FabSwingers.com forum: Inspiration Required

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Help?

Have updated my profile, following a forum post, attached pictures, sent personal messages (not copy and pasted) and only contacted profiles who are looking for my age range and status.

Yet, I instantly get blocked, had no responses, not even a no thanks.

Just would like a heads up as to whether I am completely wasting my time on this site, not into bombarding folk with emails, or following the pack of single guys around at a club.

Have even requested a cheating filter on profiles, for all those other couples and singles looking for the illicit relationship.

Look forward to hearing from genuine people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a year maybe this is not the place to try cheating on your wife.

Ummm maybe quit and try elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After a year maybe this is not the place to try cheating on your wife.

Ummm maybe quit and try elsewhere?"

So I am to assume I am the only one on this site then.

Or perhaps I should lie on my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a year maybe this is not the place to try cheating on your wife.

Ummm maybe quit and try elsewhere?

So I am to assume I am the only one on this site then.

Or perhaps I should lie on my profile?"

Well you lie to your wife so surely a load of strangers is no problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with above, after a year of no success it’s perhapd time you thought about packing it in?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Hi will be totally honest. Up to married peeps what they do. But if I see a profile that says married/partner dunt know/ can accommodate I think eeeh! Shagging in the marital bed isn't a turn on for me.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

If you read the forums, not many women like meeting men who are cheating.

The one thing that makes it also strange is that you can accommodate and can see women thinking that is so wrong wanting sex in the same bed as he sleeps with his wife.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP your profile text is better than most so I doubt this is the problem, although more public pics may help.

One of the biggest hurdles is probably the fact you are married and playing without the knowledge and consent of your wife.

Lots of people don't knowingly meet people who are attached, I don't. For me it's not that I disagree with what you are choosing to do, I just don't want any potential fallout if your wife finds out.

I do always appreciate the honesty of a man who says he is married on his profile though. It allows others to make an informed choice about meeting them.

Don't give up OP, there will be people who will chat and meet you. The majority of men on fab struggle whether they are married or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but i think its abit harsh people telling the op to leave the site..so what hes cheating thats up to him... have u thought about trying a club hun good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but i think its abit harsh people telling the op to leave the site..so what hes cheating thats up to him... have u thought about trying a club hun good luck x"

Sorry he asked if he was wasting his time and I gave my opinion. Far from harsh.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't think you're wasting your time but as you've seen some don't meet 'cheaters', some don't worry about it they just won't/haven't commented.

The fact that your still unverified after a year is another hurdle to overcome, for some that's off putting.

Perhaps make a new profile (not saying yours is bad, you've clearly taken previous advice on board) and try and at least get a social veri.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi will be totally honest. Up to married peeps what they do. But if I see a profile that says married/partner dunt know/ can accommodate I think eeeh! Shagging in the marital bed isn't a turn on for me."

No chance of that, we live 150 miles apart!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think you're wasting your time but as you've seen some don't meet 'cheaters', some don't worry about it they just won't/haven't commented.

The fact that your still unverified after a year is another hurdle to overcome, for some that's off putting.

Perhaps make a new profile (not saying yours is bad, you've clearly taken previous advice on board) and try and at least get a social veri.

Thanks, looked at Socials unfortunately few and far between. Even tried arranging meets just for socials, still no joy.

Will try to be different from the run of the mill crowd, still want to be upfront with folk though.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but i think its abit harsh people telling the op to leave the site..so what hes cheating thats up to him... have u thought about trying a club hun good luck x"

Been to AbFabs and Cupids, met some nice people, unfortunately the single guy mentality was very off putting for me, never mind the females!

I know there are lots of people on here in similar circumstances, however owing to some opinions do not freely advertise the fact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP your profile text is better than most so I doubt this is the problem, although more public pics may help.

One of the biggest hurdles is probably the fact you are married and playing without the knowledge and consent of your wife.

Lots of people don't knowingly meet people who are attached, I don't. For me it's not that I disagree with what you are choosing to do, I just don't want any potential fallout if your wife finds out.

I do always appreciate the honesty of a man who says he is married on his profile though. It allows others to make an informed choice about meeting them.

Don't give up OP, there will be people who will chat and meet you. The majority of men on fab struggle whether they are married or not."

Thanks, will persevere and hopefully encourage others in the same boat to make contact.

It is a very delicate and emotive subject, which attracts strong opinions. This makes folk very wary in associating with the likes of myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you read the forums, not many women like meeting men who are cheating.

The one thing that makes it also strange is that you can accommodate and can see women thinking that is so wrong wanting sex in the same bed as he sleeps with his wife."

Quite a few women are like myself in sexless relationships and seek sexual partners outside of their marriage, as there are couples who are married to others. It is these folk I am trying to make contact with and would not message profiles who openly state they have no interest in attached men.

As for the marital bed, I would not even contemplate that and we live 150 miles apart.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Sorry but i think its abit harsh people telling the op to leave the site..so what hes cheating thats up to him... have u thought about trying a club hun good luck x

Been to AbFabs and Cupids, met some nice people, unfortunately the single guy mentality was very off putting for me, never mind the females!

I know there are lots of people on here in similar circumstances, however owing to some opinions do not freely advertise the fact."

Well if you have been to cupids, which is one of the better clubs, and didnt have the skills required to have a good time I would be thinking swinging isnt for you.

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By *rtemis-AkelaCouple
over a year ago

Wigan, Liverpool

To me your profile comes across as abrupt and demanding. This may be one of the reasons why you don't get any bites. Also if you come across this way in RL it may explain the no luck in the clubs.

Artemis

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's up to you as to whether you're wasting your time on here,no-one else can tell you that. Alway's be upfront about your marital status though,maybe people just don’t find you attractive I don’t know,there's lot's of men on here so competition is high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but i think its abit harsh people telling the op to leave the site..so what hes cheating thats up to him... have u thought about trying a club hun good luck x

Been to AbFabs and Cupids, met some nice people, unfortunately the single guy mentality was very off putting for me, never mind the females!

I know there are lots of people on here in similar circumstances, however owing to some opinions do not freely advertise the fact.

Well if you have been to cupids, which is one of the better clubs, and didnt have the skills required to have a good time I would be thinking swinging isnt for you."

Spot on with this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Help?

Have updated my profile, following a forum post, attached pictures, sent personal messages (not copy and pasted) and only contacted profiles who are looking for my age range and status.

Yet, I instantly get blocked, had no responses, not even a no thanks.

Just would like a heads up as to whether I am completely wasting my time on this site, not into bombarding folk with emails, or following the pack of single guys around at a club.

Have even requested a cheating filter on profiles, for all those other couples and singles looking for the illicit relationship.

Look forward to hearing from genuine people."
am guessing a lot would be put off by the admission of cheating but then many admire honesty so who knows ,you're competing against many that's your main obstacle

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Been to AbFabs and Cupids, unfortunately the single guy mentality was very off putting for me, never mind the females!

I thought at first you found the females offputting !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been to AbFabs and Cupids, unfortunately the single guy mentality was very off putting for me, never mind the females!

I thought at first you found the females offputting !"
women god you either love em or love em

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