FabSwingers.com forum: No luck for the genuine guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on here before with verifications however this time round it seems the time wasters on the site have somehow ruined it for the genuine blokes

I am clean healthy and love to have fun however getting nowhere at every turn due to lack of veri's

Help me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say the time wasters make the genuine ones stand out more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I bloody wish

I just cant catch a break at the moment

Try being polite and not send one line messages

Not sure however i aint doing something right x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try a club or a social hun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hmmm that might not be a bad idea actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe try a club or a social hun x"

Defo this, can get several veris in one hit and make contacts. Usually plenty of socials in the meets and events section.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks ladies will have a look into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole "my pictures are private" story will put the majority of fabbers off dude...it just doesn't wash with swingers. Not having a dig, just saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No i apprecaite your input

However i just dont want my face all over the place as my last profile i has my face pic on amd was regonised amd harrased at work for it

Does a body picture cut it?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"The whole "my pictures are private" story will put the majority of fabbers off dude...it just doesn't wash with swingers. Not having a dig, just saying

Indeed. No one expects a public face pic, but was the issue with posting non facial pics?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"No i apprecaite your input

However i just dont want my face all over the place as my last profile i has my face pic on amd was regonised amd harrased at work for it

Does a body picture cut it? "

If you have an athletic body a torso pic would go down well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have the usual body and cock pics set to private we all seen a cock

And have fave pictures also

The issue i had was i was seen on here and due to my job being in the public domain i was harrassed for being on here

I will stick up a body picture and see if this helps any

cheers for the input guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you got verifications from your previous time on here, then why not just do what you did back then. It clearly worked.

Other than that, it's a numbers game here. You're in the vast majority vs the amount of ladies there are to go around. Then consider that the majority of those women either won't fancy you or have some other reason for not meeting you. That number dwindles further as your search criteria is applied, and dwindles further still dependant on the area your live and how active 'the scene' is there.

Now you're down to a small number of women that you need to try to impress/captivate/attract.

So the advice is the same as any single bloke asking. Make sure your profile (your shop window), is the best it can be and as alluring as possible for the ladies of Fab'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one expects public face pics... Be creatine with your photos and check out what other guys do.... There is no magic formula. However, your old profile got veris so I'd replicate what you did on that one (aside from face pics).

Just be prepared to send privately when required and you are good to go.... Also, ask the people to reverify you? Boom... You will be well on your way

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

For single guys in good shape the best bet is to go to a single guy night at a club. You will have plenty of couples there looking to play with single guys and you will stand out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have asked the women i met before to re verify me and she has done so hopefully i am back up and running ladies and gents

Also will stick a cheeky body picture up am no tom hardy however it will do for now

Cheers ladies and gents all your comments have been brilliant

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"I have asked the women i met before to re verify me and she has done so hopefully i am back up and running ladies and gents

Also will stick a cheeky body picture up am no tom hardy however it will do for now

Cheers ladies and gents all your comments have been brilliant "

That's one body. We'd certainly meet you if you are ever in London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of women will probably delete your message unread or block you. This is what happens to the majority of single blokes on here unless you are stereotypically very good looking or fulfill a niche market...black, bi, bearded etc verifucations help but are not a guarantee, they just prove in theory you are genuine and not a time waster.

Best off going to clubs and parties, but realise that many are off putting and being a single bloke at one of these venues, who is not a sexual celebrity, also carries its persona non grata stigma.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The majority of women will probably delete your message unread or block you. This is what happens to the majority of single blokes on here unless you are stereotypically very good looking or fulfill a niche market...black, bi, bearded etc verifucations help but are not a guarantee, they just prove in theory you are genuine and not a time waster.

Best off going to clubs and parties, but realise that many are off putting and being a single bloke at one of these venues, who is not a sexual celebrity, also carries its persona non grata stigma.

How do you know this happens to the majority of single guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this happens to the majority of single guys, you hear it time and time again and its no secret that the majority of single guys who send messages are considered a nuisance by many couples and single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this happens to the majority of single guys, you hear it time and time again and its no secret that the majority of single guys who send messages are considered a nuisance by many couples and single women. "

I see it now and then on here but it's only a tiny majority of people who use the forum. All I can say is, they must be doing something wrong as there plenty of average dad bod guys that are very successful on here. You get out what you put in and a positive attitude is vital.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are not doing anything "wrong", they are just not wanted because there are so many single guys and its a numbers game. Men dont seem to understand that attractive women reveive scores of messages from single men daily and after a while they just delete and block to save time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are not doing anything "wrong", they are just not wanted because there are so many single guys and its a numbers game. Men dont seem to understand that attractive women reveive scores of messages from single men daily and after a while they just delete and block to save time. "

The canny ones block all men and search themselves which is why a well written profile with nice photos is a smart move

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Have any of you men ever thought that it might be your negative attitudes that are putting people off?

I know men on here of all shapes and sizes that do extremely well regarding meets, one thing they all have in common is a good attitude to swinging and respect for people's right to say no or not say anything at all if they prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have any of you men ever thought that it might be your negative attitudes that are putting people off?

Exactly this. Like attracts like. Have a negative outlook on here or in life and invariably you'll not do well. Be positive and you'll attract the same, good things will happen. It's my experience of life anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on here before with verifications however this time round it seems the time wasters on the site have somehow ruined it for the genuine blokes

I am clean healthy and love to have fun however getting nowhere at every turn due to lack of veri's

Help me lol"
u are not photo verified so u nothing different than the fake time wasters every fake has 1 very of their other account get photo verified people will know u are genuine other wise they will think u are fake that's my opinion tho

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We've been on the site for several months (we're new to this) and it's astonishing how hard it is to find genuine men who aren't time wasters.

We get led up the garden path and then they either let us down by cancelling initial meets (usually using some lame excuse) and then we find they chose to meet another couple instead.

The problem now is that we tend to view all men who contact us as likely time wasters, regardless of how much they promise they're not, because it's what the time wasters always promise.

We've yet to have our first proper meet.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I don't think they are nuisance as such, after all, us couple are asking to be approached, but where they do drift into nuisance territory is when they clearly haven't bothered reading your profile and they are unsuitable for some reason, or their approach is lame. That's when they simply get deleted. Valid approaches are always read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think this may be my first post but anyway. I am on this site for a long time now. I had meets but sadly it was not as great as I was thinking. First time went great. Second time my wallet simply disappeared from my trousers and suddenly appeared behind a sofa. Then we get to the time wasting bit. Twice in 24 hours. First one saying yes I want come to this place we'll do this and that and got stood up for ages. Second said to meet at such place. I get there and theres no one. Now I have changed my profile several times and I do include contact forms so it's easier. Yet can't get meets or verys. Will be going to a club soon. I know I'm not the tipical hunk but still. I do keep in mind to take a look and use stuff from the profile. Never send one liners as no o e likes them obviously. Might be hitting the gym.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I would say the time wasters make the genuine ones stand out more."

This. It's too easy to blame everyone else rather than taking responsibly for ones own failings.

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