FabSwingers.com forum: Do ladies ever read or look at profiles?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I only ask because the number of visitors to my profile has been utterly laughable for the last week. Not to mention the fact not a single woman has messaged of her own accord. It's all in reply to mine.

Is there a reason for this? Is it a common theme on this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, perfectly normal...and as most women browse profiles in hidden mode, you cant tell how many have actually looked at you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But why all this hiding? I don't get it.

It's all rather sneaky.

Each to their own, I guess. But thanks for your reply.

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

Women just don't make the move, they have a huge choice so they don't hunt they just get hunted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But why all this hiding? I don't get it.

It's all rather sneaky.

Each to their own, I guess. But thanks for your reply."

no, not really...it's mainly because people look at profiles for all sorts of reasons, but often men assume that if a woman has looked at them, they must automatically want a message from them, and then get stroppy when they are told 'no thank you'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You seem to be generalising there when it comes to men. It's rather sexist.

The women who have replied recently, they all seem to have a mindset that they are victims on this site of men sending messages, dick pictures and so on. They are wary, defensive; some even might say rather scared.

That could explain it. Women tend to find this site overwhelming: while men find it all rather underwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see - it's not like every single dating site online, in that case, then.

Thanks for the reply, pal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I meant to say, it's not unlike every dating site online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You seem to be generalising there when it comes to men. It's rather sexist.

That could explain it. Women tend to find this site overwhelming: while men find it all rather underwhelming.

you asked a question and i answered it. my reply was not sexist at all. it is the reason many people use the hidden browsing feature. You can see that reflected in many threads on here.

And i have no idea why you are saying women are scared..if they were , they wouldnt be on here. Wary, quite possibly, and why wouldn't they be? Maybe you are expecting far quicker results on here than is the reality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is this really the site to come to when you're wary? It's all rather open and honest. No secrets, except the hidden faces.

I've actually met two women I contacted here, so far, so I'm not doing too bad. I'm merely wondering why the messages and visits are so scarce.

I do appreciate you telling me there's an option to hide your profile. I had no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this really the site to come to when you're wary? It's all rather open and honest. No secrets, except the hidden faces.

I've actually met two women I contacted here, so far, so I'm not doing too bad. I'm merely wondering why the messages and visits are so scarce.

I do appreciate you telling me there's an option to hide your profile. I had no idea."

i would think people were being incredibly stupid and reckless not to be wary when meeting strangers off the internet. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Surely you should be able to suss someone out a lot better than that? After all, the assholes in life are rather obvious. They tend to give themselves away all too easily.

Good luck to you, too.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Surely you should be able to suss someone out a lot better than that? After all, the assholes in life are rather obvious. They tend to give themselves away all too easily.

Good luck to you, too.

Yeah some do

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

If they have looked at your profile and not got intouch then clearly they don't want to get to know you so what do you care if you can see them or not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're missing the point of this topic, aren't you. Never mind, it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only ask because the number of visitors to my profile has been utterly laughable for the last week. Not to mention the fact not a single woman has messaged of her own accord. It's all in reply to mine.

Is there a reason for this? Is it a common theme on this site?"

Nowhere in that comment did anyone mention anything to do with being able to see them, or care if I can see them. It's about the lack of visits; the lack of messages.

Do try and keep up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you always have the habit of coming onto forums, getting it all wrong, so you can be rude for no reason whatsoever?

It looks like it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a reason for this? Is it a common theme on this site?

Many people look but don't show as looking. 1,000 women may have visited your profile. They only mail people they fancy and want to talk to.

The other reason is that women tend to be swamped with mail so they don't need to go looking.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

OP, I just looked at your profile as you have posted a forum thread but have no intention of interacting with you via pm. Just pointing out that's another reason why people look. Perhaps you should also stop being rude to the ladies who have posted on here as well. You are doing yourself no favours at all.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

""I only ask because the number of visitors to my profile has been utterly laughable for the last week. Not to mention the fact not a single woman has messaged of her own accord. It's all in reply to mine.

Is there a reason for this? Is it a common theme on this site?"

Nowhere in that comment did anyone mention anything to do with being able to see them, or care if I can see them. It's about the lack of visits; the lack of messages.

Do try and keep up.

Really doing yourself a favour here aren’t you?

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Something tells me this may not end well

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"You seem to be generalising there when it comes to men. It's rather sexist.

That could explain it. Women tend to find this site overwhelming: while men find it all rather underwhelming.

It's not generalising at all. What she said was right. Alot of women look at profiles in stealth or hidden mode. It's called using the tools of the site to run their profiles their way. I think you will find experienced women on here are far from over whelmed. Some of the strongest, guttsey women I have ever known are on here.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

When you look at a guys profile, in the main they then message you and sometimes alot. I choose who we meet, I am always wary at first, most women would be I believe. Mr is usually present however, you don't always know someone is not a pushy/agressive man until getting naked. I am sure gay men have also experienced this behaviour too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this thread has cheered my morning up already!

Floppsy x

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"OP, I just looked at your profile as you have posted a forum thread but have no intention of interacting with you via pm. Just pointing out that's another reason why people look. Perhaps you should also stop being rude to the ladies who have posted on here as well. You are doing yourself no favours at all. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this thread has cheered my morning up already!

Floppsy x"

Me too!

Women on here are scared

Bloody priceless

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"You seem to be generalising there when it comes to men. It's rather sexist.

That could explain it. Women tend to find this site overwhelming: while men find it all rather underwhelming.

By your own standards don’t you think you’re generalising too? Also... only two women had replied at this point and I have to say, I can’t see a “victim mentality” in their reasoning.

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By *ally_weaverMan
over a year ago

Stoneyburn

The entitlement is strong with this one...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Not all of those women are actually women.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Some people think when someone looks at their profile they're interested and can actually get annoyed and pretty rude when you're not. That's why I don't appear in "who's looked at me" x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Attitudes on the forum are actually a really good indication of whether I'd ever get along with someone as well x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Not all of those women are actually women. "

No I've just reported a fake after using tinyeye

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

OP yes the majority of women read profiles first before even looking at any pics... Most men not all will look at pics first and bypass the text completely!!! My profile is hidden 99% of the time, because when I leave it open, I get messages from guys I am not interested in as they have not read my profile.. So rather than deal with toddler tantrums when I delete their messages or give a polite no, I keep my profile hidden to save all that crap and do my own hunting as and when the need takes me which to be fair is getting very rare these days... I will happily message first if it is a guy I am interested in... If you have a further read of the forums you will find many gents on here share your plight... This may well be a site where people are looking for nice compatible people to share in their sex life, but that does not mean in anyway it is an instant thing... Us ladies have to feel a spark and a connection with a guy and most importantly, certainly for me anyway is to feel that you are dealing with a very respectful man... there are far more men on this site than there are women so you have some stiff competition (no pun intended) so guys have to stand out from the crowd and yes have to work hard which seems unfair to you probably, but unfortunately that is just the way it is on here... LadyA x

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Is there a reason for this? Is it a common theme on this site?

Nice profile

I message if I like and looking to meet soon.

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

Yes we do xxx from start to finish xx even perve pics if any xxc

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Is there a reason for this? Is it a common theme on this site?"

Nowhere in that comment did anyone mention anything to do with being able to see them, or care if I can see them. It's about the lack of visits; the lack of messages.

Do try and keep up.

The lack of visits you think you are getting because you (guess what) can't see who is looking at you because (guest what) most women are hidden so like I said.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Do you always have the habit of coming onto forums, getting it all wrong, so you can be rude for no reason whatsoever?

It looks like it...

I was taking a leaf out of your book

And try reply + quote it helps people to keep up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a reason for this? Is it a common theme on this site?

Women read profiles.

Women will make the first move if they like what they see.

Is there a reason for this? Everyone uses Fab how they see fit. They do not have to conform to how you expect them to use Fab.

Is it a common theme? No idea. I have had messages from locals and those further away without sending a first message, commenting on my profile.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Surely you should be able to suss someone out a lot better than that? After all, the assholes in life are rather obvious."

The psychopaths are not though!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"The entitlement is strong with this one..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I doubt you even know what 'entitlement' means, wee man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt you even know what 'entitlement' means, wee man."

Quoting helps with context...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh yes, saying it like it is. I'll always speak my mind. That's life in Belfast

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems to me only a couple posting here have understood the topic, and choose instead to be little keyboard warriors.

Brave behind the screen, aren't you wee boys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeahbaby, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is the problem with people on Fab. They have their own opinions. How very dare they

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, I have an opinion, wee man, how very dare I.

Shush, adults are talking, wee man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, I have an opinion, wee man, how very dare I.

Shush, adults are talking, wee man."

Quite the comedian aren't we

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