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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I’m pretty new here but I feel like the obvious way of using this site isn’t getting me very far and if you can bare with me I’ll explain why

So like everyone else it started with me signing up, I had a look around and made myself familiar with the way things appear to work, so I spent my time taking the following steps to build my profile:

I filled in every box, tried to make my profile very honest but not boring!

I took and uploaded recent photos that accurately and clearly represent myself!

I got myself photo verified and also had a very fun and interesting night getting verified by another member.. (couldn’t have done that on my own )

I searched for locals, read profile and tried to only message people If I was interested in them and I fit the bill for what they appear to be looking for.

I attach a face pic to every first message and try extremely hard not to double message!

9/10 messages get ignored no reply..

5/10 messages don’t even get opened..

So I guess I’m wondering what I do next to increase my activity on here without becoming a pest

Any feedback is welcome and appreciated

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You've put more effort into this post than you profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You've put more effort into this post than you profile "

In which way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've put more effort into this post than you profile

In which way? "

As in this post has clearly been thought through and effort has been put into it. Your profile however, not so much, and to me it comes across as arrogant, which is never sexy.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You've put more effort into this post than you profile

In which way?

As in this post has clearly been thought through and effort has been put into it. Your profile however, not so much, and to me it comes across as arrogant, which is never sexy.

Poppy"

Actually I put way more effort into my profile, here I knew what I wanted to say, I had substance to speak about..

Maybe I should take another look at the profile text..

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youre forgetting the main thing......youre a single guy. Unfortunately the lovely ladies of fab get so much rubbish and so many terrible messages from single guys many simply ignore them, cant exactly blame them. Couple that with the fact some wont be attracted to you and others will want a really interesting first message to make them want to reply......your chances are always going to be slim.

So my advice is be patient and polite and youll have no problems.

Ps i know ive only been a member a week, but was a member for a couple of years previously....thats where my experience comes from

Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good luck mate"

Yeah I understand all of that, cheers buddy

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am put off by the phrase "I do expect you to be to my taste". As if it is the woman at fault if she isn't!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am put off by the phrase "I do expect you to be to my taste". As if it is the woman at fault if she isn't!"

Your just being picky now, you don’t have to love it all, I can’t please everyone with my profile text... you or any other woman would need to be to my taste, as I would need to be to yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your experienced... Experienced at what? Just going off your profile text

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your experienced... Experienced at what? Just going off your profile text "

Well given the nature of the website I didn’t think that needed explaining... I thought it was a profile to give a brief insight, not a CV

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am put off by the phrase "I do expect you to be to my taste". As if it is the woman at fault if she isn't!"

Better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your experienced... Experienced at what? Just going off your profile text

Well given the nature of the website I didn’t think that needed explaining... I thought it was a profile to give a brief insight, not a CV "

Get you now your experienced in having sex how stupid of me

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By *pike216Man
over a year ago

Bourne

You have hit it exactly. I have just asked that same question at the end of my profile. Want to ask and get advice but sould like a sad pleader!! Let me know, thanks.

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By *ack_at_the_farm....Man
over a year ago

woodhall spa

I suggest you attend some of the club socials and mingle with people there. Usually people are pleasant and approachable. There will no doubt be other solo males attending so you’ll never feel out of place. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say no!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your experienced... Experienced at what? Just going off your profile text

Well given the nature of the website I didn’t think that needed explaining... I thought it was a profile to give a brief insight, not a CV

Get you now your experienced in having sex how stupid of me "

If you believe that having experience when it comes to sexual encounters and the things that do it don’t work doesn’t matter, I’d have to say it’s probably due to a lack of experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suggest you attend some of the club socials and mingle with people there. Usually people are pleasant and approachable. There will no doubt be other solo males attending so you’ll never feel out of place. Good luck"

It is something I intend on doing in the near future as I have a couple of regular friends that are also interested in doing so... thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't say no!

"

Well I’m glad to hear that! I’ll be in touch... but whilst we are on the subject of how things work around here, may I ask why you haven’t taken it upon yourself to contact me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

9/10 messages get ignored no reply..

5/10 messages don’t even get opened..

"

better than some

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

9/10 messages get ignored no reply..

5/10 messages don’t even get opened..

better than some "

You flirting with me?

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