FabSwingers.com forum: Not new here but may as well be

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Embarrassed to say that i have been on here a while so i understand well the difficulties everyone faces meeting people whether its females getting tons of obnoxious pestering mail / couples not able to find the holy grail and in my case single males struggling to seen and/or heard. So i would not be surprised if no one reads this - i thank those that are still on this page now

I think i am quite normal, ok looking. I write individual messages and am pretty courteous. Basically i try and be myself on here without turning into a crazed stalker. Maybe i should not be surprised that no one ever replies or gets in touch with me as i have the same problem in the real world.

But if anyone could spare some time to check my profile and provide any tips i would be very grateful. Just thought it might be useful to get some feedback before i either leave or Jekyll and Mr Hyde it and turn into a stalking angry single male on here. thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive read your profile and whilst you say you are not desperate the line "any age, an race" would contradict in my opinion. I would if it were my profile delete that as it puts alot of people off. good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for your reply. not sure my openness implies i am desperate but I guess you have a point. Just thought i would make my preferences clear after seeing so many profiles on here that state -- "no blacks" , "blacks only", "Whites only" etc lol

point taken. thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a hard game being a single guy on here,so I went down the controversial route,and posted a naughty word, and what do u know,worked a treat

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Not that we are looking for single males but....

We think for single males to get on, on this site the only way you are going to do it is to get out in the real world and become known on the scene and backup everything you are saying. Re:being polite etc, also show people that you understand the scene and what it is all and that infact you are a genuine swinger and not a single guy looking for a quick shag.

Get out to clubs and socials and just chat to people. Everyone!. There are tonnes of couples out there that are looking to add another guy into the mix but they will only do that if they 'Both' get on with you. So that guy that approaches you at the bar could well have been asked to chat to you and scope you out by his wife who is currently staying in the background and whom will only come over when her hubby likes you and signals her over.

Blank the guy of a couple and your done 9 times out of 10.

Follow a couple or a female around and your done.

Pester a couple and your done.

Get on the forum and join in. Just keep posting until people know you.

Remember what we do is a lifestyle choice show people you want to be part of that lifestyle as they are.

You get out what you put in.

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

A lot of sense there Phoenix Couple. I was single on here, then had apartner for a year and it was so easy then to get meets.

Now single again its hard, stil get some very nice ones too. But I go to a local club sometimes, have been to parties and socials and at least known in the swinging community of my area.

It's not just the sex its a social thing, and so many folks forget that. But my main grip are the ingorant ones, despiet people defneded them, it only takes a minute to say "no thanks."

I reckon I send out 50 to 60 messages per each successful meet.Out of those maybe 15 reply.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"A lot of sense there Phoenix Couple. I was single on here, then had apartner for a year and it was so easy then to get meets.

Now single again its hard, stil get some very nice ones too. But I go to a local club sometimes, have been to parties and socials and at least known in the swinging community of my area.

It's not just the sex its a social thing, and so many folks forget that. But my main grip are the ingorant ones, despiet people defneded them, it only takes a minute to say "no thanks."

I reckon I send out 50 to 60 messages per each successful meet.Out of those maybe 15 reply."

Yeah can see that its not easy thats for sure. Trouble is its hard enough finding genuine people on here anyway and with the amount of single guys on here that just don't get the scene it really makes it so hard for the ones that do. To be honest those that really do seem to be in the minority.

If we were looking for a single guy we definetely would not do it through this site. Maybe agree to chat to someone in a club but that is all we would agree to through here.

Unfortunately theres just to many that don't get it, which ruins it for the others in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and spend time in the forums and chatrooms. This will get you recognised and people will see your personality.

I struggled at first, then I stopped trying too hard.

Just have fun and the rest will fall into place.

I'm an ugly fucker lol, so if I can get meets, anybody can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be yourself and spend time in the forums and chatrooms. This will get you recognised and people will see your personality.

I struggled at first, then I stopped trying too hard.

Just have fun and the rest will fall into place.

I'm an ugly fucker lol, so if I can get meets, anybody can

+1 and welcome to fabs good luck hun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for all your replies.

Been here for 4 years and tried everything (forums,chatrooms. Only thing left for me to do is stop wasting my time and leave. Wish you guys better luck!!

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