FabSwingers.com forum: The right profile

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone, I am new here and have just posted a story in another forum. Let me know what you think if you read it! I have also posted this in the lounge but now realise this is the right place for it. Apologies for the duplication and it is a newbie error!

My topic for this forum is simple. Being a male who is looking for fun, and to embrace the lifestyle - ultimately, I want to have that connection with the people I meet. It is not about quantity, it is all about quality for me. I think it is even possible to find a future female partner on here (in a few years maybe); wouldn't that be wonderful to meet someone you can be totally honest with, rather than the usual who apply socially constructed taboos to their sexuality and to sexual behaviour? It would be great to want to spend time together talking, as well as having mind blowing sex? That applies to meeting people for the first time and for the people I hope to meet on a regular long-term basis

How do you convey these qualities that are important to you on a profile, and in an initial message? My experience so far has been that as a single male, I message many people as I get very few responses. This results in messaging profiles that I might not even feel are compatible because the only way it is possible to communicate is to get a reply in the first place and then engage in conversation. Because of the huge numbers of messages many couples or single females get, often the replies are short and not considered anyhow. I sometimes get replies and can see my profile has not even been visited.

I understand it is supply and demand, and also many people lie on their profiles. You would not believe the number of straight people here with profiles that have dozens of veris on Fabguys! I understand this means many people will look at a profile and expect it to be dishonest too.

So hello to you all and I hope to make friends with some of you. Give a newbie some advice – what makes a good profile and what should you be conveying in that initial message?

Regards

Steve

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

A good profile tells people what they need to know in an easily understood way and I think yours does that.

A first message shouldn't be too wordy but rather a brief introduction and expression of interest in my opinion.

Total honesty is achievable in non swinging relationships in fact there are plenty of swinging relationships where honesty isn't a feature.