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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee

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By *rizzlyEmbersMan
over a year ago

Hastings

At this point, I'm not sure it matters, I've sent nearly 20 since being on here and had a reply from none of them, but being yourself seems like a good start, you don't want to false advertise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry dude this is totally the wrong site to be expecting a reply if your a male. Most are only on here for women or have stupidly high expectations like they are expecting to meet a celebrity. I personally would say any reply’s treat them as if you got a golden ticket.


"Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry dude this is totally the wrong site to be expecting a reply if your a male. Most are only on here for women or have stupidly high expectations like they are expecting to meet a celebrity. I personally would say any reply’s treat them as if you got a golden ticket.

Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee"

Blimey, so young, but so bitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bitter stating facts.
"Sorry dude this is totally the wrong site to be expecting a reply if your a male. Most are only on here for women or have stupidly high expectations like they are expecting to meet a celebrity. I personally would say any reply’s treat them as if you got a golden ticket.

Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee

Blimey, so young, but so bitter "

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow


"Not bitter stating facts. Sorry dude this is totally the wrong site to be expecting a reply if your a male. Most are only on here for women or have stupidly high expectations like they are expecting to meet a celebrity. I personally would say any reply’s treat them as if you got a golden ticket.

Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee

Blimey, so young, but so bitter "

Exactly......why still on the site if it’s so awful??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no intention of staying on this site and will be leaving as soon as my subscription runs out.
"Not bitter stating facts. Sorry dude this is totally the wrong site to be expecting a reply if your a male. Most are only on here for women or have stupidly high expectations like they are expecting to meet a celebrity. I personally would say any reply’s treat them as if you got a golden ticket.

Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee

Blimey, so young, but so bitter

Exactly......why still on the site if it’s so awful??"

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

Fuck the money just go if it’s that bad !

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester


"Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee"

You will get a reply if your what the persons looking for !

So be sure to read their profiles before sending a message !!

No point if your totally not what they want

Also I few more pics might help

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have no intention of staying on this site and will be leaving as soon as my subscription runs out. Not bitter stating facts. Sorry dude this is totally the wrong site to be expecting a reply if your a male. Most are only on here for women or have stupidly high expectations like they are expecting to meet a celebrity. I personally would say any reply’s treat them as if you got a golden ticket.

Hi guys, I'm enjoying my time on Fab so far but would like to get a bit more involved, any advice on what to send in the first message to someone as getting a reply is quite rare?

Many thanks

Lee

Blimey, so young, but so bitter

Exactly......why still on the site if it’s so awful??"

We read your profile, you say you're not bitter but your posts and profile make you come off like that.

If you're not enjoying yourself here it may be due to your interpretation of the facts, not the facts themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always amazes me reading threads like these, and the guys genuinely can't understand why they're not getting meets. Smfh.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I am bitter all the time

Seriously though, try going to a club. I could count the number of people that I have met on fabs on one hand that haven’t been through the club scene

I have met and played with loads more through club scene, and kept in contact with them through fabs

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By *rizzlyEmbersMan
over a year ago

Hastings


"Always amazes me reading threads like these, and the guys genuinely can't understand why they're not getting meets. Smfh. "

Personally, I'm not bothered about meets so much I'm just a bit disappointed that it seems I can't even strike a conversation with someone, I always pay attention to profile details and always pop a question/remark or 2 in directly related to those details and the message nine times of of ten doesn't even get opened before deleted (it's not just this site either), I get the whole 'men are the majority of this sites members' thing and don't blame anyone for not meeting with someone who undersells themself as much as myself but what ever happened to good ol' fashioned talking to people with common interests? Even my forum contributions generally get ignored

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Start your own wingey post, stop hijacking my post, you are a being a massive cock block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is only my opinion and I know many people use this site in many ways but I'm always put off from replying if a profile or message states that they are horny or looking for meets at short notice. It may as well read "any hole is a goal and you are online so you'll do".

Try only messaging if there is something in their profile that can spark a conversation, if you have a mutual interest etc. You will send out less emails but have a greater chance of getting a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always amazes me reading threads like these, and the guys genuinely can't understand why they're not getting meets. Smfh.

Personally, I'm not bothered about meets so much I'm just a bit disappointed that it seems I can't even strike a conversation with someone, I always pay attention to profile details and always pop a question/remark or 2 in directly related to those details and the message nine times of of ten doesn't even get opened before deleted (it's not just this site either), I get the whole 'men are the majority of this sites members' thing and don't blame anyone for not meeting with someone who undersells themself as much as myself but what ever happened to good ol' fashioned talking to people with common interests? Even my forum contributions generally get ignored "

We've all been ignored at times on forums. It's nothing personal. Just keep getting involved if you like joining in on the forums.

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By *rizzlyEmbersMan
over a year ago

Hastings


"Start your own wingey post, stop hijacking my post, you are a being a massive cock block!"

My apologies, I wish you better luck than myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not you dude, the other guy, your advice is sound??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not you dude, the other guy, your advice is sound??"

Press reply+quote then people know who you're talking to

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By *rizzlyEmbersMan
over a year ago

Hastings


"Not you dude, the other guy, your advice is sound??"

Silly me glad you found it useful and he's done more than leave the thread, he's just left the site guess he took the advice he was given :L

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By *rizzlyEmbersMan
over a year ago

Hastings


"Press reply+quote then people know who you're talking to "

+1

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By *rizzlyEmbersMan
over a year ago

Hastings


"We've all been ignored at times on forums. It's nothing personal. Just keep getting involved if you like joining in on the forums."

I would definitely say that getting involved on the forums is something that probably helps as a single male on here, I often find I get a couple people check my profile out after interacting a little.

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By *parky243pMan
over a year ago

Spalding

Personally just be yourself, I think a lot of guys go in full pelt "nice rack lets f***" and mess it up straight away.Eventually something will pick up or you'll catch someones eye.

Another suggestion hit the clubs, lots of verifications more chance of interest.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Personally just be yourself, I think a lot of guys go in full pelt "nice rack lets f***" and mess it up straight away.Eventually something will pick up or you'll catch someones eye.

Another suggestion hit the clubs, lots of verifications more chance of interest. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally just be yourself, I think a lot of guys go in full pelt "nice rack lets f***" and mess it up straight away.Eventually something will pick up or you'll catch someones eye.

Another suggestion hit the clubs, lots of verifications more chance of interest. "

Well I have been myself but don't think I have the nerve to go waltzing into a club on my own, need a guide of this journey, someone to hold my hand????

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London


"Personally just be yourself, I think a lot of guys go in full pelt "nice rack lets f***" and mess it up straight away.Eventually something will pick up or you'll catch someones eye.

Another suggestion hit the clubs, lots of verifications more chance of interest.

Well I have been myself but don't think I have the nerve to go waltzing into a club on my own, need a guide of this journey, someone to hold my hand????"

Best thing to do is take the plunge and go for it.

Yes it is nice to find someone to go with but there are plenty of single guys that go without a chaperone and don't need someone to hold their hand.

It surprises me the amount of guys that lament their lack of success but then find reasons to not go to a club or social.

Believe us when we say doing that will do much more than any revised message or profile... as long as you're not weird or creepy when you get there of course lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is only my opinion and I know many people use this site in many ways but I'm always put off from replying if a profile or message states that they are horny or looking for meets at short notice. It may as well read "any hole is a goal and you are online so you'll do".

Try only messaging if there is something in their profile that can spark a conversation, if you have a mutual interest etc. You will send out less emails but have a greater chance of getting a reply.

"

Totally unrelated but your profile made me smile...as a Yorkshire man exiled to wales it was nice to see a Yorkshire lass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no "golden message" man... Every woman is different... Be yourself at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be polite, have some originality and ideas..

Have a good ice breaker..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be polite, have some originality and ideas..

Have a good ice breaker..

"
Thanks for all your advice, tried a few different messages, I guess I'll have to be patient, no replies yet, but still hopeful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be polite, have some originality and ideas..

Have a good ice breaker..

Thanks for all your advice, tried a few different messages, I guess I'll have to be patient, no replies yet, but still hopeful."
maybe someone could send me a message to make sure it's working??????

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By *eothelionMan
over a year ago

chester

I went to a club for the first time as a single guy having always been with a girl. It takes a bit of guts and I don't give a shit attitude. But do it, you never know what will happen. At least you can say you've done it.


"Personally just be yourself, I think a lot of guys go in full pelt "nice rack lets f***" and mess it up straight away.Eventually something will pick up or you'll catch someones eye.

Another suggestion hit the clubs, lots of verifications more chance of interest.

Well I have been myself but don't think I have the nerve to go waltzing into a club on my own, need a guide of this journey, someone to hold my hand????"

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Clubs is the way to go, I'd agree. There 2.6 million guys on fab, and it's like finding a needle in a giant pile of needles. In a club you can be seen for who you are. They are like a bar, for the most part, with other fun bits too... no need for nerves at all.

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By *eothelionMan
over a year ago

chester

Fuck, 2.6m. That's allot. Saying that I meant someone fantastic through another site. It right time, right place and it was great.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fuck, 2.6m. That's allot. Saying that I meant someone fantastic through another site. It right time, right place and it was great. "

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By *punkymonkey40Man
over a year ago

derby

Sometimes I have had replys mostly "not that I am looking for" but at least it was better then nothing so I never message anyone now.

I am just waiting for time when single men are in demand

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"At this point, I'm not sure it matters, I've sent nearly 20 since being on here and had a reply from none of them, but being yourself seems like a good start, you don't want to false advertise "

Don't make it all about yourself either! Lot of first messages read like CVs, which is not good. Make it personal and make sure it shows you've read the profile. Originality works miracles x

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