FabSwingers.com forum: Does Honesty pay

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi Fabbers,

Having tried a number of different profile layouts, decided to give the up front option a go.

So far, it has been very poorly received by couples I have contacted, in some cases being blocked.

The main criticism on this site, is timewasters and those lying about their status.

At the moment I am a little confused as to which direction to go in.

Would appreciate constructive criticism.

Regards

Lobsta

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Always be honest about who you are and what you want! What are you particularly referring to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always be honest about who you are and what you want! What are you particularly referring to?"

My profile mainly, along with messages I send to couples/females regarding my status (married, wife unaware)

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *alkirkbairnMan
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Reads like your drumming up business as a job. Plus saying free consultation would imply there's a chance of charges involved

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Honesty always and it's not just single guy syndrome as we have recently got more proactive and started mailing and found similar issues. Appreciating we wont be everyones cup of chai for a number of reasons. Our profile tries to truthfully answer many of the questions we get continually asked and this seems to limit our opportunities. But likely saves us and you precious time also.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reads like your drumming up business as a job. Plus saying free consultation would imply there's a chance of charges involved "

Fair point, it is not my intention I can assure you, just a different angle.

Will take another look at how it is composed, I know what I wanted to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reads like your drumming up business as a job. Plus saying free consultation would imply there's a chance of charges involved

Fair point, it is not my intention I can assure you, just a different angle.

Will take another look at how it is composed, I know what I wanted to say."

You arent allowed to advertise businesses on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Honesty always and it's not just single guy syndrome as we have recently got more proactive and started mailing and found similar issues. Appreciating we wont be everyones cup of chai for a number of reasons. Our profile tries to truthfully answer many of the questions we get continually asked and this seems to limit our opportunities. But likely saves us and you precious time also.

As I intend to build a relationship from the outset, being dishonest from the start will only lead to a mistrust and not a good foundation. Yes I know it is hypocritical, bearing in mind my status, but we are all on here for different reasons.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Always be honest about who you are and what you want! What are you particularly referring to?

My profile mainly, along with messages I send to couples/females regarding my status (married, wife unaware)"

Which at present isn't on your profile,ok well I feel rather strongly about this.

If I found out after the event that you were in fact married and cheating,I would hunt you down,cut your penis off slice it into bits then stamp it in dog shit and then tell your wife,work place,local pub,photos on street lamps etc etc. I would take great delight in destroying your life

Hope that doesn't show me in a poor light

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reads like your drumming up business as a job. Plus saying free consultation would imply there's a chance of charges involved

Fair point, it is not my intention I can assure you, just a different angle.

Will take another look at how it is composed, I know what I wanted to say.

You arent allowed to advertise businesses on here"

I am not advertising my business, just a different way of enacting fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always be honest about who you are and what you want! What are you particularly referring to?

My profile mainly, along with messages I send to couples/females regarding my status (married, wife unaware)

Which at present isn't on your profile,ok well I feel rather strongly about this.

Hope that doesn't show me in a poor light

Not quite sure how you stand on this on

Will certainly include it in my profile to avoid any upset.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

you're not honest and upfront as you don't say you are married on your profile, fair enough when you message people you tell them, but people contacting you won't know, also there are lots of men offering all sorts of massage and shit to get a meet.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Always be honest about who you are and what you want! What are you particularly referring to?

My profile mainly, along with messages I send to couples/females regarding my status (married, wife unaware)

Which at present isn't on your profile,ok well I feel rather strongly about this.

Hope that doesn't show me in a poor light

Not quite sure how you stand on this on

Will certainly include it in my profile to avoid any upset."

Well the upset would be mostly yours in the long run! At least give people the option of deciding for themselves whether to meet you. If you think your wife would forgive you when someone tells her then by all means lie,but if you don't want to take that chance then at least be 'honest' on here.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

It says you're seeking clients which suggests you want paying which is against the rules on here plus no mention of being married....confused, unless you've changed your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always be honest about who you are and what you want! What are you particularly referring to?

My profile mainly, along with messages I send to couples/females regarding my status (married, wife unaware)

Which at present isn't on your profile,ok well I feel rather strongly about this.

Hope that doesn't show me in a poor light

Not quite sure how you stand on this on

Will certainly include it in my profile to avoid any upset.

Point taken and profile changed accordingly.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Always be honest about who you are and what you want! What are you particularly referring to?

My profile mainly, along with messages I send to couples/females regarding my status (married, wife unaware)

Which at present isn't on your profile,ok well I feel rather strongly about this.

Hope that doesn't show me in a poor light

Not quite sure how you stand on this on

Will certainly include it in my profile to avoid any upset.

Point taken and profile changed accordingly."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It says you're seeking clients which suggests you want paying which is against the rules on here plus no mention of being married....confused, unless you've changed your profile."

Appreciate the message and although it was not my intention to drum up business, but to try to stand out from the crowd with a different approach. It would appear to caused confusion.

Profile updated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you're not honest and upfront as you don't say you are married on your profile, fair enough when you message people you tell them, but people contacting you won't know, also there are lots of men offering all sorts of massage and shit to get a meet."

Profile amended, was trying to offer a different approach from the masses of males on here offering massages and shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP profile quote"

No my wife does not know, this however is a work in progress.

Mate how about I pop round and give her one she if she likes the idea ?

Be married, be on here, but dont lie the last thing you want is an angry husband turning up on your doorstep. have a chat with your partner, as it looks like you are going to wonder. Billy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""OP profile quote"

No my wife does not know, this however is a work in progress.

Mate how about I pop round and give her one she if she likes the idea ?

Be married, be on here, but dont lie the last thing you want is an angry husband turning up on your doorstep. have a chat with your partner, as it looks like you are going to wonder. Billy "

Thanks for the offer, however if I did persuade her to join me in the Swinging scene, she would decide on her partners to play with.

Profile changed accordingly to reflect my status and what I am looking for.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Perhaps people dont reply or block you because you have no avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men have it tough on here due to the amount of them but you’ve got extra things against you. Like being married most couples and fems don’t want to be involved in people cheating. Plus no public pictures again why would someone message you with no idea what you look like. You don’t need a pic of your face public but a few different body shots would be a start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps people dont reply or block you because you have no avatar. "

I include a face pic with my messages. Will attach a pic to my profile.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Men have it tough on here due to the amount of them but you’ve got extra things against you. Like being married most couples and fems don’t want to be involved in people cheating. Plus no public pictures again why would someone message you with no idea what you look like. You don’t need a pic of your face public but a few different body shots would be a start. "

Thanks, appreciate it is a pretty tough environment, but worth the effort.

Will amend my profile and attach a pic.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nice to see a pic of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice to see a pic of you. "

Sorted

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

Fab will always be hard work due to the ratio of men to couples and single females. You also add the timewasters in to the equasion and that decreases the odds even further. I'm a well verified guy who has been around the block more times than a second hand lurched. But in all the seven years of being on here I have had half a dozen message out of the blue. As a single fab guy the odds are stacked against us.

I say it time and time again. Get yourself to a club or social and use fab as a tool to keep in touch with people you have met. I hope this helps

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Nice to see a pic of you.

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Very brave or daft if you're married and cheating though. What if one of your wifes friend's are on here they may tell her. Unless that's what you want of course.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fab will always be hard work due to the ratio of men to couples and single females. You also add the timewasters in to the equasion and that decreases the odds even further. I'm a well verified guy who has been around the block more times than a second hand lurched. But in all the seven years of being on here I have had half a dozen message out of the blue. As a single fab guy the odds are stacked against us.

I say it time and time again. Get yourself to a club or social and use fab as a tool to keep in touch with people you have met. I hope this helps"

Thanks, have tried the club scene and found the pack mentality of single guys very off putting.

Still a few clubs to try as I am sure they are not all the same, do prefer a more relaxed environment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice to see a pic of you.

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Very brave or daft if you're married and cheating though. What if one of your wifes friend's are on here they may tell her. Unless that's what you want of course."

Interesting point and ideally I would love my wife to dip her toes into this lifestyle. Have discussed it on many occasion and she is well aware of my past.

Not a pushy guy, so slowly working on it. Tried to stay away from the Swinging scene, it is very intoxicating and I have my weaknesses.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Nice to see a pic of you.

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I think that is very brave as you are attached and your wife doesn't know you are on here. Although you asked for advice you don't have to take it if you don't want to but I would be changing that pic for something else.

Your profile sounds ok to me, says what you are looking for and is honest about your wife. There are people who play with married men so I guess it is just about being patient now. Stick around in the forums while you wait, it may get you noticed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice to see a pic of you.

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Thanks will update the pic and certainly getting involved on the forum is very enlightening.

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