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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Help Guys!

We are a young couple who have been looking for a girl to have a threesome with us for about 4 years, but with no luck!

We’ve chatted, Got to know people, Sent pictures, offered to Travel for the right girl, Meet before for drinks

What are we doing wrong? Don’t mean to blow our trumpet but we are an okay looking couple who are nice and friendly

I just want to try stuff with Girls (Bi Curious) and my Partner has always wanted a Threesome

We are on soo many Apps & Websites

Please can I have some help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to expand your profile to explain what's in it for the lady you will eventually meet. Unless you do, it'll be assumed they'll be there just to be your performing seal. Not many women would be interested in just being there to scratch your itches so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay, Thanks for the advise, I didn’t think of it being like that nor did I want us to come across like that! We are just looking to have fun that’s all, just happens we are new to this and slightly inexperienced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single female who regularly sleeps with couples, I can give a bit of advice.

It's already been said but I don't want to feel like I'm just there to spice up your sex life because you're a bit curious. That makes me feel like I don't matter, I'm just a sex toy. I want to feel like an equal in bedroom.

Also, writing you are struggling to find someone. That statement don't attract me and it doesn't need to be said as many to struggle to find a female as we are rare. I prefer positivity on a profile.

The couples I meet with regularly are now people I would consider friends. We even meet up in vanilla environments.

These are just my personal preferences.

I wish you luck though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your advice, it’s appreciated

I’m sorry if my writing came across in that way, I never meant that, I just didn’t know what to write, I didn’t want to write the wrong thing

I’ve changed it now, I hope it’s better

We are also looking for friends, not everything Is about sex and Threesomes to us

Good luck to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for your advice, it’s appreciated

I’m sorry if my writing came across in that way, I never meant that, I just didn’t know what to write, I didn’t want to write the wrong thing

I’ve changed it now, I hope it’s better

We are also looking for friends, not everything Is about sex and Threesomes to us

Good luck to!"

I've just re-read it and I personally really like it! Comes across much better!

Might also be worth heading to a club (even if you don't play) so you can get some verifications. Slightly risky for a single female to meet a couple who are unverified xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You might want to reconsider your status and profile header too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are the answer

I dont want to sound big headed.. but we met a girl on weds for ffm and a different one last night. In clubs.

Try it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks girl!

I tried to follow your advice and change it properly, Just needed a little shove in the right direction!

Thanks Hun, Someone has just told me about 2 clubs near to me so I’ll definitely be trying them in the near future

I can completely see where you coming from when it comes to be unverified x

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

Also you dont accomodate on your profile, so would yous expect the lady to do so?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Your age range is also quite narrow as well, just a suggestion x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No of course we wouldn’t, We would happily pay for accommodation somwhere for a weekend, We just can’t stay at our house x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Hun I’ll get that changed! My partner set this is so I was unsure of what he’d wrote x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks Hun I’ll get that changed! My partner set this is so I was unsure of what he’d wrote x"

If you click on reply+quote at the bottom of a message we can see who you're replying to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re sure you’ll find what you’re looking for. Clubs are by far the best way to meet since you don’t have the hassle of trying to get a convenient time to suit all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahh thank you x

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I didn't see your profile before but it is pretty good now.

Unfortunately for you guys everyone else wants to meet single bi ladies too so it will be difficult. Your age may be a factor too. Many people on fab are older than you so you will have a much smaller group that meets your age preferences and you meet theirs.

Clubs and organised socials are a great way to meet people. I have seen a club advertise an event on fab aimed at younger people too, maximum age was 39. Have a look on the club events forum.

Stick with it OP. You will find someone eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel sorry for single bi women it always appears that couples just want to use them like you said: all about what you both want!!

No wonder they are difficult to find!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've met a couple of girls on here (have a look at our profile to see if that reads well and use some of it if you wish?!) but I recommend going out in town one evening and trying that way. We've had three other threesomes with random girls in the last year, very good fun!

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We've met a couple of girls on here (have a look at our profile to see if that reads well and use some of it if you wish?!) but I recommend going out in town one evening and trying that way. We've had three other threesomes with random girls in the last year, very good fun!"

We also agree with the above sentiment, fab isn’t the be all and end all, we use it as just a way to connect with more like minded people, but also meet more through just old fashioned socialising!

Just an observation but if you’ve been trying to make this happen for four years and it hasn’t, is this really something that you want or is the fantasy enough for you guys? There’s nothing wrong either way, but have a good think about what you want from this.

Can’t really say anything more that the above posters haven’t already, but we wish you the best of luck and hope you have a great time whatever you do.

And don’t let the crazy’s on here put you off, there’s so many amazing people that by far make up with the barrage of mental that will fill your inbox

L +D x x

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

You live in Newton Abbott? Why not visit Secrets down the road? There’s a party there tonight.

We’ve met loads of single girls there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feel sorry for single bi women it always appears that couples just want to use them like you said: all about what you both want!!

No wonder they are difficult to find!! "

This. I thoroughly enjoy new ventures with like minded. But for me I meet for a social first before any meet. The connection has to be there. I've also had my time wasted where I'm asked to meet with the potential of a ffm then the lady is not able to fully play so I've been lured in for the male's use. I just leave on those occasions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Feel sorry for single bi women it always appears that couples just want to use them like you said: all about what you both want!!

No wonder they are difficult to find!! "

We don’t want to just use them! They aren’t ‘toys’! It isn’t about what we both want atall! It’s about what everyone wants in the end

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You live in Newton Abbott? Why not visit Secrets down the road? There’s a party there tonight.

We’ve met loads of single girls there."

Yeah we do, I’ve never heard of Secrets? Anyone know where it is?

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Yeah we do, I’ve never heard of Secrets? Anyone know where it is?"

Ideally located halfway between Exeter and Plymouth we are easily accessible from all of Devon, Cornwall and Somerset

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