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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I have been on here for about six months or so and I'm yet to meet up with anyone. My circumstances are quite unique as I am always travelling around.

I work in Manchester but head back to Reading on Friday afternoon (to see my kids) going through London. Then on a Sunday evening I travel back to Manchester going through Birmingham. Along the way I could stop off, but women are generally put off by the fact I'm passing through. Ok, plus my ugly mug

I've tried changing which pictures are public and which are private and I've changed my profile a number of times too.

So, yes another desperate male seeking help, but any tips are appreciated...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Of your six public pictures four feature your cock and you have chosen a cock picture as your avatar. That's up to you of course but I've often seen women say that they don't like too many.

I don't think travelling from place to place is unique quite a few guys do. However I think your desire for regular meets with one person is at odds with your travelling lifestyle. I know that it's quite possible to meet the same person in the same place every week but (forgive me if I'm wrong) you seem to be asking for a woman to be available at the same time every week and exclusive to you. If that's not the case it might be an idea to make it clear.

No problem otherwise you say what you want and on what terms.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you x Good advice and I'll make some changes now. I've tried different variations of pictures but I can see what you mean about terms

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I think the fact that it sounds like it would be a quick visit whilst passing through a town would put people off. You say would like to make it a regular thing....but knowing a lady could see you every Friday from 4 till 5.30 once a week would not appeal. No flexibility !

I would concentrate on the time you are in Manchester.

Profile...

Too many dick pics. Too much emphasis on what you want. Think about what you can offer. Why would a lady choose you over the other 80 that messaged her that day ?

Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good point about the profile... The difficulty is that it would have to be certain times each week but that might suit someone.... At least I hope so...

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why don't you try going to one of the Manchester clubs with your French friend?

I dislike the cock pic with your trousers and pants round your ankles !

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

dick pic avatar will put lots of women off. It's not even your best one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll edit that picture then....

My friend visits occasionally but I've not been to one of the clubs yet...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll edit the profile in that case.... Thanks for the tip x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If you use the quote and reply button OP we can see who you're responding to

To be honest OP that whole opening paragraph should go (apart from the bit that explains why you can't accomodate) - it almost reads like a Virgin Trains timetable!! It would be enough to say you're in Manchester through the week and are able to travel for meets/at weekends

As others have said it does read very much like it's all about you and what you want but includes nothing about what you think you can offer or why you think someone would choose to meet you.

Your pics are frankly not that great either - if you include the one with the bulging pants five of the six are of your cock, and they're disembodied cock pics at that - a lot of users won't even open a message if the avatar is a cock pic. I'd hide all of them, or at most keep one showing - and replace them with some pics that show off your body rather than your cock, think teasing, not in your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you pimping for your French pal?

You have a single male profile, people reading your profile are looking for a single male.

I am sure if he that good looking he will be getting some anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you use the quote and reply button OP we can see who you're responding to

To be honest OP that whole opening paragraph should go (apart from the bit that explains why you can't accomodate) - it almost reads like a Virgin Trains timetable!! It would be enough to say you're in Manchester through the week and are able to travel for meets/at weekends

As others have said it does read very much like it's all about you and what you want but includes nothing about what you think you can offer or why you think someone would choose to meet you.

Your pics are frankly not that great either - if you include the one with the bulging pants five of the six are of your cock, and they're disembodied cock pics at that - a lot of users won't even open a message if the avatar is a cock pic. I'd hide all of them, or at most keep one showing - and replace them with some pics that show off your body rather than your cock, think teasing, not in your face "

Got it. I think

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Have you asked yourself.... All the hours you've put into this.. Then maybe the time and fuel to divert to wherever you may need to for a meet

After six months, for 20mins of glory with someone who's unlikely to be your type... Is it going to be worth it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why are you pimping for your French pal?

You have a single male profile, people reading your profile are looking for a single male.

I am sure if he that good looking he will be getting some anyway"

He's an added extra if anyone is interested in making it a MMF thing. Wholesale changes are needed, clearly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you asked yourself.... All the hours you've put into this.. Then maybe the time and fuel to divert to wherever you may need to for a meet

After six months, for 20mins of glory with someone who's unlikely to be your type... Is it going to be worth it? "

I'm doing the journey anyway to see my kids and back for work. We're all on here looking for the same thing ultimately, so yeah, I think it's worth it...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So, I have been on here for about six months or so and I'm yet to meet up with anyone. My circumstances are quite unique as I am always travelling around.

I work in Manchester but head back to Reading on Friday afternoon (to see my kids) going through London. Then on a Sunday evening I travel back to Manchester going through Birmingham. Along the way I could stop off, but women are generally put off by the fact I'm passing through. Ok, plus my ugly mug

I've tried changing which pictures are public and which are private and I've changed my profile a number of times too.

So, yes another desperate male seeking help, but any tips are appreciated... "

Sorry, nothing in your profile or pictures enticed. As for bringing your friend into the mix too...nah...off putting.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why are you pimping for your French pal?

You have a single male profile, people reading your profile are looking for a single male.

I am sure if he that good looking he will be getting some anyway"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Have you asked yourself.... All the hours you've put into this.. Then maybe the time and fuel to divert to wherever you may need to for a meet

After six months, for 20mins of glory with someone who's unlikely to be your type... Is it going to be worth it?

I'm doing the journey anyway to see my kids and back for work. We're all on here looking for the same thing ultimately, so yeah, I think it's worth it... "

We aren't all looking for the same thing ultimately. That attitude coupled with "I'm doing the journey anyway" might be part of what's holding you back.

Women might be aware that no strings sex is what's on offer but not many want to feel that since we're all here for the same thing you might as well meet while you're passing through. They want to feel that they're more significant to you than a convenient provider of sex at a handy stop off point on a journey you were making anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you asked yourself.... All the hours you've put into this.. Then maybe the time and fuel to divert to wherever you may need to for a meet

After six months, for 20mins of glory with someone who's unlikely to be your type... Is it going to be worth it?

I'm doing the journey anyway to see my kids and back for work. We're all on here looking for the same thing ultimately, so yeah, I think it's worth it...

We aren't all looking for the same thing ultimately. That attitude coupled with "I'm doing the journey anyway" might be part of what's holding you back.

Women might be aware that no strings sex is what's on offer but not many want to feel that since we're all here for the same thing you might as well meet while you're passing through. They want to feel that they're more significant to you than a convenient provider of sex at a handy stop off point on a journey you were making anyway. "

I can't argue with any of these comments. I'll crawl away now and rip this up and start again...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Have you asked yourself.... All the hours you've put into this.. Then maybe the time and fuel to divert to wherever you may need to for a meet

After six months, for 20mins of glory with someone who's unlikely to be your type... Is it going to be worth it?

I'm doing the journey anyway to see my kids and back for work. We're all on here looking for the same thing ultimately, so yeah, I think it's worth it...

We aren't all looking for the same thing ultimately. That attitude coupled with "I'm doing the journey anyway" might be part of what's holding you back.

Women might be aware that no strings sex is what's on offer but not many want to feel that since we're all here for the same thing you might as well meet while you're passing through. They want to feel that they're more significant to you than a convenient provider of sex at a handy stop off point on a journey you were making anyway.

I can't argue with any of these comments. I'll crawl away now and rip this up and start again... "

No need to crawl . I'm just pointing out how it is (in my opinion). Not many people admit even to themselves that they're looking for and engaging in casual, no strings sex. Therefore if it seems to be what's on offer lots of people avoid it. If however its dressed up differently...

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

We aren't all looking for the same thing ultimately. That attitude coupled with "I'm doing the journey anyway" might be part of what's holding you back.

Women might be aware that no strings sex is what's on offer but not many want to feel that since we're all here for the same thing you might as well meet while you're passing through. They want to feel that they're more significant to you than a convenient provider of sex at a handy stop off point on a journey you were making anyway. "

It is similar to the messages I often get. "I'm bored in my hotel room. Wanna join me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you asked yourself.... All the hours you've put into this.. Then maybe the time and fuel to divert to wherever you may need to for a meet

After six months, for 20mins of glory with someone who's unlikely to be your type... Is it going to be worth it?

I'm doing the journey anyway to see my kids and back for work. We're all on here looking for the same thing ultimately, so yeah, I think it's worth it...

We aren't all looking for the same thing ultimately. That attitude coupled with "I'm doing the journey anyway" might be part of what's holding you back.

Women might be aware that no strings sex is what's on offer but not many want to feel that since we're all here for the same thing you might as well meet while you're passing through. They want to feel that they're more significant to you than a convenient provider of sex at a handy stop off point on a journey you were making anyway. "

This!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

There's nothing I hate more than a guy who messages me saying he's passing through my area. It makes me think he just wants to get his cock wet. I'm looking for a bit more than that as I'm sure a lot of other women are.

We are not just here to service businessmen!!!!!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I get lots of messages from guys "passing through" who are staying at a hotel ......yawn.

If you want to meet a lady for the night ....I advise to book an escort ....good luck.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Every meet I've had.. (around 10).. Has been arranged instantly at I'd be at their address within the hour and leave.. Other than a polite Thankyou msg afterwards I see no reason to cross paths again.

All the planning and getting to know each other is a load of bollox.. Tends to be long drawn out drama with a lot of time to change minds.. From experience, no one cares who you are or even needs to know.

My advice would be just do a local search from where ever you are and see what happens in that moment in time....keep at it and it will come off

I had a blowjob off some random woman in motorway service carpark by the see who's nr..

As others said... You need to tidy your profile up.. Fanny pictures, never mind cocks are off putting...seen one seen them all and all that, Leave something for the imagination...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get lots of messages from guys "passing through" who are staying at a hotel ......yawn.

If you want to meet a lady for the night ....I advise to book an escort ....good luck."

Getting battered here now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get lots of messages from guys "passing through" who are staying at a hotel ......yawn.

If you want to meet a lady for the night ....I advise to book an escort ....good luck."

Fair enough x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every meet I've had.. (around 10).. Has been arranged instantly at I'd be at their address within the hour and leave.. Other than a polite Thankyou msg afterwards I see no reason to cross paths again.

All the planning and getting to know each other is a load of bollox.. Tends to be long drawn out drama with a lot of time to change minds.. From experience, no one cares who you are or even needs to know.

My advice would be just do a local search from where ever you are and see what happens in that moment in time....keep at it and it will come off

I had a blowjob off some random woman in motorway service carpark by the see who's nr..

As others said... You need to tidy your profile up.. Fanny pictures, never mind cocks are off putting...seen one seen them all and all that, Leave something for the imagination... "

Will definitely tidy up the profile after all the messages I've had. I've changed it a few times and it's now very messy.... Cheers for the tips...

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"There's nothing I hate more than a guy who messages me saying he's passing through my area. It makes me think he just wants to get his cock wet. I'm looking for a bit more than that as I'm sure a lot of other women are.

We are not just here to service businessmen!!!!! "

Women are always looking for "more"..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"There's nothing I hate more than a guy who messages me saying he's passing through my area. It makes me think he just wants to get his cock wet. I'm looking for a bit more than that as I'm sure a lot of other women are.

We are not just here to service businessmen!!!!!

Women are always looking for "more".. "

And men frequently misunderstand that they are only looking for the illusion of more in many cases. It's all smoke and mirrors.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Every meet I've had.. (around 10).. Has been arranged instantly at I'd be at their address within the hour and leave.. Other than a polite Thankyou msg afterwards I see no reason to cross paths again.

All the planning and getting to know each other is a load of bollox.. Tends to be long drawn out drama with a lot of time to change minds.. From experience, no one cares who you are or even needs to know.

"

Each to their own - but personally I prefer to spend time to get to know people and haven't yet come across any "long drawn out drama", but then I'd prefer to have regular meets with the same person than a series of quick "fuck and go's" - either way I wouldn't call planning a meet, building anticipation and getting an understanding of someone "bollox" personally.

If meeting your way works for you then great - personally it would leave me cold and less than satisfied apart from a brief moment's gratification.

As I said, each to their own

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There's nothing I hate more than a guy who messages me saying he's passing through my area. It makes me think he just wants to get his cock wet. I'm looking for a bit more than that as I'm sure a lot of other women are.

We are not just here to service businessmen!!!!!

Women are always looking for "more".. "

As my last post suggests - it's not just women

Although from some of your reported experiences it's not all women either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles are all created from a selfish perspective.. and why not

But if you want to attract others you have to think outside the box and the needs/wants/likes of your target audience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every meet I've had.. (around 10).. Has been arranged instantly at I'd be at their address within the hour and leave.. Other than a polite Thankyou msg afterwards I see no reason to cross paths again.

All the planning and getting to know each other is a load of bollox.. Tends to be long drawn out drama with a lot of time to change minds.. From experience, no one cares who you are or even needs to know.

My advice would be just do a local search from where ever you are and see what happens in that moment in time....keep at it and it will come off

I had a blowjob off some random woman in motorway service carpark by the see who's nr..

As others said... You need to tidy your profile up.. Fanny pictures, never mind cocks are off putting...seen one seen them all and all that, Leave something for the imagination... "

It all depends on what kind of sex you want/are used to I guess

If you are happy fucking a hole, any hole then thats up to you

Personally I dont think you can even begin to have great sex, with some random you only met half an hour ago. Someone who is slotting you in to their busy schedule

But then I've blown my own mind sexually. And then some

A fuck and go type effort would probably have me snoring

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"There's nothing I hate more than a guy who messages me saying he's passing through my area. It makes me think he just wants to get his cock wet. I'm looking for a bit more than that as I'm sure a lot of other women are.

We are not just here to service businessmen!!!!!

Women are always looking for "more"..

And men frequently misunderstand that they are only looking for the illusion of more in many cases. It's all smoke and mirrors."

Thank you....you know where I'm coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seem to have similar issues myself .

Any advise welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's nothing I hate more than a guy who messages me saying he's passing through my area. It makes me think he just wants to get his cock wet. I'm looking for a bit more than that as I'm sure a lot of other women are.

We are not just here to service businessmen!!!!!

Women are always looking for "more"..

And men frequently misunderstand that they are only looking for the illusion of more in many cases. It's all smoke and mirrors.

Thank you....you know where I'm coming from "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always going to be tough for male singletons to find genuine hook ups but having been here as a married couple and then a FB couple, I see from both sides - best not complain and hope one day a nice non judgemental women gets your attention

In my case I'm a bisexual WS / Squirting loving guy so don't stand a cat in hells chance lol

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

As most other ladies have said ditch the cock pics

Kath x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Have you asked yourself.... All the hours you've put into this.. Then maybe the time and fuel to divert to wherever you may need to for a meet

After six months, for 20mins of glory with someone who's unlikely to be your type... Is it going to be worth it?

I'm doing the journey anyway to see my kids and back for work. We're all on here looking for the same thing ultimately, so yeah, I think it's worth it... "

Oh but we are not all here looking for the same thing. The differences in our wants and needs can be minute or glaring but to make an assumption that every one wants the same will not help you.

Reasons I wouldn’t enter into a conversation with you.

- I like cock pics but yours are.... erm..... rubbish. Look at cock pics in the top photos and ffs the crop feature is your friend.

- your profile made me think that I would have to somehow slot into your life on your terms. Nothing to let me know it’s a two-way street.

- remove the French friend. I’d just be waiting for the suggestion we should all meet and it’s a bit teenage wanky to mention it.

Good luck

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at profile sounds like wouldn't be out of place on a dating site. Probably cut n paste from a fishy site.

And denotes Bi as have a thing for your French friend , qui?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.s grubby fingernails a no no.

Get French friend to take a few better pics.

Sorry you asked???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"P.s grubby fingernails a no no.

Get French friend to take a few better pics.

Sorry you asked???"

All good advice and I'm glad I asked as it happens...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.s grubby fingernails a no no.

Get French friend to take a few better pics.

Sorry you asked???

All good advice and I'm glad I asked as it happens... "

Act upon it then....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"P.s grubby fingernails a no no.

Get French friend to take a few better pics.

Sorry you asked???

All good advice and I'm glad I asked as it happens... Act upon it then.... "

I'm in the pub now... Tomorrow will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be a naff pub . If on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re in an environment to meet women, maybe try the old fashioned way of meeting?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

If you think your profile and approach reflects who you are, go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So still not changed the profile?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"So, I have been on here for about six months or so and I'm yet to meet up with anyone. My circumstances are quite unique as I am always travelling around.

I work in Manchester but head back to Reading on Friday afternoon (to see my kids) going through London. Then on a Sunday evening I travel back to Manchester going through Birmingham. Along the way I could stop off, but women are generally put off by the fact I'm passing through. Ok, plus my ugly mug

I've tried changing which pictures are public and which are private and I've changed my profile a number of times too.

So, yes another desperate male seeking help, but any tips are appreciated... "

I haven't met anyone in 5 years. Suck it up buttercup!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I have been on here for about six months or so and I'm yet to meet up with anyone. My circumstances are quite unique as I am always travelling around.

I work in Manchester but head back to Reading on Friday afternoon (to see my kids) going through London. Then on a Sunday evening I travel back to Manchester going through Birmingham. Along the way I could stop off, but women are generally put off by the fact I'm passing through. Ok, plus my ugly mug

I've tried changing which pictures are public and which are private and I've changed my profile a number of times too.

So, yes another desperate male seeking help, but any tips are appreciated...

I haven't met anyone in 5 years. Suck it up buttercup!"

Why? Choice?

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Get rid of all the travelling shit, strike up a conversation and go from there.

I travel all over and it's never regular.

I do ok for a fugly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"[Removed by poster at 13/01/18 07:12:49]"

Oh dear OP - if that read "I've changed it, does it look any better?" then on the plus side you've removed the train route planner - on the downside that whole "I can lick pussy for England" paragraph just doesn't work - you need to get across what you are looking for and can offer in a non-graphic way that shows off your personality.

Great that you've hidden the cock pics - maybe add some more similar to the one you have showing off your body.

And the change of username? I'd change it again personally as the new one is borderline rejection material

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

As Gemini Man points out, lots will delete a message from Hung with great tongue without reading it.

The Pussy eating paragraph is a turn off for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As Gemini Man points out, lots will delete a message from Hung with great tongue without reading it.

The Pussy eating paragraph is a turn off for me. "

Ooh I liked the name, I thought it was witty and ironic. Then I saw the pics..

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

Lose the pussy eating paragraph as it’s cringey. The vwe but should go as your pic doesn’t reflect that plus size is subjective to who you are with

Mrs

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"So, I have been on here for about six months or so and I'm yet to meet up with anyone. My circumstances are quite unique as I am always travelling around.

I work in Manchester but head back to Reading on Friday afternoon (to see my kids) going through London. Then on a Sunday evening I travel back to Manchester going through Birmingham. Along the way I could stop off, but women are generally put off by the fact I'm passing through. Ok, plus my ugly mug

I've tried changing which pictures are public and which are private and I've changed my profile a number of times too.

So, yes another desperate male seeking help, but any tips are appreciated...

I haven't met anyone in 5 years. Suck it up buttercup!

Why? Choice? "

I don't do socials. I won't jump through hoops. I won't go ugly early. I won't message first. When i have tried to organise a sexual meet things have got "hypothetical". The ratio of men to local women is ridiculous (i blame the army). Id rather meet with my wife (but she's even more fussy, then I'm really fussy about who she wants to meet!) But there are literally less than a handful of compatible couples on here. I'll only meet while my wife is actively and regularly meeting guys, and that hasn't happened for almost 2 years. I'm ashamed of my body so that doesn't help. Im too old. Too lazy. Too worried about what my wife's thinking while I'm meeting. And wanking is cheaper and easier!

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Careful there Fandango, I think the sales pitch is sounding a bit too keen.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"So, I have been on here for about six months or so and I'm yet to meet up with anyone. My circumstances are quite unique as I am always travelling around.

I work in Manchester but head back to Reading on Friday afternoon (to see my kids) going through London. Then on a Sunday evening I travel back to Manchester going through Birmingham. Along the way I could stop off, but women are generally put off by the fact I'm passing through. Ok, plus my ugly mug

I've tried changing which pictures are public and which are private and I've changed my profile a number of times too.

So, yes another desperate male seeking help, but any tips are appreciated...

I haven't met anyone in 5 years. Suck it up buttercup!

Why? Choice?

I don't do socials. I won't jump through hoops. I won't go ugly early. I won't message first. When i have tried to organise a sexual meet things have got "hypothetical". The ratio of men to local women is ridiculous (i blame the army). Id rather meet with my wife (but she's even more fussy, then I'm really fussy about who she wants to meet!) But there are literally less than a handful of compatible couples on here. I'll only meet while my wife is actively and regularly meeting guys, and that hasn't happened for almost 2 years. I'm ashamed of my body so that doesn't help. Im too old. Too lazy. Too worried about what my wife's thinking while I'm meeting. And wanking is cheaper and easier!

"

I hear you Clem Fandango

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nice to see you have taken advice on board and toned down the pussy eating paragraph

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice to see you have taken advice on board and toned down the pussy eating paragraph"

Like lots of people I was wondering what I was doing wrong and I've had a lot of comments, all honest and I've listened to almost all of them. Funnily enough I'm now chatting to a few people and already things are looking promising. I genuinely appreciate everything everyone had said, so thank you all very much x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The username would put me off. Women aren't just looking for hung and not everyone wants oral

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Careful there Fandango, I think the sales pitch is sounding a bit too keen.

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It's a cross i have to bear!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"Nice to see you have taken advice on board and toned down the pussy eating paragraph

Like lots of people I was wondering what I was doing wrong and I've had a lot of comments, all honest and I've listened to almost all of them. Funnily enough I'm now chatting to a few people and already things are looking promising. I genuinely appreciate everything everyone had said, so thank you all very much x "

Great. Glad you took it on the chin and didn't run away and hide. Hope it goes well now. X

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By *he WickedsCouple
over a year ago

Swingtown


"The username would put me off. Women aren't just looking for hung and not everyone wants oral "

It's just not a great name

I can see what you've done but I'd rethink it.

Whilst I'm here... may I suggest you try a couple of clubs? They're better than a pub, much more interesting and the views are good too. Cupids is our favourite and it's really clean and very friendly. You'll soon get to know people. Chat at the bar. Smile. Enjoy. Then who knows what before too long?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deleted your account and go again mate. Thank me later !

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By *149Man
over a year ago

London

The website is built for couples and women from what I've read and seen single guys are just a currency on here am afraid.

You can make all the changes you want and still not be that successful on here unless people are at pornstar level

bodytypes then rarely do normal/average individuals get given any sort of chance on here. Not to mention you dealing with ratios of men/women at almost ridiculous levels factor that in with logistical issues and making yourself stand out amongst 1000s of other guys here.

My advice: expect nothing then that way you won't be disappointed

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"The website is built for couples and women from what I've read and seen single guys are just a currency on here am afraid.

You can make all the changes you want and still not be that successful on here unless people are at pornstar level

bodytypes then rarely do normal/average individuals get given any sort of chance on here. Not to mention you dealing with ratios of men/women at almost ridiculous levels factor that in with logistical issues and making yourself stand out amongst 1000s of other guys here.

My advice: expect nothing then that way you won't be disappointed "

True.

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