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By *ugbylad613 OP   Man
over a year ago

teeside

Not having much luck on here any suggestions as to why by looking at profile?

Also what’s the best way to open a conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice is to stop trying so hard to get attention, and just be normal. The one's that try too hard are often the ones that get ignored...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile comes across as you wanting lead and taught. Most people here are looking for sexual gratification therefore want a man who already knows what he's doing.

Im not saying you need to have done everything but you do need to sell yourself. Ladies need to know what you can offer.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Most of your profile is a warning against something that they are particularly interested in?

Where do I start with "gay guys"?, you can't control who looks at and fabs your pics. Homophobia is not a good trait on here.

Put some sexy pics up, tell people a little bit about yourself, what you want and what you can offer, and just go with the flow.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to take all that warning Shit off your profile, seriously do you really think it will stop people stealing your pics if they want to. The bit about gay guys is unnecessary and comes across as brash, just set your filters to stop men messaging you. As for them liking your pics, just suck it up. If you don't want guys looking at your pics then go on a site where only females can see them.

Make a better profile text, telling more about your sexual desires and what you are offering the females. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile comes across as you wanting lead and taught. Most people here are looking for sexual gratification therefore want a man who already knows what he's doing.

"

I do t known what I'm doing from the moment I get out of bed, no wonder I find it hard in here

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I do t known what I'm doing from the moment I get out of bed, no wonder I find it hard in here "

You and me both brother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also what’s the best way to open a conversation?"

Read the profile of the person you want to talk to and put in some thought about what you're gonna say instead of "hi" or "nice tits" or "wuu2" ... a thought out opening message will mean far fewer deletes.

You're welcome

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

I'm bi and I just liked one of your pictures just to annoy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm bi and I just liked one of your pictures just to annoy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of good advice above, and as for guys liking your pics, im sure you can’t catch ghay from that but I’ve been wrong before so don’t take it as gospel, lighten up

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Try reading previously posted threads plenty of advice already available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm bi and I just liked one of your pictures just to annoy you.

"

Shots fired

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

Says you are willing to try anything and are open minded ... try a gay guy then u may enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Says you are willing to try anything and are open minded ... try a gay guy then u may enjoy it "

He’s not “that” open minded

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire


"Says you are willing to try anything and are open minded ... try a gay guy then u may enjoy it

He’s not “that” open minded "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your text is shorter than the legal warnings (which are a waste of server space) What is there is contradictory and tells the reader nothing about what you enjoy or offer. The bit bemoaning gay guys makes you look intolerant which isn't a good look. Bulk the text out would be my suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too few pictures to keep my attention, and your profile write up is shit.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Too few pictures to keep my attention, and your profile write up is shit. "

It seems that the OP is not open to constructive criticism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not having much luck on here any suggestions as to why by looking at profile?

Also what’s the best way to open a conversation?"

Your warnings are twice as long as your actual profile.

Take them away and there isn't much left that shows any real effort is there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try be different don't send what they get of most guys people get annoyed of the same lines and picks best way be unique gotta think most guys just inbox being all out brutal or say hi probably with cock pics

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

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By *infulSandyCouple
over a year ago

London

Our 2 cents:

When a person's profile is shorter than those useless legal warning everyone copies and pastes on the very same profile then we usually skip it.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Those 'legal' warnings are completely useless. If you run a search of your sydney university warning you will get millions of responses, all showing that it's innefective nonsense and that Sydney University couldn't care less!

If you have concerns for your privacy then hide it from non registered users, and search sites on the privacy page.

Once you have removed them, your profile boils down to just three short sentences. They don't really say anything about you, and certainly don't sell you.

Put it this way, if you were going clubbing you'd probably have a shower, slap on some aftershave, do your hair and slip into some clean fashionable clothes right? the reason you do that is to make a good first impression. In the online world your profile is your equivalent way to make a good first impression. So, put some time into it.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not having much luck on here any suggestions as to why by looking at profile?

Also what’s the best way to open a conversation?"

Two days have passed and nothing has changed.

We assume that the OP was just trying to gain some attention.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Well, you took whatever got everyone’s panties in a twist about gay guys off so you’ve shown yourself to actually listen, which is a great start.

Those warnings have to go. I auto delete any message I receive from anyone who actually puts those on their profile. It was a gimmick, a joke and people are still falling for it.

You then are left with three lines - three lines that don’t say anything about you. Before I read a message I stealth ninja someone’s profile, and if it looks like I might have fun with them then I might read their message. I have no clue what kind if time I’d have with you because you’ve given me nothing to work with.

So put an evening’s effort into dressing your shop window to give us girls a snapshot of what it’s like in your head - a sense of who you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not having much luck on here any suggestions as to why by looking at profile?

Also what’s the best way to open a conversation?

Two days have passed and nothing has changed.

We assume that the OP was just trying to gain some attention."

Yeah but, OP DOES have a better than average toilet pic

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Yet another 'Please help me' hit and run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yet another 'Please help me' hit and run "

Does help as an extra filter though, so wasn't a completely useless thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does make me laugh about the legal copyright, would you actually be willing to go to court if some one used your pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am at a loss here too buddy. I'm not desperate, i am open and honest and respectful to couples and that doesnt work. i have been to clubs and that was a total miss with d*unk morons making other women uncomfortable turning up and no one my type.

i have sent kinkier messages, out right filfthy messages, offered myself submissively. just luck and timing and maybe start looking further a field or drop your standards.

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By *ctionjackson99Man
over a year ago

blyth

I am messagin hey how are u and it really isn't working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am messagin hey how are u and it really isn't working "

Again remember the first thing anyone will do after receiving a message is look at the sender's profile.

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By *ctionjackson99Man
over a year ago

blyth

So mine isn't the best I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So mine isn't the best I guess "

What do you honestly think about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So mine isn't the best I guess "

One pic and no info about you. Nope...not the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So mine isn't the best I guess "

What I find odd about yours is the only text says you're new so bear with you yet in your first three weeks you have a veri which says you've met her a number of times. A bit contradictory and you give no other info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need more photos. Maybe a bit more teasing personally to keep my attention. Definatley need something else written about yourself. And if you make your opening message interesting, kind and with manners personally we would possibly reply to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm bi and I just liked one of your pictures just to annoy you.

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Me too !!

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