FabSwingers.com forum: First message?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've seen a lot of posts on this and I have done a similar post before and I'm still not quite sure.

But what it a good first message.

I have tried different things and gotten a few responses.

I don't think my profile is problem.Like its not perfect but it's not crap.

Anyway any helpful advice on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If message is to a couple address both not just female,as most couples only agree to meets together and read profile often gives clues as to what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Of course. I usually assume I'm talking to the guy.

But say I am what they are looking for or I think I am. What should I say to them.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Ask for profile advice, as that's what people go to on receiving a message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah that makes sense.

So I guess has anyone got any advice on how I could improve my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show a face photo ( What are you afraid

of !!!!!!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have some on my profile but they are private.

I don't publicily display them for I'll will just say personal reasons and leave it that.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Thus is your third similar post and having read them I'm unclear if you are taking things on board.

You need an avatar

Before you say you can't show a fave you gave whole body just not a cock!

You say it's not a dating site- perhaps but you should still treat people as you would in person- talk to them like human beings, pick up something of interest from their profiles.

Look to join in the forum threads and chats/ search out local social events to get your profile out there and meet people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I try to talk about an interest after looking at their profile I dont know what to say and so I say the stupidest things possible.

And ok I will use the forum more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Thus is your third similar post and having read them I'm unclear if you are taking things on board.

this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah that makes sense.

So I guess has anyone got any advice on how I could improve my profile."

You need more pictures, semi clothed, bum torso etc. Gives people an idea what what's on offer.

Your age will go against you with some, but nothing you can do about that.

With age will come confidence and you'll find talking to people easier, so give it time and be patient.

Think about your profile and treat it like a shop window, you have to sell yourself. Take some time to look around at other successful profiles for some ideas (but don't copy them). Yours needs a lot of work.

Good luck.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be respectful let them get to know you and you them. It's all about trust. And if go in all guns blazing a lot if time it won't work. Just be you as you would be in a bar or something. You wouldn't go up to someone in a bar and say fancy a shag lol. Be nice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice everyone.

I'm gonna summarise what I learnt just so I don't need to make another thread on this.

So I should add more body photos

Be patient and respectful

Improve my profile and sell myself

Is there anything else I'm missing or is that all the advice I need to take on board.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Thanks for the advice everyone.

I'm gonna summarise what I learnt just so I don't need to make another thread on this.

So I should add more body photos

Be patient and respectful

Improve my profile and sell myself

Is there anything else I'm missing or is that all the advice I need to take on board."

Get to a social or two

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice everyone.

I'm gonna summarise what I learnt just so I don't need to make another thread on this.

So I should add more body photos

Be patient and respectful

Improve my profile and sell myself

Is there anything else I'm missing or is that all the advice I need to take on board.

Get to a social or two"

Um 3 stupid queries

1 i have no clue where my nearest solution is so how do I find out

2 Aren't they costly

3 Aren't they couples only sort of things

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Thanks for the advice everyone.

I'm gonna summarise what I learnt just so I don't need to make another thread on this.

So I should add more body photos

Be patient and respectful

Improve my profile and sell myself

Is there anything else I'm missing or is that all the advice I need to take on board.

Get to a social or two

Um 3 stupid queries

1 i have no clue where my nearest solution is so how do I find out

2 Aren't they costly

3 Aren't they couples only sort of things"

Tough love time.

You've done 3 posts asking for profile advice, what to write in your first message, and what to write if you get a reply. Now, these three. Just search in the forum. There's profile advice, message advice and adverts for socials.

You are going to have to learn some self -sufficiency. What will happen when you get a meet? You can't take a helper with you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice everyone.

I'm gonna summarise what I learnt just so I don't need to make another thread on this.

So I should add more body photos

Be patient and respectful

Improve my profile and sell myself

Is there anything else I'm missing or is that all the advice I need to take on board.

Get to a social or two

Um 3 stupid queries

1 i have no clue where my nearest solution is so how do I find out

2 Aren't they costly

3 Aren't they couples only sort of things

Tough love time.

You are going to have to learn some self -sufficiency. What will happen when you get a meet? You can't take a helper with you!"

Yeah I did search in the forums and found some adverts for social elsewhere(too far for me). I was just trying to saying that is there an another site that adverts socials.

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