FabSwingers.com forum: Newbies and shy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just looking to chat to other females,we both want another woman to be involved but I'm scared of what to do and he is scared I'd be jealous advise would be helpful not looking for kickbacks just genuine help thanks

L&B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try a club first or a group social on here. An take it slow see how you get on. As you don’t have to play, but if the mood takes go for it.

I had the best night at a group social, such a laugh.

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By *pl4moreCouple
over a year ago

oldham

Hi, this is a tricky situation to be in if you have not been in this position and I am sure you are looking to much into the issue. My husband is exactly the same so know where your coming from. You need to break it down and to smaller stages to see how you both feel. So I would suggest that you arrange a social first to see how you get on. Talking is key and being open to each other. If you feel comfortable, you can take it to the bedroom. I would suggest something a little light to start off so maybe just you ladies playing and see what the general mood is. The thing is that it is your first time so doesn't necessarily mean that your husband has to join in straight away, maybe some light play for him on your first meet. Once finished, talk to each other. How you felt, what you liked, what you didn't.

The thing is whilst you have not made that move you will always look to much into the situation.

As I have mentioned a few times, being open and talking honestly is the only way to go. Break down the meet into stages that you feel comfortable. Don't forget you don't have to do anything you are not comfortable with or ready For, but unless you try you will always be worrying on the best way forward.

I am talking from experience as we have been in the same situation, but through talking we have managed to work a way forward. Even after your first meet, talk about each and every other meet the same.

I hope this helps

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By *pl4moreCouple
over a year ago

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"Maybe try a club first or a group social on here. An take it slow see how you get on. As you don’t have to play, but if the mood takes go for it.

I had the best night at a group social, such a laugh."

Totally agree with You, club or social is probably the easiest way to get into this as you can meet others and talk about what you are wanting etc.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourselves to Lancaster for the social Saturday night, one of the friendliest socials ob fab xx

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Just looking to chat to other females,we both want another woman to be involved but I'm scared of what to do and he is scared I'd be jealous advise would be helpful not looking for kickbacks just genuine help thanks

L&B"

Listen to your husband regarding jealousy? Why does he think you will be jealous? He knows you, we don't. You need to resolve your

issues as a couple before involving anyone else in your sex life. To not do this is a receipe for disaster and not fair on the other party.

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Was in a simular position when i was part of a cpl. Best way we found was to go to a few club or parties. Even if you only play with each other knowing you are being watched is a great step. Just relax and go at your own pace. Make friends and the naughty side will soon follow. Anyone who is at a party shouldnt and isnt expecting to jump on you at the first chance. Its your choice who joins you weather at home or at a club. Play by your rules and only take a step forward when you are both happy to. Doesnt have to start with a full on gangbang for the mrs. Anyway thats just my thoughts. Others may dissagree.

Hope you both find the enjoyment you are looking for and above all..... have fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some great replays all very helpful we are taking them all in and hoping they help others too thanks again great support

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some great replays all very helpful we are taking them all in and hoping they help others too thanks again great support

I would echo heading to a club. We did that when we started. Thought we would be the odd ones not playing with others, but we weren't.

In a club you can take things slow, see how you feel about what you see others do and slowly ease yourself into the scene. We attended cubs for ages before we felt ready to play with anyone and never felt rushed by anyone. People recognise it's your journey.

No 3 in Chorley is close to you and a great first club, wish it had been ours. Or I think Townhouse do newbie nights, never made it there but people speak well of the place.

Once in a club it's not all playing on big beds like a Roman orgy (unless you're looking for that). There are private rooms that you can be watched through little windows if that's your thing, or you can cover the windows usually too.

Cupid is also close by and they have a great hot tub now and being naked in a hot tub chatting to strangers may let you have a better understanding of whether you have any negative emotions

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