FabSwingers.com forum: Fab is not working for me :(

By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Been on fab for quite a long time and still had no meets.. Can anyone identify any reasons what im doing wrong? Constructive criticism is needed

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Been on fab for quite a long time and still had no meets.. Can anyone identify any reasons what im doing wrong? Constructive criticism is needed

I would start by emphasizing your positives rather than your negatives.....if you state that no one here wants to meet you, what incentive is that for anyone here wanting to meet you?

Another thing is that by telling people here you pull at work, you are basically saying Fab is a waste of your time, but you're here anyway...why?

Maybe try a complete rewrite with some humor and though you emphasize that you find everyone beautiful in their own way, are you really willing to meet/have sex with absolutely anyone? I'd like to know that the guy I meet has some standards....

Sorry if this sounds negative. You have some to work with there but need to show it!

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

hm but what if i dont have much positives lol? besides that i work in a bar so i guess i could give out loads of discount lol. and yeah i realise that isnt a good idea to write about pulling in work, taken that bit out now.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"hm but what if i dont have much positives lol? besides that i work in a bar so i guess i could give out loads of discount lol. and yeah i realise that isnt a good idea to write about pulling in work, taken that bit out now."

EVERYONE has positives! But if you don't think so, no one else will see them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try running your profile through a spell checker. You're very young so many people won't be interested because of that.

Personally, I think your pics are off-putting.

HTH...

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Your profile says your 26 but you say you're 22 further down. I'd put up better pics as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some better photos maybe XXX

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

thank you all for your input!! made some changes to my profile, can you let me what you think?

again thank you for the help!

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"thank you all for your input!! made some changes to my profile, can you let me what you think?

again thank you for the help!"

I think it looks fine now especially the pics you've left up. Nice torso pic. Maybe a couple more teasing ones, just my personal opinion x

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Thank you so much! And yeah I think il take more pics up, I always tought putting too many photos of my body and face would make me come across as vain

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

From our perspective it comes across as your not bothered either way which makes us feel like why should we bother if that makes sense?

Also says you have no verfications but you have 4

If your here to explore things, say what you want to explore.

As for making it more interesting, people will read a profile before replying to a message. We do because it gives us an insight into the person and if what we want are aligned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it says you have 4 veris..? 2 meet, 2 cam.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"But it says you have 4 veris..? 2 meet, 2 cam."

So how is it not working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it says you have 4 veris..? 2 meet, 2 cam."

this

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

"Been on fab for quite a long time and still had no meets.. Can anyone identify any reasons what im doing wrong? Constructive criticism is needed

Go to Clubs and/or socials.

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I've only ever met one person from here but that was cause she used to come the nightclub I used to work in, I've never actually met anyone and gone on a date or social with them, and they aren't on fab anymore, the other ones I didn't even know I had, but I've only spoken to people on webcam

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"From our perspective it comes across as your not bothered either way which makes us feel like why should we bother if that makes sense?

Also says you have no verfications but you have 4

If your here to explore things, say what you want to explore.

As for making it more interesting, people will read a profile before replying to a message. We do because it gives us an insight into the person and if what we want are aligned

I do agree with what your saying but I've tried the whole keen approach and it's backfired and made me look desperate and stuff so I thought I'd play it cool and laid back x

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Not bothered too much about looking for sex and all, if it happens then it happens".

I don't think this sounds "cool and laidback" it just sounds lazy. If you can't be bothered, why would a lady be bothered to contact you?

Sally

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

""Not bothered too much about looking for sex and all, if it happens then it happens".

I don't think this sounds "cool and laidback" it just sounds lazy. If you can't be bothered, why would a lady be bothered to contact you?

Sally"

I don't want to sound like I want to just fuck random women

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

Zac, you're on a sex site and not looking for sex? Wtf? Seriously, you need more in your profile about likes and dislikes and what you are willing or unwilling to do so people (i mean girls/couples etc) know what you're about. Also, don't message with 'hey' or 'hi' unless you're willing to follow up with pics. Most single girls like to see who they're talking to..... Hope you get what you want. Happy fabbing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on fab for quite a long time and still had no meets.. Can anyone identify any reasons what im doing wrong? Constructive criticism is needed

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Just wondering where do u get these three verification if u haven't met anyone or u just looking for attention here

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Been on fab for quite a long time and still had no meets.. Can anyone identify any reasons what im doing wrong? Constructive criticism is needed

Just wondering where do u get these three verification if u haven't met anyone or u just looking for attention here "

If you read this thread you'd know the answer to this. Weirdo

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By *lackBachelorMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Ok a few things. First sentence remove "or whatever".

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Zac, you're on a sex site and not looking for sex? Wtf? Seriously, you need more in your profile about likes and dislikes and what you are willing or unwilling to do so people (i mean girls/couples etc) know what you're about. Also, don't message with 'hey' or 'hi' unless you're willing to follow up with pics. Most single girls like to see who they're talking to..... Hope you get what you want. Happy fabbing xx"

Yeah I'm aware this is a sex site but that doesn't mean I have to be shallow and give a preference on that who I wanna fuck, like i said if it happens it happens but I'm going to openly look for it because I'm not doing that approach anymore

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Ok a few things. First sentence remove "or whatever"."

Lol no thanks il leave that there I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on fab for quite a long time and still had no meets.. Can anyone identify any reasons what im doing wrong? Constructive criticism is needed

Just wondering where do u get these three verification if u haven't met anyone or u just looking for attention here

If you read this thread you'd know the answer to this. Weirdo "

Perhaps speaking to people like this is your problem?

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By *lackBachelorMan
over a year ago

Salisbury

Hello

Thank you for taking the time to read my profile.

I'm currently living in Cardiff, and looking for interesting people to make memories with, lovely couples and single ladies.

Not in a mad rush for meets, it's not "all" about the sex, I'm happy to take things as they come with plenty of flirting maybe even a social and if it happens then it happens.

Never played with a couple, that would be something new that I'd love experiencing, I'm open to trying new things.

My preference in women/couples would be ideally someone/pairing that can hold a conversation and has a good sense of humour, as it's their personality that matters most. Someone that looks after themselves and is confident.

Thank you for taking your time to read.

Happy Swinging.

Zac.

You welcome

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

Oh thank fuck. A fellow Yorkie that tells it like it is....

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

Zac, whoever you are, i wish you well dude but i answered in the forum and DO NOT appreciate you private messaging me. I was just trying to help. I also didn't think i was rude at any point. You, good sir, are maybe not on the right website. Xx

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

"Hello

Thank you for taking the time to read my profile.

I'm currently living in Cardiff, and looking for interesting people to make memories with, lovely couples and single ladies.

Not in a mad rush for meets, it's not "all" about the sex, I'm happy to take things as they come with plenty of flirting maybe even a social and if it happens then it happens.

Never played with a couple, that would be something new that I'd love experiencing, I'm open to trying new things.

Thank you for taking your time to read.

Happy Swinging.

Zac.

You welcome

Zac you have just scored a willy golden ticket. Say thank you and enjoy yourself on here, don't get shirty after asking for help.

This is exactly what you needed to say but is worded beyond reproach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello

Thank you for taking the time to read my profile.

I'm currently living in Cardiff, and looking for interesting people to make memories with, lovely couples and single ladies.

Not in a mad rush for meets, it's not "all" about the sex, I'm happy to take things as they come with plenty of flirting maybe even a social and if it happens then it happens.

Never played with a couple, that would be something new that I'd love experiencing, I'm open to trying new things.

Thank you for taking your time to read.

Happy Swinging.

Zac.

You welcome

Zac you have just scored a willy golden ticket. Say thank you and enjoy yourself on here, don't get shirty after asking for help.

This is exactly what you needed to say but is worded beyond reproach"

They do make me laugh when they get all cross with the people who are trying to help them

Just like children. With added shitty attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only ever met one person from here but that was cause she used to come the nightclub I used to work in, I've never actually met anyone and gone on a date or social with them, and they aren't on fab anymore, the other ones I didn't even know I had, but I've only spoken to people on webcam"

If they're fake veris you ought to contact admin and let them know so they can be deleted. As it stands I'd wonder about a profile that had meet veris which weren't displayed when a webcam one was.

As far as the text goes it does leave me wondering what on earth you're on the site for, it doesn't read to me that you are selective, almost the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is too many fake profile and not enough gen ones couple profiles do not seem to be gen

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Black Bachelor has worded your profile perfectly. You should use it.

Sally

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Your profiles looks like a decent one suited to a dating website... I've met a few couplesfor 3sums..and few single ladies, found ladies like suck n go in a car...

Tbh everyone I've encountered wants to fuck n go... Even what your name is is unimportant and just mannerism at the time... I've never had a planned meet, always been a msg the pulling her knickers off within the hour.. Hope this helps

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Lose the stroppiness and be grateful people are helping you. No one has to.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Lose the stroppiness and be grateful people are helping you. No one has to. "

Was just about to say the same, great minds and all that! I don't actually think OP wants help to be fair, as he seems unwilling to take advice and very rude when given it, keep your toys in you pram OP and show some manners and maturity!

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

He was rude to me last night privately. But i may have potentially met a new 'friend' in the person who rewrote his profile for him. So actually, thanks dude. Xx

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

Actually, i am loving this thread as i see you all as supportive, beautiful people. Big love xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He was rude to me last night privately. But i may have potentially met a new 'friend' in the person who rewrote his profile for him. So actually, thanks dude. Xx"

I was actually thinking that the guy that re wrote his profile was a bloody nice bloke. He didnt have to do that

Its easy, this Fab thing OP.

Manners and respect go a long way

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

Ooo Barnsley guy will you pull my knickers off please?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Your profiles looks like a decent one suited to a dating website... I've met a few couplesfor 3sums..and few single ladies, found ladies like suck n go in a car...

this thread is a great filter, wow what a charmer! Lovely to think its ok if we are being treated like meat!

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

fab does not work for every one every day .just keep going and fab will fine you what you want .we not had a meet from fab for a while but still site support .had some great meets on here in the past

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This is the reason I gave up wasting my time giving profile advice.

Reality is OP you will struggle with your attitude and height. A six pack is not the greatest thing on earth for most of us.

And yes I know I'm old, fat and ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because off your fat belly

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I apriciate everyone's feedback but when someone is just being blatantly rude to me then obviously I'm going to be offended and respond, cheers to the guy that re wrote it for me, and my veris I had where not fake as I did clearly state on the thread, all I asked for was a little help on my profile, and I got my answers in the first few comments, if I could delete this thread then I would have, but when all you people are just insulting me by saying I'm lazy and all that stuff then obviously I'm going to be offended by that, surely you lot have better things to do than slate someone looking for help

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

As for my body, one minute I'm being told

To upload photos of my body the next minute I'm being told that body pics are not everything, why give someone advise on how to portray yourself then abuse them

For doing so

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I was not rude to that person claiming that I was rude, I messeged her stating that I'd have never ever messeged her in my life because she wrote on this thread that i had messeged her before in the past. It's amazing how much a woman can achieve by lying seriously

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

I would like to clarify that i never stated you messaged me OP. It was some general advice, using the fact that I personally don't respond to the one word message (and neither do a lot of my friends). If you re-read my original post, it may make more sense. People (myself included) are so quick to read messages in the way that it suits them and respond in kind. I would like to publicly apologise to you for any nastiness or hurt I may have caused through my inability to read a message in the way it was intended. I am trying to spread love and make friends and not be a knob! Xx

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By *he Scary OneWoman
over a year ago

York

Also, i was being mean and nasty in private which was uncalled for and highly inappropriate of me. Sorry xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on fab for quite a long time and still had no meets.. Can anyone identify any reasons what im doing wrong? Constructive criticism is needed

Your profile veris says otherwise of your profile.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"As for my body, one minute I'm being told

To upload photos of my body the next minute I'm being told that body pics are not everything, why give someone advise on how to portray yourself then abuse them

For doing so"

That's what happens with advice from a cross section of forum readers.

For example, the infamous cock pics..some like to see them, some don't.

Use the advice given as it suits you.

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Thank you

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"As for my body, one minute I'm being told

To upload photos of my body the next minute I'm being told that body pics are not everything, why give someone advise on how to portray yourself then abuse them

For doing so"

Speaking only for myself, I like both the pictures I can see. Your profile pic is pretty hot

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"As for my body, one minute I'm being told

To upload photos of my body the next minute I'm being told that body pics are not everything, why give someone advise on how to portray yourself then abuse them

For doing so

Speaking only for myself, I like both the pictures I can see. Your profile pic is pretty hot

Thank you! Lol thanks to the people that helped me of course! Xx

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Feel free to private messege me anyone if you are intrested in getting to know me more ????

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Feel free to private messege me anyone if you are intrested in getting to know me more ????"
try posting on the meets section you may have more luck

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By *ac916 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Thanks but I mean to be people I've spoken to on here, apriciate the help given to me by those who did

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Ooo Barnsley guy will you pull my knickers off please?

As long as it's in a semi public place and you do as your told... Yes that fine

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