FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling here

By *ico84 OP Man
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Hi, I've been on here for quite a while and struggle to get a reply never mind a meet, so the whole issue is going to be that I'm not verified, how can you get verified before a meet? Kind of let down in all honesty, I know there's an abundance of fakes out there and it puts people off, so what am I supposed to do other than delete my account and forget about the whole idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe bear in mind most women look at a profile before even opening the message. Verification is not the problem.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Try actually adding something to your bio about you & what you can offer

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"maybe bear in mind most women look at a profile before even opening the message. Verification is not the problem."

I think what is being said here is that the profile doesn’t say much, it doesn’t grab the attention, it’s too similar to 99% of the other M profiles on here.

There’s tons of good looking, tattoed guys, wanting adventure & experiences.

At least the OP avoided the obvious Sky Remote/Cock pic which might be a tick from most women.

Just expand your profile - it’s your shop window.

Attend a local Social when they come up in the Scotland Room, get some Veris & you’ll soon have a different Fab experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to sell yourself. Put up more about who you are and what you have to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, I’m terms of veris, go to a club or a meetup (group) and actually socialise!(:

I think many start out that way on here!

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By *ico84 OP Man
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Yeah I didn't think of that, I'll need to update my bio was never sure what to write in it tbh, club wise I'm currently down the Isle of Wight working for 6 months, I'm not sure they have anything down here, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People join fab and think there going to get plenty of meets unfortunately most use this site to keep in contact with people they met at clubs or else where. Also you get out of this site what you put in same for swinging a almost blank profile and thinking that message are going to come flooding in really isn’t the way. Like others have said fill in your bio go out and meet people in clubs or socials you will soon get a couple of verifications and people will see you make a effort and are genuine. Sitting behind a keyboard really isn’t making a effort.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP.

Firstly, you should consider adding more to your profile, it's your shop window to sell yourself in, and 'Looking for some new adventures' is a really bland statement. Let people know more about what you are looking for and why they should be interested in you, entice them. In simple terms, play with their minds before you get to play with their bodies.

Not everyone will insist on a verification before they meet you. However the simplest way to get a verification is to attend a social, club or other organised event. You will get to meet several people that will be able to verify you and may hook up with someone at the time, or in the near future.

If your a tad shy or nervous then get yourself into the online social side, by using the forums, and the chatroom. Especially the Scotland room, as it's likely to have people geographiclly near to you.

Unfortunately there is no magic fix. Just like most areas of life you have to put some effort in, and then you'll get a reward.

Good luck out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been here 10 months.

By single male time that's about half an hour.

Time moves much MUCH more slowly in single male time.

Best advice, very recent pics, activities outdoors that show ladies you don't sit at home with your hand in your pants all day.

Good clear face pics. NEVER show cock shots unless a lady asks, so keep them private.

Talk in your profile about what YOU can offer, not what you WANT.

Be creative and a tad humorous.

Think outside the box.....if you were chatting to a lady in a bar.....what would you say.

And then it's all about patience, if you have no patience (and don't forget. You have been here 10 months.... So half an hour in single male time) then you're already defeating yourself.

Try visiting a club or 2 and check out forums for social get togethers and ask the organisers if you can be considered to join the guest list.

Good luck xx

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By *ico84 OP Man
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Appreciate all the advice, I've got my own business so work a lot, outdoor activites are minimum unfortunately, I'll spruce it up soon and see where it takes me.

Thanks all

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

"Yeah I didn't think of that, I'll need to update my bio was never sure what to write in it tbh, club wise I'm currently down the Isle of Wight working for 6 months, I'm not sure they have anything down here, thanks

You may want to change your profile (& postcode on account) to show as Isle of Wight. You won’t be showing up in anyone’s Home Page or Who’s Near other than folk in Scotland. It might help if you’re profile shows to folk in the area you’re currently in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good clear face pics. NEVER show cock shots unless a lady asks,..xx"

I disagree....I love a good cock pic.....and as long as the actual message stimulates my twisted and kinky mind... a nice cock could make or break whether I reply or not.....

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"maybe bear in mind most women look at a profile before even opening the message. Verification is not the problem."

They hope to find one too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your profile busy by adding pics rotating pics updating status etc u tend to come up on searches more frequently

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By *idalgo13Man
over a year ago

Near York

"You've been here 10 months.

By single male time that's about half an hour.

Time moves much MUCH more slowly in single male time.

Best advice, very recent pics, activities outdoors that show ladies you don't sit at home with your hand in your pants all day.

Good clear face pics. NEVER show cock shots unless a lady asks, so keep them private.

Talk in your profile about what YOU can offer, not what you WANT.

Be creative and a tad humorous.

Think outside the box.....if you were chatting to a lady in a bar.....what would you say.

And then it's all about patience, if you have no patience (and don't forget. You have been here 10 months.... So half an hour in single male time) then you're already defeating yourself.

Try visiting a club or 2 and check out forums for social get togethers and ask the organisers if you can be considered to join the guest list.

Good luck xx"

Absolutely

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