im tired

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Your profile makes you seem like a nice guy.

Unfortunately some of your previous forums posts contradict this somewhat.

Luckily for you OP only a small proportion if fab members use the forums so it shouldn't have too much of a negative impact for you.

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"I know this is an ongoing circle in the forums of late."

But you’re going to crack on with another carbon copy thread, regardless? Mate, give it a rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile makes you seem like a nice guy.

Unfortunately some of your previous forums posts contradict this somewhat.

Luckily for you OP only a small proportion if fab members use the forums so it shouldn't have too much of a negative impact for you."

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Out of interest, OP, since you have told us you object to socials because ‘that’s not what NSA is about’, what’s going to be happening when a lady comes to ‘chill’ at yours and you’re waiting to ‘see what happens’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of interest, OP, since you have told us you object to socials because ‘that’s not what NSA is about’, what’s going to be happening when a lady comes to ‘chill’ at yours and you’re waiting to ‘see what happens’?"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You could expand upon your expertise with couples, which you state you're interested in meeting.

Overall, you know yourself better than we do, so just be honest and open, so that you and prospective partners get what you expect and want.

Consider adding more photos, possibly taken by someone else, including your face, as many will fond that a draw, depending on how you look.

It could be worth adding more info on any specifics, such as if you have meet flexibility or not. Anything that helps narrow down people to best matched is good

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Your profile makes you seem like a nice guy.

Unfortunately some of your previous forums posts contradict this somewhat.

Luckily for you OP only a small proportion if fab members use the forums so it shouldn't have too much of a negative impact for you."

I think you've hit the nail on the head there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this is an ongoing circle in the forums of late.

I have taken advice from the community but nobody seems interested in my profile.

What impression do you get from my profile? "

Your profile reads ok but i would be more put off by your recent spate of forum posts... they dont show you in a good light tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this is an ongoing circle in the forums of late.

But you’re going to crack on with another carbon copy thread, regardless? Mate, give it a rest."

Blimey... what is it with you and your need to isolate comments ... man up and respond to the whole quote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just like de ja vu ....

All over again

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Your profile makes you seem like a nice guy.

Unfortunately some of your previous forums posts contradict this somewhat.

Luckily for you OP only a small proportion if fab members use the forums so it shouldn't have too much of a negative impact for you.

This x10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light. "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light. "

I get that, but all I do is defend myself and people blow it out of proportion like they enjoy being a dick.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"I know this is an ongoing circle in the forums of late.

But you’re going to crack on with another carbon copy thread, regardless? Mate, give it a rest."

Why shouldn't he? It's a request for help from an individual, not like he's asking the 'do women like shaved or smooth guys' etc which will always get the same set of answers depending on who's on the forums that day.

It's pretty obvious what it was going to be, I'm sure you could have easily clicked on by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

I get that, but all I do is defend myself and people blow it out of proportion like they enjoy being a dick. "

Maybe try a different tactic if you are recognising where you seem to be falling down then.

Or don’t.

Just use fab as you wish and reflect your true self as you choose to. There’s no point projecting yourself as someone you aren’t as it would be tricky to maintain when you meet people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this is an ongoing circle in the forums of late.

But you’re going to crack on with another carbon copy thread, regardless? Mate, give it a rest.

It's pretty obvious what it was going to be, I'm sure you could have easily clicked on by. "

Very true x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

I get that, but all I do is defend myself and people blow it out of proportion like they enjoy being a dick.

Maybe try a different tactic if you are recognising where you seem to be falling down then.

Or don’t.

Just use fab as you wish and reflect your true self as you choose to. There’s no point projecting yourself as someone you aren’t as it would be tricky to maintain when you meet people. "

I don't lie about myself as I don't see the point.

I have confidence and can talk casually.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

I get that, but all I do is defend myself and people blow it out of proportion like they enjoy being a dick. "

Sadly its not the people who are coming across as a dick though.

But on a positive note , less than 10% of site users regularly read the forums and fewer than that will know about the green arrowof doom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

I get that, but all I do is defend myself and people blow it out of proportion like they enjoy being a dick.

Maybe try a different tactic if you are recognising where you seem to be falling down then.

Or don’t.

Just use fab as you wish and reflect your true self as you choose to. There’s no point projecting yourself as someone you aren’t as it would be tricky to maintain when you meet people.

I don't lie about myself as I don't see the point.

I have confidence and can talk casually. "

It’s hard work on here but it’s a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles are hard to read into but status's should be self explanatory as is mine tonight . Still i get messages being dubious xx sometimes us girls just want fun xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Profiles are hard to read into but status's should be self explanatory as is mine tonight . Still i get messages being dubious xx sometimes us girls just want fun xx"

Your status reads that you're a lass looking for a laugh.

If a guy does that then he's just a typical fab guy that doesn't care about, anything other than to get his dick wet always. And also you're guaranteed the attention as you're a lass and you're a minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initial response looks really good and sincere x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Initial response looks really good and sincere x"

Why do you think I don't get any messages or replies then?

People don't even bother opening messages. Just go straight to the profile.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light. "

^^ What she said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again. "

OP, you have asked for advice, which has been offered. There are also several other similar threads here, on a daily basis. So you have a choice before you. Either accept the advice offered, or you can carry on whinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue. "

There is no issue it’s just a lot more woman and couples than single men.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue. "

Perhaps you are the issue?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

There is no issue it’s just a lot more woman and couples than single men. "

Ultimately it does come down to basic attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Perhaps you are the issue?"

Maybe. This is what I'm trying to explore on my threads, but everyone just gets bombarded by people that spin words and like to take the piss for no reason.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Initial response looks really good and sincere x

Why do you think I don't get any messages or replies then?

People don't even bother opening messages. Just go straight to the profile. "

Lots dont reply... no reply means they are not interested. They can see the first lines of your message from the yellow box in their inbox so dont need to open it.

There are literally thousands of single men on here... maybe you just dont stand out in a crowd. Its fairly narcissistic to believe you are somehow different and deserve messages.

You have been advised to try a local social just to get yourself known, meet and make a few friends and get verified, you have also been advised that the largest age group on here is 35 to 50 year olds, usually looking for people their own age, you also know how difficult it is for single men on here. In fact I think overall you have had more advice and help on here than any one person ever in the history of forums!

Do you believe that by keep asking the same questions you might find somebody who will tell you something different and that you do want to hear?

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By *ubiousOatcakeMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Blimey... what is it with you and your need to isolate comments ... man up and respond to the whole quote

I could equally ask what it is with others and their inability to make it clear what exactly they’re redponding to.

I’m aware that people lose track of threads when the quotes pile up into massive blocks of text.

‘Man up’? Can you explain what you think is wrong with my approach? Or how ‘manning up’ would address that? Have I quoted anyone out of context?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue. "

Part of the issue might be how you are perceived when you interact in the virtual sphere. Maybe try interacting face to face in the real world and I’m sure your natural charm and personality will win through. (but really do stop being so chippy and lighten up a squeak - advice is advice which you asked for, it’s not a personal attack).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've made a couple of changes to my profile. Would appreciate an opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks like a lot of single guys profiles to be honest, although you do have more detail than most, which gives the reader a good idea of who you are and what you’re looking for and can offer, only thing against you is your age, as a good majority of swingers are twice your age, you may struggle finding those who want to meet some one so young, but, there are those on here that do, so, be patient and best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile reads well and your photos are good. You will likely be attractive to women looking for a gym fit body in a man. As has been said before, your age will be against you and there’s nothing you can do about that. I see you’ve backed down on going for a socials. Are you sure about this? There’s nothing worse than going for a social with a guy who doesn’t really want to be there. On this other hand I guess at least you are being more realistic about how to get nsa sex. Personally I think you are making life difficult for yourself by looking for sex on Fab. I don’t know if things have changed since I were a student 20 years ago, but my memories of uni was one big shag fest. It’s only at my age that I need to bother with Fab.

Mrs

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I've made a couple of changes to my profile. Would appreciate an opinion. "

Your profile is generally fine, I'd lose the whole Daddy/Mommy thing that's just a bit weird and out of place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Initial response looks really good and sincere x

Why do you think I don't get any messages or replies then?

People don't even bother opening messages. Just go straight to the profile.

Lots dont reply... no reply means they are not interested. They can see the first lines of your message from the yellow box in their inbox so dont need to open it.

There are literally thousands of single men on here... maybe you just dont stand out in a crowd. Its fairly narcissistic to believe you are somehow different and deserve messages.

Do you believe that by keep asking the same questions you might find somebody who will tell you something different and that you do want to hear?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue. "

Do you have a mirror?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

I get that, but all I do is defend myself and people blow it out of proportion like they enjoy being a dick. "

I think you come across fine. Many other people are much worse when they hound you, trying to get you to bite.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've made a couple of changes to my profile. Would appreciate an opinion.

Your profile is generally fine, I'd lose the whole Daddy/Mommy thing that's just a bit weird and out of place. "

Agree, it's bizarre and off-putting

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I've made a couple of changes to my profile. Would appreciate an opinion.

Your profile is generally fine, I'd lose the whole Daddy/Mommy thing that's just a bit weird and out of place.

Agree, it's bizarre and off-putting "

I agree too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Do you have a mirror?"

Why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal"

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation. "

Jumping the gun a wee bit IMO. Enjoy what situation, exactly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation. "

You should start with a compliment to whoever you are messaging..

I hate when they start off all about the sender who then adds something about the reciever as an afterthought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've made a couple of changes to my profile. Would appreciate an opinion.

Your profile is generally fine, I'd lose the whole Daddy/Mommy thing that's just a bit weird and out of place. "

I didn't read beyond that. Don't see the point of it or the humour in it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've taken it out.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Do you have a mirror?

Why? "

In many Japanese houses and certainly their temples they have a Kamiza, or spirit shelf.

On the Kamiza sits a Kamidana or spirit house, its like a little wooden temple.

When you have a problem the answer to that problem can be found by looking inside the temple.

When you open the doors and peer inside there will be a mirror facing out, so the second you look inside for an answer, its there, right in your face.

This is true for all of us.

I've not looked at your profile, my advice would be of no benefit to you, I am not your target audience.

Even if you took any advice offered by anyone here, you would be writing someone elses profile, not yours. And of course, what one person likes, others will not. You will never write a profile that appeals to everyone.

Profile advice has little value IMHO.

As many have said, your Forum presence may help people determine whether or not to interact with you.

As many have said, the Forum readership is a very small part of the whole community.

As you yourself said earlier, if its such a small part of the community, it doesn't matter. Which begs the question, why keep asking?

My two pence spent.

Good luck, I hope fab works out for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation.

You should start with a compliment to whoever you are messaging..

I hate when they start off all about the sender who then adds something about the reciever as an afterthought

I have said that the woman is cute and compliment something about her.

Doesn't get anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Do you have a mirror?

Why?

In many Japanese houses and certainly their temples they have a Kamiza, or spirit shelf.

On the Kamiza sits a Kamidana or spirit house, its like a little wooden temple.

When you have a problem the answer to that problem can be found by looking inside the temple.

When you open the doors and peer inside there will be a mirror facing out, so the second you look inside for an answer, its there, right in your face.

This is true for all of us.

I've not looked at your profile, my advice would be of no benefit to you, I am not your target audience.

Profile advice has little value IMHO.

As many have said, your Forum presence may help people determine whether or not to interact with you.

As many have said, the Forum readership is a very small part of the whole community.

As you yourself said earlier, if its such a small part of the community, it doesn't matter. Which begs the question, why keep asking?

My two pence spent.

Good luck, I hope fab works out for you.

You’re so full of wisdom

But I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation.

You should start with a compliment to whoever you are messaging..

I hate when they start off all about the sender who then adds something about the reciever as an afterthought

I have said that the woman is cute and compliment something about her.

Doesn't get anywhere. "

Probably because it's generic and vague and you could call just about anyone cute

Ad messages should give a recipient a reason to reply. And that;s what so difficult about them

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

I fear you will have many more threads/posts in the forums, and with each one make it a little harder for yourself on Fab. You do not come across well on the forums, just my opinion(other opinion's are available). You can ignore that, you can try to address it, you can....well do as you please. Ultimately that is your decision, no skin of my nose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation.

You should start with a compliment to whoever you are messaging..

I hate when they start off all about the sender who then adds something about the reciever as an afterthought

I have said that the woman is cute and compliment something about her.

Doesn't get anywhere.

Probably because it's generic and vague and you could call just about anyone cute

Ad messages should give a recipient a reason to reply. And that;s what so difficult about them"

Its not like I'm gonna say that the lass is gorgeous and her ass would be amazing to slap.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Do you have a mirror?

Why?

In many Japanese houses and certainly their temples they have a Kamiza, or spirit shelf.

On the Kamiza sits a Kamidana or spirit house, its like a little wooden temple.

When you have a problem the answer to that problem can be found by looking inside the temple.

When you open the doors and peer inside there will be a mirror facing out, so the second you look inside for an answer, its there, right in your face.

This is true for all of us.

I've not looked at your profile, my advice would be of no benefit to you, I am not your target audience.

Profile advice has little value IMHO.

As many have said, your Forum presence may help people determine whether or not to interact with you.

As many have said, the Forum readership is a very small part of the whole community.

As you yourself said earlier, if its such a small part of the community, it doesn't matter. Which begs the question, why keep asking?

My two pence spent.

Good luck, I hope fab works out for you.

You’re so full of wisdom

But I agree "

Wisdom comes with age........

I'm not really the 21 it says on my profile.

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over a year ago

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation.

You should start with a compliment to whoever you are messaging..

I hate when they start off all about the sender who then adds something about the reciever as an afterthought

I have said that the woman is cute and compliment something about her.

Doesn't get anywhere.

Probably because it's generic and vague and you could call just about anyone cute

Ad messages should give a recipient a reason to reply. And that;s what so difficult about them

Its not like I'm gonna say that the lass is gorgeous and her ass would be amazing to slap. "

Was I suggesting that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Do you have a mirror?

Why?

In many Japanese houses and certainly their temples they have a Kamiza, or spirit shelf.

On the Kamiza sits a Kamidana or spirit house, its like a little wooden temple.

When you have a problem the answer to that problem can be found by looking inside the temple.

When you open the doors and peer inside there will be a mirror facing out, so the second you look inside for an answer, its there, right in your face.

This is true for all of us.

I've not looked at your profile, my advice would be of no benefit to you, I am not your target audience.

Profile advice has little value IMHO.

As many have said, your Forum presence may help people determine whether or not to interact with you.

As many have said, the Forum readership is a very small part of the whole community.

As you yourself said earlier, if its such a small part of the community, it doesn't matter. Which begs the question, why keep asking?

My two pence spent.

Good luck, I hope fab works out for you.

You’re so full of wisdom

But I agree

Wisdom comes with age........

I'm not really the 21 it says on my profile.

Maybe when I grow up, I’ll be just as wisdomist as you!

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By *itsmcgee4Couple
over a year ago

Central

"Personally OP, your profile doesn't seem bad... except for the "joke" adding a joke to your profile isn't what people mean by injecting humour.

As your profile is ok, maybe the issue is in how you contact people. What do you say when you first message somebody?

Cal

Usually starts something like this and then I add something about their profile.

I'm a polite mixed race guy that likes a good laugh, and will always ensure that we both enjoy the situation.

You should start with a compliment to whoever you are messaging..

I hate when they start off all about the sender who then adds something about the reciever as an afterthought

I have said that the woman is cute and compliment something about her.

Doesn't get anywhere.

Probably because it's generic and vague and you could call just about anyone cute

Ad messages should give a recipient a reason to reply. And that;s what so difficult about them

Its not like I'm gonna say that the lass is gorgeous and her ass would be amazing to slap. "

Those aren't the only two options though

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Do you have a mirror?

Why?

In many Japanese houses and certainly their temples they have a Kamiza, or spirit shelf.

On the Kamiza sits a Kamidana or spirit house, its like a little wooden temple.

When you have a problem the answer to that problem can be found by looking inside the temple.

When you open the doors and peer inside there will be a mirror facing out, so the second you look inside for an answer, its there, right in your face.

This is true for all of us.

I've not looked at your profile, my advice would be of no benefit to you, I am not your target audience.

Profile advice has little value IMHO.

As many have said, your Forum presence may help people determine whether or not to interact with you.

As many have said, the Forum readership is a very small part of the whole community.

As you yourself said earlier, if its such a small part of the community, it doesn't matter. Which begs the question, why keep asking?

My two pence spent.

Good luck, I hope fab works out for you.

You’re so full of wisdom

But I agree

Wisdom comes with age........

I'm not really the 21 it says on my profile.

Maybe when I grow up, I’ll be just as wisdomist as you!"

You never know young Padwan.....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think your profile is ok. Remember there are not so many women on here as guys so we can afford to be picky and find guys who tick our most important boxes.

I like a message that tells me they've read my profile and invite me to look at theirs, thus putting the ball in my court so to speak. It's nice to see a face pic especially if they don't have one on profile.

'Hi V. I've read your profile and think that I'm the man for you! Take a look at mine and if you like it lets chat'

Kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think your profile is ok. Remember there are not so many women on here as guys so we can afford to be picky and find guys who tick our most important boxes.

'Hi V. I've read your profile and think that I'm the man for you! Take a look at mine and if you like it lets chat'

Kind of thing. "

Doesn't that come across as too simple?

I'm thinking too much into it.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I think your profile is ok. Remember there are not so many women on here as guys so we can afford to be picky and find guys who tick our most important boxes.

'Hi V. I've read your profile and think that I'm the man for you! Take a look at mine and if you like it lets chat'

Kind of thing.

Doesn't that come across as too simple?

I'm thinking too much into it. "

Yes...possibly you are.

Those messages suit me. I look at a profile first and if they don't tick certain boxes my reply will be very short.

I don't want a guy to go into loads of detail in a initial message, makes me feel a bit bad if I don't reply!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies. "

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

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over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies. "

Don't fret about it. You can't be for everyone.

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over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies. "

She didnt like the look of you im afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies. "

I replied to your face pic!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

Don't fret about it. You can't be for everyone."

^This........

I think theres a real danger that we (men) overthink this sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

Don't fret about it. You can't be for everyone."

Happens a little too often though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I replied to your face pic!"

That wasn't out of attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I replied to your face pic!

That wasn't out of attraction. "

Still replied though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies. "

I honestly think you really need to rethink what you are doing on here and what your expectations are?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

OP you will not be attractive to everyone. Surely you understand that? Given your age and the ages of the larger proportion of the female membership, the fact that you really do not look your age (lucky you... in 20 years time you will see that as a blessing!) the younger ladies on here tend to go for older looking, more mature and experienced men and the older ladies are likely to have children nearing your age. You are not going to find it easy and quite frankly why should you? There are lots of older, more mature, fitter, more experienced young men on here... what makes you so entitled to messages, meets or sex?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I replied to your face pic!"

I chatted for fecking hours into the night without even seeing a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar."

Which we have both explained to you before

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar."

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

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over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I replied to your face pic!

I chatted for fecking hours into the night without even seeing a face pic

As I stated. That wasn't intending on attraction.

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over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women. "

My hubby is 25, but when we got together (when he was 18) he was already extremely mature. And has gotten even more mature as he ages, and with different life experiences. I’m 21 and have many mature friends, male and female. I also know 40 year olds who are extremely immature. Everyone’s different

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Fair enough. But then again I'm surrounded by students. Not many mature students about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Fair enough. But then again I'm surrounded by students. Not many mature students about. "

If ya say so

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"The profile’s ok, nothing stand-outish either good or bad. However, as per the above, your forum contributions of late have stood out in a less than favourable light.

^^ What she said

As has been stated. Nobody really uses the forum so its not really an issue. And I'm not starting this again.

I've been told my profile is fine and nothing is wrong with it. I'm trying to find the issue.

Do you have a mirror?

Why?

In many Japanese houses and certainly their temples they have a Kamiza, or spirit shelf.

On the Kamiza sits a Kamidana or spirit house, its like a little wooden temple.

When you have a problem the answer to that problem can be found by looking inside the temple.

When you open the doors and peer inside there will be a mirror facing out, so the second you look inside for an answer, its there, right in your face.

This is true for all of us.

I've not looked at your profile, my advice would be of no benefit to you, I am not your target audience.

Profile advice has little value IMHO.

As many have said, your Forum presence may help people determine whether or not to interact with you.

As many have said, the Forum readership is a very small part of the whole community.

As you yourself said earlier, if its such a small part of the community, it doesn't matter. Which begs the question, why keep asking?

My two pence spent.

Good luck, I hope fab works out for you.

Very wise words, Sir

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women. "

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way. "

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young. "

It’s not your age that makes you young in this situation I’m afraid. I would say yes, I’m 21, I’m young. Maturity wise? Not so much.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think what other posts are suggesting is that you may present as young.

By 23 I was married (2 years) with a mortgage and a child. Life experiences shape how you present.

Maturity isn't just age.

Nita

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young. "

That certainly isnt my opinion on young guys.... I have had many younger men than you, indeed we are still friends with several. I maintain 23 is just a number and many 23 year olds and younger look, act, behave, conduct themselves in a far more mature manner than you.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place. "

I would've joined the paras at 16 if I wouldn't have been allergic too bee stings. And they saw me as plenty mature.

The only reason you think I am immature on here is due to the fact that I won't just let people dig at me. Thats human nature not immaturity.

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over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place.

I would've joined the paras at 16 if I wouldn't have been allergic too bee stings. And they saw me as plenty mature.

The only reason you think I am immature on here is due to the fact that I won't just let people dig at me. Thats human nature not immaturity.

OP, I’ve explained to you how I think you’re immature. And defending yourself had nothing to do with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place.

I would've joined the paras at 16 if I wouldn't have been allergic too bee stings. And they saw me as plenty mature.

The only reason you think I am immature on here is due to the fact that I won't just let people dig at me. Thats human nature not immaturity.

I don't think it's that. I think it;s because you ask for advice and then dismiss it. You don;lt understand how swinging works, the other day you were telling people your opinion on socials, now you are once again asking for advice getting meets. Can you see the correlation between the 2 threads?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place.

I would've joined the paras at 16 if I wouldn't have been allergic too bee stings. And they saw me as plenty mature.

The only reason you think I am immature on here is due to the fact that I won't just let people dig at me. Thats human nature not immaturity.

I don't dismiss advice. Case and point my profile.

I have tried to get to a social but they are too far.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place.

I would've joined the paras at 16 if I wouldn't have been allergic too bee stings. And they saw me as plenty mature.

The only reason you think I am immature on here is due to the fact that I won't just let people dig at me. Thats human nature not immaturity.

I don't dismiss advice. Case and point my profile.

I have tried to get to a social but they are too far. "

Then take the bull by the horns and organise one yourself, local to you.

There are many people out there who happily attend a group social, regardless of who organises it, how youg/old/mature/immature/handsome/ugly/fat/thin the the host is.

If you really want to have more success here look to the common denominator here regarding your success, or perceived lack of it.

You have to work harder on fab than many people think.

If you ask for help and are given it, take it. If you ask for advice, take it.

Dont keep rejecting it, or throwing it back in peoples faces, or finding excuses about why it wont work, or your not successful.

I have one of the crappiest profiles on fab and some of the most dreadful pictures.

Neither of these (appear to) have harmed my success.

So, if its not the profile, and its not the pictures, it must be something else. Yes?

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place.

I would've joined the paras at 16 if I wouldn't have been allergic too bee stings. And they saw me as plenty mature.

The only reason you think I am immature on here is due to the fact that I won't just let people dig at me. Thats human nature not immaturity.

I really don't recall seeing anyone dig at you. Maybe Ive missed that. Whatever, that is not why I think you are immature, Ive explained my reasons and also explained that it is just my opinion.

The fact remains that you still feel you should be getting messages, meets and sex. Like you are somehow different to the 1000s of men on here?

Get over it. Your profile now reads better. You cannot change how you look. You cannot change your age. You cannot make anyone fancy you. You just have to be patient now.

And maybe lay off threads that will not help your history on the green arrow of doom

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sends a lass a message, gets a reply back asking for a face pic. Sends the pic and gets ignored. Doesn't feel good ladies.

I'm starting to think this place may not be for you

Only just starting?

If you really cannot handle the truth this is not the site for you im afraid, stick to tinder or the uni bar.

I understand that women and couples are the minority, but a no thank you would have been nice.

What 23 year old is actually mature? I see plenty and they are far from it. Even the women.

Honestly? You don't strike me as somebody that would just accept a "no thank you", you would want to know why and then would try to get around that....

And LOTS of 23 year olds are very mature, my son is nearly 22, has been a serving soldier since he turned 16, is married has a house and a child. 23 is not THAT young. YOU are!

Maybe you feel mature enough but sadly you do not come across that way.

I would and thats your view on young guys.

The reason he's mature is because the army matured him. Not life.

And its pretty contradictory to say 23yo aren't young and call me young.

And as for the army maturing him.... he needed to be mature enough at 16 to join in the first place.

I would've joined the paras at 16 if I wouldn't have been allergic too bee stings. And they saw me as plenty mature.

The only reason you think I am immature on here is due to the fact that I won't just let people dig at me. Thats human nature not immaturity.

I don't dismiss advice. Case and point my profile.

I have tried to get to a social but they are too far.

Then take the bull by the horns and organise one yourself, local to you.

There are many people out there who happily attend a group social, regardless of who organises it, how youg/old/mature/immature/handsome/ugly/fat/thin the the host is.

If you really want to have more success here look to the common denominator here regarding your success, or perceived lack of it.

You have to work harder on fab than many people think.

If you ask for help and are given it, take it. If you ask for advice, take it.

Dont keep rejecting it, or throwing it back in peoples faces, or finding excuses about why it wont work, or your not successful.

I have one of the crappiest profiles on fab and some of the most dreadful pictures.

Neither of these (appear to) have harmed my success.

So, if its not the profile, and its not the pictures, it must be something else. Yes?

The difference between you and me is about 20 years.