FabSwingers.com forum: No meets as yet....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey everyone

I've been in and off here for over a year now as it sometimes gets somewhat deflating. Especially when you have a meet arranged and for whatever reason it fades out... normally due to a fake profiles or people getting nervous. Not sure what I'm doing wrong?! Always had girlfriends. Very beautiful Ines. And had nothing but compliments from them, and other women about my attributes. I'm kind, loving, articulate, intelligent, well spoken. I have morals, etiquette and respect. I speak another language. Have a lovely sized cock (so I'm told). I love to please women and I make it my avocation to make people feel connected with me when I engage with them. Please somebody tell you where I falter?! Xx

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By *ig rig hullMan
over a year ago

Hull

Over a year without a meet? Give up seriously dude lol

Nah jokes aside matey one thing that I just seen is your status.... don't think many women would be impressed

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Over a year without a meet? Give up seriously dude lol

Nah jokes aside matey one thing that I just seen is your status.... don't think many women would be impressed "

This is correct. Also what is eye fucking? I found that quite disturbing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had offers obviously. But I have to be attracted to that person in order for me to meet. Every has a preference and that's cool. As I have mine. Not here just to try and get a meet or a veri with just anyone to satisfy others. Makes no sense at all to me. And my status said I'd like to smoke and chill with someone. Not such a big deal but I understand some people may not smoke . By bad!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What I meant was, undressing each other with one others eyes. But I guess it could sound a little strange. I was just trying to shorten what I thought was already a elongated profile?! Haha.. but point taken. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need more self confidence...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You need more self confidence... "
sweet of you... thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this is how I see it. There is nothing wrong with you or your profile but you are up against stiff competition with women having 100s of guys to choose from. There are few single women on here. and many of the female profiles are fake, or are just exhibitionists who never intend meeting. If you are very selective too, then you really have little chance of a meet. In your position, I woudn't bother with fab. Try a dating site with a more favourable ratio,or go into town and try the old fashioned way. Should be much more successful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So this is how I see it. There is nothing wrong with you or your profile but you are up against stiff competition with women having 100s of guys to choose from. There are few single women on here. and many of the female profiles are fake, or are just exhibitionists who never intend meeting. If you are very selective too, then you really have little chance of a meet. In your position, I woudn't bother with fab. Try a dating site with a more favourable ratio,or go into town and try the old fashioned way. Should be much more successful. "
thank you sir. That is 100% the way I see it too! I've been out, met and dated women recently. And I have beautiful girls that I meet and date from date sites or old flames etc... that's why I was a little baffled?! Anyone I do get to speak to seems to like the way I conduct myself and are more than willing to meet. But like you so rightfully say... fake profiles.. seriously stiff competition.. and maybe having a little bit of a high standard obviously conflicts with me having fun on here. It's a shame though as I wanted to try and dip my toe on this world and see where it took me?! I thank you for your honest response sir. This is why I go off here for months at a time. Although it says I've been on here over a year.. I bet it is all on 3 months in total. I lived abroad for 6 months and shut down my profile for that time.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"What I meant was, undressing each other with one others eyes. But I guess it could sound a little strange. I was just trying to shorten what I thought was already a elongated profile?! Haha.. but point taken. Thanks "

Hun, can you use reply and quote so we know who you are talking to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never trust a man that wears a hat indoors

Seriously, your profile is no better, or worse, than any other on here. Stick with it - but don’t assume this is some easy gateway to unlimited sexual pleasure; you will be very disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A year with no meets.

And you say you have to be attracted to them but a year!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hun, can you use reply and quote so we know who you are talking to x"

Shall do... sorry. I'm new to this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A year with no meets.

And you say you have to be attracted to them but a year!!"

And I also said that although this profile has been up and running a year I must of used it for all of 3 months of that year. I've just come back from living and traveling in far flung places so I wasn't on here for a while. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never trust a man that wears a hat indoors

Seriously, your profile is no better, or worse, than any other on here. Stick with it - but don’t assume this is some easy gateway to unlimited sexual pleasure; you will be very disappointed."

I never assume anything. And thank you. After looking at profiles of people that have taken a look at me since this post I can see that there are plenty of people, including attractive women that have been on here over a year and have no veris up. Like nothing at all. And there are a lot that are webcam veris... is that still a veri? Maybe that's for another debate?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day you asked for profile advice not them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"End of the day you asked for profile advice not them.

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?? Yes, and I'm getting it. And I'm thanking people for it?! I'm a little confused with that comment?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone

I tried to send you a pm but you have blocked guys. Up to you

I read your profile. Sorry mate I think its a dating site you need not a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey everyone

I tried to send you a pm but you have blocked guys. Up to you

I read your profile. Sorry mate I think its a dating site you need not a sex site. "

I think you maybe right?! And that is where I go to now as this site seems like I'm wasting my time. Paid for the golden membership some time ago now. As soon as that expires I think that will be that. Thank you for your comment

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"Hey everyone

I tried to send you a pm but you have blocked guys. Up to you

I read your profile. Sorry mate I think its a dating site you need not a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey everyone

I tried to send you a pm but you have blocked guys. Up to you

I read your profile. Sorry mate I think its a dating site you need not a sex site.

I think you have a decision to make and as to why you’re on here.You are clearly a popular outgoing guy but here is no short cut for a shag unless you’re willing to drop your standards however the good news is that there are lots of atteractive fun ladies on here but most of them attend clubs so you’d have to be in for the long game and start attending them and going to socials.Unfortunately there are no short cuts but if you’re willing to make a serious effort the benefits far outweigh those available in the vanilla world "
. Thank you for your reply and comments. This is what I intended on venturing into next. I will go on my own but would be amazing to go with someone. Wether they have been before or not? A little nerve racking but very exciting. As I know that I do get looks and compliments. And once you meet me you will find I'm quite engaging. I've traveled and worked in many far flung places and had a very fruitful life. I have a story or two let's say?! Thank you again for taking the time to message me and your advice. It helps a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone

I tried to send you a pm but you have blocked guys. Up to you

I read your profile. Sorry mate I think its a dating site you need not a sex site.

If you're looking to date I'm not sure why you joined fab.

Unless you just want a friend with benefits which is what I sought...

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By *ireupthequattroCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

Poor single guy. Woooos mmeee ,, no meet in one year , well I’ve been going the post code lottery for two years now and not won. Another look at poor me

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Op having read your profile I'd question the fact that you're looking for nsa but in fact want nights out and breakfast in bed. Sounds to me like you want a friend with benefits rather than one of meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey everyone

I tried to send you a pm but you have blocked guys. Up to you

I read your profile. Sorry mate I think its a dating site you need not a sex site.

If you're looking to date I'm not sure why you joined fab.

Unless you just want a friend with benefits which is what I sought... "

Fwb is good for me. Plenty of people on here looking for the exact same thing. I really don't think you have to sleep with just anyone to get on the veri ladder here. Everyone to their own but it seems like guys are doing this just to get through as much as this site as poss. And there are also 100% hardcore swingers on here. The majority in fact. And my hat goes off to them. But there are plenty of variations of swinging and I want to explore this with ease. Nothing wrong with that I don't think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Poor single guy. Woooos mmeee ,, no meet in one year , well I’ve been going the post code lottery for two years now and not won. Another look at poor me "

Haha.. I sincerely thank you for your input. And I wish you all the luck in the world for your search to be rich. Money normally turns people into dicks but I'm sure you will be fine. X

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"[Removed by poster at 18/03/18 20:14:15]"

You could consider attending a club on your own and chat to guys as well you might find some are well connected and could help you on your journey,some will know is the best club nights parties etc if you’re prepared to listen.

As I’ve said it won’t just happen overnight it’s a road you must travel to know what you want but if you want the sex life of a rock star it’s worth doing it properly.Fab from what I gather is full of frustrated people who can’t get a meet with anyone because they always use the short cuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a similar issue to the op I'm polite in all my messages sent would love to have a chat with another member but alot have to many requests before they will answer I've been on here a while yes I only have 3 pictures what more is needed I'm not looking to date I'm photo verified and a site supporter but even this isn't enough it's frustrating it really is but I just keep at it and let's see what happens

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Out of interest, why the hat in every pic? It's very noticable that you aren't photographed without it.

Apart from that, I think your profile is one of the better examples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete an start again. I wouldn’t meet you. Because you’ve been here over a year an no veri.

I won’t meet only web cam veris either.

I won’t meet if they have one veri an it’s over a year old. So many time wasters on here.

Take a look at meets an events , an group social s. They are fun. Or try a club. You can get verified this way too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Out of interest, why the hat in every pic? It's very noticable that you aren't photographed without it.

Apart from that, I think your profile is one of the better examples."

Thank you for your comments and you are totally right about the pics. Always worn a hat cap and of course I shall put more up of myself without. Ross x

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By *iger PrincessWoman
over a year ago

Cloud 9

Why dont you come along to my social on 31st march? its a great way for people new to the scene to meet people and get some veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very mixed "messages" in what youve said. Feel like saying " keep talking, im diagnosing you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of interest, why the hat in every pic? It's very noticable that you aren't photographed without it.

Apart from that, I think your profile is one of the better examples.

Thank you for your comments and you are totally right about the pics. Always worn a hat cap and of course I shall put more up of myself without. Ross x "

You don't need to do anything concerning the way you dress! That's your style so if keep with it!

Personally I consider you to be one of the better looking guys on this site.

Long as you stick to site rules, you can use this site however you Wish! Can't believe the cheek of some trying to tell you to leave fab for a dating site! Going by what you've said, Pretty sure dating and seeking a girlfriend is the last thing you want.

Fab is also a friend and benefits site, hence the wording FAB!

Spend more time on here and see how you go. Good luck .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So... Before you think otherwise I am well aware you aren't looking for tgirls but let me give you an insight as I am someone who does see a lot of success on Fab even though 'tv/ts' is an acquired or niche taste.

Fab is like a nightclub... People are drawn to the visual, if they like they communicate and if personality engages... They may snog, fuck or whatever...

Where do you fail? For me I don't get the slightest hint of humour, character or charisma. It's all very formal, all very respectful, gentleman etc... I disagree with the dating site analogy, I think you'd also get no response on there too.

It's just all a bit sterile and predictable... Fab is about desire and excitement and whilst I'm sure you're a nice guy... It doesn't show through.

You'd have to have an ok sense of humour to wear that hat... Show it in your profile and you might make progress x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So... Before you think otherwise I am well aware you aren't looking for tgirls but let me give you an insight as I am someone who does see a lot of success on Fab even though 'tv/ts' is an acquired or niche taste.

Fab is like a nightclub... People are drawn to the visual, if they like they communicate and if personality engages... They may snog, fuck or whatever...

It's just all a bit sterile and predictable... Fab is about desire and excitement and whilst I'm sure you're a nice guy... It doesn't show through.

You'd have to have an ok sense of humour to wear that hat... Show it in your profile and you might make progress x"

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha......

Just come back from a date. Went on the app. Swiped a few times.... match, match, match..... but thanks for the insight. And all the best in your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahahahahahaha

Being a narcissist probably doesn't help either...

You have a lovely life too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and start again with the same effort you're showing now.

You can thank me later.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

I’d bet a small chunk of money that the op doesn’t contact you as regards your social but good luck with it.Ill be attending the Huddersfield social on Friday as I think you people deserve as much support as possible

Julian x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not meet anyone off here yet but am not giving up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On and off dosent work .

You need to be dedicated if you want to meet people

Be here everyday . Interact . Message .etc

You think you can just log on send a message and get a meet .....not happening mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete an start again. I wouldn’t meet you. Because you’ve been here over a year an no veri.

I won’t meet only web cam veris either.

I won’t meet if they have one veri an it’s over a year old. So many time wasters on here.

Take a look at meets an events , an group social s. They are fun. Or try a club. You can get verified this way too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Delete and start again with the same effort you're showing now.

You can thank me later.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Hey everyone

Tinder!

Go to Socials & Clubs

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Go to a club . Face to face meeting and chance to meet 60,80 , 100 swingers in one night.

Chat to people, get known by going a few times and get verifications even if it's just to say basic stuff like you look like your photos and are friendly, intelligent or whatever.

Go to an organised social if attending a club alone seems scary. But lots of club's have newbie nights or other special events.

Quick profile advise. Split it into paragraphs, a big chunk of writing is a bit off putting.

Write personal messages, not cut and paste.

Keep chatting in the forums too.

Have fun and stay positive

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