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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hiya you sexy lot, any advice on where i am going wrong? am sending messages but a fair few end up being unread, i have a face pic to send but cant post it publicly due to my job, then when i do have a conversation going it will suddenly stop? all advice welcomed. many thanks

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

Make a decent profile and get rid of the cock centric pictures op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many cock pics and not enough info about you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok what info do you you mean. i dont wanna post my hobbies lmao. i will sort out the cock pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Too many cock pictures. The profile text tells us nothing about you. Think of it as a work in progress and just adapt it as you go. Have a look at the sort of thing successful chaps have on their profiles for inspiration.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

how about now, is it any better??

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

*settles into the sofa*

Ok, so I'm going to say some things and you may not enjoy them. I just want you to know that I don't mean them horribly, I just want you to become one of the super sparkly ass kickers that are littered about Fab like sweet tasting mind candy.

First off, your pictures. So there's a bunch of cocks and a pale torso. When I get a message, I auto-delete those with a cock shot avatar. I don't care what your cock looks like. It's not what I'm interested in. A well taken cock shot can be a thing of beauty, but they are so very, very rare. Your's aren't very well taken. With your pictures you want to tease and tantalise, draw me in, make me strain to see just an inch lower. A bum poking out of a towel. A black and white shot of you in an open shirt. Maybe a tattoo in focus, with the rest of you faded out. Seriously, if even Whatsapp comes with a bunch of filters, there's no reason not to have some great shots. Play around and dress up your shop window!

Secondly, your words. I have zero clue who you are. This is your pitch, you're trying to give me an insight into what time with you will be like. Do we have the same interests, will we have a giggle and a chat on a social, can you engage me? Meets don't happen often for many of us, so it is an occasion, not a quick fuck behind the pub's biffa bins in their car park. You have to put in as much effort, if not more, to your profile than you would into a chat up line to a cute blonde at the bar on your night out. Give us some humour, tell us about you, and what you like in and out of the bedroom. Why should we pick you?

Finally, it's been seven weeks - chill out! Often we women have maybe a dozen conversations going at the same time and some fizzle out. It happens, it's likely not you, just not happening this time. If you get a handful of meets in a year, you'll be doing well, so use this more as a social networking site. Go to actual events and clubs in your area, get to know people there and they'll give you veris, and as well all know, good veris are the keys to the kingdom my son!

And have some fun Chat on the forums as we're only rarely grumpy and mean . Then you'll get the most out of this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks _lcee, thats a great help. will get to work on it now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have had a quick rewrite on my mobile, is this any better??

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Ok, look up some of the forum dudes of wonder - Izza gonna nominate flirty_gent, walkingtaff, privateparts! and brightonsteve. See how theirs compare to yours. Yours reads like every single other profile, theirs have something a tad different. Don't copy theirs, but find your own voice. That's what separates the ok's from the greats on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

any better now _lcee??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello

I dont mean to sound depressing but its highly unlikely any woman is going to meet you. This is not because of your profile, or even your pics its because women on this site do not meet or chat to single men unless they are verified with reviews on their sexual perfirmance or they have pictures which show they are very good looking, muscular and fit or have a big penis - Or are a niche interest such as a black man, a bisexual man or a man who has money, which is always an attractive quality to women on here.

Reasonably attractive Women are inundated with messages and can adopt a sweet shop mentality, and can afford to block, delete and generally treat men with rudeness, disdain and contempt, which they do on a regular basis. Even a good profile and polite message will usually be instantly blocked and deleted unless you have the looks to back it up.

This why good looking men who are not idiots meet women all the time and others dont, the site is 90% about physical appearance and grooming and women want to havevsex with fit, stereotypical good looking men who are clean. smell nice and are sexually experienced and can prove it. It is not like they want a date, or an intellectual,chat and if they do they are more than likely not to be on here.unfortunately it is more a meat market than a wine and dine site..

As well as this the demographic of fab swingers is that of couples so single men are always at a disadvantage. I woukd say give up because unless you are ready to meet an unattractive, overweight woman who is less choosy and perhaps has not had much success onnhere, it is a complete waste of time being here, of course that may be fine by you but realistically that is who you will probably get.

None of the women who have posted on the thread would meet you, and notice not one of them has even offered. That should be a sign,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello

I dont mean to sound depressing but its highly unlikely any woman is going to meet you. This is not because of your profile, or even your pics its because women on this site do not meet or chat to single men unless they are verified with reviews on their sexual perfirmance or they have pictures which show they are very good looking, muscular and fit or have a big penis - Or are a niche interest such as a black man, a bisexual man or a man who has money, which is always an attractive quality to women on here.

Reasonably attractive Women are inundated with messages and can adopt a sweet shop mentality, and can afford to block, delete and generally treat men with rudeness, disdain and contempt, which they do on a regular basis. Even a good profile and polite message will usually be instantly blocked and deleted unless you have the looks to back it up.

This why good looking men who are not idiots meet women all the time and others dont, the site is 90% about physical appearance and grooming and women want to havevsex with fit, stereotypical good looking men who are clean. smell nice and are sexually experienced and can prove it. It is not like they want a date, or an intellectual,chat and if they do they are more than likely not to be on here.unfortunately it is more a meat market than a wine and dine site..

As well as this the demographic of fab swingers is that of couples so single men are always at a disadvantage. I woukd say give up because unless you are ready to meet an unattractive, overweight woman who is less choosy and perhaps has not had much success onnhere, it is a complete waste of time being here, of course that may be fine by you but realistically that is who you will probably get.

None of the women who have posted on the thread would meet you, and notice not one of them has even offered. That should be a sign,,,,

"

Blimey, you're not Twitter and Bisted are you???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ah sharaz, quitting is for quitters, why so glum?? I do go out and meet people too. just thought this site could boost my chances, if it does happy days, if it doesnt so be it. everyone is looking for something different so i may be someones cup of tea.

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow


"Hello

I dont mean to sound depressing but its highly unlikely any woman is going to meet you. This is not because of your profile, or even your pics its because women on this site do not meet or chat to single men unless they are verified with reviews on their sexual perfirmance or they have pictures which show they are very good looking, muscular and fit or have a big penis - Or are a niche interest such as a black man, a bisexual man or a man who has money, which is always an attractive quality to women on here.

Reasonably attractive Women are inundated with messages and can adopt a sweet shop mentality, and can afford to block, delete and generally treat men with rudeness, disdain and contempt, which they do on a regular basis. Even a good profile and polite message will usually be instantly blocked and deleted unless you have the looks to back it up.

This why good looking men who are not idiots meet women all the time and others dont, the site is 90% about physical appearance and grooming and women want to havevsex with fit, stereotypical good looking men who are clean. smell nice and are sexually experienced and can prove it. It is not like they want a date, or an intellectual,chat and if they do they are more than likely not to be on here.unfortunately it is more a meat market than a wine and dine site..

As well as this the demographic of fab swingers is that of couples so single men are always at a disadvantage. I woukd say give up because unless you are ready to meet an unattractive, overweight woman who is less choosy and perhaps has not had much success onnhere, it is a complete waste of time being here, of course that may be fine by you but realistically that is who you will probably get.

None of the women who have posted on the thread would meet you, and notice not one of them has even offered. That should be a sign,,,,

Blimey, you're not Twitter and Bisted are you??? "

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Ummm...shazak, sorry sweets, I meet up plenty, the meets are not adonises (adonii? What the heck is the plural of adonis?), I split the bill for any drinks/food/hotel room if I don't pay for it myself and I don't have niche interests.

If your approach hasn't worked, feel free to ask for advice but don't try and make some other poor guy who's trying feel as cynical and as jaded as you now are. With a bit of work and some confidence, and a couple of club nights giving him some veris he'll be away which is more than you will.

And no, your attitude puts me right off you. I wouldn't meet with you at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just being honest and giving my truthful opinion as one bloke to another. Of course I wish him all the best but Im not going to lie about it just to help his mood.

By the way I wouldnt expect you to meet me, Its not me who is seeking advice but your response does not surprise me in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Just being honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ummm...shazak, sorry sweets, I meet up plenty, the meets are not adonises (adonii? What the heck is the plural of adonis?), I split the bill for any drinks/food/hotel room if I don't pay for it myself and I don't have niche interests.

If your approach hasn't worked, feel free to ask for advice but don't try and make some other poor guy who's trying feel as cynical and as jaded as you now are. With a bit of work and some confidence, and a couple of club nights giving him some veris he'll be away which is more than you will.

And no, your attitude puts me right off you. I wouldn't meet with you at all."

Thanks for the vote of confidence, with a bit of work i will turn into a fabtastic club going regular.

Ps Adonis is singular apparently. i googled it ??????

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Im just being honest and giving my truthful opinion as one bloke to another. Of course I wish him all the best but Im not going to lie about it just to help his mood.

By the way I wouldnt expect you to meet me, Its not me who is seeking advice but your response does not surprise me in the slightest."
thats a big chip you've got on your shoulder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do wish you luck btw , but you need a dose of realism too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im just being honest and giving my truthful opinion as one bloke to another. Of course I wish him all the best but Im not going to lie about it just to help his mood.

By the way I wouldnt expect you to meet me, Its not me who is seeking advice but your response does not surprise me in the slightest."

i wasnt expecting any of these fine folks to meet me, just needed a few pointers as to where i was going wrong, they have been a great help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have any chips on my shoulders thank you.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Im just being honest and giving my truthful opinion as one bloke to another. Of course I wish him all the best but Im not going to lie about it just to help his mood.

By the way I wouldnt expect you to meet me, Its not me who is seeking advice but your response does not surprise me in the slightest.

i wasnt expecting any of these fine folks to meet me, just needed a few pointers as to where i was going wrong, they have been a great help."
at the very least op you've taken the feedback onboard and made some changes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im just being honest and giving my truthful opinion as one bloke to another. Of course I wish him all the best but Im not going to lie about it just to help his mood.

By the way I wouldnt expect you to meet me, Its not me who is seeking advice but your response does not surprise me in the slightest.

i wasnt expecting any of these fine folks to meet me, just needed a few pointers as to where i was going wrong, they have been a great help. at the very least op you've taken the feedback onboard and made some changes "

hopefully for the better, time will tell. All help is gratefully apprieciated ??

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