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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi there I'm Chris, I've posted a couple of times on here but I've got a new topic.. is there any advice on what kind of message I should send for the first time.. I'm always polite and keep it clean but is there any thing in particular I should add to my messages? Many thanks chris. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice do a forum search lots of advice on a varitiy of subjects x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you and I've done a forum search and thought introductions forum was the best place to ask! Is this what you meant? X

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I'm guessing she meant that hundreds of blokes have previously started a thread asking what to write so she's probably advising you to read the advice they've been given

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahh ok.. thank you. I'll have a look to see if I can find any advice if not I'll wait to see if I get any more advice on here to. Thanks again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guessing she meant that hundreds of blokes have previously started a thread asking what to write so she's probably advising you to read the advice they've been given"

spot on xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahh ok.. thank you. I'll have a look to see if I can find any advice if not I'll wait to see if I get any more advice on here to. Thanks again. "
ps everyone bit of advice that comes up put cock pics in private if we want to c we will ask x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahh ok.. thank you. I'll have a look to see if I can find any advice if not I'll wait to see if I get any more advice on here to. Thanks again. "

There are dozens and dozens of threads asking for advice in 'introductions'

Scroll through, and have a read. They pretty much all say the same

Oh, and lose any cock pics. We all know guys are proud of their cocks, but graphic pics of them are just naff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahh ok.. thank you. I'll have a look to see if I can find any advice if not I'll wait to see if I get any more advice on here to. Thanks again.

There are dozens and dozens of threads asking for advice in 'introductions'

Scroll through, and have a read. They pretty much all say the same

Oh, and lose any cock pics. We all know guys are proud of their cocks, but graphic pics of them are just naff"

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By *alkirkbairnMan
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Hi there I'm Chris, I've posted a couple of times on here but I've got a new topic.. is there any advice on what kind of message I should send for the first time.. I'm always polite and keep it clean but is there any thing in particular I should add to my messages? Many thanks chris. X"

Just write... "u free nw" and attach several cock pics, one with a sky remote and one over the loo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ahh ok.. thank you. I'll have a look to see if I can find any advice if not I'll wait to see if I get any more advice on here to. Thanks again.

There are dozens and dozens of threads asking for advice in 'introductions'

Scroll through, and have a read. They pretty much all say the same

Oh, and lose any cock pics. We all know guys are proud of their cocks, but graphic pics of them are just naff"

Thank you. I'm still learning and have updated. X

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

If it's any help...

We get everything from the rubbish one-line messages to paragraphs and paragraphs of carefully written prose.

One-liners are always deleted without further investigation.

The long messages, while very sweet and appreciated, can be a waste of the writer's time if he isn't our type or isn't what we are looking for.

So I would recommend...

1. Make sure you read and understand the profile of who you want to contact. It's amazing (and insulting) how many blokes simply look at our pics and message us without reading our profile. If they did they might see why they are not suitable. They might also see why they ARE suitable.

2. If all is still good after reading and digesting their profile, make your first message polite, interesting and keep in mind what you've read. Don't be afraid to say what you've noticed and what you like about their profile.

Don't make this initial message too short or too long. The goal is to tickle their fancy and start a dialogue.

If you've understood their profile and what they are after, play the part in your message. A bit like a job interview

Don't be afraid to be a bit sexy, but remember, something too filthy might turn them off. It might also turn them on, but it's a gamble. Better to play it safe.

3. A face pic always works well to show your integrity and honesty. Best to get this out the way as soon as possible. It might be they simply don't fancy you when they see your pic, but why waste time with endless messages if you can find this out at the start. Also, you might not fancy them if they send you a face pic.

Sending cock pics can be a total waste of time and anti-productive. Some might like them, but others will see them as a bit desperate. Perhaps wait until they ask for one?

Hope this helps.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"If it's any help...

We get everything from the rubbish one-line messages to paragraphs and paragraphs of carefully written prose.

One-liners are always deleted without further investigation.

The long messages, while very sweet and appreciated, can be a waste of the writer's time if he isn't our type or isn't what we are looking for.

So I would recommend...

1. Make sure you read and understand the profile of who you want to contact. It's amazing (and insulting) how many blokes simply look at our pics and message us without reading our profile. If they did they might see why they are not suitable. They might also see why they ARE suitable.

2. If all is still good after reading and digesting their profile, make your first message polite, interesting and keep in mind what you've read. Don't be afraid to say what you've noticed and what you like about their profile.

Don't make this initial message too short or too long. The goal is to tickle their fancy and start a dialogue.

If you've understood their profile and what they are after, play the part in your message. A bit like a job interview

Don't be afraid to be a bit sexy, but remember, something too filthy might turn them off. It might also turn them on, but it's a gamble. Better to play it safe.

3. A face pic always works well to show your integrity and honesty. Best to get this out the way as soon as possible. It might be they simply don't fancy you when they see your pic, but why waste time with endless messages if you can find this out at the start. Also, you might not fancy them if they send you a face pic.

Sending cock pics can be a total waste of time and anti-productive. Some might like them, but others will see them as a bit desperate. Perhaps wait until they ask for one?

Hope this helps."

absolutely brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's any help...

We get everything from the rubbish one-line messages to paragraphs and paragraphs of carefully written prose.

One-liners are always deleted without further investigation.

The long messages, while very sweet and appreciated, can be a waste of the writer's time if he isn't our type or isn't what we are looking for.

So I would recommend...

1. Make sure you read and understand the profile of who you want to contact. It's amazing (and insulting) how many blokes simply look at our pics and message us without reading our profile. If they did they might see why they are not suitable. They might also see why they ARE suitable.

2. If all is still good after reading and digesting their profile, make your first message polite, interesting and keep in mind what you've read. Don't be afraid to say what you've noticed and what you like about their profile.

Don't make this initial message too short or too long. The goal is to tickle their fancy and start a dialogue.

If you've understood their profile and what they are after, play the part in your message. A bit like a job interview

Don't be afraid to be a bit sexy, but remember, something too filthy might turn them off. It might also turn them on, but it's a gamble. Better to play it safe.

3. A face pic always works well to show your integrity and honesty. Best to get this out the way as soon as possible. It might be they simply don't fancy you when they see your pic, but why waste time with endless messages if you can find this out at the start. Also, you might not fancy them if they send you a face pic.

Sending cock pics can be a total waste of time and anti-productive. Some might like them, but others will see them as a bit desperate. Perhaps wait until they ask for one?

Hope this helps.

wow, thank you and I'll take notice. "

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By *ncandiladoCouple
over a year ago

Dundee


"If it's any help...

We get everything from the rubbish one-line messages to paragraphs and paragraphs of carefully written prose.

One-liners are always deleted without further investigation.

The long messages, while very sweet and appreciated, can be a waste of the writer's time if he isn't our type or isn't what we are looking for.

So I would recommend...

1. Make sure you read and understand the profile of who you want to contact. It's amazing (and insulting) how many blokes simply look at our pics and message us without reading our profile. If they did they might see why they are not suitable. They might also see why they ARE suitable.

2. If all is still good after reading and digesting their profile, make your first message polite, interesting and keep in mind what you've read. Don't be afraid to say what you've noticed and what you like about their profile.

Don't make this initial message too short or too long. The goal is to tickle their fancy and start a dialogue.

If you've understood their profile and what they are after, play the part in your message. A bit like a job interview

Don't be afraid to be a bit sexy, but remember, something too filthy might turn them off. It might also turn them on, but it's a gamble. Better to play it safe.

3. A face pic always works well to show your integrity and honesty. Best to get this out the way as soon as possible. It might be they simply don't fancy you when they see your pic, but why waste time with endless messages if you can find this out at the start. Also, you might not fancy them if they send you a face pic.

Sending cock pics can be a total waste of time and anti-productive. Some might like them, but others will see them as a bit desperate. Perhaps wait until they ask for one?

Hope this helps."

This is the answer to so many FAQs on here!

Excellent post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's any help...

We get everything from the rubbish one-line messages to paragraphs and paragraphs of carefully written prose.

One-liners are always deleted without further investigation.

The long messages, while very sweet and appreciated, can be a waste of the writer's time if he isn't our type or isn't what we are looking for.

So I would recommend...

1. Make sure you read and understand the profile of who you want to contact. It's amazing (and insulting) how many blokes simply look at our pics and message us without reading our profile. If they did they might see why they are not suitable. They might also see why they ARE suitable.

2. If all is still good after reading and digesting their profile, make your first message polite, interesting and keep in mind what you've read. Don't be afraid to say what you've noticed and what you like about their profile.

Don't make this initial message too short or too long. The goal is to tickle their fancy and start a dialogue.

If you've understood their profile and what they are after, play the part in your message. A bit like a job interview

Don't be afraid to be a bit sexy, but remember, something too filthy might turn them off. It might also turn them on, but it's a gamble. Better to play it safe.

3. A face pic always works well to show your integrity and honesty. Best to get this out the way as soon as possible. It might be they simply don't fancy you when they see your pic, but why waste time with endless messages if you can find this out at the start. Also, you might not fancy them if they send you a face pic.

Sending cock pics can be a total waste of time and anti-productive. Some might like them, but others will see them as a bit desperate. Perhaps wait until they ask for one?

Hope this helps."

No this really is a big help.. I've put a few questions on here before but never had an answer like this before.. 10/10 and I'm sure to get on better now. Thank you. Xx

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi there I'm Chris, I've posted a couple of times on here but I've got a new topic.. is there any advice on what kind of message I should send for the first time.. I'm always polite and keep it clean but is there any thing in particular I should add to my messages? Many thanks chris. X"

Hi there

I've had a look at your other threads and your profile and I get the impression that you think finding a woman to have sex with from this site will be very easy. It really isn't.

Your profile tells me you are attached (forgive me if that isn't the truth but I really suspect it is)and lots of the women here wont meet attached men. Some do and you may want to consider putting it on your profile.

You are shorter than the average man in the UK so that will be a hindrance to your success. Of course there is nothing you can do to change that but it may be one of the reasons you're not successful in meeting.

Your initial question also tells me that you are under the illusion that it only takes one identical message to everyone you send it will get you some success.

It wont.

Everyone here are individuals with unique tastes and desires and just being on fab wont get you a fuck.

Go to clubs and socials to get yourself known.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

There is no magical message that will work on everyone.

Step 1. Use the search facility to find people that meet your preferences. Don't forget to tick the 'I must meet their age requirements too' box.

Step 2. Read profiles, and if you don't meet what they are looking for then move on to the next. It'll save from wasting your time and theirs.

Step 3. Send them a message introducing yourself. Attach a face pic, don't attach a cock shot unless their profile asked for it. Make sure your message is engaging so that they want to message back, comment on their profile or an aspect of it (not simply 'great pics'), be humourous if you want.

Step 4. Forget about it and move on. If step 3 was successful and your message stood out then you'll move to step 5 in due course. If step 3 wasn't successfull then return to step 1.

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